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"I mean, do you make excuses or tell people straight that you cannot/ dont want to do soemthing they have asked you to do? "I go like this....... No | |||
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"I mean, do you make excuses or tell people straight that you cannot/ dont want to do soemthing they have asked you to do?
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"I mean, do you make excuses or tell people straight that you cannot/ dont want to do soemthing they have asked you to do? "How go on you know you want to really  | |||
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"I mean, do you make excuses or tell people straight that you cannot/ dont want to do soemthing they have asked you to do?
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"I mean, do you make excuses or tell people straight that you cannot/ dont want to do soemthing they have asked you to do?
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open ur legs"Filty - pure and utter filth! Granny is a lady you know! | |||
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"I mean, do you make excuses or tell people straight that you cannot/ dont want to do soemthing they have asked you to do?
How go on you know you want to really "Haha I had not thought that far - I was thinking of a situation today, work related, and how it might be possible to be asssertive and say no without upsetting the other person. | |||
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open ur legsFilty - pure and utter filth! Granny is a lady you know! "No he doesn't know. Which is why he's checking me bits.... | |||
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"Just say no, if they get offended its their problem" You actually do have a point here but still ... few of us enjoy upsetting other people so I wondered if there were better ways? | |||
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"be open and honest.. you waffle some made up cobblers it may come back and bit you on the arse.. integrity etc.. " totally with you on this.... | |||
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"'Fuck right off'." Guess they would get the message this way | |||
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"be open and honest.. you waffle some made up cobblers it may come back and bit you on the arse.. integrity etc.. " Thats what I thought really - how are yours btw? | |||
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"Just say no, if they get offended its their problemYou actually do have a point here but still ... few of us enjoy upsetting other people so I wondered if there were better ways? "Shotgun and a polite leave me alone | |||
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"Look Aphro .... there's a flaw in the scenario . cannot is a mile or more from 'don't want to' ... which is is ?" But just every now and again I really would if I could but I do know that I really cannot? | |||
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"Just Say No... this is turning into grange hill.. "I am trying to find a couple of nice ways to say no | |||
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"I've never said no  "Shame you live so far | |||
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"Just Say No... this is turning into grange hill.. I am trying to find a couple of nice ways to say no "How about it's not you it's me line | |||
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"how about im really sorry but no i cant ... " Guess that would work.  | |||
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"I mean, do you make excuses or tell people straight that you cannot/ dont want to do soemthing they have asked you to do?
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Okay chunky hunks..... "I really wanted a no..just so i could hatewank!then send abusiveness | |||
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"Just Say No... this is turning into grange hill.. I am trying to find a couple of nice ways to say no
How about it's not you it's me line "No, that would not work in this case pmsl... if only you knew the scneario - you would be wetting yourself. | |||
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"I mean, do you make excuses or tell people straight that you cannot/ dont want to do soemthing they have asked you to do?
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I really wanted a no..just so i could hatewank!then send abusiveness"Sorry darlink ! No I won't open my legs.... | |||
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"I mean, do you make excuses or tell people straight that you cannot/ dont want to do soemthing they have asked you to do?
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open ur legsFilty - pure and utter filth! Granny is a lady you know!
No he doesn't know. Which is why he's checking me bits....
"cheers for the pic...u could shag my arse with the size of that! | |||
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"be open and honest.. you waffle some made up cobblers it may come back and bit you on the arse.. integrity etc.. Thats what I thought really - how are yours btw? "empty ish.. | |||
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"I mean, do you make excuses or tell people straight that you cannot/ dont want to do soemthing they have asked you to do?
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open ur legs
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I really wanted a no..just so i could hatewank!then send abusiveness
Sorry darlink !
