FabSwingers.com forum: Is everyone an alpha male?

By *hagTonight OP Man
3 weeks ago

From the land of haribos.

I watched an interesting video from LFA, https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ucxDBQPEVtc he talks about all sorts of things and in this one he talked about being an alpha male and how everyone is one.

He talked how the term gets thrown around and how they place the term on certain guys, you know the bad boys, the cool manly guy, the chad.

I agree when he mentioned how this is not the right way to describe it and how it is not a personality type or a type of guy, but rather a phase that guys go through, it is called the green light to be an alpha male, between the ages 21 to 38, one of course can do it after that age but between those ages is the optimal age to be one because you are more mature then.

It would be interesting to see what your view is about it, do you also agree that everyone can be one and how it is a phase in ones life rather than a personality type?

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By *ourpornfixMan
3 weeks ago

East Cheshire

Delta Tau Chi and proud of it.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
3 weeks ago

Crumpet Castle

No, not everyone is an Alpha male.

Some are Alpha females, especially the women.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
3 weeks ago

Crumpet Castle

And if we are only talking about men, the answer is still NO.

Stand out leaders are that by birth not by circumstance, anyone otherwise is a pretender.

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By *hagTonight OP Man
3 weeks ago

From the land of haribos.

"Delta Tau Chi and proud of it."
That is good

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By *ino200Man
3 weeks ago

Bournemouth,london and Sienna

Lol the ages you gave refer the the child baring years and its all twaddle anyway ,when the males ability to produce sperm is at its peak like the rutting deer or the Bull at the gate ,we after all man or beast are all here to reproduce and the label Alpha ' the dominant animal'is aimed at describing him ,in modern times it really doesnt have the same meaning he could be just as likely to fuck his mate

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By *tandardIssueNerdMan
3 weeks ago

Telford

If someone unironically says they are an Alpha male (or any similar description), I immediately don't want anything to do with them.

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By *iltsTSgirlTV/TS
3 weeks ago

Chichester

Vikings tv show has a lot to answer for

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By *ealitybitesMan
3 weeks ago

Belfast

The whole concept of alpha anything has been created by insecure people so I don't believe it's a character trait or a phase.

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By *arc PolarisMan
3 weeks ago

Birmingham

It’s very much the same with everything like this. If you have to tell people you are an alpha, nice guy, etc you probably aren’t or at the very least you don’t exhibit the traits to be what you are telling people you are.

What is more important is what people say about you when you aren’t in the room, that is who you are

Anyway I’m a sigma not an alpha 👍

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By *og and MuseCouple
3 weeks ago

Dubai & Nottingham

My experience is generally those types are just guys at the very bottom of personal awareness and insecurity acting and doing what they think men are meant to do without knowing why to try and show they have value.

Even classifications like type A, B , Dom's , introvert or just so flawed and belong to the past.

But some people are so insecure they need a label for themselves

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By *verageHoesCouple
3 weeks ago

Bessacarr

"It’s very much the same with everything like this. If you have to tell people you are an alpha, nice guy, etc you probably aren’t or at the very least you don’t exhibit the traits to be what you are telling people you are.

What is more important is what people say about you when you aren’t in the room, that is who you are

Anyway I’m a sigma not an alpha 👍"

At 51, you're probably more silverback

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By *arc PolarisMan
3 weeks ago

Birmingham

What is more important is what people say about you when you aren’t in the room, that is who you are

Anyway I’m a sigma not an alpha 👍

At 51, you're probably more silverback

God I’m too old to be fighting off the younger one let alone beating my chest 😂

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By *og and MuseCouple
3 weeks ago

Dubai & Nottingham

Stand out leaders are that by birth not by circumstance, anyone otherwise is a pretender."

That's not true, and there's no science whatsoever in support of it. Put a kid in the right circumstances and they can be anything.

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By *hamallamadingdongMan
3 weeks ago

London

So many labels. So many boxes. It's exhausting. I don't particularly care for any of them.

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By *parkly MinxCouple
3 weeks ago

Hitchin

The whole Alpha, Beta, Sigma thing is just star signs for men.

