FabSwingers.com forum: Red Flags

By *reachersdaughter OP Woman
7 weeks ago

someplace

What's the biggest red flag for you when getting to know someone?

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By *WB85Man
7 weeks ago

Staffordshire

When their personality doesn't match their bio.

Asking for pics, but unable to share any of themselves.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
7 weeks ago

Crumpet Castle

ooooooooo I can't pick one so I'll generalise...

Any fundamental lack of respect e.g. a lack of respect for boundaries / a desire to control......

Uhmmmmmmm testing limits, rushing initimacy , guilt tripping , entitlement ...

see what you've done

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By (user no longer on site)
7 weeks ago

Talking about 'rough' behaviours when you haven't even met yet isn't a red flag, its a red carpet.

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By *xSirenaxxWoman
7 weeks ago

Not asking me a single thing about myself but somehow already steering the conversation straight into sex. Bold of you to skip the “human being” getting to know you stage and go straight to objectification.

The “I’m only free weekdays, daytime, quick meets, maybe a car or hotel” crowd. I don’t know your situation, but it sounds a lot like you already have a wife who does.

And my personal favourite: men who think boundaries are just… suggestions. The minute I hear “I’d like to push your boundaries” I’m like don’t worry, I’ll make this easy as I’m already halfway out the door. Boundaries aren’t a game, they’re there for a reason.

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By *eliWoman
7 weeks ago

There are a few but one not yet mentioned - if all of their exes/people they don't like are narcissists/evil demonic beings.

They've not realised they're the problem.

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By *xSirenaxxWoman
7 weeks ago

"There are a few but one not yet mentioned - if all of their exes/people they don't like are narcissists/evil demonic beings.

They've not realised they're the problem."

Ahhh that chestnut..... 🚩🚩🚩

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By *reachersdaughter OP Woman
7 weeks ago

someplace

"There are a few but one not yet mentioned - if all of their exes/people they don't like are narcissists/evil demonic beings.

They've not realised they're the problem."

This! They're usually projecting lmao

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By *xSirenaxxWoman
7 weeks ago

"Talking about 'rough' behaviours when you haven't even met yet isn't a red flag, its a red carpet."

And the wannabe Dom's who want no limits or safe words 🚩🚩

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By *reachersdaughter OP Woman
7 weeks ago

someplace

"Not asking me a single thing about myself but somehow already steering the conversation straight into sex. Bold of you to skip the “human being” getting to know you stage and go straight to objectification.

The “I’m only free weekdays, daytime, quick meets, maybe a car or hotel” crowd. I don’t know your situation, but it sounds a lot like you already have a wife who does.

The meet in car is the worst lmao

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By *its_and_TiramisuCouple
7 weeks ago

North Somerset

In the real world? Never answering the phone when you ring, regardless of whether morning, noon or night, instead calling you back 15 mins later with an 'I was in the shower', 'I had no signal' or 'I was on another call' excuse.

On here? Starting or posting on forum threads about their wife/GF whilst simultaneously stating 'I'm definitely single' in their profile.

Obi

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By *assion 4 lickingMan
7 weeks ago

Leeds

Slagging off their x partner.

Having their ex partner as their screen saver on the phone.

Constantly vocalising that they are loyal.

Saying it's ok for your friend to see the intimate pictures you have taken together.

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By *ino200Man
7 weeks ago

Bournemouth and London

Negativity

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
7 weeks ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

When they talk about past relationships and have nothing good to say about any of them. I then realise that that could be me one day

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By *hamallamadingdongMan
7 weeks ago

London

Entitlement

Disrespect

Delusional

Rudeness

Dishonesty

Pay for access

Lack of accountability

Impatient

There are more but in general being a shitty person.

I believe it's possible for a person to grow and change, but that takes self reflection and accountability.

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By *assion 4 lickingMan
7 weeks ago

Leeds

Joining this website and getting their male friend to take the pictures.

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By (user no longer on site)
7 weeks ago

If it’s too good to be true……

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
7 weeks ago

Carlisle usually

"Joining this website and getting their male friend to take the pictures."

Wait. Why is this a red flag?

