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"I admire your unashamed nativity. The good old virgin birth "I just snorted coffee lol | |||
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"I admire your unashamed nativity. The good old virgin birth "Damn that auto collect. | |||
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"I dont know and i cant really say i am bothered. I am also not the morality police for others but glad you stick to your guns OP "This. If I like someone I like someone. | |||
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"I admire your unashamed nativity." Wise man. | |||
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"I admire your unashamed nativity. Wise man." Showing some good frankinsense | |||
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"I don't ask anyone's familial situation, I'm not interested anyway but also if they've made the decision to be here it's not going to be me damaging anything at home it's them, so in terms of the moral ethical quandary there isn't one as far as I'm concerned" Couldn’t agree more with the last bit. Although i do personally like to know their situation. | |||
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"We are all going to hell anyways 🤪" Do you know what the dress code is? I need to know if I should pack sunscreen or a sweater. | |||
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"We are all going to hell anyways 🤪 Do you know what the dress code is? I need to know if I should pack sunscreen or a sweater." Whatever you wear will be uncomfortable by design | |||
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"I admire your unashamed nativity. Wise man. Showing some good frankinsense " Guess not everyone is in a 'stable' relationship! | |||
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"We are all going to hell anyways 🤪 Do you know what the dress code is? I need to know if I should pack sunscreen or a sweater. Whatever you wear will be uncomfortable by design Just pack your toothbrush and sandals " | |||
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"I admire your unashamed nativity. Wise man. Showing some good frankinsense Guess not everyone is in a 'stable' relationship!" There's always more room at my inn | |||
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"Everybody lies, everybody cheats. Go with the flow and enjoy! " "Whether it's to yourself, or lookin' at someone else / Everybody lies, lies, lies / It's the only truth sometimes..." | |||
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"I admire your unashamed nativity. Wise man. Showing some good frankinsense Guess not everyone is in a 'stable' relationship! There's always more room at my inn " How did they know Baby Jesus' weight when he was born? They had a weigh in a manger! | |||
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"I don't think its a man thing, it's a people thing. The Internet has opened up a portal to unlimited options and we live in a world where people put ego and validation before empathy and commitment." This! It's happened to me I've been cheated on I know how it feels! | |||
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. I bet if it were their wife/hubby playing away (aside from the ones who swap willingly obv) they wouldn’t be as happy. The world has gone mad as has fab! It’s not the same anymore sadly hence why we rarely come on | |||
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"... Our society has definitely become more selfish and fixated on short term pleasures." Do you really think so? Was it not ever such? Take for instance the goings on in Sodom and Gomorrah 2000BCE, or Roman orgies and wine-fueled festivals in the first century, or libertinism and the gratification of bodily desires in the 18th century to name a few. | |||
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"I can’t believe some of the replies to this . I bet if it were their wife/hubby playing away (aside from the ones who swap willingly obv) they wouldn’t be as happy. The world has gone mad as has fab! It’s not the same anymore sadly hence why we rarely come on"I agree with the sentiment, and in no way would I agree with someone's choice to cheat. But, who made the choice to do that? Was it the partner playing away, or the target of their affections that might not know anything? Or If we were to ask to find out, would someone who is already lying, just lie? Probably. If they're willing to be up front and tell you that's their situation at least you know what you're getting into, and you're still not the offending party they are. If they've decided to commit themselves to that course they are the guilty party, and there shouldn't be a need for other people to have to play the detective investigator to suss out what's going on before choosing to get involved. Individual morality and ethics in this is a complex layered subject and totally subjective and individual. Everyone's got their own circumstances and overall, here of all places, I'm not here to judge anyone. | |||
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Until you have been in some peoples situations we probs shouldnt judge, of course if it goes against your morals then avoid it but to pass judgement on others i dont believe is right. Noone knows whats going on in peoples lives.
Just my opinion of course.
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"I always find it interesting that its mostly couples who are so vocal about how morally wrong it is. We could all say that if our partners/husbands/wifes actively encouraged us to do so. Yes before the jump on brigade come in i know swinging/enm/poly is different to cheating 100% but wouldnt it be nice if everyones partner allowed them to have sex with others freely .
Until you have been in some peoples situations we probs shouldnt judge, of course if it goes against your morals then avoid it but to pass judgement on others i dont believe is right. Noone knows whats going on in peoples lives.
Just my opinion of course.
