FabSwingers.com forum: Why’s it so hard find a fwb?

Hetton

Had loads of great meets from fab, none of these guys have kept in touch or progressed to friends with benefits type thing. All I’m left with new meets and starting from 0 every time. 3 years on fab and the most meets I’ve had with the same guy is 3. Guys talk about how they want fwb with and how they’ll be back in touch.. then chat then goes dead.

Which makes me wonder, is it hard in general to find a reliable fwb or is it cause I’m trans that men view me as fantasy & dispose?

Really wish I had a fwb.

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By *rightonsteveMan
5 days ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I’ve ‘advertised’ for one on my profile for ages. No one is interested. It’s them not me.

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By *oxy-RedWoman
5 days ago

pink panther territory

I honestly don't know why it's so hard to find a fwb op,,I've been in the same situation as you ,met same guys few times then things just go cold

I'm going to put the fwb on the back burner for now,and just have fun when the opportunity arrives

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By *rightonsteveMan
5 days ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"I’ve ‘advertised’ for one on my profile for ages. No one is interested. It’s them not me. "

I might change my name to Jonah.

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By *allipygousMan
5 days ago

Leicester

To qualify as a friend with benefits then all parties involved must consider the other party to be worth the return visits, i.e. be good at sex, and worthy of friendship. Maybe those that can't find a FWB fall short on one of the qualifying criteria?

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By *rightonsteveMan
5 days ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"To qualify as a friend with benefits then all parties involved must consider the other party to be worth the return visits, i.e. be good at sex, and worthy of friendship. Maybe those that can't find a FWB fall short on one of the qualifying criteria?"

Thank the gods! I thought it was my tendency to whoop ‘ride ‘em, cowboi’ as I ejaculate.

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By *hickthighs26Woman
5 days ago

funky town

It happens to us all. They all want a fwb until theyve fucked you unfortunately. Some people on here will say what they think you wanna hear to get there end away. Thats why i do a social first.

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By *oyoteUglyWoman
5 days ago

not even in the north west

It's hard finding a guy that just wants a one off! Maybe should stop telling them I don't intend on seeing them ever again and do the guy thing, and make them believe I want more.

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By *oxy-RedWoman
5 days ago

pink panther territory

"It happens to us all. They all want a fwb until theyve fucked you unfortunately. Some people on here will say what they think you wanna hear to get there end away. Thats why i do a social first."

I totally agree with you,and why I do social meet first to

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By *iss DevilWoman
5 days ago

Bedford

Maybe men believe that, once they see the same person too many times, one of the sides (or both) would catch feelings? I consider myself very lucky, have been with my FWB for years now, and we meet once a week, usually. So it does happen.

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By *gent CoulsonMan
5 days ago

Secret hideaway in the pennines

"It's hard finding a guy that just wants a one off! Maybe should stop telling them I don't intend on seeing them ever again and do the guy thing, and make them believe I want more. "
I would love the chance for a one off with you

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By *oodmessMan
5 days ago

yumsville

"Maybe men believe that, once they see the same person too many times, one of the sides (or both) would catch feelings? I consider myself very lucky, have been with my FWB for years now, and we meet once a week, usually. So it does happen. "

I was just going to write similar... On a site like this depending what you wrote it can be interpreted as commitment, which may or may not put people off.

People may take you at face value that fwb is what you're after or they may be grouping you in with the multiple spammers and think 'clingy'

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By *weetSmellingSam OP TV/TS
5 days ago

Hetton

I think a social meet first is a good idea especially if he’s saying he wants regular fwb. Generally I’ve found men are all full of compliment bombing and affection for me but after sex things usually always go cold.

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By *iaisonseekerMan
5 days ago

Liverpool

From The Simpsons:

Moe: Hey, I'm looking for Amanda Huggenkiss! Why can't I find Amanda Huggenkiss?

Barney: Maybe your standards are too high

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By *ynamicnatureMan
5 days ago

Doncaster

Finding someone that is compatible both sexualy and socially is really bloody hard. Then throw in both parties family and work life commitments for good measure. It's no wonder it's rare to find.

