FabSwingers.com forum: Being average

By (user no longer on site) OP
3 weeks ago

What does being average mean to you?

Do you take it as a negative?

Or is it actually a positive?

I think theres a lot of positives to being average a recent discussion suggested that being average was positively freeing and meant they had no airs and graces and didnt feel they had to live up to peoples higher expectations of them.

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By *lowupdollTV/TS
3 weeks ago

Herts/Leeds

To quote someone wiser than myself

‘Try to look unimportant, they may be low on ammo’.

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By *arc PolarisMan
3 weeks ago

Birmingham

For my average isn’t a bad thing but it means the same as most other people

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By *ate2theparty808Man
3 weeks ago

Erdington

I doubt that anyone who replies on this thread is average, more than likely above average in one way or another.

We’re all special after all.

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By *artorialMan
3 weeks ago

weymouth

I'm not average on so many different levels, I'm niche so for folks that like my type of niche it works for the others - they're missing out

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By *emptme1993Man
3 weeks ago

manchester

Well, to me everyone has to be average at some things, some people are more some people are less which is how we get to the average. But in that, everyone is above average at stuff, you just need to know what that is and be proud of it. There’s nothing wrong with it at all

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By *gent CoulsonMan
3 weeks ago

Secret hideaway in the pennines

For me it means I don't stand out too much in the crowd which doesn't bother me as I love to people watch

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By *reoXMan
3 weeks ago

Between your legs

Average is par for the course. Acceptable but unremarkable..the grey man in the room. Unnoticed

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By (user no longer on site)
3 weeks ago

Most people are average. Very few are above.

It means I go unnoticed, I hate attention so I like that.

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
3 weeks ago

Reading

I do see it as a bad thing. it screams lack of confidence which is a turn off for me. Back yourself or noone else will. But stay on the right side of arrogance.

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By *onin25Man
3 weeks ago

Durham

I'm fairly average in most ways, above average in some, below average in others. But where I differ from average is what makes me unique. Same for everyone, we're all mostly average but unique at the same time.

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By *Effy-Woman
3 weeks ago

Scotland

I don't see it as a negative at all.

We live in a world now where people think they need to outshine the next person in something or other.

Most of us are average and there's no shame in it.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
3 weeks ago

SW1A1AA

Id say most of us are average but as ronin said all unique

Im below average in height and shoe size but above average on other things

It usually evens itself out

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By *ou only live onceMan
3 weeks ago

London

I don't mind it all. I'm average at lots of things and in many ways - most of us are!

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By *lack_Panther94Man
3 weeks ago

St Albans/London

Definitely not a negative. We can't all be Usain Bolt in this world. There are some things we are all average at

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By *ongandthick888Man
3 weeks ago

Leeds

Being average is fine. But I would take offence (and have taken offence) when told that I’m average at something that I know I’m above average at.

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By *wcoMan
3 weeks ago

West Midlands

I'd rather be seen as average than be guilty of trying too hard.

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By *olvesxcoupleCouple
3 weeks ago

Round the bend

Id take it as a positive. Average is good with me.

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By *ealitybitesMan
3 weeks ago

Belfast

I used to think of myself as average because I got decent exam results but not at the top end and I was able to play a few sports but never at a level where I got picked for a team or competition.

I felt I was average looking because my friends got all the girls and I was always the middle man.

When I joined fab I decided I wasn't going to call myself average ever again so when it came to physical description I chose athletic rather than average even though I can't run the length of myself

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By *r_MrsLCouple
3 weeks ago

Leeds

I do struggle with this. I should know better, being a parent who tries to tell his child to not do this, but I do compare myself to others terribly sometimes.

I am the definition of ‘average’ - not quite six foot, medium in clothing, regular sized feet, and, ahem, nicely-sized- but-definitely-not-*massive* down there. And I think about this a lot, a lot more than any man my age should! I’ve never had any complaints either, but one part of your brain knows you’re absolutely ok, the other just tells you otherwise…

On the good days, I tell remind myself I work hard to be average - gym, diet, exercise. On the bad days….well.

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By *ision21Man
3 weeks ago

Newcastle Under Lyme

I don't consider myself average, not my mindset.

However if your not strong minded, the women on this site could certainly make some men feel less than average which is a shame.

Average will also be down to interpretation.

One persons defintion of average is another persons definition of success.

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By *peedyGMan
3 weeks ago

Telford

Happy to be average, also as has been said... I'm not a fan of attention on me in any way.

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By *rightonsteveMan
3 weeks ago

Hove, mainly…

Most people are average. I said someone was average and they said ‘don’t be mean’.

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By *ou only live onceMan
3 weeks ago

London

"I don't consider myself average, not my mindset.

However if your not strong minded, the women on this site could certainly make some men feel less than average which is a shame.

Average will also be down to interpretation.

One persons defintion of average is another persons definition of success."

