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By *tomCom OP   Man
over a year ago

Wellingborough

You can say what you like on your profile, even though it might not be true. Plus, you only put up verifications that are nice.

You are not allowed though to name and shame though.

So how can you warn others that a profile is dodgy? That this person is not the person in the photos on their profile. That though they say they are single they are really married.

Am I asking for a Fab trading standards department ... hmmm not sure

How many people have wasted their time talking to people that are not what they say they are?

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By *tomCom OP   Man
over a year ago

Wellingborough

or even a fab version of Trip Advisor .. hehe

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its not a waste if ive only been talking and discover their profile name should be Billy Bullshit,I call that groundwork

With regards to info on profiles you have to have an element of trust,if pics are of someone else and you have proof of that then thats something to report

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You dont, you simply report the profile to admin

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You can say what you like on your profile, even though it might not be true. Plus, you only put up verifications that are nice.

You are not allowed though to name and shame though.

So how can you warn others that a profile is dodgy? That this person is not the person in the photos on their profile. That though they say they are single they are really married.

Am I asking for a Fab trading standards department ... hmmm not sure

How many people have wasted their time talking to people that are not what they say they are?"

If you know something is amiss on a profile in terms of pics - report it!!

If you know something personal about another member that's different! The word I think is discretion!

Wouldn't be too good for either party if it turned into a 'he said she said they said' argument - and why would total strangers believe you and not assume you're just a nutter?

Most people are more than capable themselves to work people out!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You can say what you like on your profile, even though it might not be true. Plus, you only put up verifications that are nice.

You are not allowed though to name and shame though.

So how can you warn others that a profile is dodgy? That this person is not the person in the photos on their profile. That though they say they are single they are really married.

Am I asking for a Fab trading standards department ... hmmm not sure

How many people have wasted their time talking to people that are not what they say they are?"

We did this the other day just updated our status

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You can say what you like on your profile, even though it might not be true. Plus, you only put up verifications that are nice.

You are not allowed though to name and shame though.

So how can you warn others that a profile is dodgy? That this person is not the person in the photos on their profile. That though they say they are single they are really married.

Am I asking for a Fab trading standards department ... hmmm not sure

How many people have wasted their time talking to people that are not what they say they are?"

I've lost count of how many time I've done that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There should be a name and shame.

Iv come across a couple fakes now

When you report them, nothing happens.

Admin should ban the profile, but they don't.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There should be a name and shame.

Iv come across a couple fakes now

When you report them, nothing happens.

Admin should ban the profile, but they don't.

"

We reported one the other day and their profile waa removed x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There should be a name and shame.

Iv come across a couple fakes now

When you report them, nothing happens.

Admin should ban the profile, but they don't.

"

just because you think they're fakes does'nt mean they are

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh


"There should be a name and shame.

Iv come across a couple fakes now

When you report them, nothing happens.

Admin should ban the profile, but they don't.

"

I think you're a fake!

You see I don't know you from The next person but no-one else knows that! I could bad mouth you all over the shop and it would be lies. How do you regulate that? You can't!

If I see a profile with comments skating other people I'd (a) report it and (b) run a mile. There's no proof, it's just heresay and why should I believe what you say?

Report a profile to admin if you have a problem and move on.

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

Skating? Slating!! Frickin autocorrect!!

It really is Thursday huh?!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There should be a name and shame.

Iv come across a couple fakes now

When you report them, nothing happens.

Admin should ban the profile, but they don't."

Yes something does happen. But... if you just send in a report which says 'fake!' without giving any reason why you think they are, or what evidence you have to confirm they are, then what would you do in Admin's position??

And I am not from Admin, btw.....

ted.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Could never work....anyone could make up a load of crap about someone being a timewaster etc just out of spite so a feedback system like that wouldnt be worth a pot to piss in.

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By *tomCom OP   Man
over a year ago

Wellingborough


"There should be a name and shame.

Iv come across a couple fakes now

When you report them, nothing happens.

Admin should ban the profile, but they don't.

I think you're a fake!

You see I don't know you from The next person but no-one else knows that! I could bad mouth you all over the shop and it would be lies. How do you regulate that? You can't!

