FabSwingers.com forum: Hitting that delete button

By *olyGlamorous OP Woman
2 weeks ago

Chester

How do you feel about deleting messages or doing a delete all?

It used to really bother me, I'd feel 'mean' but now if I receive a message that I find vulgar or I'm not interested I just click that delete button and move on 🤷🏼‍♀️

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By *oeBeansMan
2 weeks ago

Derby

Need to do it multiple times a day. The minute I see the word "Hi" and the attachment symbol from hundreds of women, I know it's not worth my time

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By (user no longer on site)
2 weeks ago

I feel nothing! 🤣

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By *onin25Man
2 weeks ago

Durham

If I got the volume of messages many women receive I would be more ruthless with the delete button. As it is I only occasionally delete but that's out of laziness

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By *hamallamadingdongMan
2 weeks ago

London

If women aren't going to make an effort, why should I?

If it's not interesting, doesn't catch my attention or they are not my type, I'm not interested. Do better. I deserve the best.

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By *olvesxcoupleCouple
2 weeks ago

Round the bend

I don't do it as it does make me feel mean, but I do skip read a lot..and ignore a lot 🙈

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By *lowupdollTV/TS
2 weeks ago

Herts/Leeds

I don’t spend much time on the Tombola of Grimness so got some unread and I delete any from silhouettes or duck pics.

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By *lowupdollTV/TS
2 weeks ago

Herts/Leeds

* dick pics.

No one sends me pics of ducks. Unfortunately.

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By *olvesxcoupleCouple
2 weeks ago

Round the bend

"If women aren't going to make an effort, why should I?

If it's not interesting, doesn't catch my attention or they are not my type, I'm not interested. Do better. I deserve the best."

Too right you do. Effort is important from both sides. 🫶🏼

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By *parkle1974Woman
2 weeks ago

Leeds

If they clearly haven't read my bio, sent one word messages or a very descriptive monologue of what they want to do to me....deleted with zero feeling.

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By *erdyHollyTV/TS
2 weeks ago

In a galaxy far far away

"* dick pics.

No one sends me pics of ducks. Unfortunately. "

That would be quackers

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By *olyGlamorous OP Woman
2 weeks ago

Chester

"If women aren't going to make an effort, why should I?

If it's not interesting, doesn't catch my attention or they are not my type, I'm not interested. Do better. I deserve the best.

Too right you do. Effort is important from both sides. 🫶🏼"

Yes, I agree with both of you 😘

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By *actile TensionMan
2 weeks ago

Sussex

I have sufficient storage space. They're ok there

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By *olyGlamorous OP Woman
2 weeks ago

Chester

"If they clearly haven't read my bio, sent one word messages or a very descriptive monologue of what they want to do to me....deleted with zero feeling."

Sparkle, I seem to be getting a lot of monologue messages lately and I know they haven't read my profile

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By *Effy-Woman
2 weeks ago

Scotland

I genuinely don't care.

And I ain't going through them one by one either. The entire inbox goes.

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By *enuine_J87Man
2 weeks ago

Eastleigh

Only time I really delete messages/convos is when it becomes dead or I feel I am chasing something and it’s just a lead on.

Other than that I get about 1 message a month so don’t suffer the same crap that women go through

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By *parkle1974Woman
2 weeks ago

Leeds

"If they clearly haven't read my bio, sent one word messages or a very descriptive monologue of what they want to do to me....deleted with zero feeling.

Sparkle, I seem to be getting a lot of monologue messages lately and I know they haven't read my profile

They at least give my eyes a workout..

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By *anielleCD94TV/TS
2 weeks ago

Cheshire

I definitely delete my fair share of messages.

Occasionally I'll do a a mass delete if they've accumulated into the 2,3,400+ range of unread messages

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
2 weeks ago

SW1A1AA

I delete without a second thought

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By *ulieScrumptiousWoman
2 weeks ago

North West

I have my filters. I love my filters. When they’re down I delete without mercy

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By *urve_your_enthusiasmWoman
2 weeks ago

Manchester

I often delete messages and I don't feel bad about it.

The main reasons are:

- just a hi

- no profile pics

- a message that feels like a copy/paste

- "can I ask you a question?" (You've already used it)

- faf ? Or similar

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By *aFemmeCoquetteWoman
2 weeks ago

Somewhere in the middle not the.....