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"I always find it interesting that its mostly couples who are so vocal about how morally wrong it is. We could all say that if our partners/husbands/wifes actively encouraged us to do so. Yes before the jump on brigade come in i know swinging/enm/poly is different to cheating 100% but wouldnt it be nice if everyones partner allowed them to have sex with others freely .
Until you have been in some peoples situations we probs shouldnt judge, of course if it goes against your morals then avoid it but to pass judgement on others i dont believe is right. Noone knows whats going on in peoples lives.
Just my opinion of course.
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"... Our society has definitely become more selfish and fixated on short term pleasures. Do you really think so? Was it not ever such? Take for instance the goings on in Sodom and Gomorrah 2000BCE, or Roman orgies and wine-fueled festivals in the first century, or libertinism and the gratification of bodily desires in the 18th century to name a few." I mean over the last 30 years or so (speaking from what I have observed). The examples you've mentioned have some major time gaps. They were so long ago. Perhaps there is an aspect of it within human nature and some people do it regardless while others will do it if society encourages it. Some people are called shitty for doing it, others are not. The internet has certainly played a part in making it easier for people to cheat. | |||
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"Plus the taken guys are usually the hottest and they don't pester you 24/7! " That can easily be changed! . . (and btw, I am always cold, thinking of getting a sweater even now) | |||
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"I always find it interesting that its mostly couples who are so vocal about how morally wrong it is. We could all say that if our partners/husbands/wifes actively encouraged us to do so. Yes before the jump on brigade come in i know swinging/enm/poly is different to cheating 100% but wouldnt it be nice if everyones partner allowed them to have sex with others freely .
Until you have been in some peoples situations we probs shouldnt judge, of course if it goes against your morals then avoid it but to pass judgement on others i dont believe is right. Noone knows whats going on in peoples lives.
Just my opinion of course.
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"...The internet has certainly played a part in making it easier for people to cheat." I agree, i got hooked on chat rooms in the late 90s and in the early 2000s that is when it led to my first affair. | |||
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"...The internet has certainly played a part in making it easier for people to cheat. I agree, i got hooked on chat rooms in the late 90s and in the early 2000s that is when it led to my first affair." Accountability is important. We're seeing cheating more because of social media. People are just admitting it and they are proud. I'm not sure what a normal relationship looks like these days. | |||
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"Plus the taken guys are usually the hottest and they don't pester you 24/7! " This^^^ hahaha Such a disappointment. I’m with OP though, always a little sickened when I find out some lovely guy I’ve been chatting to has a wife at home who has no idea what he’s upto on his phone… As someone who was cheated on, and destroyed a long term relationship, it triggers me Sadly just as may cheaters on tinder though. | |||
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"I really don’t get married men cheating. They made effort to propose and get married so why is it not worth the effort to be faithful?" I’m a big believer in you can never understand something unless you are in that situation or are living someone’s life, whatever it may be. Just do you and let everyone else do them. | |||
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"I always find it interesting that its mostly couples who are so vocal about how morally wrong it is. We could all say that if our partners/husbands/wifes actively encouraged us to do so. Yes before the jump on brigade come in i know swinging/enm/poly is different to cheating 100% but wouldnt it be nice if everyones partner allowed them to have sex with others freely .
Until you have been in some peoples situations we probs shouldnt judge, of course if it goes against your morals then avoid it but to pass judgement on others i dont believe is right. Noone knows whats going on in peoples lives.