No I won't open my legs.... "Of course you would not - noblesse oblige! | |||
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"I just say 'thanks but no thanks' simple and easy! "hmm are u simple...and easy? | |||
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"Just Say No... this is turning into grange hill.. "Except of course that one was doing drugs at that time!!!!! And it wasn't Ro-land. To say 'no' I say 'no, sorry' and to any follow up I say 'no, sorry' again after carefully and actively listening. And to the classic follow up ' could you at least show some professional integrity and explain your reasons for your decision?' I reply 'No, sorry'. | |||
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"be open and honest.. you waffle some made up cobblers it may come back and bit you on the arse.. integrity etc.. Thats what I thought really - how are yours btw?
empty ish.."Thought you were keeping some for me? | |||
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"I just say 'thanks but no thanks' simple and easy!
hmm are u simple...and easy? "Stop trolling you sexy beast! | |||
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"Just Say No... this is turning into grange hill.. I am trying to find a couple of nice ways to say no
How about it's not you it's me line No, that would not work in this case pmsl... if only you knew the scneario - you would be wetting yourself. "To be honest and sincere is the best option. Not nice to upset someone but better to be honest and tell them there's this blind bloke in Dudley that has rocked my world  | |||
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"Just Say No... this is turning into grange hill..
Except of course that one was doing drugs at that time!!!!!
And it wasn't Ro-land.
To say 'no' I say 'no, sorry' and to any follow up I say 'no, sorry' again after carefully and actively listening. And to the classic follow up ' could you at least show some professional integrity and explain your reasons for your decision?' I reply 'No, sorry'."Broken record method, eh? Sounds cool but still would probably cause offense unforuntately. | |||
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"Foxy and 3rd person - that simply would not work in the case; well not without causing offense but that said.. it is really about the other person, isnt it?" sometimes you have to be a bit frank.. | |||
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"Just Say No... this is turning into grange hill.. I am trying to find a couple of nice ways to say no
How about it's not you it's me line No, that would not work in this case pmsl... if only you knew the scneario - you would be wetting yourself.
To be honest and sincere is the best option.
Not nice to upset someone but better to be honest and tell them there's this blind bloke in Dudley that has rocked my world "Holy sh..... why didnt I think of that? | |||
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"I mean, do you make excuses or tell people straight that you cannot/ dont want to do soemthing they have asked you to do?
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open ur legsFilty - pure and utter filth! Granny is a lady you know!
No he doesn't know. Which is why he's checking me bits....
cheers for the pic...u could shag my arse with the size of that! "I didn't get Clit Kween 1969 without lots of erectile flexin ...... | |||
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"Foxy and 3rd person - that simply would not work in the case; well not without causing offense but that said.. it is really about the other person, isnt it? sometimes you have to be a bit frank.. " Frankly, my dear - | |||
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"I just say 'thanks but no thanks' simple and easy!
hmm are u simple...and easy? Stop trolling you sexy beast! ""NO" | |||
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"Just Say No... this is turning into grange hill.. I am trying to find a couple of nice ways to say no
How about it's not you it's me line No, that would not work in this case pmsl... if only you knew the scneario - you would be wetting yourself.
To be honest and sincere is the best option.
Not nice to upset someone but better to be honest and tell them there's this blind bloke in Dudley that has rocked my world Holy sh..... why didBnt I think of that? "What can I say I'm here to help | |||
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"Just Say No... this is turning into grange hill..
Except of course that one was doing drugs at that time!!!!!
And it wasn't Ro-land.
To say 'no' I say 'no, sorry' and to any follow up I say 'no, sorry' again after carefully and actively listening. And to the classic follow up ' could you at least show some professional integrity and explain your reasons for your decision?' I reply 'No, sorry'."Let me explain where you are going wrong Steve. The correct response is....... No | |||
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"I mean, do you make excuses or tell people straight that you cannot/ dont want to do soemthing they have asked you to do?
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open ur legsFilty - pure and utter filth! Granny is a lady you know!
No he doesn't know. Which is why he's checking me bits....
cheers for the pic...u could shag my arse with the size of that!
I didn't get Clit Kween 1969 without lots of erectile flexin ...... "You reminded me about a joke about Cillit bang - only I cannot remember the punch line... story of my life... | |||
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"be open and honest.. you waffle some made up cobblers it may come back and bit you on the arse.. integrity etc.. Thats what I thought really - how are yours btw?
empty ish..Thought you were keeping some for me?" how do you want them.. | |||
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"Just Say No... this is turning into grange hill..
Except of course that one was doing drugs at that time!!!!!