"I often delete messages and I don't feel bad about it.

The main reasons are:

- just a hi

- no profile pics

- a message that feels like a copy/paste

- "can I ask you a question?" (You've already used it)

- faf ? Or similar"

What they said 👆🏻

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By *naswingdressWoman
2 weeks ago

Manchester (she/her)

I felt guilty for my first week or so.

The unreasonableness of many means I now feel absolutely no guilt.

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By *idnightcowboy69Man
2 weeks ago

cirencester

Send

Delete

If inbound... read and delete or reply as I feel

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By *cFlirtyMan
2 weeks ago

Alton

I used to feel bad deleting, but some are just plain abusive, I'll always read, then decide

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By *lowupdollTV/TS
2 weeks ago

Herts/Leeds

I’m loving the duck pics

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By *erdyHollyTV/TS
2 weeks ago

In a galaxy far far away

"I’m loving the duck pics

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By *kphooey43Man
2 weeks ago

Barnet

I respond to some that are in response to a forum post, but will then delete the conversation.

Some random explicit ones from guys get deleted without opening and then the user is blocked.

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By *uaveNightsMan
2 weeks ago

Canvey Island

I hit it with no regrets. Especially lately with some of the absolute vile stuff coming through

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By *issmorganWoman
2 weeks ago

Calderdale innit

It doesn't bother me one bit.

If they haven't read my profile, send a dick pic or a crap message, I figure it's well deserved.

I delete 90% of the messages I get.

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By *lowupdollTV/TS
2 weeks ago

Herts/Leeds

Inspired by a bit of Joey Tribiani the duck in my inbox..

Anyone else read a post or thread, and want to do that finger click thing Chandler does to remove something that happened?

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By *111Woman
2 weeks ago

I don’t feel anything. I delete 95% of messages

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By *eroLondonMan
2 weeks ago

Mayfair

I feel guilty because nearly all my incoming messages are polite and well written.

On the rare chance when I receive a disappointing message I have to think twice because I haven't had a chance to acclimatise.

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By *naswingdressWoman
2 weeks ago

Manchester (she/her)

"Inspired by a bit of Joey Tribiani the duck in my inbox..

Anyone else read a post or thread, and want to do that finger click thing Chandler does to remove something that happened? "

Quack

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By *lowupdollTV/TS
2 weeks ago

Herts/Leeds

"Inspired by a bit of Joey Tribiani the duck in my inbox..

Anyone else read a post or thread, and want to do that finger click thing Chandler does to remove something that happened?

Quack"

🐥

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By *hunky GentMan
2 weeks ago

Bedford

"Feelings, nothing more than feelings,

Trying to forget messages....."

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By *atiekisskissWoman
2 weeks ago

London

"How do you feel about deleting messages or doing a delete all?

It used to really bother me, I'd feel 'mean' but now if I receive a message that I find vulgar or I'm not interested I just click that delete button and move on 🤷🏼‍♀️ "

Same for me.

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By *hoenixxFeatherWoman
2 weeks ago

Teesside

I used to try and respond to as many as possible, but a lot of people then felt that because they'd received one message it entitled them to more then get in a strop when I didn't respond within a minute.

Or, when sending a thanks but no, regardless of how polite and respectful you are about it, they turn nasty.

So now, I don't think twice deleting those where there has been minimal effort or I just don't like the vibe.

What I do feel guilty about, though, are those who have put effort in that I don't get around to before they disappear - I struggle to stay on top of multiple chats so tend to focus on 1 or 2 at a time.

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By *eacock1221Couple
2 weeks ago

Bedfordshire

"I used to try and respond to as many as possible, but a lot of people then felt that because they'd received one message it entitled them to more then get in a strop when I didn't respond within a minute.

Or, when sending a thanks but no, regardless of how polite and respectful you are about it, they turn nasty.

So now, I don't think twice deleting those where there has been minimal effort or I just don't like the vibe.

I completely agree. I still feel mean sometimes, and try to respond politely, but it either turns nasty when we say we're not interested or it becomes a bit much! I find it really overwhelming talking to too many people at once too 🙈

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By *allipygousMan
2 weeks ago

Leicester

Oh to have breasticles and a vagina and all the power they bring on a site such as this.

