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"I’m Quite judgy on the single men veris If it looks like they’ll just meet anyone. And If they only meet hot women. Or if they only meet curvy women. Or if I think a few of their meets look a bit skank. Preferred age ranges can also put me off " I'm definitely guilty of checking veris to see if look similar to anyone they've met before. If not, it does put me off a bit. Makes me wonder why they want to meet me when all their veris are from really attractive, skinny people. | |||
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"Do you judge someone based off their verifications? Can it put you off? The amount and frequency of them? If they've met someone you don't like are you done? " Yes, all of those reasons | |||
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"If someone has loads... puts me off." Why? | |||
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"I’m Quite judgy on the single men veris If it looks like they’ll just meet anyone. And If they only meet hot women. Or if they only meet curvy women. Or if I think a few of their meets look a bit skank. Preferred age ranges can also put me off I'm definitely guilty of checking veris to see if look similar to anyone they've met before. If not, it does put me off a bit. Makes me wonder why they want to meet me when all their veris are from really attractive, skinny people. " This too! | |||
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"I’m Quite judgy on the single men veris If it looks like they’ll just meet anyone. And If they only meet hot women. Or if they only meet curvy women. Or if I think a few of their meets look a bit skank. Preferred age ranges can also put me off " But other than that ... what have the Romans done for us! | |||
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"Only use verifications for their designed purpose, to verify they are real. We have well over 100 because we go out and socialize a lot! Does that put people off? 🤔" Having lots of veris and half of them being from socials wouldn't put me off at all. | |||
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"Only use verifications for their designed purpose, to verify they are real. We have well over 100 because we go out and socialize a lot! Does that put people off? 🤔 Having lots of veris and half of them being from socials wouldn't put me off at all. " That's refreshing to hear! We love the social side and been fortunate to meet some amazing people ❤️ We're very proud they took the time to share our experiences via verification 😁 | |||
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"Nope, we have quite a lot of veris but a good amount are from people we've not played with but met along the way. I take time to give good veris and expect the same in return. I try to read as many of people's veris if we are interested so we can get a better feeling of who they are. For instance, most of ours make reference to how friendly we are, how safe they felt with us and also that we are really kind people that know what we are doing. We are proud of our veris and dont tend to judge others for having more veris either. Its quite small minded to assume more veris equals anything bad, they might just be very sociable and super friendly like us x Mrs x" Absolutely this ❤️ | |||
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"Nope, we have quite a lot of veris but a good amount are from people we've not played with but met along the way. I take time to give good veris and expect the same in return. I try to read as many of people's veris if we are interested so we can get a better feeling of who they are. For instance, most of ours make reference to how friendly we are, how safe they felt with us and also that we are really kind people that know what we are doing. We are proud of our veris and dont tend to judge others for having more veris either. Its quite small minded to assume more veris equals anything bad, they might just be very sociable and super friendly like us x Mrs x" Can't speak for others but when i say lots of veri's i mean sexual/play veris, social veris wouldnt bother me at all | |||
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"Nope, we have quite a lot of veris but a good amount are from people we've not played with but met along the way. I take time to give good veris and expect the same in return. I try to read as many of people's veris if we are interested so we can get a better feeling of who they are. For instance, most of ours make reference to how friendly we are, how safe they felt with us and also that we are really kind people that know what we are doing. We are proud of our veris and dont tend to judge others for having more veris either. Its quite small minded to assume more veris equals anything bad, they might just be very sociable and super friendly like us x Mrs x" Utterly Gorgeous! Pictures of you both, clearly having a great time.. Fabulous profile ❤️ | |||
