FabSwingers.com forum: being too nice

By *ichaelsmy OP Man
1 day ago

douglas

i have just been turned down for a meeting for being too nice to someone.

what is the strangest reason that you have been given on here. or the one that didnt make any sense too you?

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By *evilinyouMan
1 day ago

Bristol

I had a message earlier saying hi handsome.

I messaged back

Then they messaged back saying I'm not there type, that made me laugh

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By *ichaelsmy OP Man
1 day ago

douglas

lol even though they messaged you first

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By *evilinyouMan
1 day ago

Bristol

Yeah, fabs a strange place at time 🤷

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By *urve_your_enthusiasmWoman
1 day ago

Manchester

I had arranged to meet someone in a club. He arrived quite late, saw me, said hi and then said he was going for a fag. I never saw him again. I messaged him to ask what happened and he said he had to leave, he felt overwhelmed. There was 0 pressure of doing anything.

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By *ichaelsmy OP Man
1 day ago

douglas

i have to say that it has taken me aback being told "too nice"

i mean what am i supposed to be like ? ? ?

oh well i will just be me

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By *ertsman46Man
1 day ago

Hertfordshire

I have had the you are to nice understand if you are not someone’s type

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By *hinstrapMan
1 day ago

sheffield

There is always something haha. Too nice. Too short. Too old. Too available. Too anything.

I'm waiting for too male or too alive

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By *ichaelsmy OP Man
1 day ago

douglas

"There is always something haha. Too nice. Too short. Too old. Too available. Too anything.

I'm waiting for too male or too alive

dont give them any ideas lol

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By *cotslass2Woman
1 day ago

Edinburgh

I've been told im not their type, but never why

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By *ydaz70Man
1 day ago

Rotherham /newquay

Few yrs ago when I was actively looking for a meet a couple came on asking if any guy fancied a social see how it goes only stipulation was must be local no more than 15 mins I was about 5 miles away sent a message reply came back read the post must be local then blocked I did chuckle.

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By *kphooey43Man
1 day ago

Barnet

"I had arranged to meet someone in a club. He arrived quite late, saw me, said hi and then said he was going for a fag. I never saw him again. I messaged him to ask what happened and he said he had to leave, he felt overwhelmed. There was 0 pressure of doing anything. "

That is where you went wrong, you should have handcuffed him to a chair straight away!

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By *ichaelsmy OP Man
1 day ago

douglas

"I've been told im not their type, but never why "

we had a couple of messages back forth as you do. i didnt ask anything, just got the message that i was "too nice"

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
1 day ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

I've been told my boobs are too big on a few occasions.

Also, a guy who was coming on to me in a vanilla bar didn't realise I was Trans and apologised when he did and said he didn't go that way - I found it hard to believe that in decent enough light he hadn't twigged, either, but he was a gent about it

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By *og and MuseCouple
1 day ago

Dubai & Nottingham

There are no strange reasons, if somebody doesn’t wanna meet you they don’t need to tell you why but if they do and you don’t understand that that’s your issue. This is why it’s best just to say no.

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By *hinstrapMan
1 day ago

sheffield

"There is always something haha. Too nice. Too short. Too old. Too available. Too anything.

I'm waiting for too male or too alive

dont give them any ideas lol"

Whoops sorry

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By *ShyButNotShyCouple
1 day ago

Stoke-on-trent

Fella said he had to drop his wifes friends wardrobe off to her so couldn't meet.

Or another...we have a dog 🤣

Belters

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By *007ManMan
1 day ago

Worthing

Just say you are an ex bank robber op or gangland boss. They like drama.

Turned down after social (not here on dating app) due to lack of "sexual tension" whatever that is!

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By *ichaelsmy OP Man
1 day ago

douglas

i just thought it was a funny thing to say

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By *evilinyouMan
24 hours ago

Bristol

To be fair you are stunning, he well could have been overwhelmed by your beauty 😉

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By *londebiguyMan
24 hours ago

Southport

"i have just been turned down for a meeting for being too nice to someone.

what is the strangest reason that you have been given on here. or the one that didnt make any sense too you?"

I've had similar to that.

Apparently,I'm very polite

I thought that was a good trait!

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By *ilbzMan
24 hours ago

Swindon Wiltshire

I have had this, i am too nice to be on fab or i am too nice.