And it wasn't Ro-land.
To say 'no' I say 'no, sorry' and to any follow up I say 'no, sorry' again after carefully and actively listening. And to the classic follow up ' could you at least show some professional integrity and explain your reasons for your decision?' I reply 'No, sorry'.Broken record method, eh? Sounds cool but still would probably cause offense unforuntately."Offensive is the inability to accept that no is no and I don't need to give reasons. People could be more socially aware and take no for an answer, after all, I wouldn't have said no if I meant maybe or yes. I mostly say yes | |||
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"be open and honest.. you waffle some made up cobblers it may come back and bit you on the arse.. integrity etc.. Thats what I thought really - how are yours btw?
empty ish..Thought you were keeping some for me?
how do you want them.."Any which way but loose | |||
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"Just Say No... this is turning into grange hill..
Except of course that one was doing drugs at that time!!!!!
And it wasn't Ro-land.
To say 'no' I say 'no, sorry' and to any follow up I say 'no, sorry' again after carefully and actively listening. And to the classic follow up ' could you at least show some professional integrity and explain your reasons for your decision?' I reply 'No, sorry'.Broken record method, eh? Sounds cool but still would probably cause offense unforuntately.
Offensive is the inability to accept that no is no and I don't need to give reasons. People could be more socially aware and take no for an answer, after all, I wouldn't have said no if I meant maybe or yes. I mostly say yes "Well put! | |||
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"be open and honest.. you waffle some made up cobblers it may come back and bit you on the arse.. integrity etc.. Thats what I thought really - how are yours btw?
empty ish..Thought you were keeping some for me?
how do you want them..Any which way but loose"right turn Clyde..? | |||
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"I'm getting used to rejection now you have not asked"Are we to form a queue then | |||
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"be open and honest.. you waffle some made up cobblers it may come back and bit you on the arse.. integrity etc.. Thats what I thought really - how are yours btw?
empty ish..Thought you were keeping some for me?
how do you want them..Any which way but loose
right turn Clyde..?
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"I'm getting used to rejection now you have not asked
Are we to form a queue then "Nope - thats not cool - in fact its probably a bit demeaning to expect guys to forkm a queue. That said... you could form a queue offering me some chocolate tonight | |||
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"I ignore its a much easier solution   "Solution is your middle name, lady! | |||
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"so my serious answers, I can say no even to those Ive found rather tasty..if I feel they arent going to be my cuppa on the meet..mainly itd be down to things being too scripted as it where and to me now(being on the site a good few years), I just think...well...it IS only a shag, so ive lost the patience for dealing with those just thinking things can be dictated(I follow rules that appear normal obviously, not when it sounds like someone wants their porno-serious fill)" | |||
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"I'm getting used to rejection now you have not asked
Are we to form a queue then Nope - thats not cool - in fact its probably a bit demeaning to expect guys to forkm a queue. That said... you could form a queue offering me some chocolate tonight "Sure I have a couple of bars somewhere. | |||
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"I'm crap at saying no in RL "Thank you! I I actually do not particularly like saying no to people who have asked politely. | |||
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"Just say no .if they ask for an explanation they on the wrong site.we can all decide not to do things if we want to.incidently no isn't a word that enters my vocabulary very much unless its a no thank you to face pics sent .i think its best just to be honest then but polite .politeness costs nothing .poppyxx" I agree, I am always polite when refusing someone as I would hate to be rudely rebuffed if I had plucked up courage to message someone. I do get annoyed when asked to justify what is a personal choice though. | |||
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"Just say no .if they ask for an explanation they on the wrong site.we can all decide not to do things if we want to.incidently no isn't a word that enters my vocabulary very much unless its a no thank you to face pics sent .i think its best just to be honest then but polite .politeness costs nothing .poppyxx" | |||
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" I agree, I am always polite when refusing someone as I would hate to be rudely rebuffed if I had plucked up courage to message someone. I do get annoyed when asked to justify what is a personal choice though. " | |||
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"I'm crap at saying no in RL Thank you! I I actually do not particularly like saying no to people who have asked politely. "CoCo never know you to be anything but polite. Big difference between politeness and put upon | |||
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"I'm crap at saying no in RL Thank you! I I actually do not particularly like saying no to people who have asked politely.