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"It’s not just men" Show me the women | |||
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"I really don’t get married men cheating. They made effort to propose and get married so why is it not worth the effort to be faithful? I’m a big believer in you can never understand something unless you are in that situation or are living someone’s life, whatever it may be." Just do you and let everyone else do them. I've avoided this thread for risk of earning a ban if I open my mouth, but this line here sums it up best. Nice one Nora 🥰 | |||
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"I always ask a guy if he’s taken or single to start a chat now and my inbox is taking up a staggering 90% married or taken men on here. Most even happily admit to this. No judgement on any anyone, but I am quite shocked on the amount of cheating happening? Why do men want a relationship but want all the benefits of being single at the same time? Maybe this is all normal but it honestly just makes me feel a bit sad. Obviously I don’t want to be rude to men but I’m having to do a lot of blocking as I don’t want to potentially hurt anyone talking to someone’s partner." I find myself in the same situation. I will however happily have sex with men with their partner’s consent (I am in that position myself; we live together as two women friends, one real, one imitation/‘honorary’) but they can of course lie about that too. Sometimes it’s fairly obvious that a man is married but not always, so ironically sometimes we are just turning down those who have the honesty to admit it! | |||
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"I always ask a guy if he’s taken or single to start a chat now and my inbox is taking up a staggering 90% married or taken men on here. Most even happily admit to this. No judgement on any anyone, but I am quite shocked on the amount of cheating happening? Why do men want a relationship but want all the benefits of being single at the same time? Maybe this is all normal but it honestly just makes me feel a bit sad. Obviously I don’t want to be rude to men but I’m having to do a lot of blocking as I don’t want to potentially hurt anyone talking to someone’s partner. I find myself in the same situation. I will however happily have sex with men with their partner’s consent (I am in that position myself; we live together as two women friends, one real, one imitation/‘honorary’) but they can of course lie about that too. Sometimes it’s fairly obvious that a man is married but not always, so ironically sometimes we are just turning down those who have the honesty to admit it!" Most of the men who fuck me and whose cocks I suck and play with are those whom I meet in clubs, and I don’t generally talk to them as much as I would to men on here before meeting for sex, and in practice I imagine that many of the men who fuck me in clubs are married, so I admit to being inconsistent. | |||
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"I always ask a guy if he’s taken or single to start a chat now and my inbox is taking up a staggering 90% married or taken men on here. Most even happily admit to this. No judgement on any anyone, but I am quite shocked on the amount of cheating happening? Why do men want a relationship but want all the benefits of being single at the same time? Maybe this is all normal but it honestly just makes me feel a bit sad. Obviously I don’t want to be rude to men but I’m having to do a lot of blocking as I don’t want to potentially hurt anyone talking to someone’s partner." It could be men or women not getting the securely satisfaction they crave from their partners... And this is despite doing the talking and making the time and all the other things people will advise not wanting to leave what they have but having an itch that needs scratching | |||
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"I admire your unashamed nativity. The good old virgin birth "Is it naive if you to believe in the nativity??? 😂 | |||
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"Something very sexy about playing with a solo married man or fem in all honesty " agreed  | |||
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"It amuses me a little, that people, registered on a swinging/ sex site, can take a high moral ground on this or any other subject. We all know what we are. We all make our choices. We don't need to get judgy and throw rocks inside our own little greenhouses. Live and let live much? "‘Swinging’ is meant to be consensual sexual activity between couples, and presumably others, for the enjoyment of both partners in couples. It is not remotely the same as people in married couples cheating on their partners with others. I believe that there are actually websites catering for that. | |||
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"I really don’t get married men cheating. They made effort to propose and get married so why is it not worth the effort to be faithful? I’m a big believer in you can never understand something unless you are in that situation or are living someone’s life, whatever it may be. Just do you and let everyone else do them. " I think lots of men and women are trapped in a dead marriage, no romance or intemacy, often at years of trying by one side. I know many men who have been in this situation, it's cruel. I would imagine the same for women. I agree you can't assume anyones situation, just take them at face value. | |||
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"I always ask a guy if he’s taken or single to start a chat now and my inbox is taking up a staggering 90% married or taken men on here. Most even happily admit to this. No judgement on any anyone, but I am quite shocked on the amount of cheating happening? Why do men want a relationship but want all the benefits of being single at the same time? Maybe this is all normal but it honestly just makes me feel a bit sad. Obviously I don’t want to be rude to men but I’m having to do a lot of blocking as I don’t want to potentially hurt anyone talking to someone’s partner." It's not just men, plenty of cheating women on here as well | |||
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"It amuses me a little, that people, registered on a swinging/ sex site, can take a high moral ground on this or any other subject. We all know what we are. We all make our choices. We don't need to get judgy and throw rocks inside our own little greenhouses. Live and let live much? "Being on a swinging site doesn't mean that people don't have morals lol | |||
