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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Morning, my husband and myself have been on here for a few weeks and have yet to arrange a meet. Think nerves have taken over. Did anybody else have this problem and how do we get past it haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mine was many moons ago but yes nerves were there ... I still get them now sometimes

Your gut instinct will kick in and you will know if its the good type of nervous

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Perhaps if you were to attend a local social or two, meet people face to face and chat you would have more confidence in any future "activity" planning.....

Good luck.....

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Going to a club doesn't bother us so much, it's more the one on one stuff. Like someone comin to our house, cos then if its not right and you decide not to go through with it, that can be really awkward haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Going to a club doesn't bother us so much, it's more the one on one stuff. Like someone comin to our house, cos then if its not right and you decide not to go through with it, that can be really awkward haha "

You do a social first

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By *empting Devil.Woman
over a year ago

Sheffield

Meet in a cafe first. That way you haven't given out your address and you're in a neutral, public place if you decide to say "We've really enjoyed meeting you but the lust just isn't there so we don't want to take things further." There's less chance of a scene or a stop in a public place and you guys can make your excuses and leave if your meet is not as advertised.

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By *empting Devil.Woman
over a year ago

Sheffield

*for stop read strop...

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks, I know we have to be happy and comfortable and everything. I know all that, i was just curious as to how everyone else did it. I'm quite sure there are people out there who never had a hint of nerves

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

the nerves never go away on first meets

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As a single woman I always have a social first before inviting them into my home. Nerves will always be there but I find it's part of the build up and excitement. Good luck and enjoy

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

I think if you didn't have nerves it would be less fun lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have a social tonight i get nerves every time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't think we get nervous so much now as excited, but like what's already been said social first then a play meet, or easier still meet at a club

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree with gilly nerves may go and you might play too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think if they are right for you then lust and excitement take over the nerves ! for me its a similar feeling but a good one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think if they are right for you then lust and excitement take over the nerves ! for me its a similar feeling but a good one "

I agree

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Still get nerves, adds to the excitement, we do a social first, then take things from there xx

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"Morning, my husband and myself have been on here for a few weeks and have yet to arrange a meet. Think nerves have taken over. Did anybody else have this problem and how do we get past it haha"

Go at the pace you're comfortable with.

It may suit you both to arrange a social meet first, without the pressure of sex to be comfortable.

There is no "how to" manual. You'll find what works for you, just enjoy the nerves, relax and have fun.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"I think if you didn't have nerves it would be less fun lol"

I'm never nervous. I think it's because I never contact anyone and they spend a lot of time convincing me to meet them.

Always excited though, would be pointless otherwise.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nerves are part of it for me. X

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By * Jay69Man
over a year ago

Bridgwater - Somerset


"I think if you didn't have nerves it would be less fun lol

I'm never nervous. I think it's because I never contact anyone and they spend a lot of time convincing me to meet them.

Always excited though, would be pointless otherwise. "

Obvious I know, but consider a Hotel meet, or even a meet at their place - they will never know your address and you can walk out if necessary.

Difficult to walk out when at yours.

As said, social first and should be no problem if you decide to play, but I feel you want an 'escape hatch' built in.

Go for it.

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