FabSwingers.com forum: May Mental Health Check in

By *tanners OP Man
7 days ago

stanley

Not gonna lie, it’s been a struggle for me recently for a number of reasons.

But how about you, how are you on a scale of 1 to 10 ( 10 being all good)

What are your coping strategies? How are they working?

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By *actile TensionMan
7 days ago

Sussex

I float around 5 usually.

As for coping, I kinda just focus on the important stuff like food water family work. Everything else resets daily

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By *lowupdollTV/TS
7 days ago

Herts/Leeds

Sorry to hear that, Stanners; I hope you are giving yourself the self care you need.

I’ve been suspiciously ok lately, which makes me wonder why? I had to get ruthless with situations which were severely impacting me quite recently though, so taking those actions probably helped.

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By *tanners OP Man
7 days ago

stanley

"I float around 5 usually.

As for coping, I kinda just focus on the important stuff like food water family work. Everything else resets daily"

Solid plan Hope you can get closer to 10

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By *tanners OP Man
7 days ago

stanley

"Sorry to hear that, Stanners; I hope you are giving yourself the self care you need.

I’ve been suspiciously ok lately, which makes me wonder why? I had to get ruthless with situations which were severely impacting me quite recently though, so taking those actions probably helped.

Sounds like you took control which is both brave and scary, good for you. Hope all stays well for a long time 😁

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By *iz..Woman
7 days ago

Somewhere Over The Rainbow..

6 is the norm for me.. thats me happy lol

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By *tanners OP Man
7 days ago

stanley

"6 is the norm for me.. thats me happy lol"

Glad you’re doing ok. How could you be even better to yourself to get it to a 7 or 8?

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By *peedyGMan
7 days ago

Telford

Sorry you are going through a crap time pal... similar here tbh, had a crap few weeks myself.

I'm around a 3/4 currently, usually put some music on, go walking to clear head and working out.

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By *tanners OP Man
7 days ago

stanley

"Sorry you are going through a crap time pal... similar here tbh, had a crap few weeks myself.

I'm around a 3/4 currently, usually put some music on, go walking to clear head and working out. "

Thanks for being part of my support network mate. I hope you can find your way back to better soon

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By *peedyGMan
7 days ago

Telford

"Sorry you are going through a crap time pal... similar here tbh, had a crap few weeks myself.

I'm around a 3/4 currently, usually put some music on, go walking to clear head and working out.

Thanks for being part of my support network mate. I hope you can find your way back to better soon "

Thank you, always here pal you know that

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By *iz..Woman
7 days ago

Somewhere Over The Rainbow..

"6 is the norm for me.. thats me happy lol

Glad you’re doing ok. How could you be even better to yourself to get it to a 7 or 8?"

I have no idea.. I just put a fake smile on and exist. It's great lol.

Winning the lottery could help.

I hope you find someone to talk to.. MEN NEEDS TO REACH OUT! I stress this genuinely ❤️

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By *ackJones82Man
7 days ago

ST. AUSTELL

I could be anywhere between a 2-7 most of the time depending on the day. I have spent a lot of time probably in the minus numbers so that is a big improvement.

I have been undergoing therapy which is helping. One of the mantras I have been taught is to approach your feelings from the poibt of view of "curiosity with kindness". Essentially, when you are feeling low try and take a step bavk to think about why you are feeling low and question your thoughts to identify potential patterns. This is always done from the view of being kind to yourself.

There are loads of other thubgs, such as Transactional Analysis which is worth a Google if anyone wants to start analysing their thought patterns.

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By *earditallWoman
7 days ago

Lancaster

Sorrry to hear you're feeling a bit crappy. 😘

Last week was a pretty low week for me but I just tried to keep busy,the one day that gets me every year I didnt really move from my bed much all day.

This week is a bit better and I would say I'm ok.

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By *hamallamadingdongMan
7 days ago

London

On a 6 at the moment. Just cruising while sorting things out. Getting a routine down and hopefully will improve certain aspects of my work life.