If I see a profile with comments skating other people I'd (a) report it and (b) run a mile. There's no proof, it's just heresay and why should I believe what you say?

Report a profile to admin if you have a problem and move on."

Because there is a lot of (for a lack of a better word) completion on FAB for single males, there are a lot of profiles that are not 100% true. These profile might not be fake as such but are partly made up in hope of getting more attention.

Some females and couples can get 100s of messages, so people will always try to make sure there message is not deleted. More often than not, non-timewasting, honest individuals are not given a second look because mailboxes are being saturated with individuals that might not be so honest.

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By *hyllyphyllyMan
over a year ago

Bradford

I agree they should be a name and shame.... BUT, I can see it being open to abuse

They would have to be a way, where you can prove you had something orginised and proof they didn't turn up.

This is my status at the moment...

"Don't meet on thurs.... so free friday evening, if anyone wants to promise to turn up and leave me hanging... might as well make it 3 in a week!!!!!"

So I'd welcome this lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There should be a name and shame.

Iv come across a couple fakes now

When you report them, nothing happens.

Admin should ban the profile, but they don't.

I think you're a fake!

You see I don't know you from The next person but no-one else knows that! I could bad mouth you all over the shop and it would be lies. How do you regulate that? You can't!

If I see a profile with comments skating other people I'd (a) report it and (b) run a mile. There's no proof, it's just heresay and why should I believe what you say?

Report a profile to admin if you have a problem and move on.

Because there is a lot of (for a lack of a better word) completion on FAB for single males, there are a lot of profiles that are not 100% true. These profile might not be fake as such but are partly made up in hope of getting more attention.

Some females and couples can get 100s of messages, so people will always try to make sure there message is not deleted. More often than not, non-timewasting, honest individuals are not given a second look because mailboxes are being saturated with individuals that might not be so honest. "

Is this a 'blame the actions of others because my messages aren't getting read' thread in disguise?

If people are bullshitting on their profiles and stringing people along - any sane person will soon lose interest and move on.

And if they've made exaggerated claims, used fake pics, lied about their age or mislead the other party in any way - then they're pretty much fucked if a meet ever took place!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You dont, you simply report the profile to admin "

This,,,,,

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By *tomCom OP   Man
over a year ago

Wellingborough


"There should be a name and shame.

Iv come across a couple fakes now

When you report them, nothing happens.

Admin should ban the profile, but they don't.

I think you're a fake!

You see I don't know you from The next person but no-one else knows that! I could bad mouth you all over the shop and it would be lies. How do you regulate that? You can't!

If I see a profile with comments skating other people I'd (a) report it and (b) run a mile. There's no proof, it's just heresay and why should I believe what you say?

Report a profile to admin if you have a problem and move on.

Because there is a lot of (for a lack of a better word) completion on FAB for single males, there are a lot of profiles that are not 100% true. These profile might not be fake as such but are partly made up in hope of getting more attention.

Some females and couples can get 100s of messages, so people will always try to make sure there message is not deleted. More often than not, non-timewasting, honest individuals are not given a second look because mailboxes are being saturated with individuals that might not be so honest.

Is this a 'blame the actions of others because my messages aren't getting read' thread in disguise?

If people are bullshitting on their profiles and stringing people along - any sane person will soon lose interest and move on.

And if they've made exaggerated claims, used fake pics, lied about their age or mislead the other party in any way - then they're pretty much fucked if a meet ever took place! "

But many of these are not really looking for met they are just timewasters hoping to get some attention. Hope they will get people wanting to met them.

There most be a problem somewhere as I often see so much on the forums and on profiles talking about timewasters

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By *tomCom OP   Man
over a year ago

Wellingborough


"There should be a name and shame.

Iv come across a couple fakes now

When you report them, nothing happens.

Admin should ban the profile, but they don't.

I think you're a fake!

You see I don't know you from The next person but no-one else knows that! I could bad mouth you all over the shop and it would be lies. How do you regulate that? You can't!

If I see a profile with comments skating other people I'd (a) report it and (b) run a mile. There's no proof, it's just heresay and why should I believe what you say?

Report a profile to admin if you have a problem and move on.