For me, it's always being told about their qualities instead of actually being shown them 💜

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By *olvesxcoupleCouple
7 weeks ago

Round the bend

Dishonesty

Shady with verifications

Telling you they are having a break from the site and it not being about anyone else ..then publishing a new veri the day after.

These are the kinda slimeballs who are a massive red flag to us.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
7 weeks ago

East Sussex

There's not one. If they lack respect in any way I'm out. It doesn't need to be a specific trait or action

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By *eorge AtazderMan
7 weeks ago

Exeter

“I’m going to do x to you anyway when you least expect it…”

Absolute no there

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By *actile TensionMan
7 weeks ago

Sussex

Biggest? Ok, it can take time to figure out, but you want to see how well someone handles criticism. If they fall apart or get spiteful they're usually no good. A stable, secure, educated person is tough to rattle, these are the people you want to know and surround yourself with.

It can be a playful probe or constructive or even story they're telling you from a previous experience of theirs. Don't gotta be nasty

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
7 weeks ago

East Sussex

"Biggest? Ok, it can take time to figure out, but you want to see how well someone handles criticism. If they fall apart or get spiteful they're usually no good. A stable, secure, educated person is tough to rattle, these are the people you want to know and surround yourself with.

It can be a playful probe or constructive or even story they're telling you from a previous experience of theirs. Don't gotta be nasty"

Interesting. 🤔

I would say the reverse is also true. It's telling how, when and why someone will criticise. If they do it frequently, unnecessarily, in an non constructive way and without regard for the other person's feelings and experiences it's counterproductive and often a reflection of their own weaknesses.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
7 weeks ago

Crumpet Castle

It can be a playful probe or constructive or even story they're telling you from a previous experience of theirs. Don't gotta be nasty"

I would agree whole heartedly with this. This is definitely a red flag for me.

Usually they are so dissatisfied with themselves they lash out at others, often in an attempt to discredit and usually play the victim long and loud.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
7 weeks ago

Crumpet Castle

It can be a playful probe or constructive or even story they're telling you from a previous experience of theirs. Don't gotta be nasty

Interesting. 🤔

I also agree with this. Most people don't want or value your - constructive criticism / unwanted advice .

Give advice when it's asked for

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
7 weeks ago

Crumpet Castle

Funnily enough ..... I've left a 'friend' alone for a few days.

Once to often he has used racist language and I don't want a person like that in my life.

So .... Red Flag for me. Racist tendencies.

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By *xSirenaxxWoman
7 weeks ago

"Funnily enough ..... I've left a 'friend' alone for a few days.

Once to often he has used racist language and I don't want a person like that in my life.

So .... Red Flag for me. Racist tendencies."

I had that too along with supporting a political point of view that is very different to mine.

Another recent one was someone telling me about the people they were talking to, literally sending me their profiles links.

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By *xSirenaxxWoman
7 weeks ago

"“I’m going to do x to you anyway when you least expect it…”

Absolute no there "

I had someone say i want to do X to you .... I said No ... the replied I wouldnt be able to help myself ....

Well that was a very firm No thanks and good bye

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
7 weeks ago

East Sussex

"Funnily enough ..... I've left a 'friend' alone for a few days.

Once to often he has used racist language and I don't want a person like that in my life.

So .... Red Flag for me. Racist tendencies."

Yes I have had to withdraw from someone's company since seeing some of their Facebook posts

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By *ino200Man
7 weeks ago

Bournemouth and London

"Dishonesty

Shady with verifications

Telling you they are having a break from the site and it not being about anyone else ..then publishing a new veri the day after.

These are the kinda slimeballs who are a massive red flag to us. "
lol thats a common one thats why many dont publish veris

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By (user no longer on site)
7 weeks ago

When you can't have made a boundary any clearer yet they still continue to bring it up.

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By *lowupdollTV/TS
7 weeks ago

Here. There.

Quick to get angry (especially about trivial stuff), laugh l of personal accountability (everything is someone else’s fault).