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By *tanners OP Man
7 days ago

stanley

"I could be anywhere between a 2-7 most of the time depending on the day. I have spent a lot of time probably in the minus numbers so that is a big improvement.

There are loads of other thubgs, such as Transactional Analysis which is worth a Google if anyone wants to start analysing their thought patterns."

Thank you for sharing this

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By *hickthighs26Woman
7 days ago

funky town

Oh _tanners ❤️ only ever an inbox away

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By *tanners OP Man
7 days ago

stanley

"Sorrry to hear you're feeling a bit crappy. 😘

Last week was a pretty low week for me but I just tried to keep busy,the one day that gets me every year I didnt really move from my bed much all day.

This week is a bit better and I would say I'm ok.

Hope you stay in that better place for a long time.

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By *tanners OP Man
7 days ago

stanley

"On a 6 at the moment. Just cruising while sorting things out. Getting a routine down and hopefully will improve certain aspects of my work life."

Gotta find that balance . Good luck

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By *tanners OP Man
7 days ago

stanley

"Oh _tanners ❤️ only ever an inbox away "

Ty 😘

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By *inkShyWoman
7 days ago

near Windsor

Sorry to hear you are feeling rubbish. Would a Stottie help?

I'm usually a 5 or 6, lately I'm most likely a 2 or 3. There isn't anything I can do to fix it so I stress, cry, bury my head in the sand for a while💚

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By *tanners OP Man
7 days ago

stanley

"Sorry to hear you are feeling rubbish. Would a Stottie help?

I'm usually a 5 or 6, lately I'm most likely a 2 or 3. There isn't anything I can do to fix it so I stress, cry, bury my head in the sand for a while💚"

Maybe a mutual stottie would help us both 😁

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By *inkShyWoman
7 days ago

near Windsor

"Sorry to hear you are feeling rubbish. Would a Stottie help?

I'm usually a 5 or 6, lately I'm most likely a 2 or 3. There isn't anything I can do to fix it so I stress, cry, bury my head in the sand for a while💚

Maybe a mutual stottie would help us both 😁"

We could eat it Lady and the Tramp style 🫢 do you want to be the lady or the tramp?

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By *emptme1993Man
7 days ago

manchester

Hope whatever is getting you down is soon a distant memory and you can look back at it and be proud that you’ve got through it and you’re stronger for it. I’m not one of those who say ‘everything happens for a reason’ cos there’s some proper shit things people go through and they’re never for a reason, but I think a lot of people when they’re through the storm look back at who they were then and who they are now.

And I also hope I’ve not said something that’s insensitive to your situation, I have a habit of doing things like that without realising 🤦‍♂️

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By *ackJones82Man
7 days ago

ST. AUSTELL

"I could be anywhere between a 2-7 most of the time depending on the day. I have spent a lot of time probably in the minus numbers so that is a big improvement.

There are loads of other thubgs, such as Transactional Analysis which is worth a Google if anyone wants to start analysing their thought patterns.

Thank you for sharing this "

You're more than welcome

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By *ackJones82Man
7 days ago

ST. AUSTELL

"Sorry to hear you are feeling rubbish. Would a Stottie help?

I'm usually a 5 or 6, lately I'm most likely a 2 or 3. There isn't anything I can do to fix it so I stress, cry, bury my head in the sand for a while💚"

Stressing about thibns you cannot control only serves to take away joy from tomorrow.

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By *awtybikerMan
7 days ago

Barnoldswick

I’d say about a 7-8 at the moment, I did have a dip over the weekend, where I felt like I just wasn't bothered about anything.

Some messages off a couple of friends on and off here have helped though.

If anyone ever wants to chat about anything that might help, my inbox is open

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By *hisIsMe58Man
7 days ago

Winchester

Sorry to hear you're feeling that way _tanners, it's not a nice place to be in. This last week I've been hitting 1. Every waking moment is a struggle, but the thought of my kids keeps me going.

I do have a good support network and I do know life will improve. So hang in there and lean on those who can support you.