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"Do you judge someone based off their verifications? Can it put you off? The amount and frequency of them? If they've met someone you don't like are you done? " Generally it would be... Yes Yes No No Anyone who says they never judge anyone based on their veris is likely to be fibbing a bit. Sure, you might be indifferent to most, but there'll always be some that make you see someone in a negative light. Anything might put us off, be that the content of a verification or even the tone. Sometimes people write things that they think will sound good and be flattering to the person they met, forgetting that if published it will have a much wider audience. Amount and frequency never put us off. Who are we to judge and someone's verification trail will never be the sole and complete history of their sex life in totality, a full list of who they've banged and what they've done in their life. And just because they've met someone we don't like (spend enough time on Fab/swinging life in general and there's going to be people you dont like or get on with) that wouldn't guarantee putting us off. People are entitled to like and meet who they choose. It's them meeting them, not us after all. It may affect our decisions or it may not. There's no hard and fast rule. 🤷♂️ Obi | |||
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"Nope, we have quite a lot of veris but a good amount are from people we've not played with but met along the way. I take time to give good veris and expect the same in return. I try to read as many of people's veris if we are interested so we can get a better feeling of who they are. For instance, most of ours make reference to how friendly we are, how safe they felt with us and also that we are really kind people that know what we are doing. We are proud of our veris and dont tend to judge others for having more veris either. Its quite small minded to assume more veris equals anything bad, they might just be very sociable and super friendly like us x Mrs x Utterly Gorgeous! Pictures of you both, clearly having a great time.. Fabulous profile ❤️" Why thank you guys, how sweet of you you say that x Mrs x | |||
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"Only use verifications for their designed purpose, to verify they are real. We have well over 100 because we go out and socialize a lot! Does that put people off? 🤔 Having lots of veris and half of them being from socials wouldn't put me off at all. That's refreshing to hear! We love the social side and been fortunate to meet some amazing people ❤️ We're very proud they took the time to share our experiences via verification 😁" I quite like reading verifications from socials. I think it gives you a better idea of their personality rather than how good you are in bed. It's a nice little insight! | |||
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"Nope, we have quite a lot of veris but a good amount are from people we've not played with but met along the way. I take time to give good veris and expect the same in return. I try to read as many of people's veris if we are interested so we can get a better feeling of who they are. For instance, most of ours make reference to how friendly we are, how safe they felt with us and also that we are really kind people that know what we are doing. We are proud of our veris and dont tend to judge others for having more veris either. Its quite small minded to assume more veris equals anything bad, they might just be very sociable and super friendly like us x Mrs x" We are the same. Lots of social veris. We are proud of ours too ❤️ | |||
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"Only use verifications for their designed purpose, to verify they are real. We have well over 100 because we go out and socialize a lot! Does that put people off? 🤔 Having lots of veris and half of them being from socials wouldn't put me off at all. That's refreshing to hear! We love the social side and been fortunate to meet some amazing people ❤️ We're very proud they took the time to share our experiences via verification 😁 I quite like reading verifications from socials. I think it gives you a better idea of their personality rather than how good you are in bed. It's a nice little insight! " Exactly. Are you my sister from another mister or what? 😂 | |||
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"Only use verifications for their designed purpose, to verify they are real. We have well over 100 because we go out and socialize a lot! Does that put people off? 🤔 Having lots of veris and half of them being from socials wouldn't put me off at all. That's refreshing to hear! We love the social side and been fortunate to meet some amazing people ❤️ We're very proud they took the time to share our experiences via verification 😁 I quite like reading verifications from socials. I think it gives you a better idea of their personality rather than how good you are in bed. It's a nice little insight! " Totally agree! None of our veri's are graphic. I don't think the kind of people we attract would write anything like that. We certainly wouldn't. | |||
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"I don't read but if I see veried by 236 people, instant block. Also block if it's like 50. Too many" I don't understand this 🤷 | |||
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"I don't read but if I see veried by 236 people, instant block. Also block if it's like 50. Too many I don't understand this 🤷" Nor do I. Proud of our 50+ veris saying we’re real. | |||