I've been very lucky and have found an awesome lady, I am a very lucky fella,❤️

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By *assdropMan
5 days ago

Manchester

Had a few fwb, but things can fizzle it or their situations change, or I lose trust in them.

Had a recent fwb here, but the more I met her and got to know her, the less into her I became. It didn't help that it felt like she was much more into me.

On the flip side got another FWB, and we are much more aligned and emotionally stable, so the dynamic feels a lot better.

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By *oastal1968Man
5 days ago

London/Stafford

My wife had a FWB before we met, I encouraged her to restart the agreement as I work away from home. She did and I got some great pics and videos. Shes also had a fuck buddy, and a one off fuck with another guy. All work colleagues. Unfortunately, COVID and the menopause has put a stop to it. Hopefully one day, if she feels the desire/urge she will dabble again.

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By *hree KingsMan
5 days ago

manchester

Honestly I think a lot of people on fab chase the fantasy and excitement in the moment, then disappear when it comes to consistency Don’t think that says anything bad about you at all The right FWB situation is rare but when the chemistry and respect are both there it’s worth the wait

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
5 days ago

Reading

I mostly do fwb situations. I've been very lucky.

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By *ilthyAsFuckMan
4 days ago

London

I can't do FWBs unless they're so casual we only see each other once a year. 😀

Effectively, I either like one night stands or relationships – the FWB thing always tends to get a bit messy, and I'm not down for the risk of anyone getting hurt. 🧐

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By *MasterBlaster.Man
4 days ago

North East

At my age I'm finding it hard to find anything. Usually my keys or just motivation in general.

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By *utoftheBluexWoman
4 days ago

Bot Farm

"I think a social meet first is a good idea especially if he’s saying he wants regular fwb. Generally I’ve found men are all full of compliments bombing and affection for me but after sex things usually always go cold."

I don't think it's happening because you are trans. It has happened to me too. The sudden post-coldness and silence. Just wait until the day they are warm enough to msg you again to be ignored. It feels good.

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By *each needs some creamWoman
4 days ago

Ilfracombe

For the past 15 years of swinging I have always said I wanted to keep my sex life and my personal life separate. That has worked well for me I have 4 regular guys I meet up with.

That was until 3 1/2 year's ago when I walked into a club and 10 minutes later I was on the bed kissing my now FWB . For the first year we were casual fuck buddies, then over time we became friends.

All I am saying is it might take a bit of time but in the meantime enjoy yourself you never know what will happen. Stop looking let things happen.

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By *ellinever70Woman
4 days ago

Ayrshire

I think the reality is that (some) men just want an easy receptacle

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By *irralGentMan
4 days ago

Wirral

"It happens to us all. They all want a fwb until theyve fucked you unfortunately. Some people on here will say what they think you wanna hear to get there end away. Thats why i do a social first."

Guys must be insane not to be your FWB!!!

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
4 days ago

Crumpet Castle

"It happens to us all. They all want a fwb until theyve fucked you unfortunately. Some people on here will say what they think you wanna hear to get there end away. Thats why i do a social first.

Guys must be insane not to be your FWB!!!"

There you go ! That's you two sorted.

Next !

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By *herrybakewellCouple
4 days ago

Staffordshire

I've always been searching for a fwb to meet on a more regular basis.

I just seem to meet the wrong people, who are good at telling me what want to hear.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
4 days ago

Crumpet Castle

Because .......... variety is what brings people here.

Why would anyone want to hook up with the same person all the time ?

The marrieds have no choice and maybe many that you never see again are married already but just don't say so.

Most reasons for having a fwb is just to get sex with someone without any commitment or because your fwb already has a partner but wants someone on the side. Or the male half wants entry and interest into clubs.

FWB sounds good but is no more than committment , rules and obligations etc.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
4 days ago

Crumpet Castle

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By *actile TensionMan
4 days ago

Sussex

"Because .......... variety is what brings people here.

Why would anyone want to hook up with the same person all the time ?

The marrieds have no choice and maybe many that you never see again are married already but just don't say so.

FWB sounds good but is no more than committment , rules and obligations etc.

Granny Crumpet you completely disrupt the statistics on 'no profile pic accounts are a waste of time'

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By *rightonsteveMan
4 days ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Found one!!!!!

Except he’s in Leeds so

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