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By *inkShyWoman
7 days ago

near Windsor

"Sorry to hear you are feeling rubbish. Would a Stottie help?

I'm usually a 5 or 6, lately I'm most likely a 2 or 3. There isn't anything I can do to fix it so I stress, cry, bury my head in the sand for a while💚

Stressing about thibns you cannot control only serves to take away joy from tomorrow."

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By *tanners OP Man
7 days ago

stanley

"Sorry to hear you are feeling rubbish. Would a Stottie help?

I'm usually a 5 or 6, lately I'm most likely a 2 or 3. There isn't anything I can do to fix it so I stress, cry, bury my head in the sand for a while💚

Maybe a mutual stottie would help us both 😁

We could eat it Lady and the Tramp style 🫢 do you want to be the lady or the tramp?"

I am a scruffy sod so defo the tramp 😂

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By *tanners OP Man
7 days ago

stanley

"Sorry to hear you're feeling that way _tanners, it's not a nice place to be in. This last week I've been hitting 1. Every waking moment is a struggle, but the thought of my kids keeps me going.

I do have a good support network and I do know life will improve. So hang in there and lean on those who can support you."

Sorry to hear this, hope each day is a step in the right direction for you

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By *hisIsMe58Man
7 days ago

Winchester

Thanks _tanners

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By *tanners OP Man
7 days ago

stanley

"Hope whatever is getting you down is soon a distant memory and you can look back at it and be proud that you’ve got through it and you’re stronger for it. I’m not one of those who say ‘everything happens for a reason’ cos there’s some proper shit things people go through and they’re never for a reason, but I think a lot of people when they’re through the storm look back at who they were then and who they are now.

And I also hope I’ve not said something that’s insensitive to your situation, I have a habit of doing things like that without realising 🤦‍♂️"

Thank you for this, received as intended, nothing insensitive said at all 😁

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By *elloIntrigueMan
7 days ago

North West UK

Hopping beween a 4 and 7, it was wilder than that until recently. Am awaiting talking therapy and have taken to of all things writing a bit of poetry to get the thpughts out. That has particularly helped. Ive written 3 now.

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By *tanners OP Man
7 days ago

stanley

"I’d say about a 7-8 at the moment, I did have a dip over the weekend, where I felt like I just wasn't bothered about anything.

Some messages off a couple of friends on and off here have helped though.

If anyone ever wants to chat about anything that might help, my inbox is open"

Yeah support networks are important for sure and sometimes the smallest thought or kindness can be the catalyst for better.

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By *ackJones82Man
7 days ago

ST. AUSTELL

"Hopping beween a 4 and 7, it was wilder than that until recently. Am awaiting talking therapy and have taken to of all things writing a bit of poetry to get the thpughts out. That has particularly helped. Ive written 3 now."

I have been doing CBT which has been brilliant for me. Hopefully you get an appointment soon

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By *inkShyWoman
7 days ago

near Windsor

"Sorry to hear you are feeling rubbish. Would a Stottie help?

I'm usually a 5 or 6, lately I'm most likely a 2 or 3. There isn't anything I can do to fix it so I stress, cry, bury my head in the sand for a while💚

Maybe a mutual stottie would help us both 😁

We could eat it Lady and the Tramp style 🫢 do you want to be the lady or the tramp?

I am a scruffy sod so defo the tramp 😂"

It's been a day, I can take that crown (or collar?) Trust me 🤣

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By *elloIntrigueMan
7 days ago

North West UK

I have been doing CBT which has been brilliant for me. Hopefully you get an appointment soon

Thank you. I feel that I have made some tremendous progress recently. I've also dropped a day at work, starting this week and I feel better for it. It's still early days but i can see the journey I am on and the poems have got lighter in tone.

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By *umfun24Man
7 days ago

wilmslow

Life can feel tough. I live alone and work from home. It can feel isolated. I’m not looking for sympathy. We reap what we sow, and my mechanism is to literally list the good stuff that I have that so many people don’t. Physically safe, physically comfortable, not hungry, not in severe or chronic pain, not living in fear. All of these things are common in this country and absolutely the norm for many people in the world.