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"It’s not just men" How dare you try to expunge a fab myth!.. Nice bum btw… | |||
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"Too much drama anyway haha. " Yep. Have I had sex with cheating men before? Yes. Would I again? 99% unlikely unless it was Tom Hiddleston. The idea of cheating men being easier etc isn't quite true - won't go in to details but the last one put me off for life (bar Hiddleston, if he ever "swung" that way).1 | |||
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"I admire your unashamed nativity. The good old virgin birth "Crying 😂😂😂 E | |||
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"Sinners judging Sinners for sining differently...." I sin in a very straight fashion. | |||
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"It's the ones who try to hide it, to trick others into meets I don't like. " Exactly! If you have to be dishonest and trick people into having sex with you, then you are not getting informed consent! | |||
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"It's the ones who try to hide it, to trick others into meets I don't like. Exactly! If you have to be dishonest and trick people into having sex with you, then you are not getting informed consent! " I agree with this. Even though I do and have met attached people I would be fuming if they said they were single and they weren’t. Never really had that though luckily. | |||
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"I'm married and yes my mrs knows she's on here too, we can't play together due to commitments so no point in a couples profile. " What is her profile name…. | |||
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"I'm married and yes my mrs knows she's on here too, we can't play together due to commitments so no point in a couples profile. " That’s different though isn’t it? Surely nobody can have an issue with that. I mean that kind of dynamic isn’t for me at all but it’s not cheating??? | |||
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"I don't think its a man thing, it's a people thing. The Internet has opened up a portal to unlimited options and we live in a world where people put ego and validation before empathy and commitment." Well said. | |||
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"I'm married and yes my mrs knows she's on here too, we can't play together due to commitments so no point in a couples profile. That’s different though isn’t it? Surely nobody can have an issue with that. I mean that kind of dynamic isn’t for me at all but it’s not cheating???" Some people understand but then I still get feedback saying im just saying that and im cheating. I am open about it and says on my profile too. I don't think people actually read profiles now ??? | |||
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"Hi op, there's lots of married and attached men and women on here, even some FB couples married to other people too. I do always ask and I'm grateful for the ones who are upfront about it, on their profiles. At least they give people all the info and then others can decide to meet or not based on that. It's the ones who try to hide it, to trick others into meets I don't like. You do what works for you op. Like I say, I always ask and if I'm in any doubt that someone's not being truthful and is playing away, I wouldn't meet them. I'm half a couple and I'd hate it done to me, so I'd never knowingly meet anyone who is cheating on their partner. " Yes, I agree with all of that. I sympathise with men (or women) who are stuck in a sexless marriage for years but as you say I prefer those who are honest about it to those who lie. | |||
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"I'm married and yes my mrs knows she's on here too, we can't play together due to commitments so no point in a couples profile. " Yes, that’s entirely different if it’s with mutual consent, not what I or most people would call cheating at all, surely? | |||
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"The married ones always tend to give me better meets, like theres more respect to who and what I am, and what I have to offer. I like when they openly tell me they're married, I won't meet those on here cheating. Mrs. X" This 👆🏼 👌🏼 | |||
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"The married ones always tend to give me better meets, like theres more respect to who and what I am, and what I have to offer. I like when they openly tell me they're married, I won't meet those on here cheating. Mrs. X" So true its also because married people are here for extre spicy fun not because we are desperate. | |||
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"I always ask a guy if he’s taken or single to start a chat now and my inbox is taking up a staggering 90% married or taken men on here. Most even happily admit to this. No judgement on any anyone, but I am quite shocked on the amount of cheating happening? Why do men want a relationship but want all the benefits of being single at the same time? Maybe this is all normal but it honestly just makes me feel a bit sad. Obviously I don’t want to be rude to men but I’m having to do a lot of blocking as I don’t want to potentially hurt anyone talking to someone’s partner." I agree with you, it is very sad and those who are unaware, we dont delve in those sneaking about. | |||
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"I can’t believe some of the replies to this . I bet if it were their wife/hubby playing away (aside from the ones who swap willingly obv) they wouldn’t be as happy. The world has gone mad as has fab! It’s not the same anymore sadly hence why we rarely come on"Agreed, also I think they should state if they are in a relationship/married on thier profiles, makes it CRYSTAL CLEAR for those who do not want to delve or be a part of the poor person unknowingly being cheated on. Each to thier own I suppose. | |||
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"I can’t believe some of the replies to this . I bet if it were their wife/hubby playing away (aside from the ones who swap willingly obv) they wouldn’t be as happy. The world has gone mad as has fab! It’s not the same anymore sadly hence why we rarely come on
Agreed, also I think they should state if they are in a relationship/married on thier profiles, makes it CRYSTAL CLEAR for those who do not want to delve or be a part of the poor person unknowingly being cheated on.