Better change your profile description, mate! 🤣

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By (user no longer on site)
3 weeks ago

"What does being average mean to you?

Do you take it as a negative?

Or is it actually a positive?

Average? Covers a lot of areas really

Me...average in intelligence-tick

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By *elix SightedMan
3 weeks ago

Cloud 8

I consider myself average in every respect, always have. But I don’t regard it as a negative thing.

At school I was an inbetweener, got average grades and never excelled at any subject.

At work I have never set the world alight, achieving average results for average money.

I’m cleverer than some but less clever than others. I’m not good at art or music, very average at sport, and have no particular talent in any area.

Same on fab - I do better than some, not so good as others.

But a big part of all that will be because I put in average effort with everything, so what do I expect?! And that’s because I’m content with being average and have never strived to excel at anything. Of course I want a better life, but the life I have is evidence of how much I want it.

I’m just me.

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By *ision21Man
3 weeks ago

Newcastle Under Lyme

No need to. It's fine.

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By *veragecouple2000Couple
3 weeks ago

South Wales

Seems with our username I should have an opinion on this xx 😄

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By *evilinDavina1Man
3 weeks ago

Bristol

I think most people have something that makes them stand out, even if we're average in some regards there be things we all Excell at.

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By *verhopeful100Man
3 weeks ago

braintree

Being someone I’d describe as astonishingly average I don’t think it’s a bad thing. Never any confusion of disappointment from anyone

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By *rWolf619Man
3 weeks ago

Derbyshire

"Jack of all trades, master of none, but oftentimes better than a master of one."

I would rather be an average all rounder than a 10 in one way and a 1 in another 😅

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By *oeBeansMan
3 weeks ago

Derby

I don't take it as a negative at all. There's something comforting in being average and keeping a steady flow of life stuff and I imagine it's less stressful than having the constant ups and downs.

I'd consider myself average in that respect. Just contently flowing along the happy medium of life.

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By *cLovin2Man
3 weeks ago

London

It depends on the context, average penis size is good news for some.

Being of average intelligence is bad for most.

Average looks is a nice way of saying your fugly.

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By *cLovin2Man
3 weeks ago

London

"I don't see it as a negative at all.

We live in a world now where people think they need to outshine the next person in something or other.

Most of us are average and there's no shame in it. "

I'll outshine you effy, look at my tits...

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By *ilverfox for youMan
3 weeks ago

Hull

Are we not all individuals ??

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By *agic.MMan
3 weeks ago

Kent/London

"That's why no one will remember your name" - Achilles (above average individual)

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By *cLovin2Man
3 weeks ago

London

"Seems with our username I should have an opinion on this xx 😄"

Your Mrs is definitely not average 😉

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By *Effy-Woman
3 weeks ago

Scotland

"I don't see it as a negative at all.

We live in a world now where people think they need to outshine the next person in something or other.

Most of us are average and there's no shame in it.

I'll outshine you effy, look at my tits..."

Yeah, they are bigger than mine to be fair.

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By *iver78Man
3 weeks ago

barton upon humber

I am average in every way and really don't mind ,

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By *actile TensionMan
3 weeks ago

Sussex

Nice place to hide, shit place to reside

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By *cLovin2Man
3 weeks ago

London

"I don't see it as a negative at all.

We live in a world now where people think they need to outshine the next person in something or other.

Most of us are average and there's no shame in it.

I'll outshine you effy, look at my tits...

Yeah, they are bigger than mine to be fair. "

Oi don't tit shame me 🤣

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By *ovelyDayXXXWoman
3 weeks ago

Niche

There's a bell curve for pretty much everything I expect and I do feel that if you're an outlier you are vulnerable to being singled out. And with human nature being what it is that scrutiny is more likely to be negative than positive because folk do like a target to aim at.

So I take comfort under the cover of fellow middling mean mode median average folk.

It's definitely a much calmer and less pressured way to live your life.

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By *eroLondonMan
3 weeks ago

Mayfair

I don't aspire for many things in my life. I plod on and get by. I'm average. I'm average height (ish) and average build. My daily routine isn't spectacular; it's repetitive which concedes me to feeling average. I'm pretty average overall.

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By *cFlirtyMan
3 weeks ago

Alton

We are all average in some way! Yet all unique and special in others! I prefer to describe myself as being ME!

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By *heElvingtonTwoCouple
3 weeks ago

The Ramtops

How about sub average?

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By *ldbikerider6Man
3 weeks ago

Sheffield

I would say I'm very average and quite happy about it. No airs and graces you take me as I am or you don't.

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By *elix SightedMan
3 weeks ago

Cloud 8

I’ve changed my mind, I think I’m fucking spectacularly good at one thing.

Being average.

Oh, and modesty.

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By *rytomakelifefunMan
3 weeks ago

Leeds / Sheffield

Most people are average in most things. I just try to cultivate myself in ways that satisfy me.