It doesn’t fix the things that cause us upset, and not to brush them off or belittle anyone’s troubles, but I think it does us good to count our blessings.

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By *ookie46Woman
7 days ago

Deepest darkest Peru

April ended pretty well so I rolled into May on a strong 9!

I’ve hosted my London social which was a success so on that level I hit a 10.

Health wise things haven’t been easy. The pain and fatigue has been awful and I’ve finally admitted defeat and waiting assessment for some aids to be fitted at home

I have another big scan this month so that’s already playing on my mind

But I have lots to keep my mind busy and to look forward too so I don’t get lost in my own thoughts and lots of good people in my life who support me day in and day out

Oh and I’m off to Portugal in 17 days so I’m hoping May ends as well as it started

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By *ampireLoveMan
7 days ago

Essex

Really sorry to hear you’ve been struggling OP. Are you employing any coping mechanisms at all? Always happy to chat if ever you need to with someone.

I don’t know what my score would be but feel I’m progressively getting back to how I used to be and enjoyed being. Have had some difficult years which put me in a dark place, but feel I’m getting out of it.

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By *eauNaturelMan
7 days ago

Malmesbury

I'm a solid 10, I'm fortunate to be able to maintain a good work life balance, meaning that I don't get stressed out by work therefore, I'm more able to deal with any other stresses that I'm faced with.

As for coping mechanisms, I have a shed, a motorbike and a bicycle; using anyone of these things keeps me happy and content.

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By *ot_Rod43Man
7 days ago

newcastle upon tyne

Last week was about a 3 but upto about a 6 now. Just trying not to think about much and get on with life

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By *parkle1974Woman
7 days ago

Leeds

2...

This time of the month hits really hard and with others major factors, it's been a hard struggle x

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By *idssissyTV/TS
7 days ago

Nr cricket ground birm

From the outside people would see me as a 7 or 8,out and about, doing things, friends to meet

Inside it's a 3 as all those things are just temporary and while nice don't touch the real issue of what's the point and who would miss me, apart from couple of close friends and family

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By *mithy63Man
7 days ago

Ipswich

"Not gonna lie, it’s been a struggle for me recently for a number of reasons.

But how about you, how are you on a scale of 1 to 10 ( 10 being all good)

What are your coping strategies? How are they working?"
I'm mostly an 8, absolutely glad to still be on the planet. I have leukaemia which can't be fixed, mostly daily life isn't affected but it did have one big hissy fit last year which nearly turned my lights off. Relax, be happy and don't worry about stuff that doesn't really matter.

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By *issBellaWoman
6 days ago

Flintshire

Sorry to hear you're struggling OP. My inbox is open 😘 sending hugs to you and anyone else that could do wkth some.

I've been residing around a 3 ober recent weeks / months but I have felt a shift this past week and feeling more like a 4 or 5.

Be kind and patient with yourself, you'll get there ❤️

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By *rWolf619Man
6 days ago

Derbyshire

I would say I'm at a 7 but it has been dipping and rising a lot. Looking to get back into club socials after a fairly long break but it'll all depend on the mindset on the night at this point.

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By *elloIntrigueMan
2 days ago

North West UK

My week ended on a 6

Monday was a 9

Tuesday 6

Wednesday 4

Thursday 4

Friday 6

Yesterday ended on a 7

Today I feel good again so would say 9!

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By *ancman44Man
2 days ago

Manchester

Everyone as ups and downs be at AMC tomorrow. Felt very down with a family member yesterday so went for a run to clear my head go back and had a chat and sorted out the argument which caused me feeling down.

Happy to chat with anyone feeling down and just wants to chat

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By *orphia2003Woman
2 days ago

Tonypandy.

Been up and down, but no better or worse than usual.