Because there is a lot of (for a lack of a better word) completion on FAB for single males, there are a lot of profiles that are not 100% true. These profile might not be fake as such but are partly made up in hope of getting more attention.

Some females and couples can get 100s of messages, so people will always try to make sure there message is not deleted. More often than not, non-timewasting, honest individuals are not given a second look because mailboxes are being saturated with individuals that might not be so honest.

Is this a 'blame the actions of others because my messages aren't getting read' thread in disguise?

If people are bullshitting on their profiles and stringing people along - any sane person will soon lose interest and move on.

And if they've made exaggerated claims, used fake pics, lied about their age or mislead the other party in any way - then they're pretty much fucked if a meet ever took place! "

By the way, no this is not me moaning because my messages are not getting read though I can see why it would be easy to just label it as..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There should be a name and shame.

Iv come across a couple fakes now

When you report them, nothing happens.

Admin should ban the profile, but they don't.

I think you're a fake!

You see I don't know you from The next person but no-one else knows that! I could bad mouth you all over the shop and it would be lies. How do you regulate that? You can't!

If I see a profile with comments skating other people I'd (a) report it and (b) run a mile. There's no proof, it's just heresay and why should I believe what you say?

Report a profile to admin if you have a problem and move on.

Because there is a lot of (for a lack of a better word) completion on FAB for single males, there are a lot of profiles that are not 100% true. These profile might not be fake as such but are partly made up in hope of getting more attention.

Some females and couples can get 100s of messages, so people will always try to make sure there message is not deleted. More often than not, non-timewasting, honest individuals are not given a second look because mailboxes are being saturated with individuals that might not be so honest.

Is this a 'blame the actions of others because my messages aren't getting read' thread in disguise?

If people are bullshitting on their profiles and stringing people along - any sane person will soon lose interest and move on.

And if they've made exaggerated claims, used fake pics, lied about their age or mislead the other party in any way - then they're pretty much fucked if a meet ever took place! "

I chatted with someone on here and arranged a meet. I then found out their pics were photoshopped and fake.

When I asked them to explain, they blocked me.

So it's nothing to do with 'blame the actions of others because my messages aren't getting read', as you say.

I asked on the forum what would happen if I report them. I was told we would just be blocked from each other. The person is probably already reeling in their next victim.

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By *empting Devil.Woman
over a year ago

Sheffield

A timewaster is someone who arranges a meet then doesn't show on purpose. There is an option on the report button for this.

As for the ones who talk bollocks on the internet - oh yeah, that's us lot!

Liers and cheats are ten a penny on the internet since we're all hiding behind a computer screen. If the pics are fake or you think a female or couple is really a fat old bloke knocking one out when you sent him that cock pic then report, block and move on to the next 18 year old with a model figure who inexplicably wants to plan every salacious detail of what you two are going to get up to on Friday night...

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A timewaster is someone who arranges a meet then doesn't show on purpose. There is an option on the report button for this.

As for the ones who talk bollocks on the internet - oh yeah, that's us lot!

Liers and cheats are ten a penny on the internet since we're all hiding behind a computer screen. If the pics are fake or you think a female or couple is really a fat old bloke knocking one out when you sent him that cock pic then report, block and move on to the next 18 year old with a model figure who inexplicably wants to plan every salacious detail of what you two are going to get up to on Friday night... "

What about if that profile is verified?

Yet is sending out fake pics?

The verification is what threw me off

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By *ire_bladeMan
over a year ago

Manchester


"A timewaster is someone who arranges a meet then doesn't show on purpose. There is an option on the report button for this.

As for the ones who talk bollocks on the internet - oh yeah, that's us lot!

Liers and cheats are ten a penny on the internet since we're all hiding behind a computer screen. If the pics are fake or you think a female or couple is really a fat old bloke knocking one out when you sent him that cock pic then report, block and move on to the next 18 year old with a model figure who inexplicably wants to plan every salacious detail of what you two are going to get up to on Friday night... "

You don't really think that do you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Changed my mind.....can't be arse, its too much like hard work in here sometimes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A timewaster is someone who arranges a meet then doesn't show on purpose. There is an option on the report button for this.

As for the ones who talk bollocks on the internet - oh yeah, that's us lot!

