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"Youve already got four verifications in nine months, what was you exoecting" "I get your point, but verifications only prove identity. They don't change the fact that people suddenly ghost or act differently after starting a conversation." | |||
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"Some people don't have the time to reply immediately or frequently. Is this what your issue is? I'm not sure I've understood you correctly." It's quite simple Nero, he is lovely and nice and loving the exchanges and they are not and not and not .... What's not to understand ? | |||
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"Some people don't have the time to reply immediately or frequently. Is this what your issue is? I'm not sure I've understood you correctly." "Hi Nero, thanks for checking in. The issue isn't really about people replying slowly or being too busy to post frequently. It is more about the general attitude and dismissive nature of some of the interactions here, rather than the actual speed of the communication. Hope that clears up what I meant!" | |||
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" If you are looking for something lasting and meaningful then it's best not to look here. This is like the McDonalds of relationships...... it's fast and it leaves you hungry. Look elsewhere. " What she said... | |||
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"Hi O.P. It sounds to me that you are trying to judge other people by your standards. Because you see yourself as truthful and giving you expect them to be. Not everyone has the same outlook or is looking for the same kind of conversatioin or exchange. If you are looking for something lasting and meaningful then it's best not to look here. This is like the McDonalds of relationships...... it's fast and it leaves you hungry. Look elsewhere. " "I appreciate the perspective. I’m not trying to judge anyone by my own standards; I’m just trying to understand the typical 'unwritten rules' here so I don't have unrealistic expectations. I hear what you're saying about the 'fast food' nature of this place, though—that’s a helpful analogy. I'm quite satisfied by this reply. " | |||
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"Shani don't try to understand worthless people, I've been there and no matter what it won't change. The site isn't for you or me for that matter. 👍 " I agree with you but I'm basically very receptive person who always try to think and a battle starts inside me. It's not in my control but I'm trying too. I really appreciate your time.' | |||
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"Some people don't have the time to reply immediately or frequently. Is this what your issue is? I'm not sure I've understood you correctly. · It's quite simple Nero, he is lovely and nice and loving the exchanges and they are not and not and not .... What's not to understand ?" • Ah, he's asking for a conveyor belt of sushi and dim sum all at the same time and all his dishes in one go. Most of us relate to the Michelin™ star dining experience: we get to savour our slow responses and enjoy the morsels of sustained conversations, course after course. Grånny, thank you. | |||
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"I'm shallow enough to say that you cannot say 'more weaker' " There's nothing frustratinger. | |||
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"Yeah I understand, but I've figured out there are some really damaged people on here and I don’t think theyre aware of it. Their reactions are impossible to predict as one minute you're having a conversation and add you as a friend, in the next breathe they've blocked you. It's as frustrating as hell but there's no rhyme or reason. " you explained my point of view quite well. I'm hundred percent agree with you. X | |||
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"Some people don't have the time to reply immediately or frequently. Is this what your issue is? I'm not sure I've understood you correctly. · It's quite simple Nero, he is lovely and nice and loving the exchanges and they are not and not and not .... What's not to understand ? • Ah, he's asking for a conveyor belt of sushi and dim sum all at the same time and all his dishes in one go. Most of us relate to the Michelin™ star dining experience: we get to savour our slow responses and enjoy the morsels of sustained conversations, course after course. Grånny, thank you." There's a difference between your slow responses and the OP not receiving. | |||
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"I'm shallow enough to say that you cannot say 'more weaker' There's nothing frustratinger." Totally, but some things are more frustratinger than even thems. | |||
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"Some people don't have the time to reply immediately or frequently. Is this what your issue is? I'm not sure I've understood you correctly. · It's quite simple Nero, he is lovely and nice and loving the exchanges and they are not and not and not .... What's not to understand ? • Ah, he's asking for a conveyor belt of sushi and dim sum all at the same time and all his dishes in one go. Most of us relate to the Michelin™ star dining experience: we get to savour our slow responses and enjoy the morsels of sustained conversations, course after course. Grånny, thank you. There's a difference between your slow responses and the OP not receiving. " Yes I agree with you. X | |||