It's part and parcel of life - I'm not judging anyone except those who can literally buy time and convenience, but fail to be above average.

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By *hamallamadingdongMan
3 weeks ago

London

I relate average to what is considered normal. I think because of sports, entertainment and social media, including relationship discussions, average has become a negative word.

I don't see it that way. It's good to be average. Not everyone can be exceptional. If the majority of people could run 100m in 9.58 seconds (or whatever the record is), then that would be average. Averages change based on what is considered normal, and above or below that threshold.

Like others have already said, I'm average in some areas, above average in others, and below average in some. That's life for all of us. I'm ok with that.

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By *aFemmeCoquetteWoman
3 weeks ago

Somewhere in the middle not the.....

I'm happy being average, means I can coast along under the radar

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By *lowupdollTV/TS
3 weeks ago

Herts/Leeds

Everyone who thinks they’re average is fucking extraordinary to someone.

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By *eroLondonMan
3 weeks ago

Mayfair

"Everyone who thinks they’re average is fucking extraordinary to someone. "

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I shall settle for being extraordinarily average, forsooth!

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By *ddie1966Man
3 weeks ago

Paper Town Central, Essex.

I'm absolutely fine with average and above average in some respects, and it's not what you may think.

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By *aked beachMan
3 weeks ago

Just A Stranger In A Strange Land.

"I'm happy being average, means I can coast along under the radar "

Indeed, at times I deliberately let people underestimate me just to see their faces when i surprise them subsequently

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By *lowupdollTV/TS
3 weeks ago

Herts/Leeds

"I'm happy being average, means I can coast along under the radar "

I do that but only cos they’re out to get me.

I’m like a submarine.

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By *730tMan
3 weeks ago

westeood

In some people’s eyes one is special and to another, one is just average.

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By *im le2Man
3 weeks ago

AYLESTONE

Isn't average the majority of ppl.

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By *ourpornfixMan
3 weeks ago

East Cheshire

I have more than the average number of arms and legs, and my penis count is around twice the average. Just saying.

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By *ot_Rod43Man
3 weeks ago

newcastle upon tyne

Everyone is average in some way shape or form. In how they look or what they are capable of. But everyone is also above average in something else.

I wouldn’t take it as an insult.

Everybody sees people in different ways.

We are all above average in something in life

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By *lusive KittyWoman
3 weeks ago

In the countryside

Averageish here and I'm happy to coast along under the radar

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By *a LunaWoman
3 weeks ago

Wales

We are all average to someone.

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By *assiieneilxMan
3 weeks ago

Newcastle under lyme

"There's a bell curve for pretty much everything I expect and I do feel that if you're an outlier you are vulnerable to being singled out. And with human nature being what it is that scrutiny is more likely to be negative than positive because folk do like a target to aim at.

So I take comfort under the cover of fellow middling mean mode median average folk.

It's definitely a much calmer and less pressured way to live your life."

I am glad that someone has mentioned mean, median and mode

Three different definitions of average

Also a mention for the bell curve - the hottest curve there is

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By *ocialablechapMan
3 weeks ago

Paphos and also SW UK

I often view 'average' as 'normal'.

I like being above average in many things, like fitness, sports and how I treat someone.

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By *heJam84Man
3 weeks ago

Manchester

it all depends, does it mean average size downstairs, well most are, we all think oh big i want big, often if its used right, its good.

average looking, well i would say i am but who know, some of your ladies might find me hot and others may not, most people are average yet we try and change what we can ie go the gym to at least be a healthier average person.

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By *emorefridaCouple
3 weeks ago

La la land

On average I'm average. There are some things I excel at and others I'm absolutely rubbish at.

Finding people who value the things you're good at is what makes the difference I guess.

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By *estinyIsAllCouple
3 weeks ago

Staffordshire

We're very average! Sexy with it, but average. Average looks, average bodies, average equipment.. but hey, we're awesome people and you're guaranteed at least one orgasm and a laugh. 😋🤣

Erik

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By *adbod2godbodMan
3 weeks ago

Manchester

My averageness is an issue to me. I'm average at basically everything I do.

I just want to be exceptional at something.

You could argue that my averageness is exceptional.

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By *he MinionMan
3 weeks ago

Surrey

"I doubt that anyone who replies on this thread is average, more than likely above average in one way or another.

We’re all special after all."

I'd better cotribute something decidedly below average then.

M'eh 🤷‍♂️

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By *he Gentleman.Man
3 weeks ago

Sitlington

I suppose it depends on who's making the assessment. If it's yourself, you may be underestimating or overestimating. Others may think what they want to and base their estimation on that. If you're comparing yourself against others, as we tend to do, the estimation may differ depending on how high or low you regard them.

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By *WB85Man
3 weeks ago

Staffordshire

Positive.

I always push for the positive outlook and avoid a negative mindset.

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