Liers and cheats are ten a penny on the internet since we're all hiding behind a computer screen. If the pics are fake or you think a female or couple is really a fat old bloke knocking one out when you sent him that cock pic then report, block and move on to the next 18 year old with a model figure who inexplicably wants to plan every salacious detail of what you two are going to get up to on Friday night...

What about if that profile is verified?

Yet is sending out fake pics?

The verification is what threw me off"

If you knew the pics were fake - why continue any dialogue ?

Just report, block and move on!

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By *tomCom OP   Man
over a year ago

Wellingborough


"A timewaster is someone who arranges a meet then doesn't show on purpose. There is an option on the report button for this.

As for the ones who talk bollocks on the internet - oh yeah, that's us lot!

Liers and cheats are ten a penny on the internet since we're all hiding behind a computer screen. If the pics are fake or you think a female or couple is really a fat old bloke knocking one out when you sent him that cock pic then report, block and move on to the next 18 year old with a model figure who inexplicably wants to plan every salacious detail of what you two are going to get up to on Friday night... "

I do understand your point, but when people have limited time and 100s of messages how do you filter out the timewasters, the fake profile and the profiles that are not 100% true?

It is ok saying will you live and learn, but how many people have to live and learn from the same profile?

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By *tomCom OP   Man
over a year ago

Wellingborough

Does reporting work? Does it make a difference what you report them for? Does it make a difference if you are reporting a single male, a couple or a single female?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Everyone moaning about 'Admin doing nothing' seem to not appreciate something: The kind of 'person' who sets up fake profiles on here is also the kind of 'person' who sets up fakes elsewhere... and 'some' of those places may be somewhat less 'above board' than Fabs.

When you look into the sources of some fake profiles you COULD be unearthing information which COULD form part of a larger investigation (maybe even by the Police) or COULD involve information which may be used in a court case.

The problem Admin has is that when someone makes a proper report on a profile alleging it's a fake, they have no idea what they may be about to uncover - hence nothing is reported back. It can't be, as it could be considered subjudice.

As for 'just being blocked from each other' - that is probably the only effect you will see as a user. That doesn't mean nothing else has happened.

ted.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A timewaster is someone who arranges a meet then doesn't show on purpose. There is an option on the report button for this.

As for the ones who talk bollocks on the internet - oh yeah, that's us lot!

Liers and cheats are ten a penny on the internet since we're all hiding behind a computer screen. If the pics are fake or you think a female or couple is really a fat old bloke knocking one out when you sent him that cock pic then report, block and move on to the next 18 year old with a model figure who inexplicably wants to plan every salacious detail of what you two are going to get up to on Friday night...

What about if that profile is verified?

Yet is sending out fake pics?

The verification is what threw me off

If you knew the pics were fake - why continue any dialogue ?

Just report, block and move on!"

They have two pics on their profile.

We chatted for a while.

I asked for more pics.

They sent me pics.

I checked the pics through tineye to see if real.

Found out they wasn't real.

Asked them to explain.

They blocked me.

I report them.

Their profile is still there

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By *ndykayMan
over a year ago

Falkirk

I still like the report and block method

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"They have two pics on their profile.

We chatted for a while.

I asked for more pics.

They sent me pics.

I checked the pics through tineye to see if real.

Found out they wasn't real.

Asked them to explain.

They blocked me.

I report them.

Their profile is still there"

How much info did you put in your report..??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You can say what you like on your profile, even though it might not be true. Plus, you only put up verifications that are nice.

You are not allowed though to name and shame though.

So how can you warn others that a profile is dodgy? That this person is not the person in the photos on their profile. That though they say they are single they are really married.

Am I asking for a Fab trading standards department ... hmmm not sure

How many people have wasted their time talking to people that are not what they say they are?"
report it

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By *empting Devil.Woman
over a year ago

Sheffield


"Does reporting work? Does it make a difference what you report them for? Does it make a difference if you are reporting a single male, a couple or a single female?"

Yes it does.

Fake pics are easier for admin to check - especially if you put the info in the report ie: i used tineye/Google image and discovered this is really a pic of the pornstar pineapple knobber or that the pics are nicked from another profile and you tell them which one.