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By *oxy-RedWoman
2 days ago

pink panther territory

Sorry to hear that op,I'm floating between a 7&8,the loss of my Grandaughter, the anniversary of my partners death and health problems have all taking there till,I hide behind humour it's my coping mechanism it's really helps,though if I feel I need help then I do go to my Gp

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By *ad4ladys1973Man
2 days ago

Southport

Sorry to hear your troubles…life is tough but you can get through it on the rollercoaster journey!

Here’s my story…

Divorced over a year now and living on my own was a struggle at first…also lost my job and car so things were pretty dark but someone randomly past me a note one day while I was just sitting in town here…it simply read “The story ends well”

Jeez that hit home… I still have the note on my table at my one bed flat I am still in even though I hoped it would be only a temp 13 months ago!

I have walked locally every day bar a couple in those 15 months sometimes only an hour, sometimes 2 or 3… again someone recommended me do it plus get some wireless headphones so I did and have…listen to music, audiobooks, podcasts, or just the radio and you don’t realise how far you walked! Although my feet do!! Thanks to an angel off fab I was able to get new walking trainers and has helped me do more steps! anyway, it has been a huge help for my mental health as well as physical with all the walking…

Just need that job now, then car or a small van and then get a better flat and place to live etc

No matter what…keep going, don’t dwell or hide away, get out and about even when the weather is bad - keep yer head up and remember “the story ends well!”

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By *linyMan
2 days ago

Manchester/London

Currently I’m about a 6 but have been lower in recent times. There is a website called The Hub of Hope which I use for helping others as a MHFA. You can find specific help for whatever your needs in your local area. It’s free to use, you don’t have to register so if you feel you need help or someone to talk to then please do use it. Remember you are not alone!

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By *WB85Man
2 days ago

Staffordshire

My coping strategy is walking. If I'm walking I'm resetting my mindset.

I'm a 7 right now as a few things are stuck on my mind.

Taking myself away for a couple of week soon though and I'm looking forward to it.

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By *elloIntrigueMan
1 day ago

North West UK

Looking to have a walk today... I was considering Crosby beach but am thinking more lytham st annes or blackpool, somewhere by the sea

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By *sWyldWoman
1 day ago

Edinburgh

I'm ok , just so tired which means I'm also a bit emotional. I'll be fine though.

Thinking of everyone struggling, just remember you've got through every bad day you've ever had.. 💙

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By *elloIntrigueMan
1 day ago

North West UK

"I'm ok , just so tired which means I'm also a bit emotional. I'll be fine though.

Thinking of everyone struggling, just remember you've got through every bad day you've ever had.. 💙 "

So true MsWyld, I had a couple of sensitive days last week where i felt really emotional. Its the second week of my reduced hours at work so I feel that will help.

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By *elloIntrigueMan
14 hours ago

North West UK

Long walk done today - feeling happy

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By *upra1Man
12 hours ago

essex area

Im possibly a 2 at the moment. Have a lot of family stress going on that involves lots of my time. So my own time is very very limited. I go out on my motorbike when i can. But just lately thats not as much as ide like.

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By *lrightthenMan
12 hours ago

Bradford

Even though my neighbours blast music constantly and I'm so very tired constantly, like if it isn't one it's the other, I'm starting to feel better and more motivated to get out of shit hole Bradford. I just need to think of something that will earn me the money so that I can move somewhere peaceful

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By *lirtyFilthWoman
12 hours ago

Troublesville

I have so much crap going on in my life. Some of which is out of my control. However, I try to not let it bother me, I refuse to let (him) win. I’m strong. I’m a survivor. I’m there for others. I’m no saint trust me in that but I believe I’m lucky to have what I do.

My way of staying strong is to help others. To listen. I’m not wise and I don’t have all the answers but I can listen.

I have a heart that has endless love for those that matter.

Stay strong Stanners. It’s like they say ‘It can’t rain all the time’ xx

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By *idssissyTV/TS
11 hours ago

Nr cricket ground birm

I think people are tired of me saying what's going on and how am feeling and don't take it seriously anyway

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