CoCo never know you to be anything but polite. Big difference between politeness and put upon "Thank you, Nucs - I try to help when I can. Cant always, of course and sometimes that is upsetting for me as much as the other person. xx | |||
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"I ignore its a much easier solution Solution is your middle name, lady! "I thought that was chaos and mayhem ......... how many middle names do I have ?? lol | |||
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"I ignore its a much easier solution Solution is your middle name, lady!
I thought that was chaos and mayhem ......... how many middle names do I have ?? lol "How many personas do you have? | |||
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"I'm crap at saying no in RL Thank you! I I actually do not particularly like saying no to people who have asked politely.
CoCo never know you to be anything but polite. Big difference between politeness and put upon Thank you, Nucs - I try to help when I can. Cant always, of course and sometimes that is upsetting for me as much as the other person. xx"My grandfather always said " to standby and do nothing when able is worst than to do something and get it wrong"  | |||
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"I'm crap at saying no in RL Thank you! I I actually do not particularly like saying no to people who have asked politely.
CoCo never know you to be anything but polite. Big difference between politeness and put upon Thank you, Nucs - I try to help when I can. Cant always, of course and sometimes that is upsetting for me as much as the other person. xx
My grandfather always said " to standby and do nothing when able is worst than to do something and get it wrong" "I quite agree | |||
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"I'm crap at saying no in RL Thank you! I I actually do not particularly like saying no to people who have asked politely.
CoCo never know you to be anything but polite. Big difference between politeness and put upon Thank you, Nucs - I try to help when I can. Cant always, of course and sometimes that is upsetting for me as much as the other person. xx
My grandfather always said " to standby and do nothing when able is worst than to do something and get it wrong" I quite agree "So it is decided than you are going to be firm but polite and if they still do not get the answer minxie Will sort it  | |||
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"I'm crap at saying no in RL Thank you! I I actually do not particularly like saying no to people who have asked politely.
CoCo never know you to be anything but polite. Big difference between politeness and put upon Thank you, Nucs - I try to help when I can. Cant always, of course and sometimes that is upsetting for me as much as the other person. xx
My grandfather always said " to standby and do nothing when able is worst than to do something and get it wrong" I quite agree
So it is decided than you are going to be firm but polite and if they still do not get the answer minxie Will sort it "Hell noooo - Minxie on her own might get me into trouble! | |||
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"If it's real life then assume a No and then block is not possible. No, with a few genuine reasons would be good. Guess you do not want a discussion or negotiation? How about a polite no, followed re-stating the points they may have made - to show you listened, give a reason or two with the kicker, I'm sorry, the decision is final, non negotiable and that's the end of it. Any good?" I like it - sounds like the best (most workable )option -thank you | |||
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"I'm crap at saying no in RL Thank you! I I actually do not particularly like saying no to people who have asked politely.
CoCo never know you to be anything but polite. Big difference between politeness and put upon Thank you, Nucs - I try to help when I can. Cant always, of course and sometimes that is upsetting for me as much as the other person. xx
My grandfather always said " to standby and do nothing when able is worst than to do something and get it wrong" I quite agree
So it is decided than you are going to be firm but polite and if they still do not get the answer minxie Will sort it Hell noooo - Minxie on her own might get me into trouble! "Sure she be fine | |||
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"I get turned down more often than not, but the most offensive rejections are when they read my message and don't reply at all. The nicest rejection I received said "no thanks but good luck anyway". How's that for you?" Might be because of your status? Your profile is good though. | |||
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"I'm crap at saying no in RL Thank you! I I actually do not particularly like saying no to people who have asked politely.
CoCo never know you to be anything but polite. Big difference between politeness and put upon Thank you, Nucs - I try to help when I can. Cant always, of course and sometimes that is upsetting for me as much as the other person. xx
My grandfather always said " to standby and do nothing when able is worst than to do something and get it wrong" I quite agree
So it is decided than you are going to be firm but polite and if they still do not get the answer minxie Will sort it Hell noooo - Minxie on her own might get me into trouble!