As for no shows and fakes obviously they will need more than one say so to act on - unless there are lots of messages from a couple which say that she has to work/is incapable of answering telephones due to terminal laryngitis so will Mr by himself do...

So report, block, unwad those panties from your crack and let it go.

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By *tomCom OP   Man
over a year ago

Wellingborough


"Does reporting work? Does it make a difference what you report them for? Does it make a difference if you are reporting a single male, a couple or a single female?

Yes it does.

Fake pics are easier for admin to check - especially if you put the info in the report ie: i used tineye/Google image and discovered this is really a pic of the pornstar pineapple knobber or that the pics are nicked from another profile and you tell them which one.

As for no shows and fakes obviously they will need more than one say so to act on - unless there are lots of messages from a couple which say that she has to work/is incapable of answering telephones due to terminal laryngitis so will Mr by himself do...

So report, block, unwad those panties from your crack and let it go. "

Can you and should report false information on a profile? example: If you know someone is married and cheating, but they have put on the profile single, not able to accommodate ..

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By *tomCom OP   Man
over a year ago

Wellingborough

If you know that something in a shop was being falsely advertised, would you go oh well, or would you and should you report it ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Does reporting work? Does it make a difference what you report them for? Does it make a difference if you are reporting a single male, a couple or a single female?

Yes it does.

Fake pics are easier for admin to check - especially if you put the info in the report ie: i used tineye/Google image and discovered this is really a pic of the pornstar pineapple knobber or that the pics are nicked from another profile and you tell them which one.

As for no shows and fakes obviously they will need more than one say so to act on - unless there are lots of messages from a couple which say that she has to work/is incapable of answering telephones due to terminal laryngitis so will Mr by himself do...

So report, block, unwad those panties from your crack and let it go.

Can you and should report false information on a profile? example: If you know someone is married and cheating, but they have put on the profile single, not able to accommodate .."

That's their business! And no doubt may eventually bite them on the arse - but admin and the site are not 'moral guardians' !

A fake profile is one thing , and the guidelines of how to report are in the FAQ's. Whether people choose to be 100% honest is beyond anyone's control.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A lot of members seem to spend a lot of time and energy worrying about other people's profiles....

If the profile is fake report it..

But what anybody has written in their profile is down to them, personal choice!

You can't go reporting just because someone's put that their single if you think they are married

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By *ire_bladeMan
over a year ago

Manchester


"A lot of members seem to spend a lot of time and energy worrying about other people's profiles....

If the profile is fake report it..

But what anybody has written in their profile is down to them, personal choice!

You can't go reporting just because someone's put that their single if you think they are married "

owwww shit

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"They have two pics on their profile.

We chatted for a while.

I asked for more pics.

They sent me pics.

I checked the pics through tineye to see if real.

Found out they wasn't real.

Asked them to explain.

They blocked me.

I report them.

Their profile is still there

How much info did you put in your report..?? "

A couple paragraphs.

Told them everything.

Iv got all messages and pics saved.

If they need them i can show them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Report them again then and let admin review it further if you're that convinced they're fake

Its not in admins best interests to have a site full of fake people so they do their best to deal with and act on all info that they get

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By *eareenaCouple
over a year ago

Rockford


"or even a fab version of Trip Advisor .. hehe"
what shall we call it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There is is this small thing that applies to fab as with all other accusations and thats called evidence.

Its really that simple without definitive proof how can anyone expect admin to ban or remove a profile just because you or i have come to nothing more than a conclusion about a site member.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"They have two pics on their profile.

We chatted for a while.

I asked for more pics.

They sent me pics.

I checked the pics through tineye to see if real.

Found out they wasn't real.

Asked them to explain.

They blocked me.

I report them.

Their profile is still there

How much info did you put in your report..??

A couple paragraphs.

Told them everything.

Iv got all messages and pics saved.

If they need them i can show them."

YOU know (suspect)they are fake, so who cares if they are on here, or "reeling in their next victim"? It won't be you so just. move. on.

You've not lost out on anything but a chance to empty your spuds. And why care if other single men are suckered in, they're the competition after all so while they are chasing fakes they are not chasing real people.

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