Each to thier own I suppose. "Nah. As long as they tell people when they speak to them privately. I don’t think it has to go on a profile. | |||
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"I can’t believe some of the replies to this . I bet if it were their wife/hubby playing away (aside from the ones who swap willingly obv) they wouldn’t be as happy. The world has gone mad as has fab! It’s not the same anymore sadly hence why we rarely come on
Agreed, also I think they should state if they are in a relationship/married on thier profiles, makes it CRYSTAL CLEAR for those who do not want to delve or be a part of the poor person unknowingly being cheated on.
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"It’s not just men" This is so true I find married attached men get as much , if not more attention than single men !! Personally I don't agree with cheating , but also am aware some people are just missing sex in there lives !? So know cheating actually saves there relationships !! | |||
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"I am so sick of men in my inbox saying “it’s a sex site”. It’s not a sex site, it’s a swinging site. The whole concept of swinging is the antithesis of cheating. I’m so, so clear on my profile and yet people still message and I have to ask the question rather than them being forthcoming about cheating. It’s a waste of my time. I don’t want to be involved in someone else’s drama. Like others, I have been contacted by the partner of someone who was lying to me about their relationship status. If I am willing to share my body with someone, the least you can do it be honest and act like a decent human being. If you can’t manage honesty, how are you meant to be considered a safe person to play with?! As someone else has said further up, there are sites that cater to cheaters. Why are you here diluting the community with your bullshit? " Each to their own... I have managed years of being comfortable and welcomed in this (and the kink) community. I don't hide my situation and will only engage with those who either accept it, or even, get a thrill from it. If my situation isn't for someone, then happy trails to them; just not on my path!! You'll be surprised by how many women who say, "oh I don't do married men, it's disgusting, I don't need the drama" in the open, or on the forums, weren't able to say it when they asked me to meet and ended up with my cock down their throat! (Double standards much?!) The only bullshit I've ever endured here is from some of those within it. Trust me, there are far more red flags 🚩🚩 out there than someone open about their infidelity (although, I am talking for 'me' here, not the masses!). My main point being, generally speaking, there's no hard and fast right or wrong in this life; just different opinions and perspectives. We all just need to stay in our swim lanes! The opening comment about this being a swinging site not a sex site, I 100% agree with, but let's look at that a moment; swinging, by the vast majority of society, is seen as wrong, sordid and equally hanus as cheating, yet for those of us in it, we don't see it that way because we've shaped OUR opinion to suit our narrative and 'needs'. Respect your stance though. I'll stay out of your swim lane! 😉 | |||
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"I can’t believe some of the replies to this . I bet if it were their wife/hubby playing away (aside from the ones who swap willingly obv) they wouldn’t be as happy. The world has gone mad as has fab! It’s not the same anymore sadly hence why we rarely come on"I agree. I get why people ate saying OP shouldn't be surprised people cheat, but acting like she's in the wrong for thinking it's not pleasant to cheat just shows how many unpleasant people use this site in my opinion. | |||
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"The good thing is, it tends to really obvious when people are cheating. Whether it be time patterns and dissapearing at family times or not being able to remember things said previously. " Not necessarily some people just don't care. There's a man who's being trying to meet me for a while. Invites me over during the day while his wife is at work... And he's very open about it | |||
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"See, I don't cheat Neither does my other half We tried playing together and, for us, it didn't work The dynamic just didn't carry over for us So now, we just both have sex outside of the relationship from time to time And that's all it is Nothing more, nothing less, just recreational sex I mean the way I play, some would regard it as foreplay as I never have penetrative sex with anyone Either way, it's fully consentual and works for us Try and convince a stranger of that though? Well, I don't try to convince them They either believe me or they don't I shouldn't have to cajole my way into sex and neither should someone need to be cajoled As regards the comments about you can tell they're cheating cos of when they meet... I work 9-5 daily and that generally wipes me out mentally I want to come home, chill out, wind down and go to bed So that leaves weekends - throw in the shopping, the housework, the need to spend some time together, do family stuff... then yes, time is limited I don't have the time (or the inclination) to go spend a full afternoon and evening with someone So quick meets work for me, as do last minute meets That doesn't make me - or anyone else in the same position - a cheat, I just work within the framework that life allows " This isn't cheating btw One of my very very close friends has a similar arrangement with her husband and they are very open and honest with each other about what or who they do. | |||
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"Respect your stance though. I'll stay out of your swim lane! 😉 Just so the whole thread is aware, Dai private messaged me because he, in fact, didn’t want to stay out of my swim lane.  "Oh dear | |||