Sure she be fine"She is busy emulating other people's bottoms | |||
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"I get turned down more often than not, but the most offensive rejections are when they read my message and don't reply at all. The nicest rejection I received said "no thanks but good luck anyway". How's that for you?Might be because of your status? Your profile is good though. "Yes, I know its mostly about my status, which I am more than happy to accept, and sometimes my age. Thanks for the kind comment about the profile. | |||
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"I'm crap at saying no in RL Thank you! I I actually do not particularly like saying no to people who have asked politely.
CoCo never know you to be anything but polite. Big difference between politeness and put upon Thank you, Nucs - I try to help when I can. Cant always, of course and sometimes that is upsetting for me as much as the other person. xx
My grandfather always said " to standby and do nothing when able is worst than to do something and get it wrong" I quite agree
So it is decided than you are going to be firm but polite and if they still do not get the answer minxie Will sort it Hell noooo - Minxie on her own might get me into trouble!
Sure she be fineShe is busy emulating other people's bottoms "Yes I am hoping for a 3D print of it soon to feel what I am not seeing  | |||
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"I'm crap at saying no in RL Thank you! I I actually do not particularly like saying no to people who have asked politely.
CoCo never know you to be anything but polite. Big difference between politeness and put upon Thank you, Nucs - I try to help when I can. Cant always, of course and sometimes that is upsetting for me as much as the other person. xx
My grandfather always said " to standby and do nothing when able is worst than to do something and get it wrong" I quite agree
So it is decided than you are going to be firm but polite and if they still do not get the answer minxie Will sort it Hell noooo - Minxie on her own might get me into trouble!
Sure she be fineShe is busy emulating other people's bottoms
Yes I am hoping for a 3D print of it soon to feel what I am not seeing " | |||
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"I'm crap at saying no in RL Thank you! I I actually do not particularly like saying no to people who have asked politely.
CoCo never know you to be anything but polite. Big difference between politeness and put upon Thank you, Nucs - I try to help when I can. Cant always, of course and sometimes that is upsetting for me as much as the other person. xx
My grandfather always said " to standby and do nothing when able is worst than to do something and get it wrong" I quite agree
So it is decided than you are going to be firm but polite and if they still do not get the answer minxie Will sort it Hell noooo - Minxie on her own might get me into trouble!
Sure she be fineShe is busy emulating other people's bottoms
Yes I am hoping for a 3D print of it soon to feel what I am not seeing "And by any chance do you have use of a 3D printer | |||
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"I'm crap at saying no in RL Thank you! I I actually do not particularly like saying no to people who have asked politely.
CoCo never know you to be anything but polite. Big difference between politeness and put upon Thank you, Nucs - I try to help when I can. Cant always, of course and sometimes that is upsetting for me as much as the other person. xx
My grandfather always said " to standby and do nothing when able is worst than to do something and get it wrong" I quite agree
So it is decided than you are going to be firm but polite and if they still do not get the answer minxie Will sort it Hell noooo - Minxie on her own might get me into trouble!
Sure she be fineShe is busy emulating other people's bottoms
Yes I am hoping for a 3D print of it soon to feel what I am not seeing
And by any chance do you have use of a 3D printer "Might do... but cant say I have the use of one Minxie ... | |||
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"I'm crap at saying no in RL Thank you! I I actually do not particularly like saying no to people who have asked politely.
CoCo never know you to be anything but polite. Big difference between politeness and put upon Thank you, Nucs - I try to help when I can. Cant always, of course and sometimes that is upsetting for me as much as the other person. xx
My grandfather always said " to standby and do nothing when able is worst than to do something and get it wrong" I quite agree
So it is decided than you are going to be firm but polite and if they still do not get the answer minxie Will sort it Hell noooo - Minxie on her own might get me into trouble!
Sure she be fineShe is busy emulating other people's bottoms
Yes I am hoping for a 3D print of it soon to feel what I am not seeing
And by any chance do you have use of a 3D printer Might do... but cant say I have the use of one Minxie ... "CoCo you know you want too | |||
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"I'm crap at saying no in RL Thank you! I I actually do not particularly like saying no to people who have asked politely.