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By *reachersdaughter OP Woman
7 weeks ago

someplace

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
7 weeks ago

Crumpet Castle

"Quick to get angry (especially about trivial stuff), laugh l of personal accountability (everything is someone else’s fault). "

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By *lowupdollTV/TS
7 weeks ago

Here. There.

"Quick to get angry (especially about trivial stuff), laugh l of personal accountability (everything is someone else’s fault). "

* lack of personal accountability

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By *eorge AtazderMan
7 weeks ago

Exeter

"“I’m going to do x to you anyway when you least expect it…”

Absolute no there

I had someone say i want to do X to you .... I said No ... the replied I wouldnt be able to help myself ....

Well that was a very firm No thanks and good bye"

No has to mean no.

“What if it just happened?”

“There now won’t be an opportunity for it to happen”

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By *herrybakewellCouple
7 weeks ago

Staffordshire

Couples profile, both looking to meet.

But you guessed it....only pics of the lady.

Mrs.

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By *lowupdollTV/TS
7 weeks ago

Here. There.

I’ll add another, promoted by the ‘challenging wank’ threads.

Denigrating people you don’t find attractive for a cheap laugh or like.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
7 weeks ago

Crumpet Castle

"I’ll add another, promoted by the ‘challenging wank’ threads.

Denigrating people you don’t find attractive for a cheap laugh or like. "

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
7 weeks ago

Crumpet Castle

I felt the same but I decided to nom the O.P. instead.

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By *ANiCURETV/TS
7 weeks ago

Winchester

"I’ll add another, promoted by the ‘challenging wank’ threads.

Denigrating people you don’t find attractive for a cheap laugh or like. "

Especially when they are on the same level of attractiveness...

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By *erdyHollyTV/TS
7 weeks ago

In a galaxy far far away

"I’ll add another, promoted by the ‘challenging wank’ threads.

Denigrating people you don’t find attractive for a cheap laugh or like. "

My answer on that thread is because Trump is a cunt. Nothing to do with his looks.

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By *reachersdaughter OP Woman
7 weeks ago

someplace

"Quick to get angry (especially about trivial stuff), laugh l of personal accountability (everything is someone else’s fault). "

The guy I was seeing was just like this, he would get mad at me for sleeping!!! Like what 😂😂😂😂😂😂

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By *eliWoman
7 weeks ago

Another addition - when I'm told I'm not like the other women/what's a nice girl like me doing on here etc

I'm not enough of a pick me girl to swoon at that crap attempt of flattery - chubby ND millennials are ten a penny.

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By *lofeldMan
7 weeks ago

Redhill

Not photo varied is a red flag, unless there are numerous verifications from genuine sources. And I think potential chemistry is either there or it isnt, it can take next to no messages before you know.

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By *estructionDollyWoman
7 weeks ago

Manchester

When you match with them on a dating app, they follow you on Instagram and then their apparently "psycho" ex gf finds you on here and messages you

Can do without the drama thanks

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By *xSirenaxxWoman
7 weeks ago

Another 🚩🚩

The “I’m separated but still living with my spouse for the kids” line. Right… so you’re single in theory but still sharing a house, a life, bills and a WiFi password. Very convincing. And just out of curiosity ... does your wife know you’ve re-entered the dating pool, or is she finding out later in a plot twist?

On a serious note: I know separation can take time, but I’m not interested in getting involved in something that’s clearly still unresolved.

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By *issmorganWoman
7 weeks ago

Yorks

Any sign of being pushy or trying to rush me into a meet.

Also asking to meet me 1st message without knowing anything about me or sending a pic /seeing my face. Just looks like anyone will do.

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By *arzanandJane2016Couple
7 weeks ago

the big city

Inconsistency with contact

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By *issmorganWoman
7 weeks ago

Yorks

Messages comparing me to their partners, just no.

Not a nice thing to do and so disrespectful to them too.

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By *iver78Man
7 weeks ago

barton upon humber

Them profiles with a long lists what they want , usually posted by people with vague pictures

Find there here just to moan lol

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By *eralDeviantWoman
7 weeks ago

Hull

When a convo escalates from a hint of a social or phone call to long detailed explainations of what theyre going to do to you sexually.