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"I don't think its a man thing, it's a people thing. The Internet has opened up a portal to unlimited options and we live in a world where people put ego and validation before empathy and commitment." This on so many levels | |||
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"I also wonder why so many men do it...however I LOVE married men! So if they tell me they are married it doesn't put me off. " What makes you live married men? 🤔 | |||
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"I also wonder why so many men do it...however I LOVE married men! So if they tell me they are married it doesn't put me off. What makes you live married men? 🤔 " I'd like to know this as well, what makes them so special? | |||
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"I always ask a guy if he’s taken or single to start a chat now and my inbox is taking up a staggering 90% married or taken men on here. Most even happily admit to this. No judgement on any anyone, but I am quite shocked on the amount of cheating happening? Why do men want a relationship but want all the benefits of being single at the same time? Maybe this is all normal but it honestly just makes me feel a bit sad. Obviously I don’t want to be rude to men but I’m having to do a lot of blocking as I don’t want to potentially hurt anyone talking to someone’s partner." Do you wonder what their poor wife is doing? I can’t imagine if she was out looking for another man/woman the guy would be too happy. I also wonder that as a man I see when I go cruising so much unprotected sex. How do you explain to your wife IF you do take something home. Especially as said wife has probably been faithful at home raising his children. | |||
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"What I find weird is women who are married and playing with hubby’s consent but then don’t want to meet men in relationships because they don’t condone cheating. Sorry, but if you can play with consent don’t you think that a man can as well?" Play???? Grrr grow up, children play and adults Have sex. | |||
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"Excellent! A man-bashing thread. About time too - we haven't had one of those for at least 4 minutes..." It passes the time | |||
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"It's not for me to judge or worry. There are plenty of married but bored and frustrated who need fun so likely doing wife a favour " By taking a disease home to her… 😝 | |||
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"Only if taking stupid risks. Always be sensible " You’d think so but men think with their cock and not their head. I see it often when I’m cruising and it’s literally any holes a goal. | |||
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"Yeah there are lots of careless ones. Handjobs are an exciting and safe way often " I find it disgusting and a recent event has highlighted it even more to me. I had a married couple as friends. I’ve known them for years and although I liked them both I always had a softer spot for her. We never did anything sexual and it was never mentioned either. However she confided in me once that she had ‘caught’ an STD despite being 100% faithful. It transpired her husband had been shagging a girl when he was supposedly in the gym. My friend couldn’t cope with first the thought he didn’t fancy her and second the fact that he has such disregard for her that he brought this infection home to her. Sadly she is no longer here to talk about it. A bottle of vodka and loads of paracetamol later. | |||
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"This is a sex swinging site right 🤔 " That doesn’t give a married man the right to cheat in his loving wife. | |||
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"What I find weird is women who are married and playing with hubby’s consent but then don’t want to meet men in relationships because they don’t condone cheating. Sorry, but if you can play with consent don’t you think that a man can as well? Play???? Grrr grow up, children play and adults Have sex." Sorry, but I like to have fun and a bit of a laugh with the people that “I have sex with” and that sounds like playtime to me. | |||
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"I also wonder why so many men do it...however I LOVE married men! So if they tell me they are married it doesn't put me off. What makes you live married men? 🤔 " Loving the fact I could please them more than their wives! | |||
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"I also wonder why so many men do it...however I LOVE married men! So if they tell me they are married it doesn't put me off. What makes you live married men? 🤔 Loving the fact I could please them more than their wives!" this is a turn on for alot of women I have noticed | |||
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"Also the fact that their wives may not let them live out certain fantasies but I could "you might also be hotter than there wife 🤣 I have being with a few woman where its no fun in the bedroom that's not for me 🤣 | |||
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"I also wonder why so many men do it...however I LOVE married men! So if they tell me they are married it doesn't put me off. " Why so far! | |||
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"I also wonder why so many men do it...however I LOVE married men! So if they tell me they are married it doesn't put me off. Why so far! "Haha sorry! | |||
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"I also wonder why so many men do it...however I LOVE married men! So if they tell me they are married it doesn't put me off. Why so far!