CoCo never know you to be anything but polite. Big difference between politeness and put upon Thank you, Nucs - I try to help when I can. Cant always, of course and sometimes that is upsetting for me as much as the other person. xx
My grandfather always said " to standby and do nothing when able is worst than to do something and get it wrong" I quite agree
So it is decided than you are going to be firm but polite and if they still do not get the answer minxie Will sort it Hell noooo - Minxie on her own might get me into trouble!
Sure she be fineShe is busy emulating other people's bottoms
Yes I am hoping for a 3D print of it soon to feel what I am not seeing
And by any chance do you have use of a 3D printer Might do... but cant say I have the use of one Minxie ...
CoCo you know you want too "Use Minxie or print her sexy derriere in 3D?;-) | |||
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"I'm crap at saying no in RL Thank you! I I actually do not particularly like saying no to people who have asked politely.
CoCo never know you to be anything but polite. Big difference between politeness and put upon Thank you, Nucs - I try to help when I can. Cant always, of course and sometimes that is upsetting for me as much as the other person. xx
My grandfather always said " to standby and do nothing when able is worst than to do something and get it wrong" I quite agree
So it is decided than you are going to be firm but polite and if they still do not get the answer minxie Will sort it Hell noooo - Minxie on her own might get me into trouble!
Sure she be fineShe is busy emulating other people's bottoms
Yes I am hoping for a 3D print of it soon to feel what I am not seeing
And by any chance do you have use of a 3D printer Might do... but cant say I have the use of one Minxie ...
CoCo you know you want too Use Minxie or print her sexy derriere in 3D?;-)"Probably all three Using minixe Printing her bum And printing you bum too Could get a wall full if you all started quickly enough | |||
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"I'm crap at saying no in RL Thank you! I I actually do not particularly like saying no to people who have asked politely.
CoCo never know you to be anything but polite. Big difference between politeness and put upon Thank you, Nucs - I try to help when I can. Cant always, of course and sometimes that is upsetting for me as much as the other person. xx
My grandfather always said " to standby and do nothing when able is worst than to do something and get it wrong" I quite agree
So it is decided than you are going to be firm but polite and if they still do not get the answer minxie Will sort it Hell noooo - Minxie on her own might get me into trouble!
Sure she be fineShe is busy emulating other people's bottoms
Yes I am hoping for a 3D print of it soon to feel what I am not seeing
And by any chance do you have use of a 3D printer Might do... but cant say I have the use of one Minxie ...
CoCo you know you want too Use Minxie or print her sexy derriere in 3D?;-)
Probably all three
Using minixe
Printing her bum
And printing you bum too
Could get a wall full if you all started quickly enough "You d be starting a competition between Minxie and me on whose bum is bigger/ better etc... surely that would not be a good idea And just imagine what it would do to the printer | |||
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"I'm crap at saying no in RL Thank you! I I actually do not particularly like saying no to people who have asked politely.
CoCo never know you to be anything but polite. Big difference between politeness and put upon Thank you, Nucs - I try to help when I can. Cant always, of course and sometimes that is upsetting for me as much as the other person. xx
My grandfather always said " to standby and do nothing when able is worst than to do something and get it wrong" I quite agree
So it is decided than you are going to be firm but polite and if they still do not get the answer minxie Will sort it Hell noooo - Minxie on her own might get me into trouble!
Sure she be fineShe is busy emulating other people's bottoms
Yes I am hoping for a 3D print of it soon to feel what I am not seeing
And by any chance do you have use of a 3D printer Might do... but cant say I have the use of one Minxie ...
CoCo you know you want too Use Minxie or print her sexy derriere in 3D?;-)
Probably all three
Using minixe
Printing her bum
And printing you bum too
Could get a wall full if you all started quickly enough
You d be starting a competition between Minxie and me on whose bum is bigger/ better etc... surely that would not be a good idea And just imagine what it would do to the printer "It be fine now start taking those pics | |||
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"someone beat me to it. Be direct. It's rude to be polite. No with the truth is enough." I really like that way of thinking! | |||
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"I'm crap at saying no in RL Thank you! I I actually do not particularly like saying no to people who have asked politely.