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"Yeah I understand, but I've figured out there are some really damaged people on here and I don’t think theyre aware of it. Their reactions are impossible to predict as one minute you're having a conversation and add you as a friend, in the next breathe they've blocked you. It's as frustrating as hell but there's no rhyme or reason. " The rhyme or reason are largely clear. Engaging when potentially matched. Messages stop or blocked, when you revealed that you are like most people, who are not mutually compatible | |||
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"Yeah I understand, but I've figured out there are some really damaged people on here and I don’t think theyre aware of it. Their reactions are impossible to predict as one minute you're having a conversation and add you as a friend, in the next breathe they've blocked you. It's as frustrating as hell but there's no rhyme or reason. The rhyme or reason are largely clear. Engaging when potentially matched. Messages stop or blocked, when you revealed that you are like most people, who are not mutually compatible " If you say so. | |||
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" There's a difference between your slow responses and the OP not receiving. " It's better to give than to receive- i fear the OP does not appreciate this, but wants a Royal Mail first class service when it is in fact only Evri that is available on Fab.  | |||
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"I took alot time to think, should I post or not. It is my experience that people pretend different but acts different. People start conversation but after some days, they don't reply. I tried to say truth but I think they like fabricated things. I just wondering, what guys you say about it. I'm just finding any possible reason, if you can give me understanding. " Sometimes you've just got to suck it up, after a period of talking some people decide that they don't wish to continue. The first line of your profile says that you don't have any expectations, so you should be fine with it all. | |||
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"I feel like many of you might be missing the point, possibly because the OP suggested someone is being shallow. In my view, it’s about not considering others’ feelings. Since the interaction happens online, some people treat others as a commodity rather than a person at the other end. They act differently than they would face to face, demonstrating rudeness and a lack of basic manners in my opinion. It really is that straightforward." Honestly though, I think there are many people who do treat others as commodities in real life. Have you seen how some people talk to shop or restaurant staff, for example? This place is real life distilled into a fishbowl, and people showing their 'true colours' is a great way of establishing early in that you shouldn't waste your time on them. | |||
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"I feel like many of you might be missing the point, possibly because the OP suggested someone is being shallow. In my view, it’s about not considering others’ feelings. Since the interaction happens online, some people treat others as a commodity rather than a person at the other end. They act differently than they would face to face, demonstrating rudeness and a lack of basic manners in my opinion. It really is that straightforward. Honestly though, I think there are many people who do treat others as commodities in real life. Have you seen how some people talk to shop or restaurant staff, for example? This place is real life distilled into a fishbowl, and people showing their 'true colours' is a great way of establishing early in that you shouldn't waste your time on them." Yep, I agree. I've seen it in real life too. Social interactions, close relationships, friendships. People have become accustomed to using each other and discarding when they feel they are not getting what they want from that person. When they are no longer happy, or they are bored and the person isn't entertaining them. It's messed up. | |||
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"I feel like many of you might be missing the point, possibly because the OP suggested someone is being shallow. In my view, it’s about not considering others’ feelings. Since the interaction happens online, some people treat others as a commodity rather than a person at the other end. They act differently than they would face to face, demonstrating rudeness and a lack of basic manners in my opinion. It really is that straightforward." The internet/social media is full of people who are more rude than they would be in normal life. There's no reason to expect this site to be any different. | |||
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"I took alot time to think, should I post or not. It is my experience that people pretend different but acts different. People start conversation but after some days, they don't reply. I tried to say truth but I think they like fabricated things. I just wondering, what guys you say about it. I'm just finding any possible reason, if you can give me understanding. " We have a habit of getting in to conversations with people and then not logging in for a few days. The problem is we'll login and have 50+ new messages to go through plus we've got to find the old ones and carry them on. It can get very overwhelming and if the vibe isn't right in the first few messages, we simply move on anyway. Part of this site is getting rejected and ignored. We can't please everyone, so don't let it bother you and just keep going. Good luck! Freyja x | |||