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"I don't read but if I see veried by 236 people, instant block. Also block if it's like 50. Too many I don't understand this 🤷 Nor do I. Proud of our 50+ veris saying we’re real. " On this one | |||
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"🤦🏼♂️ Everything ok? 👀" Wrote a long message and then tapped delete message like a div 🤣 I can then never rewrite that same message as well as the first attempt ! | |||
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"Only use verifications for their designed purpose, to verify they are real. We have well over 100 because we go out and socialize a lot! Does that put people off? 🤔 Having lots of veris and half of them being from socials wouldn't put me off at all. That's refreshing to hear! We love the social side and been fortunate to meet some amazing people ❤️ We're very proud they took the time to share our experiences via verification 😁 I quite like reading verifications from socials. I think it gives you a better idea of their personality rather than how good you are in bed. It's a nice little insight! Exactly. Are you my sister from another mister or what? 😂" I like reading the ones from socials and agree with this. I've got some I don't display due to them putting something thats been a bit graphic,and more recently I don't make ones where its obvious we have had fun as I don't want to rub it in someone I see regulars face. | |||
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"I don't read but if I see veried by 236 people, instant block. Also block if it's like 50. Too many I don't understand this 🤷" Lol my wording is poor as had drink. Any over 50 verifications by meet is way too many and I will not be interested in conversing with them. I don't check if they're social or not. 50 meets is way too many for me | |||
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"I don't read but if I see veried by 236 people, instant block. Also block if it's like 50. Too many" That was my attitude a few years ago, but some attend loads of socials, and some have been on the site for donkeys years (so 236 might only be one a month and if you read them, many might be socials).e | |||
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"I don't read but if I see veried by 236 people, instant block. Also block if it's like 50. Too many I don't understand this 🤷 Nor do I. Proud of our 50+ veris saying we’re real. On this one " The misunderstanding of social veris for sexual veris even withoutlooking or even 100 webcam veris with zero meet veris 🤷♂️ Doesnt really make sense to me either but then it is impossible to understand how others think sometimes | |||
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"I don't read but if I see veried by 236 people, instant block. Also block if it's like 50. Too many I don't understand this 🤷 Nor do I. Proud of our 50+ veris saying we’re real. On this one The misunderstanding of social veris for sexual veris even withoutlooking or even 100 webcam veris with zero meet veris 🤷♂️ Doesnt really make sense to me either but then it is impossible to understand how others think sometimes" I guess some people have veris where you wouldn’t know if they’d fucked or not. But they won’t all be so ambiguous. | |||
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"Do you judge someone based off their verifications? Can it put you off? The amount and frequency of them? If they've met someone you don't like are you done? " Yes. If you don't, I think that's a bit daft. Yes. Context matters. Many people attend lots of socials. Definitely, and its nothing personal. If I dislike someone enough to want to excise them from my life, I want another degree of separation. People talk, and I need to trust those I share private moments with. | |||
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"I don't read but if I see veried by 236 people, instant block. Also block if it's like 50. Too many I don't understand this 🤷 Nor do I. Proud of our 50+ veris saying we’re real. " Absolutely! To have that amount of verification in this lifestyle tells me several things... 1. They are REAL! 2. They have Personality!! Since we like to meet REAL people with interesting personalities there's a good chance we'll have the Craic! | |||
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"I don't read but if I see veried by 236 people, instant block. Also block if it's like 50. Too many I don't understand this 🤷 Nor do I. Proud of our 50+ veris saying we’re real. Absolutely! To have that amount of verification in this lifestyle tells me several things... 1. They are REAL! 2. They have Personality!! Since we like to meet REAL people with interesting personalities there's a good chance we'll have the Craic!" You seem to be taking this very personally. Just do what serves you and let others choose for themselves. | |||
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"I dont read too much into verifications. Nobody is going to write a derogatory veri and even if they did the recipiant isnt going to make it public. I'm not a fan of the explicit, blow by blow accounts on some but each to their own. People with 100's of veris dont bother me either. Many people go to lots of socials and get lots of verifications from them. Lots of verifications doesnt always mean they have had sex with everyone. (sometimes it does - but good luck to them) I see verifications more as a sign that the person is real and showed up when they said they would, which is why i'm not really a fan of webcam verifications. " If I had energy to write tonight, I'd have written similar to this I reckon 👍🏻 | |||