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By *reachersdaughter OP Woman
7 weeks ago

someplace

"Them profiles with a long lists what they want , usually posted by people with vague pictures

Find there here just to moan lol "

Would rather that than people saying they will go for anything and everything lol

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By *andL2026Couple
7 weeks ago

Moray

When it’s a couple profile been speaking as a couple but every time we are about to meet last minute only the husband is ever available.

Asking for solo meets shows they have not read the profile.

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By *arker secrets 321Man
7 weeks ago

West Bromwich

Some real horror stories on here maybe I should ad mine x

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By *olyGlamorousWoman
7 weeks ago

Chester

Straight off with smut talk and unwanted pics of their knob

Asking to move into your phone before you even know their name

Won't talk on the phone or send a voice note - so you know what they sound like

Won't send up to date pics of themselves - so you know who you're talking to - instead sending recycled pics from their camera roll

Disappear for hours/days on end with no prior notice or explanation afterwards

Get pissy with you because you're talking to others

Get pissy with you when you go to a club with your husband

Get pissy with you when you go on a social

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By *reachersdaughter OP Woman
7 weeks ago

someplace

"Some real horror stories on here maybe I should ad mine x"

Go for it mate 😂

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By *rixie_BlondeWoman
7 weeks ago

London (She/Her)

“I’m going to move to your area soon/on Monday/beginning of next month” uhuh, well contact me again when you’re here

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By *rixie_BlondeWoman
7 weeks ago

London (She/Her)

"Some real horror stories on here maybe I should ad mine x

Go for it mate 😂

Do it do it do it!

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By *ohn 66Man
7 weeks ago

South Birmingham

When I write someone a message and they just say, "No thanks"...

That's a red flag and I lose all interest

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By *arker secrets 321Man
7 weeks ago

West Bromwich

"Some real horror stories on here maybe I should ad mine x

Go for it mate 😂

Take 2 long and I always say people with glass houses shouldn't throw stones x

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By *issmorganWoman
7 weeks ago

Yorks

"“I’m going to move to your area soon/on Monday/beginning of next month” uhuh, well contact me again when you’re here"

Oh I've had that too.

6 months later, he was still down south!

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By *tannersMan
7 weeks ago

stanley

Wanting to move away from fab to an app quickly

When the conversation is all about them , no interest in other subjects or finding out a bit about me

I also observe people’s posts or replies on threads. I find how people treat people they are not interested in or want anything from to be quite telling.

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By *lowupdollTV/TS
7 weeks ago

Here. There.

There are people on here who would wind the window down on a submarine just because they want fresh air.

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By *tannersMan
7 weeks ago

stanley

"There are people on here who would wind the window down on a submarine just because they want fresh air. "

K’innell 😂😂😂😂. Love it , may I pinch it?

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By *lowupdollTV/TS
7 weeks ago

Here. There.

"There are people on here who would wind the window down on a submarine just because they want fresh air.

K’innell 😂😂😂😂. Love it , may I pinch it?"

I’m flattered Stanners, be my guest.

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By *uttercupWoman
7 weeks ago

Borders

A short temper, snaps easily, treats people like crap❌

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By *asilForty77Man
7 weeks ago

a hundred and sixty of us living in a small shoebox in the middle of the road

People who are pathological liars it's sickening the amount that is out there

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By *reachersdaughter OP Woman
7 weeks ago

someplace

"Some real horror stories on here maybe I should ad mine x

Go for it mate 😂

Take 2 long and I always say people with glass houses shouldn't throw stones x"

Lol okay 👍

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By *iver78Man
7 weeks ago

barton upon humber

"Them profiles with a long lists what they want , usually posted by people with vague pictures

Find there here just to moan lol

Would rather that than people saying they will go for anything and everything lol"

Must admit people with hundreds of verifications from meets isent to attractive

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By *ad NannaWoman
7 weeks ago

East London

Constantly telling me how stunning/beautiful I am.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
7 weeks ago

Crumpet Castle

"Constantly telling me how stunning/beautiful I am."

but you are Nanna you are

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By *a LunaWoman
7 weeks ago

Wales

If you go on a social and they are leering at the woman behind you.