CoCo never know you to be anything but polite. Big difference between politeness and put upon Thank you, Nucs - I try to help when I can. Cant always, of course and sometimes that is upsetting for me as much as the other person. xx
My grandfather always said " to standby and do nothing when able is worst than to do something and get it wrong" I quite agree
So it is decided than you are going to be firm but polite and if they still do not get the answer minxie Will sort it Hell noooo - Minxie on her own might get me into trouble!
Sure she be fineShe is busy emulating other people's bottoms
Yes I am hoping for a 3D print of it soon to feel what I am not seeing
And by any chance do you have use of a 3D printer Might do... but cant say I have the use of one Minxie ...
CoCo you know you want too Use Minxie or print her sexy derriere in 3D?;-)
Probably all three
Using minixe
Printing her bum
And printing you bum too
Could get a wall full if you all started quickly enough
You d be starting a competition between Minxie and me on whose bum is bigger/ better etc... surely that would not be a good idea And just imagine what it would do to the printer
It be fine now start taking those pics" | |||
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"I'm crap at saying no in RL Thank you! I I actually do not particularly like saying no to people who have asked politely.
CoCo never know you to be anything but polite. Big difference between politeness and put upon Thank you, Nucs - I try to help when I can. Cant always, of course and sometimes that is upsetting for me as much as the other person. xx
My grandfather always said " to standby and do nothing when able is worst than to do something and get it wrong" I quite agree
So it is decided than you are going to be firm but polite and if they still do not get the answer minxie Will sort it Hell noooo - Minxie on her own might get me into trouble!
Sure she be fineShe is busy emulating other people's bottoms
Yes I am hoping for a 3D print of it soon to feel what I am not seeing
And by any chance do you have use of a 3D printer Might do... but cant say I have the use of one Minxie ...
CoCo you know you want too Use Minxie or print her sexy derriere in 3D?;-)
Probably all three
Using minixe
Printing her bum
And printing you bum too
Could get a wall full if you all started quickly enough
You d be starting a competition between Minxie and me on whose bum is bigger/ better etc... surely that would not be a good idea And just imagine what it would do to the printer
It be fine now start taking those pics "If you can make it a 1:1 scale that would be great | |||
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"I mean, do you make excuses or tell people straight that you cannot/ dont want to do soemthing they have asked you to do? "Just tell them straight out. I would. You have to don't you. Ben | |||
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"I said "no" recently, realised afterwards that I was a bit abrupt but had discussed what he was trying to do and id already said id only done it once and wouldnt on a first meet." I think iin "that" context I would find it quite easy to say a firm "no", too. | |||
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"someone beat me to it. Be direct. It's rude to be polite. No with the truth is enough.I really like that way of thinking!
I've been out of the country too long. I am too dutch to be polite. "DO you think Dutch people are less polite? I am curious because some nationalities havea reputation for being one thing or another and then when you meet individual people you find that is not so? | |||
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"someone beat me to it. Be direct. It's rude to be polite. No with the truth is enough.I really like that way of thinking!
I've been out of the country too long. I am too dutch to be polite. DO you think Dutch people are less polite? I am curious because some nationalities havea reputation for being one thing or another and then when you meet individual people you find that is not so? "But here they do not form one queue. They will be direct and tell you the truth. They will move you out of the way if you were lingering in the supermarket. It is just a different culture and upbringing. At first I found it offensive because it is all new to me. Now I know the rules and find it polite actually to get straight to the point. Why mess about holding in your frustrations. | |||
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"someone beat me to it. Be direct. It's rude to be polite. No with the truth is enough.I really like that way of thinking!
I've been out of the country too long. I am too dutch to be polite. DO you think Dutch people are less polite? I am curious because some nationalities havea reputation for being one thing or another and then when you meet individual people you find that is not so?
But here they do not form one queue. They will be direct and tell you the truth. They will move you out of the way if you were lingering in the supermarket.