Haha sorry!"Same here . Way too hot and way too far😢 | |||
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"I also wonder why so many men do it...however I LOVE married men! So if they tell me they are married it doesn't put me off. What makes you live married men? 🤔 Loving the fact I could please them more than their wives!" I can completely see the appeal with this… from the man’s side even more! ☺️ | |||
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"I also wonder why so many men do it...however I LOVE married men! So if they tell me they are married it doesn't put me off. Why so far!
Haha sorry!"No worries just wish there was someone like you in every town | |||
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"Some married men are here with permission, e.g. my husband. I'm not saying that's the case for everybody. Personally I don't think it's my place to judge. The main thing for me is honesty. " This!!! Some of us are definitely here with permission, so don’t assume that I am cheating just because I am in a relationship. I even say that on my profile. | |||
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"Peoples lives are complicated with care needs of others and are together to help the other person but still have needs and desires. I never jump to conclusions, not saying you are OP. " We both have said if one of us becomes ill and can’t give each other intimacy anymore that we would discuss ethical non monogamy so that either I could play alone with others or he could but it wouldn’t be behind each others backs thus not cheating. We get everyone has needs but we love each other and know that we would be supportive if we couldn’t give each other that part of the marriage x | |||
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"Peoples lives are complicated with care needs of others and are together to help the other person but still have needs and desires. I never jump to conclusions, not saying you are OP. We both have said if one of us becomes ill and can’t give each other intimacy anymore that we would discuss ethical non monogamy so that either I could play alone with others or he could but it wouldn’t be behind each others backs thus not cheating. We get everyone has needs but we love each other and know that we would be supportive if we couldn’t give each other that part of the marriage x " This is such good communication xx | |||
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"Peoples lives are complicated with care needs of others and are together to help the other person but still have needs and desires. I never jump to conclusions, not saying you are OP. " How many men are realistically in that situation? | |||
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"Peoples lives are complicated with care needs of others and are together to help the other person but still have needs and desires. I never jump to conclusions, not saying you are OP. How many men are realistically in that situation?" Nobody truly knows. Same for women. | |||
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"Peoples lives are complicated with care needs of others and are together to help the other person but still have needs and desires. I never jump to conclusions, not saying you are OP. How many men are realistically in that situation?" I don’t know. I was thinking people who are together just for financial reasons, like they can’t split as they can’t afford a house or flat apart. I know people who have kids with special needs and are only together for that reason and the financial reason. I do think there are reasons for all behaviours. No judgement here. I do take your point though. | |||
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Same here . Way too hot and way too far😢"I don't understand the comment "why so far?" Please elaborate, thanks. | |||
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"Peoples lives are complicated with care needs of others and are together to help the other person but still have needs and desires. I never jump to conclusions, not saying you are OP. How many men are realistically in that situation? I don’t know. I was thinking people who are together just for financial reasons, like they can’t split as they can’t afford a house or flat apart. I know people who have kids with special needs and are only together for that reason and the financial reason. I do think there are reasons for all behaviours. No judgement here. I do take your point though. " Oh right I get where you're coming from now. I thought you were implying one or the other has Ill health. I guess a lot more people will find themselves in that situation with the cost of living. | |||
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"I also wonder why so many men do it...however I LOVE married men! So if they tell me they are married it doesn't put me off. Why so far!
Haha sorry!
Same here . Way too hot and way too far😢
I don't understand the comment "why so far?" Please elaborate, thanks."He means why am I so far away lol | |||
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"I also wonder why so many men do it...however I LOVE married men! So if they tell me they are married it doesn't put me off. Why so far!
Haha sorry!
Same here . Way too hot and way too far😢
Wow you are fucking sexy
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"Biomedgal you are bloody gorgeous " Thank you | |||
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"I also wonder why so many men do it...however I LOVE married men! So if they tell me they are married it doesn't put me off. Why so far!
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Same here . Way too hot and way too far😢
I don't understand the comment "why so far?" Please elaborate, thanks.
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"I don't think its a man thing, it's a people thing. The Internet has opened up a portal to unlimited options and we live in a world where people put ego and validation before empathy and commitment." I’d say that’s a grossly oversimplified version of events - you don’t know the people involved so you can’t say who’s putting anything before anything I’m afraid | |||
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"I also wonder why so many men do it...however I LOVE married men! So if they tell me they are married it doesn't put me off. Why so far!
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Same here . Way too hot and way too far😢
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He means why am I so far away lol"Cornwall is a long way from everywhere, except maybe Devon. Rumour has it I am moving there. But not yet. | |||
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