If they lie by omission.

Scroll on their phone when you are sat across from them.

Stalk you on the forums.

Flaky with contact.

Not respecting boundaries.

Their whole personality revolves around sex, getting sex, having the sex, reminiscing about who they’ve had sex with when you’re at the getting to know each other stage.

Still being hung up on an ex, slagging off an ex.

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By *liceWalkerTV/TS
7 weeks ago

Nuneaton

Being asked why your on the site or being reminded of what this site is ,when you decline a random "I can accommodate right now" message .

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By *eautyandthebeast86Couple
7 weeks ago

Somewhere in Norfolk ask :)

Red flags for us.

It’s simple. If you can’t read and understand a basic profile or try your ‘ luck ‘ we will just delete and block.

Not sending face pics yet wanting a meet?

Old men over 60 expecting Belle to be interested, double standards unless you are prepared to get with someone 80 then don’t expect her to get with someone 20 years older than her…

Calling Belle stunning when you haven’t seen her face pics.. she is but you can’t tell that from a boob or ass pic.

Saying you happen to be in a hotel ‘ near ‘ us and free tonight. Yeah ok we will just drop everything to come and pleasure you… nope.

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By *heExcommMan
7 weeks ago

llantrisant

Refusing to send a face pic until I send one, even if I was the one asking first. I understand the trepidation, but it works both ways and the person who asks shouldn't have to send a face pic first.

Also people who want to take the conversation to a different app within two messages of talking

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By *heExcommMan
7 weeks ago

llantrisant

Another is couple profiles where the only photos is of the male

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By *edFlame83Woman
7 weeks ago

South Gloucestershire

Lies, even little ones.

I am so honest & direct & people don't like it but I would rather have honesty than lies or ghosting.

If I am not your cup of tea say so.

If you have changed your mind say so.

Also people who say they have read my profile then mention something they want to do to me that my profile states is a limit.

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By *reachersdaughter OP Woman
7 weeks ago

someplace

Men that have no preference whatsoever

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By *tridahmanMan
7 weeks ago

S.Wales

Updating status detailing how many messages you have. Comes across a bit arrogant and cocky.

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By *ay9971Man
7 weeks ago

Manchester/London

Too pushy and not wanting to get to know me for me x

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By *ovelyDayXXXWoman
7 weeks ago

Niche

Projection

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By *enuine_J87Man
7 weeks ago

Eastleigh

Believing any rubbish people say about you and acting upon it without even speaking to you about it.

Massively over reacting to things.

Lies.

Hiding who they are.

Zero pictures.

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By *oeBeansMan
7 weeks ago

Derby

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By *harmedAndInChargeMan
7 weeks ago

"What's the biggest red flag for you when getting to know someone?"

Being too agreeable. When I feel a person is telling me what I want to hear…

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By *oeBeansMan
7 weeks ago

Derby

Going too quickly into the sex talk

Only talking about themselves and not asking questions about me

And this sort of ties into the above and something I've realised recently, but women who talk to me too much about their sex lives and meets on here. It's great and everything, but if we're not making plans about meeting, then I'm not interested in hearing about your meets/sex life and it's a real turn off.

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By *irthandgirthMan
7 weeks ago

Camberley occasionally doncaster

"There are a few but one not yet mentioned - if all of their exes/people they don't like are narcissists/evil demonic beings.

They've not realised they're the problem.

Ahhh that chestnut..... 🚩🚩🚩"

Explaining the term 'common denominator...

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By *ovelyDayXXXWoman
7 weeks ago

Niche

I'd not write people off as a common denominator so fast.

People seek out the same type of toxic partners, repeat mistakes, due to childhood trauma and unhealthy patterns.

It's a red flag of a different sort.

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By *cLovin2Man
7 weeks ago

London

If she's got a long list of what she wants and doesn't want.

Don't walk, run!

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By *Silver-Man
7 weeks ago

North Wales

Demanding couples

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By *cLovin2Man
7 weeks ago

London

The “I’m only free weekdays, daytime, quick meets, maybe a car or hotel” crowd. I don’t know your situation, but it sounds a lot like you already have a wife who does.