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By *og and MuseCouple
2 weeks ago

Dubai & Nottingham

Only reply to messages we’re interested in, bulk delete the rest every week or so. Most messages are abusive in some way, especially the ones that pretend to be nice. Saying “how are you” is nosy / borderline abusive, sexualising a woman you don’t know or sending cock pics is abusive.if you feel guilty not replying maybe you need therapy

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By *eautifully TwistedWoman
2 weeks ago

Telford

I have no problem hitting the delete button.

If people can't approach me with a little decorum then why should I be polite.

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By *allipygousMan
2 weeks ago

Leicester

"Only reply to messages we’re interested in, bulk delete the rest every week or so. Most messages are abusive in some way, especially the ones that pretend to be nice. Saying “how are you” is nosy / borderline abusive, sexualising a woman you don’t know or sending cock pics is abusive.if you feel guilty not replying maybe you need therapy"

Asking "how are you" is nosy/bordeline abusive? I'd accept if that is all that's being asked as being unimaginative, but borderline abusive? Really?

And as for "...sexualising a woman you don’t know...is abusive." Well, if someone had a profile that had a fully clothed woman doing non sexual things then I would whole heartedly agree. However, if someone had a profile that, for the sake of argument, had a close-up video of the woman having her vagina played with and another one of her being fucked from behind, then if that profile complained about being sexualised I would say the person who was doing the complaining should give their head a wobble.

*Moderators, I'd like to point out I'm talking about a hypothetical profile to make my point.

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By *hinstrapMan
2 weeks ago

sheffield

I haven't ever used it

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By *orphia2003Woman
2 weeks ago

Tonypandy.

I use it when I feel a conversation has run it's course. That could take seconds or weeks

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By *oxy-RedWoman
2 weeks ago

pink panther territory

Sometimes needs must

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By *ysteriousGirlOGWoman
2 weeks ago

Birmingham

Honestly, I feel nothing

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By *r SensualMan
2 weeks ago

London

Why would anyone feel an ounce of guilt about this? You don’t know the person nor do you owe them a damn thing.

Being a man this isn’t something I have to do (obviously 🤣) but if I did, I’d feel no way about it. Same way I delete dead conversations that aren’t going to lead to anything.

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By *007ManMan
2 weeks ago

Worthing

I delete after a week or so.

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By *each needs some creamWoman
2 weeks ago

Ilfracombe

I regularly delete my messages if I login and I have over a hundred messages it's a bulk delete straight away.

I don't feel guilty at all as most of the time they have clearly not read my profile.

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By *idssissyTV/TS
2 weeks ago

Nr cricket ground birm

As some don't have issues deleting messages I send, it works both ways. Esp if can see that they haven't read profile, it's one word or I can't tell why they messaged

Also out of habit I don't save messages

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By *iolet_FyreCouple
2 weeks ago

Yateley

Delete is usually accompanied by a block from us. Helps make Fab smaller and more manageable for us

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By *nmyknees69Man
2 weeks ago

Rushden

"How do you feel about deleting messages or doing a delete all?

It used to really bother me, I'd feel 'mean' but now if I receive a message that I find vulgar or I'm not interested I just click that delete button and move on 🤷🏼‍♀️ "

I send a message and if I see it’s been read without reply for a few days I delete ave block. It saves me messaging them again.

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By *nmyknees69Man
2 weeks ago

Rushden

"Delete is usually accompanied by a block from us. Helps make Fab smaller and more manageable for us"

Absolutely.

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By *ifelover999Man
2 weeks ago

Eastbourne

Iv done a delete but fucker keeps making new profiles

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By *uicy_peach79Woman
2 weeks ago

Edinburgh

It doesn't bother me, it used to till I got abuse for politely saying no thank you.

People should read the faqs then they would know how it works

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By *hickthighs26Woman
2 weeks ago

funky town

Noone who isnt 99 can message me unless we have already spoke so i dont have any deleting to do at the mo. But when i do i feel a little bad but it doesnt stop me

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By *ifelover999Man
2 weeks ago

Eastbourne

"Noone who isnt 99 can message me unless we have already spoke so i dont have any deleting to do at the mo. But when i do i feel a little bad but it doesnt stop me

So ruthless

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By *onk3yb0yMan
2 weeks ago

south west

Why didn’t I think to delete them. DOH!

