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By *Effy- OP   Woman
2 weeks ago

Scotland

Do you feel like you’re often expected to take the lead or play the more dominant role during sex?

Are you happy with that dynamic, or do you sometimes wish the other person would initiate more or take control occasionally?

Just curious.

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By *hamallamadingdongMan
2 weeks ago

London

Do you feel like you’re often expected to take the lead or play the more dominant role during sex?

Yes.

Are you happy with that dynamic

For the most part, yes.

Or do you sometimes wish the other person would initiate more or take control occasionally?

Yes, I would be open to this. It's exhausting doing most of, if not all, the work in the bedroom. I'm not a machine. I get tired/fatigued too. It would be nice to experience doing nothing while she takes the lead. Receiving the pleasure, not just giving it all the time. Is Pillow Prince a thing?

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By *igBeardyDanMan
2 weeks ago

Bilston

Im more dominant, i had a hotwife meet last week and we let her husband join us, he was alittle unsure about how to begin so I told him to start and I'd take over.

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By *moothdickMan
2 weeks ago

stoke

Good question… the longer u know someone the better it becomes, u get know what they like and vise versa.. I like both, it’s great to take the lead but then theres time when I love the other taking the initiative.. ao in answer to yr question, it looks as though I’m on the fence without the splinters in my arse lol

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By *007ManMan
2 weeks ago

Worthing

Sex should be a two way thing. Also get outside of the bedroom right, don't be a simp but a gentleman and she will ride you in the bedroom until you cannot take any more.

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By (user no longer on site)
2 weeks ago

Don't be giving them ideas! I like a rest in the bedroom thanks.

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By *ilverfox for youMan
2 weeks ago

Hull

Yes to all of that !!!

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By *WB85Man
2 weeks ago

Staffordshire

Most of my meets have had more of a mutual feeling where we have both been on the same page.

I have been with someone where I had to initiate everything, I met her frequently for several months and it was always the same. It was still nice.

I've never experienced a lady taking the lead with me.

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By *oeBeansMan
2 weeks ago

Derby

I wouldn't say I'm a naturally dominant person in general and I think I take that into the bedroom so I think a lot of my meets have been based on a mutual feeling or reading their body language and going with the flow.

I wouldn't mind a woman taking the lead if it came naturally to them but I suppose the only "downside" is doing something that doesn't do it for me just to please her

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By *Effy- OP   Woman
2 weeks ago

Scotland


"Do you feel like you’re often expected to take the lead or play the more dominant role during sex?

Yes.

Are you happy with that dynamic

For the most part, yes.

Or do you sometimes wish the other person would initiate more or take control occasionally?

Yes, I would be open to this. It's exhausting doing most of, if not all, the work in the bedroom. I'm not a machine. I get tired/fatigued too. It would be nice to experience doing nothing while she takes the lead. Receiving the pleasure, not just giving it all the time. Is Pillow Prince a thing?"

I'm not sure, Shams. You could maybe start a trend though!

But, yeah. I kind of expected this to be the case. I was chatting with a friend who is naturally more dominant and is happy that way, but feels the same. I guess it can get quite tiring when that's expected of you all of the time.

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By *Effy- OP   Woman
2 weeks ago

Scotland


"Don't be giving them ideas! I like a rest in the bedroom thanks. "

Don't worry, I'm looking to see which ones to avoid 👀

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By *hickthighs26Woman
2 weeks ago

funky town


"Don't be giving them ideas! I like a rest in the bedroom thanks.

Don't worry, I'm looking to see which ones to avoid 👀"

Thats what im doing 🤣

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By (user no longer on site)
2 weeks ago

I definitely am used to taking the lead I think I'd find it weird if I didnt

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By *avexxMan
2 weeks ago

cheshire

ive always been a leader

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By *Effy- OP   Woman
2 weeks ago

Scotland


"I definitely am used to taking the lead I think I'd find it weird if I didnt"

That's great if it's what comes naturally to you. Do you feel like you still get everything you want from it?