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"The trouble in my opinion op is we tend to think that everyone is like ourselves but in reality fab is a jungle " I would say yes, life is game of survival so fab is game of jungle. | |||
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"It happens to both men and women. I put it down to disinterest, lack of time or not matching my bio! I take no offence 🤷🏻♀️" Fair enough. | |||
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" There's a difference between your slow responses and the OP not receiving. It's better to give than to receive- i fear the OP does not appreciate this, but wants a Royal Mail first class service when it is in fact only Evri that is available on Fab. "I would appreciate your sense of humour. But I say, a simple " no thanks" would make us a human otherwise animals do the same thing. | |||
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"I took alot time to think, should I post or not. It is my experience that people pretend different but acts different. People start conversation but after some days, they don't reply. I tried to say truth but I think they like fabricated things. I just wondering, what guys you say about it. I'm just finding any possible reason, if you can give me understanding. Sometimes you've just got to suck it up, after a period of talking some people decide that they don't wish to continue. The first line of your profile says that you don't have any expectations, so you should be fine with it all." I liked your keen observation. I have no expectation, just want to ask people, if you want to leave chat, it's your right but atleast give a reason. | |||
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"The trouble in my opinion op is we tend to think that everyone is like ourselves but in reality fab is a jungle I would say yes, life is game of survival so fab is game of jungle. " If it’s a jungle, just remember: you don't have to outrun the apex predators, you just have to outrun the person standing next to you  | |||
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"Not sure if I understand your post right, so you've been chatting with someone, in your opinion it was going all well and then they stopped responding? And that's what made you decide they must be "shallow"? If that's the case, OP, then sorry to break it to you, but people are allowed to change their minds. A while ago, I was chatting to a guy, all was going well, we were considering a possibility of meeting but due to distance, it couldn't happen any time soon. Then one day, he said something that was so out of character, going by previous conversation, and it raised a massive red flag for me. He ended up getting blocked as I decided he wasn't someone I wanted to get to know more. Does that make me shallow? " I agree with you. My point is if you tell him what's the reason may be he could change himself and don't make that mistake again. In my case I always try to identify my personality problems and try to fix them. I'm better know after my this age by changing myself. | |||
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"Focus on the people that engage with you instead of the people that don’t and your FAB experience will be totally different… K" good suggestion. I will do. X | |||
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"The problem is, when people send that final message saying they don't feel it anymore, or they've changed their mind...it either results in a why or abusive responses. Thats why for my partner atleast she doesn't continue to reply. I suppose me being part of a couple and doing this solo shows me both sides of the story so to speak. Good luck with your journey all. " Yeah I agree with you too but every person is different, | |||
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"Youve already got four verifications in nine months, what was you exoecting"I get your point, but verifications only prove identity. They don't change the fact that people suddenly ghost or act differently after starting a conversation."" Listen mate. The straight facts is being nice doesn't get you far on fab, in fact, it may not get you anywhere at all. Members today are looking for very different things and personally, I've seen alot of members who are open to communicating made to feel bad for actually communicating lol. In the end, it will help you filter who is legit and who isn't and help you preserve your energy for the right person or persons. I've also seen alot of people reply in this forum that proves this point lol. Don't be bothered by them either | |||
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" There's a difference between your slow responses and the OP not receiving. It's better to give than to receive- i fear the OP does not appreciate this, but wants a Royal Mail first class service when it is in fact only Evri that is available on Fab. I would appreciate your sense of humour. But I say, a simple " no thanks" would make us a human otherwise animals do the same thing. "My sentiment exactly, where I come from, that's just being rude. Here? It's normal | |||