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" People will judge and have preferences how they use the site noone is right and noone is wrong 🤷♀️" Ahhh c'mon. Someone has to be right and someone has to be wrong 🤭 Soz, i've had a fee babychams 🍸🤣 | |||
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" People will judge and have preferences how they use the site noone is right and noone is wrong 🤷♀️ Ahhh c'mon. Someone has to be right and someone has to be wrong 🤭 Soz, i've had a fee babychams 🍸🤣" Always one 😉 | |||
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"I don't read but if I see veried by 236 people, instant block. Also block if it's like 50. Too many I don't understand this 🤷 Nor do I. Proud of our 50+ veris saying we’re real. On this one The misunderstanding of social veris for sexual veris even withoutlooking or even 100 webcam veris with zero meet veris 🤷♂️ Doesnt really make sense to me either but then it is impossible to understand how others think sometimes" I get what what you mean on this. I've been knocked back for having too many veris before even though most were from socials. By that same token, I've been knocked back because I have too many social veris that they thought I wasn't meeting for sex. Can't win sometimes 🤷♂️ | |||
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"I tend to be put off by a lot of verifications as it appears they are just shagging about. That's fine, but it's not what I'm looking for. I don't want to be just another shag, I'm looking for an exclusive fuck buddy." Exactly. Fuck anything that walks, never know what they may have. I'm not risking that. May be me only having had sex with 5 women in my life, but meeting someone who has fucked over 50 just from meeting on this site nevermind anywhere else. Nah. Not for me | |||
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"I tend to be put off by a lot of verifications as it appears they are just shagging about. That's fine, but it's not what I'm looking for. I don't want to be just another shag, I'm looking for an exclusive fuck buddy. Exactly. Fuck anything that walks, never know what they may have. I'm not risking that. May be me only having had sex with 5 women in my life, but meeting someone who has fucked over 50 just from meeting on this site nevermind anywhere else. Nah. Not for me" You do you peekaboo. Just worth those pointing out the 50+ meets may not be sex meets. If you hadn’t realised. | |||
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"I tend to be put off by a lot of verifications as it appears they are just shagging about. That's fine, but it's not what I'm looking for. I don't want to be just another shag, I'm looking for an exclusive fuck buddy. Exactly. Fuck anything that walks, never know what they may have. I'm not risking that. May be me only having had sex with 5 women in my life, but meeting someone who has fucked over 50 just from meeting on this site nevermind anywhere else. Nah. Not for me You do you peekaboo. Just worth those pointing out the 50+ meets may not be sex meets. If you hadn’t realised. " I know. I also don't care. Because there may also be those who don't verify. All about statistics | |||
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"I tend to be put off by a lot of verifications as it appears they are just shagging about. That's fine, but it's not what I'm looking for. I don't want to be just another shag, I'm looking for an exclusive fuck buddy. Exactly. Fuck anything that walks, never know what they may have. I'm not risking that. May be me only having had sex with 5 women in my life, but meeting someone who has fucked over 50 just from meeting on this site nevermind anywhere else. Nah. Not for me" Everyone is entitled to their own opinion and choose to meet people the deem worthy. I do think that there is a lot of judgement put onto those who have had a lot of sexual partners, which is a bit rich given the site. And i think it's unfair to assume they are carrying some kind of STD because of that. | |||
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"I tend to be put off by a lot of verifications as it appears they are just shagging about. That's fine, but it's not what I'm looking for. I don't want to be just another shag, I'm looking for an exclusive fuck buddy. Exactly. Fuck anything that walks, never know what they may have. I'm not risking that. May be me only having had sex with 5 women in my life, but meeting someone who has fucked over 50 just from meeting on this site nevermind anywhere else. Nah. Not for me Everyone is entitled to their own opinion and choose to meet people the deem worthy. I do think that there is a lot of judgement put onto those who have had a lot of sexual partners, which is a bit rich given the site. And i think it's unfair to assume they are carrying some kind of STD because of that. " For a Swinger's site, it sure is frowned upon to have sex with people | |||
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"Do you judge someone based off their verifications? Can it put you off? The amount and frequency of them? If they've met someone you don't like are you done? " No. I make my own mind up after meeting a person face to face. | |||