The meet in car is the worst lmao"
worse than meet in the back of my van, yeah... I'm a builder.

I'm guessing that he hasn't washed up after work 🙂

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By *istr3ssWoman
7 weeks ago

Stockton-on-Tees

Proving, in their very first message, that they haven't bothered to read my profile

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
7 weeks ago

Central

The attribution of global heating to anything but human behaviour. 🚩

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By *irthandgirthMan
7 weeks ago

Camberley occasionally doncaster

"I'd not write people off as a common denominator so fast.

People seek out the same type of toxic partners, repeat mistakes, due to childhood trauma and unhealthy patterns.

It's a red flag of a different sort."

They are related. If someone is making this claim the options are (broadly)

1. They avoid taking any blame for relationship breakdown, and its easier to label others. (Expect to be added to the list)

2. They are not self-aware of their own shortcomings in relationships and never reflect on their input to failures.

3. They genuinely have poor selection issues, and even if you are not that type, toxicity will be generated to make it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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By *issy LanaTV/TS
7 weeks ago

Slough

Delusional peeps...!

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By *lemFandango88Woman
7 weeks ago

Thirsk

Anyone inviting a stranger from the internet to their house when they have children in the house.

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By *vmarisaTV/TS
7 weeks ago

Motherwell

Older single men pretending to be someone's granny? a total red flag for me lol mm Mx 👿🍆💦💋

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By *ochaManMan
4 hours ago

East London/Essex

Blocking out of the blue.

I don't get blocked often, but there were a couple of instances where conversations were going well only to find myself suddenly blocked.

I know I'm not owed an explanation because the whole idea is that the blocker doesn't want to be contacted any more.

However, the mind does wonder, self doubt hits, and these things knock your confidence in an already difficult space for men.

People are peculiar beings.

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By *heron ShanMan
4 hours ago

Durham

When they message a dick pic.

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By *apybara2026Couple
4 hours ago

Blackwood

When you never chat to the woman from a cpls profile

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By *he milf next doorWoman
4 hours ago

honeypot lane

"Anyone inviting a stranger from the internet to their house when they have children in the house. "
definitely

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By *apua New GuineaMan
4 hours ago

nearby

Sad as it may sound, I've not encountered any (from memory) from women I've interacted with.

Can name a fair few I know about some male mwssages though.

If someone shows you who they are, believe them.

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By *ussexcouple40Couple
4 hours ago

Sussex

"Refusing to send a face pic until I send one, even if I was the one asking first. I understand the trepidation, but it works both ways and the person who asks shouldn't have to send a face pic first.

We would say that was 100% reasonable. You would be the red flag for us in that scenario

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By *arbonaraKingMan
4 hours ago

Leeds

Demanding rules that I have to obey like they are gospel while they do the exact opposite on a daily basis.

Hypocrites and double standards is a huge red flag for me. Nobody on here is better than me and everyone else should think the same of themselves

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By *hisfuckingguyMan
4 hours ago

Bradford

They're interested in getting to know me. Huge red flag, end it right there

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By *ussexcouple40Couple
4 hours ago

Sussex

"Blocking out of the blue.

I don't get blocked often, but there were a couple of instances where conversations were going well only to find myself suddenly blocked.

I know I'm not owed an explanation because the whole idea is that the blocker doesn't want to be contacted any more.

However, the mind does wonder, self doubt hits, and these things knock your confidence in an already difficult space for men.

People are peculiar beings. "

That isn't a red flag. You've been blocked. They are not interested. There are no flags showing

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By *weetSmellingSamTV/TS
4 hours ago

Consett

“You’ll find someone one day” he says on a first date. He clearly don’t think it’s him. lol.

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By *ussexcouple40Couple
4 hours ago

Sussex

"Constantly telling me how stunning/beautiful I am."

Agree. It's so false and pointless.

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By *ussexcouple40Couple
4 hours ago

Sussex

"Couples profile, both looking to meet.

But you guessed it....only pics of the lady.

Mrs. "

We have pics of both. But let's face it, people generally want to see pics of women on here.

In general, not everyone, women like what they hear, men like what they see. Thats why men lie and women wear makeup.