I have just been ignoring them.

Yes it’s the typical ‘Hi’ from a silhouette that annoys me the most.

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By *olvesxcoupleCouple
2 weeks ago

Round the bend

I really don't care, I would block half the entittled twats on here.

Mrs W is way to sensitive and doesnt want to hurt anyone's feelings.

Come the revolution when I decide to control the account for a day there will be more deleted messages than a Labour Party inquiry

Mr 🐺

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By *olyGlamorous OP Woman
2 weeks ago

Chester

"I really don't care, I would block half the entittled twats on here.

Mrs W is way to sensitive and doesnt want to hurt anyone's feelings.

Come the revolution when I decide to control the account for a day there will be more deleted messages than a Labour Party inquiry

Mr 🐺

I'm like MrsW 🥺

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By *olvesxcoupleCouple
2 weeks ago

Round the bend

"I really don't care, I would block half the entittled twats on here.

Mrs W is way to sensitive and doesnt want to hurt anyone's feelings.

Come the revolution when I decide to control the account for a day there will be more deleted messages than a Labour Party inquiry

Mr 🐺

I'm like MrsW 🥺 "

She is an amazing woman with the biggest heart I know ❤️

Mr 🐺

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By *ifelover999Man
2 weeks ago

Eastbourne

"I really don't care, I would block half the entittled twats on here.

Mrs W is way to sensitive and doesnt want to hurt anyone's feelings.

Come the revolution when I decide to control the account for a day there will be more deleted messages than a Labour Party inquiry

Mr 🐺

When she lets you

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By *ifelover999Man
2 weeks ago

Eastbourne

"I really don't care, I would block half the entittled twats on here.

Mrs W is way to sensitive and doesnt want to hurt anyone's feelings.

Come the revolution when I decide to control the account for a day there will be more deleted messages than a Labour Party inquiry

Mr 🐺

I'm like MrsW 🥺 "

Yea ur not bad

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By *olvesxcoupleCouple
2 weeks ago

Round the bend

"I really don't care, I would block half the entittled twats on here.

Mrs W is way to sensitive and doesnt want to hurt anyone's feelings.

Come the revolution when I decide to control the account for a day there will be more deleted messages than a Labour Party inquiry

Mr 🐺

When she lets you

What's 6 foot tall and swears at his phone

#hitandrun

Mr 🐺

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By *lderflowerAppleWoman
2 weeks ago

Hampshire

I feel as guilty deleting an unwanted message as I do putting an unwanted pizza menu in my recycling bin.

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By *ifelover999Man
2 weeks ago

Eastbourne

"I really don't care, I would block half the entittled twats on here.

Mrs W is way to sensitive and doesnt want to hurt anyone's feelings.

Come the revolution when I decide to control the account for a day there will be more deleted messages than a Labour Party inquiry

Mr 🐺

When she lets you

What's 6 foot tall and swears at his phone

#hitandrun

Mr 🐺 "

Was gonna say me

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By *olvesxcoupleCouple
2 weeks ago

Round the bend

"I really don't care, I would block half the entittled twats on here.

Mrs W is way to sensitive and doesnt want to hurt anyone's feelings.

Come the revolution when I decide to control the account for a day there will be more deleted messages than a Labour Party inquiry

Mr 🐺

When she lets you

What's 6 foot tall and swears at his phone

#hitandrun

Mr 🐺

Was gonna say me

Correct i will unblock you now 🤣

Mr 🐺

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By *ifelover999Man
2 weeks ago

Eastbourne

"I really don't care, I would block half the entittled twats on here.

Mrs W is way to sensitive and doesnt want to hurt anyone's feelings.

Come the revolution when I decide to control the account for a day there will be more deleted messages than a Labour Party inquiry

Mr 🐺

When she lets you

What's 6 foot tall and swears at his phone

#hitandrun

Mr 🐺

Was gonna say me

Correct i will unblock you now 🤣

Mr 🐺 "

Phew walking the mile then🤣🤣🤣🤣

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By *parklingeclipseWoman
2 weeks ago

Lincolnshire

I dont usually reply to just 'Hey' and not to dick pics either on a first message 😆 and if I get an offensive message I find the sender has deleted me before I get a chance to reply 😆

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By *olvesxcoupleCouple
2 weeks ago

Round the bend

"I really don't care, I would block half the entittled twats on here.