It is just a different culture and upbringing. At first I found it offensive because it is all new to me. Now I know the rules and find it polite actually to get straight to the point. Why mess about holding in your frustrations."Everyone I met here are nice and very friendly and welcoming. No complaints. | |||
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"I mean, do you make excuses or tell people straight that you cannot/ dont want to do soemthing they have asked you to do? "I've had people say it to me and I've said it to others; all done very nicely by both sides I hasten to add. Honesty is the best policy! | |||
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".....tuff titties "she says exposing her lovely ones to the forums | |||
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"someone beat me to it. Be direct. It's rude to be polite. No with the truth is enough.I really like that way of thinking!
I've been out of the country too long. I am too dutch to be polite. DO you think Dutch people are less polite? I am curious because some nationalities havea reputation for being one thing or another and then when you meet individual people you find that is not so?
But here they do not form one queue. They will be direct and tell you the truth. They will move you out of the way if you were lingering in the supermarket.
It is just a different culture and upbringing. At first I found it offensive because it is all new to me. Now I know the rules and find it polite actually to get straight to the point. Why mess about holding in your frustrations.
Everyone I met here are nice and very friendly and welcoming. No complaints."Sounds good and sounds like you are experiencing that way as a different way of communicating which works for you. | |||
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"I mean, do you make excuses or tell people straight that you cannot/ dont want to do soemthing they have asked you to do? "Straight and to the point! How else can it be said? | |||
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"I mean, do you make excuses or tell people straight that you cannot/ dont want to do soemthing they have asked you to do?
I've had people say it to me and I've said it to others; all done very nicely by both sides I hasten to add.
Honesty is the best policy!"I always felt that this is a good way to be. Does not stop me sometimes from feeling bad when I have to say no. | |||
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"I mean, do you make excuses or tell people straight that you cannot/ dont want to do soemthing they have asked you to do?
Straight and to the point! How else can it be said? "You are (like many people on here with similar views) absolutely right - but sometimes it is really quite difficult when you know a bit about the person's background and their circumstances. | |||
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"I mean, do you make excuses or tell people straight that you cannot/ dont want to do soemthing they have asked you to do?
Straight and to the point! How else can it be said? You are (like many people on here with similar views) absolutely right - but sometimes it is really quite difficult when you know a bit about the person's background and their circumstances."Yes, that is true but if you know about the person's background that infers you are friendly (are a friend) with them yes? and if you are a friend, you should always be honest and frank...tell your friends what you think because if you dont and someone else does....then you will no longer have a friend, you will have an acquaintance! and acquaintances do not last long in this world...friends do! I hope I am making sense my mentor | |||
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"I mean, do you make excuses or tell people straight that you cannot/ dont want to do soemthing they have asked you to do?
I've had people say it to me and I've said it to others; all done very nicely by both sides I hasten to add.
Honesty is the best policy!I always felt that this is a good way to be. Does not stop me sometimes from feeling bad when I have to say no. "Look at it this way; you're only human and saying something negative is always going to be painful for the recipient. But how else could you say it? Ramble on for ages before you get to the nitty gritty punchline? Yes, some people have said No to me in a downright rude way and it has pee'd me off big time in some cases! But, I get over it recognising their rudeness is their problem, not mine! if they couldn't accept rejection from me for any reason, that too, is their problem. Life is full of setbacks; it can never be "Yes" all the time! | |||
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"Just Say No... this is turning into grange hill..
Except of course that one was doing drugs at that time!!!!!
And it wasn't Ro-land.
To say 'no' I say 'no, sorry' and to any follow up I say 'no, sorry' again after carefully and actively listening. And to the classic follow up ' could you at least show some professional integrity and explain your reasons for your decision?' I reply 'No, sorry'.Broken record method, eh? Sounds cool but still would probably cause offense unforuntately.
Offensive is the inability to accept that no is no and I don't need to give reasons. People could be more socially aware and take no for an answer, after all, I wouldn't have said no if I meant maybe or yes. I mostly say yes Well put! "A thought. If this is in a work context, there is always the sexual harassment clause. If no doesn't seem to work, you may want to be a little more forceful and say that if he/she continues you will have no option but to report it to your management as sexual harassment. In a lot of companies that can be very career limiting. | |||
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