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" I know. I also don't care. Because there may also be those who don't verify. All about statistics" Many women on here can tell you quite truthfully that they could have a shag knocking on the door every hour of everyday. Statistics here mean zero. I know women on here that dont do verifications and their filters mean veris given to them dont show, so they may jave met 100's but you or anyone would bever know. And as in real life statistics can prove whatever you want. | |||
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" I know. I also don't care. Because there may also be those who don't verify. All about statistics Many women on here can tell you quite truthfully that they could have a shag knocking on the door every hour of everyday. Statistics here mean zero. I know women on here that dont do verifications and their filters mean veris given to them dont show, so they may jave met 100's but you or anyone would bever know. And as in real life statistics can prove whatever you want." Good reason why I avoid meeting anyone | |||
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"Do you judge someone based off their verifications? Can it put you off? The amount and frequency of them? If they've met someone you don't like are you done? " No Yes Yes No | |||
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" That's fine, but it's not what I'm looking for. I don't want to be just another shag, I'm looking for an exclusive fuck buddy." So if you found someone who had too many veris, that was gorgeous too you in looks and personality. Who also fancied the pants off of you, you wouldnt even entertain the idea that they may also want to be an exclusive fuck buddy. | |||
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"I tend to be put off by a lot of verifications as it appears they are just shagging about. That's fine, but it's not what I'm looking for. I don't want to be just another shag, I'm looking for an exclusive fuck buddy. Exactly. Fuck anything that walks, never know what they may have. I'm not risking that. May be me only having had sex with 5 women in my life, but meeting someone who has fucked over 50 just from meeting on this site nevermind anywhere else. Nah. Not for me Everyone is entitled to their own opinion and choose to meet people the deem worthy. I do think that there is a lot of judgement put onto those who have had a lot of sexual partners, which is a bit rich given the site. And i think it's unfair to assume they are carrying some kind of STD because of that. For a Swinger's site, it sure is frowned upon to have sex with people" I know. Quite silly really. I guess it shows that the stigma around swingers being "riddled" is still rife, even amongst the community. | |||
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" That's fine, but it's not what I'm looking for. I don't want to be just another shag, I'm looking for an exclusive fuck buddy. So if you found someone who had too many veris, that was gorgeous too you in looks and personality. Who also fancied the pants off of you, you wouldnt even entertain the idea that they may also want to be an exclusive fuck buddy. " Don't get me wrong, of course id take all that into account. But the deciding factor is normally the message, from what I've experienced so far they simply ask to meet now, or what they want to do with me. If I got a decent message from them id probably pursue things further. | |||
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"I tend to be put off by a lot of verifications as it appears they are just shagging about. That's fine, but it's not what I'm looking for. I don't want to be just another shag, I'm looking for an exclusive fuck buddy. Exactly. Fuck anything that walks, never know what they may have. I'm not risking that. May be me only having had sex with 5 women in my life, but meeting someone who has fucked over 50 just from meeting on this site nevermind anywhere else. Nah. Not for me Everyone is entitled to their own opinion and choose to meet people the deem worthy. I do think that there is a lot of judgement put onto those who have had a lot of sexual partners, which is a bit rich given the site. And i think it's unfair to assume they are carrying some kind of STD because of that. For a Swinger's site, it sure is frowned upon to have sex with people I know. Quite silly really. I guess it shows that the stigma around swingers being "riddled" is still rife, even amongst the community. " It would appear that it is a hook up site for some, more so than a swingers site. I've said more than my permitted two pence. Each to their own, live and let live 🫶 | |||
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"If they've met the village idiot from the forums then I think twice about how I'll engage with them on here or through private messaging." And now we’re all wondering whether *we’re* the village idiot 😆 | |||
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"Judge, nø. Put me off? Yes. I look for patterns and consistencies in what people have written about that person. Sometimes, contrariwise, it's not what's been written but who's written it. If they've met the village idiot from the forums then I think twice about how I'll engage with them on here or through private messaging." Shorter words, I sssume. | |||
