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Interests - To List or Not to List?

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By *lderKinky OP   Man
2 weeks ago

Fareham

That is the question.

As a kinky and kink friendly person, probably most, if not all of the Fab interests would apply to me, but I don't list them thinking they may put some people off.

For example, I'm more than willing to administer a rough fisting, or engage in watersports pee play, but they are no way essential elements of sexual play for me. Simply kissing, spooning and slow foreplay and sex is equally pleasurable.

So what I'm asking is, can listing interests put people off your profile (ewww watersports !) or do people expect to see your interests and realise that they're not mandatory!

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By *arand25Couple
2 weeks ago

Crowborough

We wouldn't be interested in meeting those listing watersports of fisting that's for sure.

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By *eximus MaximusMan
2 weeks ago

Up North

If they don’t like a rough fisting then they’re just a prude.

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By *a LunaWoman
2 weeks ago

Wales

Does it matter if it does? Surely if you list them then you will attract those who are interested? Isn’t that more important?

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By *lowupdollTV/TS
2 weeks ago

Herts/Leeds

You can’t and won’t appeal to everyone. If you try to you’ll end up appealing to no one at all

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By *Effy-Woman
2 weeks ago

Scotland

Honestly, it's not something I even look at when checking someone out.

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By *he MinionMan
2 weeks ago

Surrey

I rarely look at the interests.

But I get what you mean OP.

I have rimming listed on my interests. I enjoy it, giving and recieving but it doesnt mean it has to happen on every meet. It is just something I have an interest in.

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By *issmorganWoman
2 weeks ago

Calderdale innit

Yes they can put me off tbh.

If I see dogging /gangbangs in interests, it would make me think twice,as they're things that really don't appeal to me.

However op it's your profile. Maybe tick them, then write a bit in your bio to say you're not necessarily looking out of for those things, just may consider them.

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By *ulieScrumptiousWoman
2 weeks ago

North West

I don’t put any interests for exactly that reason. I’d rather find common ground through conversation.

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By *acavityMan
2 weeks ago

Redditch

“Interests” are a menu.

You don’t have to order everything on it, and occasionally there may be something else on the ‘specials’ board (to stretch the metaphor)

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By *hickthighs26Woman
2 weeks ago

funky town

Yeah it can do sometimes. It helps me to see who im not compatable with.

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By *abulincsCouple
2 weeks ago

near a bridge

Whatever they are into makes no difference to us as having our own boundaries and if they not prepared to accept them then it’s a straight no

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By *evilinDavina1Man
2 weeks ago

Bristol

The list is more a guideline anyway. Or at least that's how I look at. Mines just stuff that I would be open to discussing with the right people, not a list of absolute musts on any given meet. Good luck o.p 👍

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By *eyond PurityCouple
2 weeks ago

North East Lincolnshire

We don’t really look at people’s interests.

The interests are there to show what people like but we wouldn’t expect we’d be ticking everything off people’s lists and others tick all ours either. Some of them would only come in to play after meeting regularly.

K

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By *vaRoseWoman
2 weeks ago

Ankh-Morpork


"Honestly, it's not something I even look at when checking someone out. "

Same I’ve never looked at the interests

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By *ynamicnatureMan
2 weeks ago

Doncaster

Happy to display mine, I have many interests but they don't all have to be met for me to have a good time.

And if I fancy a profile enough to want to message them, I'll have a look at thier interests to help me write an intro message.

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By *laytime_13Woman
2 weeks ago

Lincs

I never really pay much attention tbh.

I've seen profiles before with lots of options ticked but then say pretty much what you said in your OP, that they have a wide variety of interests but a lot are negotiable. I don't mind that.

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By *dible_KinkCouple
2 weeks ago

Aberdeen

Interests are just a tick box. We list what interests us as a couple but it doesn't mean we are automatically looking for every box to be ticked on every meet. Surely if someone has one interest in common with you you have found some common ground. Admittedly ticking a certain kind of interest can put people off - for example we dont tend to meet people with cuckolding ticked as it immediately tells us a single guy is going to expect to strole in and take over the meet. Same with user names depicting alpha qualities.

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By *eliWoman
2 weeks ago

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It can put people off you, sure. As can what you post, your age, your existence; everything. I think you should run your bio in the way that pleases you for the most part.

I don't have interests listed - I found men would message and say "you like x? Great. So do I. Let's do it" as if that's all it takes. My sexuality is more fluid than that, there are some things I could do with one person and find ridiculous with another.

But that's a woman's experience. Maybe people won't see your interests as essentials.

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By *its_and_TiramisuCouple
2 weeks ago

North Somerset

Can't even remember what we have on ours but the way we look at the interests of other is this.

We may not be interested in doing some of the things listed in our interests with others, either full stop or specifically with certain people. Just because we like something doesn't mean we want to do it with anyone and everyone, or that it's something we do all the time or even more than once in a blue moon.

Likewise if we see something in the interests of someone else, it makes no odds to whether they'llpptentially be of interest. Because we'll talk to them. And if a subject arises and we're not keen we'll tell them up front. If it becomes a deal breaker then so be it.

Some people see interests and make assumptions that they'll be options during every sexual encounter, as if it's a tick lost for a meet. They'll 9/10 be very disappointed. 🤷‍♂️

Obi

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