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By *verageHoesCouple
3 weeks ago

Bessacarr

What is more important is what people say about you when you aren’t in the room, that is who you are

Anyway I’m a sigma not an alpha 👍

At 51, you're probably more silverback

God I’m too old to be fighting off the younger one let alone beating my chest 😂"

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By *hromakeyDreamcoatMan
3 weeks ago

Carlisle

It’s all so tedious, and absolutely without scientific foundation. The way people react is situational, people with ADHD, for instance, often live shambolic everyday lives but when a crisis occurs, they are exceptional.

People are just desperate for simplicity, and labels provide that.

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By *acavityMan
3 weeks ago

Redditch

Aren’t “alpha males” Homosocial?

More interested in impressing the other men in the room. Probably not interested in women, except as status symbols?

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By *Effy-Woman
3 weeks ago

Scotland

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By *Effy-Woman
3 weeks ago

Scotland

Mature wouldn't be the word I would use to describe men who identify as an "Alpha"

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By *odgerMooreMan
3 weeks ago

Rummage Up The Jumper

I prefer the term ‘ Master of the Clunge!’ Its more specific and shows a higher level of social and emotional intelligence and maturity!!

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By *lowupdollTV/TS
3 weeks ago

Herts/Leeds

My view on it is win the Victoria Cross, cure a kid of cancer, correct an injustice, you can call yourself whatever you want; short of that pipe down with the nonsense.

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
3 weeks ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

Whenever I see someone on here claiming to be an alpha whatever I find it an instant turn off. They generally turn out to be really insecure and obsessed by their position

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By *iver78Man
3 weeks ago

barton upon humber

Tend to find the only people who use the word Alpha are usually very immature , Alpha dogs , wolves ,animals I get , in a human being in 2026 it's just weird

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By *pankingNorfolkCouple
3 weeks ago

Norwich ish

"Mature wouldn't be the word I would use to describe men who identify as an "Alpha""

⬆️ ⬆️ this ⬆️ ⬆️

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By *hromakeyDreamcoatMan
3 weeks ago

Carlisle

"Tend to find the only people who use the word Alpha are usually very immature , Alpha dogs , wolves ,animals I get , in a human being in 2026 it's just weird

The whole Alpha Wolf thing s a nonsense too, even the researcher who popularised it, changed his mind after doing more research.

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By *iver78Man
3 weeks ago

barton upon humber

"Tend to find the only people who use the word Alpha are usually very immature , Alpha dogs , wolves ,animals I get , in a human being in 2026 it's just weird

The whole Alpha Wolf thing s a nonsense too, even the researcher who popularised it, changed his mind after doing more research."

Fair point , sure I saw somwere it the female dogs who rule a pack !!

Maybe wrong ,

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By *hagTonight OP Man
3 weeks ago

From the land of haribos.

"No, not everyone is an Alpha male.

Some are Alpha females, especially the women.

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Hi, yes, you are right there too

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By *layfull pairingCouple
3 weeks ago

Bristol

Fab is full of them... but we all know it’s the girls who are really in control here...

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By *its_and_TiramisuCouple
3 weeks ago

North Somerset

If someone ever called me an alpha male I'd fucking piss myself laughing.

I collect plastic ducks FFS.....🤦🤦😂😂

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By *eliWoman
3 weeks ago

No, I think the alpha idea is utter... nonsense. Tend to switch off if it's mentioned.

Do you really believe men are alpha, Shag?

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By *uckers79Couple
3 weeks ago

Liverpool

"Fab is full of them... but we all know it’s the girls who are really in control here...

💯 agreed xx

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By *lderflowerAppleWoman
3 weeks ago

Hampshire

Isn't the alpha version the untested, unreliable version full of bugs and glitches?? Surely the beta version is the improved model that we should be looking for 🤔

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By (user no longer on site)
3 weeks ago

"No, I think the alpha idea is utter... nonsense. Tend to switch off if it's mentioned.

100% agree with Meli. And the sigma title aswell 🤢

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By *ifelover999Man
3 weeks ago

Eastbourne

"No, I think the alpha idea is utter... nonsense. Tend to switch off if it's mentioned.

100% agree with Meli. And the sigma title aswell 🤢"

Stigma?

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By (user no longer on site)
3 weeks ago

"No, I think the alpha idea is utter... nonsense. Tend to switch off if it's mentioned.

100% agree with Meli. And the sigma title aswell 🤢

Stigma?"

No. Sigma

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By *ifelover999Man
3 weeks ago

Eastbourne

"No, I think the alpha idea is utter... nonsense. Tend to switch off if it's mentioned.