It's not the same for everyone, a general rule. But if husband puts up a pic it gets 30 fabs. If wife puts up a pic it gets 3000 fabs.

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By *he milf next doorWoman
4 hours ago

honeypot lane

A red flag for me is when chatting to arrange a meet with a couple then at last minute the female can’t meet only the male can

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By *oodmessMan
4 hours ago

yumsville

When they say come round for lunch and bring two bottles of strongbow

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By *earditallWoman
3 hours ago

Lancaster

Well just had one...someone saying how much they want to meet me,haven't even seen my face

And when I stated that I was told they like my body so don't care as it's only for fab and fucking

Someone who is an any holes a goal type is instant red flag

Also anyone who isn't honest and upfront

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By *lowupdollTV/TS
3 hours ago

Here. There.

"When they say come round for lunch and bring two bottles of strongbow "

Tight bastards. Bring 4 next time.

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By *hickthighs-26Woman
3 hours ago

the land of vagina

When they ask me to squat and take a shit on there glass table whilst they lay under it but they expect me to bring my own toilet roll

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By *arbonaraKingMan
3 hours ago

Leeds

"When they ask me to squat and take a shit on there glass table whilst they lay under it but they expect me to bring my own toilet roll

They don’t supply 3-ply? Unforgivable

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By *hickthighs-26Woman
3 hours ago

the land of vagina

"When they ask me to squat and take a shit on there glass table whilst they lay under it but they expect me to bring my own toilet roll

They don’t supply 3-ply? Unforgivable "

I should of known it was too good to be true. Bet it was a woman pretending to be a man

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By *recklesAndGymMan
3 hours ago

Lancashire

"When they say come round for lunch and bring two bottles of strongbow

Tight bastards. Bring 4 next time."

Only 4? How about 6?

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By *arbonaraKingMan
3 hours ago

Leeds

"When they ask me to squat and take a shit on there glass table whilst they lay under it but they expect me to bring my own toilet roll

They don’t supply 3-ply? Unforgivable

I should of known it was too good to be true. Bet it was a woman pretending to be a man

It always is… sometimes I just want to meet the male half for a pint of local English bitter and to discuss our own personal tactic for sweeping up debris in the kitchen… BUT NO the wife wants to sneakily show up because the male half has suddenly come down with such strong flu they had to leave the house entirely meaning it’s now free to go to… every. Time.

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By *ircumsalot44Man
3 hours ago

Huddersfield

When there is only pictures of the woman on a couples profile but they want the male half to be involved

When they stipulate too many rules like they are better than anyone else

When they insist on chatting for ages before meeting… ok thats not a red flag just get bored

Pick me women

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By *hickthighs-26Woman
3 hours ago

the land of vagina

"When they ask me to squat and take a shit on there glass table whilst they lay under it but they expect me to bring my own toilet roll

They don’t supply 3-ply? Unforgivable

I should of known it was too good to be true. Bet it was a woman pretending to be a man

Thats sad. I hope your ok ❤️

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By *arbonaraKingMan
3 hours ago

Leeds

"When they ask me to squat and take a shit on there glass table whilst they lay under it but they expect me to bring my own toilet roll

They don’t supply 3-ply? Unforgivable

I should of known it was too good to be true. Bet it was a woman pretending to be a man

Thats sad. I hope your ok ❤️"

I am grand thanks! Sorry I stole your thunder.

You were talking about taking a shit on a glass table…?

No 3 ply, no bumming

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By *rinceless PrincessWoman
3 hours ago

Refusing to meet at a social event, refusing to send a face pic, difficulty in answering a simple question.

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By *hickthighs-26Woman
3 hours ago

the land of vagina

"When they ask me to squat and take a shit on there glass table whilst they lay under it but they expect me to bring my own toilet roll

They don’t supply 3-ply? Unforgivable

I should of known it was too good to be true. Bet it was a woman pretending to be a man

Thats sad. I hope your ok ❤️

I am grand thanks! Sorry I stole your thunder.

You were talking about taking a shit on a glass table…?

No 3 ply, no bumming"

Thats my motto

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