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By *aughtyByNature82Man
2 weeks ago

Cumbernauld

I like to take the lead to an extent, I’m very much a giver so as long as the female is enjoying what I’m doing that’s what turns me on, if she wants to take the lead and respond then I’ll accept but not a necessity

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By *Effy- OP   Woman
2 weeks ago

Scotland


"ive always been a leader "

I bet you are Dave 😈

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By *lizaDay91Woman
2 weeks ago

It'sASecret

I know I'm not a man ( despite what aome think ) but I'll put my two cents in and say I prefer others to take the lead sexually as I'm definitely submissive. I always mention this in chats before a meet is planned, so people know where they stand.

I've got a long history of issues with my looks and I often haven't felt people have been physically attracted to me above the neck and fully clothed, which means I don't initiate kissing etc. I haven't really found many regular sexual partners, but I guess with time or as things heat up during a meet I can be more bold but I have to be sure the person is into me.

I'm someone who prefers being told what to do within agreed limits so I think I'll always prefer others taking the lead. It certainly isn't me trying to be lazy.

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By *rHotNottsMan
2 weeks ago

Dubai & Nottingham

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By *rHotNottsMan
2 weeks ago

Dubai & Nottingham

Yes, and yes, mostly. If I really like them I will let them have a go, but generally I enjoy being dominant, the physical and the mental side

it’s nice to be pampered occasionally, but it doesn’t just mean being ridden

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By *ire_thornMan
2 weeks ago

Sol The Narion system

I like the control and dominance to go back and forth

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By *gent CoulsonMan
2 weeks ago

Secret hideaway in the pennines

I am a naturally dominant person and happy to give direction, but sometimes it is nice to let someone else take the lead, once that person knows you and your body

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By *asualConnectionsMan
2 weeks ago

bristol

Mostly like to be in control but always nice to have that switch somtimes, to keeps things interesting

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By *ust want fun 888Man
2 weeks ago

nearby

I don’t know, I think it should be equal as in whatever position, et cetera should be run by a person in that position

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By *eximus MaximusMan
2 weeks ago

Up North

As long as she doesn’t just lie there lack a sack of spuds then I’m happy

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By *otopaxiMan
2 weeks ago

nostalgia


"Do you feel like you’re often expected to take the lead or play the more dominant role during sex?

Are you happy with that dynamic, or do you sometimes wish the other person would initiate more or take control occasionally?

Just curious. "

I have definitely felt the ‘expectation’ but I also think that has been largely put on by me, rather than ‘by’ the other person specifically, as someone who enjoys both dynamics as others have said, communication is key although some will firmly sit in one camp or the other, a lot are open to be in either depending on the situation

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By *iking3397Man
2 weeks ago

visiting isle of man

I’m a pleasure Dom so taking the lead comes naturally

That being said I do still like to switch it up now and again

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By *estructionDollyWoman
2 weeks ago

Manchester

I enjoy giving direction and taking the lead that way, but I prefer the man to "take the lead" physically during sex. I like a service top dynamic. I have no issue in him doing what he's told, acting like a stunt cock if you will , but if he is timid and completely submissive in the bedroom it won't do much for me. I like passion and intensity. I want to feel desired and make him feral.

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By *a LunaWoman
2 weeks ago

Wales


"ive always been a leader "

Knew we could rely on you Dave! 😘

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By *elvet RopeMan
2 weeks ago

by the big field

Kind of depends on the person. I'm certainly more Dominant and have tried to be submissive with a switch friend, but i just got the giggles and couldn't take her seriously as i knew all the tricks- just ended up rolling her on to her back and taking over in the end which was still a good night all round.

Do wish women would initiate things more often, even if its just a clear signal they're more than interested- so many people can't seem to communicate properly now (or worse still, they're just complete messers or dreamers )

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By *adeAndXercTV/TS
2 weeks ago

Rochdale

We've often found most men on fab (and life) struggle to lead in general, though most struggle to admit it. They often think they're expected to even if they don't know how so it can make for some very strange conversations and a lot of missed opportunities. From our vast experience, the men who are actively getting any know they might not be the one leading and the world is all the better for it x

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By *Effy- OP   Woman
2 weeks ago

Scotland


"Do wish women would initiate things more often, even if its just a clear signal they're more than interested- so many people can't seem to communicate properly now (or worse still, they're just complete messers or dreamers )"

Yes. This is kinda what I was getting at. Do men feel like they are expected to take the lead with it all, initiating included.

I know I've definitely been guilty of wanting to kiss someone but holding back and waiting on them making the first move.

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