100% agree with Meli. And the sigma title aswell 🤢

Stigma?

No. Sigma "

My bad

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By (user no longer on site)
3 weeks ago

"No, I think the alpha idea is utter... nonsense. Tend to switch off if it's mentioned.

100% agree with Meli. And the sigma title aswell 🤢

Stigma?

No. Sigma

My bad"

Haha its similar to alpha with a few caveats its utter nonsense either way

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By *erdyHollyTV/TS
3 weeks ago

In a galaxy far far away

"No, I think the alpha idea is utter... nonsense. Tend to switch off if it's mentioned.

100% agree with Meli. And the sigma title aswell 🤢

Stigma?

No. Sigma

My bad"

At least you didn't say Smegma

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By *hagTonight OP Man
3 weeks ago

From the land of haribos.

"No, I think the alpha idea is utter... nonsense. Tend to switch off if it's mentioned.

Do you really believe men are alpha, Shag?"
Hi _eli, same here. I also dont believe in it

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By *ifelover999Man
3 weeks ago

Eastbourne

"No, I think the alpha idea is utter... nonsense. Tend to switch off if it's mentioned.

100% agree with Meli. And the sigma title aswell 🤢

Stigma?

No. Sigma

My bad

Haha its similar to alpha with a few caveats its utter nonsense either way "

Check you out being polite no swearing

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By *udelawfsMan
3 weeks ago

A pristine town

That “alpha” thing is mostly just whatever trend currently helps men market themselves. Back in university, pretending to be a socialist got you the hotties...now it’s podcasts about dominance and discipline. Same mating dance, different costume..

Consumerism overriding evolution..fuc@@@ing love it.

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By *elix SightedMan
3 weeks ago

Cloud 8

Ugh, I’m sick and tired of hearing words like alpha. Anyone who describes themselves as such I immediately think “What a cunt” and have nothing to do with them.

Some labels are necessary or useful because we often want to associate with those who are similar or attracted to them, such as gay or trans; or because they allow us to have certain needs recognised and allowances made such as disability.

Social labels, though, just ugh.

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By *imMcSilverMan
3 weeks ago

By the Seaside

As a wise man once said, Im too old for this shit

Everyone has personality traits, and that will differ and change. Why do we try an pigeon hole everything?

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By *riel13Woman
3 weeks ago

Northampton

There's no such thing

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By *WB85Man
3 weeks ago

Staffordshire

I'm just a male to be fair.

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By *onyHoveMan
3 weeks ago

North East

I'm definitely not alpha and very happy with that

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By *ubmissive guyMan
3 weeks ago

Liverpool

Why do we have to put everyone and everything into nice little boxes? We dont all fit in a box. If a guy has to tell you he is Alpha hes probably not. I'm submissive to Women, but the amount of messages I get from people, thinking a male submissive is gay or bi, then block you when they find out your not.

We are who we are, not a box.

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By *ornucopiaMan
3 weeks ago

Bexley

I'm a Foxtrot Charlie.. initially..

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
3 weeks ago

Crumpet Castle

Stand out leaders are that by birth not by circumstance, anyone otherwise is a pretender.

That's not true, and there's no science whatsoever in support of it. Put a kid in the right circumstances and they can be anything.

That's not true. Not any child ( even in the right circumstances ) can be anything they wish.

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By *exxyyDy11Man
3 weeks ago

North West

Usually I find anyone referring to themselves as an "alpha male" to be an absolute fucking twat.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
3 weeks ago

Crumpet Castle

Reading most posts above gives the impression that people think Alpha means dominant, or someone who can punch the living daylights out of everyone else... that's not so from my understanding.

The one who can punch the living daylights out of everyone is probably - the strongest or the most able fighter.

I'm not struck by that definition, it's pretty modern and corrupted from the original.

The ALPHA in a group , is a peacekeeper, one that keeps harmony in a group , one that has empathy for the rest of the group and generally the one that OTHERS seek out for security and comfort ....

NOT the best fighter etc they don't go to dominant types or bullies for comfort and peacekeeping .. this is so in monkey troupes also.

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By *hagTonight OP Man
3 weeks ago

From the land of haribos.

"My experience is generally those types are just guys at the very bottom of personal awareness and insecurity acting and doing what they think men are meant to do without knowing why to try and show they have value.