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"I tend to be put off by a lot of verifications as it appears they are just shagging about. That's fine, but it's not what I'm looking for. I don't want to be just another shag, I'm looking for an exclusive fuck buddy. Exactly. Fuck anything that walks, never know what they may have. I'm not risking that. May be me only having had sex with 5 women in my life, but meeting someone who has fucked over 50 just from meeting on this site nevermind anywhere else. Nah. Not for me Everyone is entitled to their own opinion and choose to meet people the deem worthy. I do think that there is a lot of judgement put onto those who have had a lot of sexual partners, which is a bit rich given the site. And i think it's unfair to assume they are carrying some kind of STD because of that. For a Swinger's site, it sure is frowned upon to have sex with people I know. Quite silly really. I guess it shows that the stigma around swingers being "riddled" is still rife, even amongst the community. " Say what you want. I'm not a swinger. I'm here for attention as I get none elsewhere. I'm not saying you're all riddled. If you've fucked more people than a full pub, who have they fucked? Statistically, someone has something no matter how safe you try | |||
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"No, i don't want any, I don't give any, I don't read any. I just don't get veri's at all. It's like rating someone on their sexual performance with others. You wouldn't do it away from here, ask others for a description of their sexual antics, so why do it here...I don't want to know." | |||
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"Yes, no, maybe, I don't know. Can you repeat the question? You're not the boss of me now...and you're not so big. Life is unfair. Hello, Malcolm. You understood that reference. I'm impressed. I don't know many people who've seen it. 👍🏾😉" Oh come on we’ve all seen it! | |||
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"I don’t have any and it certainly puts people off. " Having no veri's doesnt put me off at all we all have to start somewhere plus selfishly i would always prefer to be someones first on here 🤣 | |||
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"Never read them as I've never got to the point of meeting anyone I would love one saying I'm a crap shag though to help discourage people " I want that too | |||
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"Do you judge someone based off their verifications? Can it put you off? The amount and frequency of them? If they've met someone you don't like are you done? I am not here to meet the love of my life. If I meet someone off this site, it is not to form a long loving monogamous relationship. I already have two relationships with two people I love very much I am here to meet guys for fun. I don’t really care how many verifications they have. I am more concerned that they are nice guys and respectful. I do not draw any correlation between being nice and respectful and having lots or no verifications "  | |||
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"Aren’t veri’s there TO be judged? I mean isn’t that why people display them?" Absolutely they are. Everything on here is judged wether people like it or not. We judge people within seconds of meeting them face to face so on an online forum they are definitely going to be judged. Some will judge them badly and some wont. Such is life | |||
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"I tend to be put off by a lot of verifications as it appears they are just shagging about. That's fine, but it's not what I'm looking for. I don't want to be just another shag, I'm looking for an exclusive fuck buddy. Exactly. Fuck anything that walks, never know what they may have. I'm not risking that. May be me only having had sex with 5 women in my life, but meeting someone who has fucked over 50 just from meeting on this site nevermind anywhere else. Nah. Not for me You do you peekaboo. Just worth those pointing out the 50+ meets may not be sex meets. If you hadn’t realised. " This is why context matters. Even non sex meets can have context. They can be from organised socials, meeting forum friends, or they can be from someone who is actively trying to bang anything that they can. Its simple to work out. You can then look at the type of people they are meeting, and factor in there may be sex meets they aren't showing. You can then decide if their standards and preferences meet yours. Some people may say this is judgemental. It is. But why wouldn't you be when it is potentially your own health at risk? | |||
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"I don’t have any and it certainly puts people off. This is a good point and it does for quite a lot of people. Personally it doesn't put me off, a little more cautious about things, sure. I have met with people in the past who didn't have any and I'm still here to tell the tale 😆 So you say! How do we know that it is in fact you responding and not "Mr No Veri" who has kept you locked in his chest freezer for months, whilst he accesses your account to continue the pretence that you are ok?