Mrs W is way to sensitive and doesnt want to hurt anyone's feelings.

Come the revolution when I decide to control the account for a day there will be more deleted messages than a Labour Party inquiry

Mr 🐺

When she lets you

What's 6 foot tall and swears at his phone

#hitandrun

Mr 🐺

Was gonna say me

Correct i will unblock you now 🤣

Mr 🐺

Phew walking the mile then🤣🤣🤣🤣"

🤣🤣

Mr 🐺

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By *etwife8230Couple
2 weeks ago

Newport

Not bothered at all, will delete anything that doesn't grab my attention

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By *ifelover999Man
2 weeks ago

Eastbourne

"I really don't care, I would block half the entittled twats on here.

Mrs W is way to sensitive and doesnt want to hurt anyone's feelings.

Come the revolution when I decide to control the account for a day there will be more deleted messages than a Labour Party inquiry

Mr 🐺

When she lets you

What's 6 foot tall and swears at his phone

#hitandrun

Mr 🐺

Was gonna say me

Correct i will unblock you now 🤣

Mr 🐺

Phew walking the mile then🤣🤣🤣🤣

🤣🤣

Mr 🐺 "

Dead man walking 😎😎😎😎

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By *olvesxcoupleCouple
2 weeks ago

Round the bend

"I really don't care, I would block half the entittled twats on here.

Mrs W is way to sensitive and doesnt want to hurt anyone's feelings.

Come the revolution when I decide to control the account for a day there will be more deleted messages than a Labour Party inquiry

Mr 🐺

When she lets you

What's 6 foot tall and swears at his phone

#hitandrun

Mr 🐺

Was gonna say me

Correct i will unblock you now 🤣

Mr 🐺

Phew walking the mile then🤣🤣🤣🤣

🤣🤣

Mr 🐺

Dead man walking 😎😎😎😎"

Only thing your killing are threads 😎😎

🤣🤣

Mr 🐺

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By *ssexPaul50Man
2 weeks ago

colchester

I probably get one message a week saying ‘no thanks’ after I’ve messaged that person so mine that I read normally get deleted anyway. So pretty much an empty mail box 24/7 🤣🤣 which is not a good thing, believe me x

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By *ifelover999Man
2 weeks ago

Eastbourne

"I really don't care, I would block half the entittled twats on here.

Mrs W is way to sensitive and doesnt want to hurt anyone's feelings.

Come the revolution when I decide to control the account for a day there will be more deleted messages than a Labour Party inquiry

Mr 🐺

When she lets you

What's 6 foot tall and swears at his phone

#hitandrun

Mr 🐺

Was gonna say me

Correct i will unblock you now 🤣

Mr 🐺

Phew walking the mile then🤣🤣🤣🤣

🤣🤣

Mr 🐺

Dead man walking 😎😎😎😎

Only thing your killing are threads 😎😎

🤣🤣

Mr 🐺 "

I try i have had a good teacher mrs w

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By *izandpaulCouple
2 weeks ago

merseyside

"How do you feel about deleting messages or doing a delete all?

It used to really bother me, I'd feel 'mean' but now if I receive a message that I find vulgar or I'm not interested I just click that delete button and move on 🤷🏼‍♀️ "

Tend to reply if there has been a bit of effort put in, like reading our profile or if they have an interesting profile with decent photos, but more imaginative than a cock shot on the toilet or a muscle flexing, gym mirror shot, bit schoolboyish for me.

"Wat u up 2" as a message, can you imagine how they operate in real life.

Fuck me, they'd bore the arse out of a wooden horse.

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By *eautyandthebeast86Couple
2 weeks ago

Somewhere in Norfolk ask :)

We delete quite a lot of messages where we can see before even reading from the first line that they haven’t read our profile or don’t align with us , however recently we have decided to block these people, not because they have done anything wrong but when you delete a message it means the sender can then message again and re waste our time.

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