Even classifications like type A, B , Dom's , introvert or just so flawed and belong to the past.

But some people are so insecure they need a label for themselves

"
Hi togandmuse, yes, you are right there, some people need a label for themselves too

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By *lirtyVampireBellaCouple
3 weeks ago

The bottom of the River Ankh

Nope I'm a omega female 🤣🤣

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By *enuine_J87Man
3 weeks ago

Eastleigh

If I was female I would instantly ignore any profile of a guy calling himself a bull, alpha, dom daddy etc

It mostly screams arrogance, selfish, untrustworthy and someone who will do what he wants for the 5 mins he lasts

… but I am male so… phew

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By *ew2buryMan
3 weeks ago

Forums.

"If I was female I would instantly ignore any profile of a guy calling himself a bull, alpha, dom daddy etc

It mostly screams arrogance, selfish, untrustworthy and someone who will do what he wants for the 5 mins he lasts

… but I am male so… phew"
and genuine 😉

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By *enuine_J87Man
3 weeks ago

Eastleigh

Genuine asshole

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By *adyBugsWoman
3 weeks ago

not local even if it says I am

I’m 100% alpha male

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By *wcoMan
3 weeks ago

West Midlands

I'm definitely more sigma than alpha but surely a true sigma would run a mile from any label that somebody's trying to pin on them?

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By *ate2theparty808Man
3 weeks ago

Erdington

Is the whole alpha male thing something to do with furries?

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By *hagTonight OP Man
3 weeks ago

From the land of haribos.

"So many labels. So many boxes. It's exhausting. I don't particularly care for any of them."
Yes, there are so many labels too

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By *ornucopiaMan
3 weeks ago

Bexley

I've known some very nice Zulu females.

(Yes, I know that women is the preferred term, but it doesn't juxtapose so well with 'alpha male')

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By *onin25Man
3 weeks ago

Durham

"Nope I'm a omega female 🤣🤣"

I was going to say I'm The Omega Man, but then I thought I should google it in case it's more than just a film and I'll end up looking like a twat for saying it and it is a thing apparently. So I'm not. Decent film though.

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By *ife2010Couple
3 weeks ago

Kirkcaldy

Are they the ones that don’t wash their bum or bits as it’s seen as homosexual?

Clatty gits!

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By *iltsTSgirlTV/TS
3 weeks ago

Chichester

Imma Viking ladyboy I have decided

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By *ew2buryMan
3 weeks ago

Forums.

"Imma Viking ladyboy I have decided

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because you make the boys Thor?

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By *iCurvCPLCouple
3 weeks ago

Newport

It's such a loose term and means different things in life compared to in bed. Like a guy that's gym fit and confident dresses well and looks good but gets his misses to organise his life and make his appointments for him or chooses FIFA and fast and furious over reading and creative hobbies is that alpha energy? Is physical prowess more alpha than emotional and academic intelligence?

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By *iolet_FyreCouple
3 weeks ago

Yateley

I’m far to smart to be an Alpha Male

Fyre

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By *cLovin2Man
3 weeks ago

London

If there's something called an Alpha male, then is there also a beta male?and is he related to Betamax? 🤔

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By *ose and her beastCouple
3 weeks ago

Watford

If you have to tell everyone your an alpha male you definitely aren't one

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By *oeBeansMan
3 weeks ago

Derby

"Reading most posts above gives the impression that people think Alpha means dominant, or someone who can punch the living daylights out of everyone else... that's not so from my understanding.

The one who can punch the living daylights out of everyone is probably - the strongest or the most able fighter.

I'm not struck by that definition, it's pretty modern and corrupted from the original.

The ALPHA in a group , is a peacekeeper, one that keeps harmony in a group , one that has empathy for the rest of the group and generally the one that OTHERS seek out for security and comfort ....

NOT the best fighter etc they don't go to dominant types or bullies for comfort and peacekeeping .. this is so in monkey troupes also. "

I do kind of see this and you are right in that. But I think the term has been taken over by guys who are probably insecure and placed themselves in position of importance rather than being selected for it which is what makes it cringe.

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By *hagTonight OP Man
3 weeks ago

From the land of haribos.

"If you have to tell everyone your an alpha male you definitely aren't one"
Hi rose, yes, you are right there too

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