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"Do you judge someone based off their verifications? Can it put you off? The amount and frequency of them? If they've met someone you don't like are you done? " We don’t judge, we do however use them to help us decide if we’re a match. It wouldn’t be our only decision making factor though. We like veri’s, we have a few and it’s fun to read back through them. Not all are conquests, we’ve thrown a lot of parties and have social veri’s in the mix.. | |||
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"100+ public verifications I have and don’t give two shits if someone I don’t know from Adam cares that much about it to make a judgement of me. A lot of them have come off the back of connecting on here AFTER meeting people in real life. This is just another stick to beat people with or use to filter them out. What I find the most suspect is those who’ve been on here “over a year ago” and have no verifications or only webcam ones. That’s the biggest “yikes” for me. " It's good you don't give a shit, i don't think people should care what random strangers on the internets preferences are | |||
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"100+ public verifications I have and don’t give two shits if someone I don’t know from Adam cares that much about it to make a judgement of me. A lot of them have come off the back of connecting on here AFTER meeting people in real life. This is just another stick to beat people with or use to filter them out. What I find the most suspect is those who’ve been on here “over a year ago” and have no verifications or only webcam ones. That’s the biggest “yikes” for me. " I don't give a shit either. I joined for group sex and can easily have sex with a few men in one night by going to a club or party. It is my life and I live it the way I want to. | |||
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" I don't give a shit either. I joined for group sex and can easily have sex with a few men in one night by going to a club or party. It is my life and I live it the way I want to." More power to you I say! 🙌🏾 imagine judging people for partaking in what this site is meant to facilitate 🙄🤦🏾♂️🤣 | |||
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" It's good you don't give a shit, i don't think people should care what random strangers on the internets preferences are I’m far too busy being outside and “touching grass” as the kids says these days to be concerning myself with such foolishness. I dont think people having a preference is foolish just because its different to yours or you dont agree with it. But i do agree with the attitude of you dont care and continue to do you "Zero fucks energy is the best kind of energy to exude. Some call it “arrogance” I call it being self-assured. | |||
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" I don't give a shit either. I joined for group sex and can easily have sex with a few men in one night by going to a club or party. It is my life and I live it the way I want to. More power to you I say! 🙌🏾 imagine judging people for partaking in what this site is meant to facilitate 🙄🤦🏾♂️🤣" Yeah but its the internet and it allows anyone to join so people can join for whatever the reason they choose. Your kind of judging them arnt you by saying that. Guess we all judge each other. Who knew | |||
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" I don't give a shit either. I joined for group sex and can easily have sex with a few men in one night by going to a club or party. It is my life and I live it the way I want to. More power to you I say! 🙌🏾 imagine judging people for partaking in what this site is meant to facilitate 🙄🤦🏾♂️🤣 Yeah but its the internet and it allows anyone to join so people can join for whatever the reason they choose. Your kind of judging them arnt you by saying that. Guess we all judge each other. Who knew " If you think I am then fair enough but I don’t see it myself. Simply just made a statement that is true.. does this site not act as a facilitator for bringing people together to have sex with each other? 🤷🏾♂️ if some don’t wish to use the site for that then that’s up to them | |||
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" I don't give a shit either. I joined for group sex and can easily have sex with a few men in one night by going to a club or party. It is my life and I live it the way I want to. More power to you I say! 🙌🏾 imagine judging people for partaking in what this site is meant to facilitate 🙄🤦🏾♂️🤣 Yeah but its the internet and it allows anyone to join so people can join for whatever the reason they choose. Your kind of judging them arnt you by saying that. Guess we all judge each other. Who knew If you think I am then fair enough but I don’t see it myself. Simply just made a statement that is true.. does this site not act as a facilitator for bringing people together to have sex with each other? 🤷🏾♂️ if some don’t wish to use the site for that then that’s up to them " I agree | |||