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"Hi OP, There could be any number of reasons for people changing their response rate or tone. If you try and judge them on your own standards or attempt to guess the reasons why you will be on a hiding to nothing. A few reasons why people might become 'non-responsive' could be... - Lack of time to respond to messages - Lost interest in the conversation (perhaps they found the conversation boring) - Spotted a red flag in the profile/pictures/conversation - Overwhelmed with messages (and your conversation wasn't sufficiently engaging to keep their interest) - Motivations for being on here have changed I'm sure there are other potential reasons, but what you should do is take it as a sign that they are not 'your people' and divert your energy to those who are. There's no point spending energy trying to figure out what's going on in other people's minds, and you will find Fab a depressing place if you do so! Imagine you were out for the evening and got chatting to someone. Would you expect them to explicitly thank you for the conversation but say they don't want to continue it, or would you prefer it just faded out as you both went your own way? " I have no words to say thank. Your words give me in depth understanding. X | |||
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"I feel like many of you might be missing the point, possibly because the OP suggested someone is being shallow. In my view, it’s about not considering others’ feelings. Since the interaction happens online, some people treat others as a commodity rather than a person at the other end. They act differently than they would face to face, demonstrating rudeness and a lack of basic manners in my opinion. It really is that straightforward." you are real genuine person. Thanks for understanding my point of view | |||
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"Youve already got four verifications in nine months, what was you exoecting"I get your point, but verifications only prove identity. They don't change the fact that people suddenly ghost or act differently after starting a conversation." Listen mate. The straight facts is being nice doesn't get you far on fab, in fact, it may not get you anywhere at all. Members today are looking for very different things and personally, I've seen alot of members who are open to communicating made to feel bad for actually communicating lol. In the end, it will help you filter who is legit and who isn't and help you preserve your energy for the right person or persons. I've also seen alot of people reply in this forum that proves this point lol. Don't be bothered by them either " hahahaha well said. Thanks | |||
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"I took alot time to think, should I post or not. It is my experience that people pretend different but acts different. People start conversation but after some days, they don't reply. I tried to say truth but I think they like fabricated things. I just wondering, what guys you say about it. I'm just finding any possible reason, if you can give me understanding. We have a habit of getting in to conversations with people and then not logging in for a few days. The problem is we'll login and have 50+ new messages to go through plus we've got to find the old ones and carry them on. It can get very overwhelming and if the vibe isn't right in the first few messages, we simply move on anyway. Part of this site is getting rejected and ignored. We can't please everyone, so don't let it bother you and just keep going. Good luck! Freyja x" Im taking about who starts conversation and then leave anonymously. Stay blessed. X | |||
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"I feel like many of you might be missing the point, possibly because the OP suggested someone is being shallow. In my view, it’s about not considering others’ feelings. Since the interaction happens online, some people treat others as a commodity rather than a person at the other end. They act differently than they would face to face, demonstrating rudeness and a lack of basic manners in my opinion. It really is that straightforward. Honestly though, I think there are many people who do treat others as commodities in real life. Have you seen how some people talk to shop or restaurant staff, for example? This place is real life distilled into a fishbowl, and people showing their 'true colours' is a great way of establishing early in that you shouldn't waste your time on them." It's mean, its culture on fab now. | |||
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"People need to chat to you to see if there's compatibility or potential for more than chat. I've often changed my mind as the conversation has been like pulling teeth or they've got too pushy etc.. Some have no intention of meeting or taking things futher, I know, but people can change their minds or life gets in the way op. " Yes I think people don't bother about other person and treat everyone in the same way. | |||
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"A lot of conversationsc just fizzle out. It happens to women too. Or at least this woman." what I understand now, I tried my whole life to be honest and helpful but it has no importance anymore in this world.  | |||
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"OP, are you inferring that you would like people on here to be more considerate when it comes to saying "no thank you" to your messages, as opposed to saying nothing at all or not replying whatsoever?" I'm not sure but you have valid point | |||
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