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"I met a nice young man from East London in a hotel near Bicester late last night. He had invited me from this site and I am fairly sure that he is single as his profile says as he was staying on his own after a wedding there. I loved turning up at the hotel like the whore that I am and asked for his room (I had the room number and his first name but not his surname so I think that the nice man at reception knew that I was a tart - I wasn’t actually working at the time! - and must have when I walked out an hour or two later). The receptionist rang him to say that his ‘guest’ was there and gave me a key card. He was naked when I went in and we had some sex and then he wanted me to dominate him, which I enjoy, so I did, quite brutally, which he liked. I made him masturbate and then lick his cum of my fingers before leaving. I enjoyed it and he seemed to a lot, and didn’t want me to leave. When I got home he had blocked me on here. I don’t mind at all but I am curious about why a man would do this. Embarrassment? Discretion? He said that since splitting up with his girlfriend he had had sex with men and with TVs and enjoyed it and enjoyed being dominated so I doubt that it was regret about having sex with me as a ‘trans-woman’. He was enthusiastic throughout and asked me to do whatever I wanted." As a cis hetero woman who has been dealing with the post-nut clarity of ( cis-hetero?) men for nearly 45 years. I can tell you it's a common occurrence and it's got nothing to do with you and who are a woman and everything to do with him as a play partner or just human who struggles to socially interact and communicate thoughts and emotions correctly and just comes out with jarring behaviour. I've seen all genders and gender identities and orientations and abilities and disabilities and neurodivergents and neurotypicals do things like this. It basically boils down to their psyche and nothing much else. That's my 2 cents' opinion. I'm sure the other fabbers with have some more takes. | |||
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"Men can be a very different animal when their tank is full " Indeed. In the hyper-masculine spaces that I hang out in, they talk about the post-nut clarity. There's actually a wikipedia page now. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Post-nut_clarity Men are endlessly fascinating (and entertaining) to me. Lol! But I've come to realise that a lot of men need strict boundaries before they set the "car" on fire with themselves in it and then wonder why they and the "car" are on fire. My mom keeps a tight leash on my dad now that he's blind.... before that he had multiple run ins with the police and he's currently being sued by my cousin. Lol! My mother somehow had managed to escape police detention for her own good and has never been sued by anyone. My mom gets up to shenanigans but not as bad as my dad. My uncles growing up were complete dumpster fires. Two dropped dead in their early 50s. One had three women and one daughter fighting over him on his deathbed. I don't think he ever achieved post-nut clarity... Hence me looking into being a dominatrix.  | |||
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"Probably to do with emotions and feelings, then him feeling overwhelmed and backing off. Is he aware of this? Probably not. So many people on here blur sexual gratification with emotional depth and feelings that's a part of what makes casual sex difficult at times." Given my diagnosis of emotionally unstable personality disorder, most men are unqualified and inexperienced to handle my emotions. Lol! I have my mental health team and mental health peer groups for that and emotional intimacy. It's not a common skill for most people to separate it out. But I've had to for basic survival and healthy function. Also I had psychotherapy to teach me how to do it. I met a lady last night and she was saying how she wanted romance in swinging and most swinger men just aren't looking for that or they aren't capable of reciprocating that level of romantic and emotional satisfaction. In my case, I self-romance and self-validate. I buy myself flowers, I take myself on trips. I take myself to dinner and dates. I'm also quite a decisive person so if I decide to have sex with someone, I've already decided if it's a one-off physical intimacy or if I think we would be compatible building the intimacy beyond the physical. If you equate all your sexual encounters with like, love, emotions, romance, life partnership, you will be in for a rough ride with casual sex. If you can compartmentalise as I can, that makes it easier. A classic thing that comes up in this lifestyle is feelings of inadequacy, envy and jealous; which is normal but it's how you exhibit behaviours around it, that are most important.(and if you have negative self-talk such as comparison but negative self-talk doesn't harm anyone else) | |||
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"I met a nice young man from East London in a hotel near Bicester late last night. He had invited me from this site and I am fairly sure that he is single as his profile says as he was staying on his own after a wedding there. I loved turning up at the hotel like the whore that I am and asked for his room (I had the room number and his first name but not his surname so I think that the nice man at reception knew that I was a tart - I wasn’t actually working at the time! - and must have when I walked out an hour or two later). The receptionist rang him to say that his ‘guest’ was there and gave me a key card. He was naked when I went in and we had some sex and then he wanted me to dominate him, which I enjoy, so I did, quite brutally, which he liked. I made him masturbate and then lick his cum of my fingers before leaving. I enjoyed it and he seemed to a lot, and didn’t want me to leave. When I got home he had blocked me on here. I don’t mind at all but I am curious about why a man would do this. Embarrassment? Discretion? He said that since splitting up with his girlfriend he had had sex with men and with TVs and enjoyed it and enjoyed being dominated so I doubt that it was regret about having sex with me as a ‘trans-woman’. He was enthusiastic throughout and asked me to do whatever I wanted." It was probably his wedding | |||
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"Men can be a very different animal when their tank is full " This. And he just wanted a box ticked, one off the bucket list. Once was enough. | |||
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"Men can be a very different animal when their tank is full This. And he just wanted a box ticked, one off the bucket list. Once was enough." He said that he had had sex with men and TVs several times since splitting up from his girlfriend a year ago so probably not! | |||
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" It was probably his wedding "🤔😂😂😂No sign of a bride or any traces of a woman having been in the room, and the receptionist didn’t seem surprised at an old tart like me arriving to visit the groom! I don’t think that it is something that even the most cynical receptionist would not bat an eye at! Unless she had walked out on him already at or after the reception I think it unlikely!🤔😂 Also unlikely that he had suggested a wedding night threesome with an older trans woman and she walked before I arrived in disgust or having changed her mind! Probably one for the stories and fantasies section! | |||
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"It could be PNC, and it could also be that he didn’t enjoy it. There’s also something about you revealing so many details in this message, which makes me think he may have had privacy concerns also." Was it you with another profile?🤔😂 | |||
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