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"Do you judge someone based off their verifications? Can it put you off? The amount and frequency of them? If they've met someone you don't like are you done? Unfortunately yes, im glad you've asked as it's something I've wondered if it was just me! X " | |||
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" I don't give a shit either. I joined for group sex and can easily have sex with a few men in one night by going to a club or party. It is my life and I live it the way I want to. More power to you I say! 🙌🏾 imagine judging people for partaking in what this site is meant to facilitate 🙄🤦🏾♂️🤣 I kind of agree with this. I'm never judging anyone for the amount of sex or sexual partners they have. But I am a little judgmental on the people they choose to have sex with for a number of reasons. " Oh i agree with everything he is saying about it being a swingers site. Its the foolish part if people dont agree or dont want to i was getting at. I think people can have whatever preferences they like and thats what makes the world go round they can hopefully navigate towards people who are meeting less people for sex. And the swingers who use this site for what its for can continue to do so without caring about people whos preferences dont match theres/judge them. | |||
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" I don't give a shit either. I joined for group sex and can easily have sex with a few men in one night by going to a club or party. It is my life and I live it the way I want to. More power to you I say! 🙌🏾 imagine judging people for partaking in what this site is meant to facilitate 🙄🤦🏾♂️🤣 I kind of agree with this. I'm never judging anyone for the amount of sex or sexual partners they have. But I am a little judgmental on the people they choose to have sex with for a number of reasons. Oh i agree with everything he is saying about it being a swingers site. Its the foolish part if people dont agree or dont want to i was getting at. I think people can have whatever preferences they like and thats what makes the world go round they can hopefully navigate towards people who are meeting less people for sex. And the swingers who use this site for what its for can continue to do so without caring about people whos preferences dont match theres/judge them. " People see the word swinger and think it means free for all, no holds barred, hedonistic sex-or you shouldn't be on here. | |||
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" I kind of agree with this. I'm never judging anyone for the amount of sex or sexual partners they have. But I am a little judgmental on the people they choose to have sex with for a number of reasons. " I get it, there’s definitely users on here who’ve looked through who I’ve gotten veris from & been the same. Have had snarky remarks made to me in person too about those individuals I’ve chosen to sleep with. My view is if I didn’t ask for your opinion who I choose to sleep with, then respectfully keep that to yourself. | |||
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" I don't give a shit either. I joined for group sex and can easily have sex with a few men in one night by going to a club or party. It is my life and I live it the way I want to. More power to you I say! 🙌🏾 imagine judging people for partaking in what this site is meant to facilitate 🙄🤦🏾♂️🤣 I kind of agree with this. I'm never judging anyone for the amount of sex or sexual partners they have. But I am a little judgmental on the people they choose to have sex with for a number of reasons. Oh i agree with everything he is saying about it being a swingers site. Its the foolish part if people dont agree or dont want to i was getting at. I think people can have whatever preferences they like and thats what makes the world go round they can hopefully navigate towards people who are meeting less people for sex. And the swingers who use this site for what its for can continue to do so without caring about people whos preferences dont match theres/judge them. People see the word swinger and think it means free for all, no holds barred, hedonistic sex-or you shouldn't be on here. " I agree with this also 😁 | |||
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