On the flip side i have also been told i am trouble and a dark horse, obviously i said neigh to that one

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By *lemFandango23TV/TS
24 hours ago

Clarkston

Not had strange knock back but I have had the odd couple of messages telling me to take a look at myself and saying how bad I looked, just blocked them moved on

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By *ulieScrumptiousWoman
24 hours ago

North West

Too nice isn’t a thing. It’s usually a kinder way of saying that someone isn’t for them. Or that a person doesn’t seem to have their own opinions or boundaries.

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By *abulincsCouple
24 hours ago

pe129 area

We just usually make arrangements then get ghosted lol

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By *inkShyWoman
24 hours ago

near Windsor

For being too fat when my photos are public, they messaged me and they said they like BBW 🤷🏼‍♀️

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By *for77Man
24 hours ago

Adlington

Absolutely don’t get that. Firstly, I don’t smoke so no excuse to go anywhere. Secondly, you’re stunning so why would I go anywhere! I think you would be the one doing a runner as I have a recently grown beard!!! Ha ha!!

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By *obilebottomMan
24 hours ago

All over

Not available right now, this minute

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By *for77Man
24 hours ago

Adlington

"We just usually make arrangements then get ghosted lol"

Had that for the first time last week. I was talking to a woman. Lots of flirty talk, face pics exchanged, naughty vids exchanged. All good to meet and on the day, ghosted. Nowt as queer as folk!!

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By *for77Man
24 hours ago

Adlington

"For being too fat when my photos are public, they messaged me and they said they like BBW 🤷🏼‍♀️"

I wouldn’t even look at you as big, let alone fat. Just beautifully curvy. Their loss, not yours. C

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By *for77Man
24 hours ago

Adlington

It’s been a strange couple of weeks on here lately. My wife and I have been swinging for over 20 years. We’re the most relaxed people you will ever meet but the egos lately have been ridiculous. Even when we had a couples profile, couples seem to be the worst. Single guys have been the nicest closely followed by single ladies. Don’t get me wrong, not everyone is for everyone but it doesn’t hurt to be nice and manners cost nothing. Obviously, not every experience is the same for everyone. Everyone has the potential to be a cock but we try and treat other as we expect to be treated. I think we’ll stick to clubs now so at least you can see people’s personalities and attitudes.

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By *ichaelsmy OP Man
24 hours ago

douglas

"We just usually make arrangements then get ghosted lol"

ghosting might be the worst thing. atleast have the gumption to say, not for us,thanks

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By *ot_Rod43Man
24 hours ago

newcastle upon tyne

I got a wink before. Messaged them and sent a face pic and I got a reply back saying I look like a relative ha

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By *hickthighs26Woman
24 hours ago

your hotlist

Ive been told my hair is too black. Like morticia and he was scared of morticia

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By *ustus5555Woman
24 hours ago

Nottingham

I've had . " I think you might be to much for me "

🤷

Hey ho.

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By *earditallWoman
24 hours ago

Lancaster

His goldfish wouldn't approve as I'm a tropical fan

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By *evilinyouMan
24 hours ago

Bristol

"Ive been told my hair is too black. Like morticia and he was scared of morticia"

Morticia is the gold standard

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By *ichaelsmy OP Man
24 hours ago

douglas

most of the replies to the question just make me laugh

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By *for77Man
23 hours ago

Adlington

"His goldfish wouldn't approve as I'm a tropical fan"

Seriously????

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By *ichaelsmy OP Man
23 hours ago

douglas

different types of water etc

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By *um n raisinWoman
23 hours ago

taunton

i do understand the too nice message some men are so sickly over the top with creepy false flattery .. instant block for me

however a normal bice guy is what i look for as long as attraction is there then normal nice should be the norm...we know a lot who dont like too nice the creep type..

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By *lack King DomMan
23 hours ago

London

"There are no strange reasons, if somebody doesn’t wanna meet you they don’t need to tell you why but if they do and you don’t understand that that’s your issue. This is why it’s best just to say no."

What's the point of fabswingers if there's insufficient communication & nobody meets each other

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By *agicandMinxCouple
22 hours ago

Newquay

Turned up for a meet in our hotel, I was dressed to impress in a classy just above the knee dress, black patent stilettos and black stockings (obviously not on show that they were stockings) hubby was smartly dressed open neck shirt smart trousers shiny shoes - couple turned up he was wearing jeans and polo and she had on yellow m&s crop trousers and a white tshirt - we were meeting for a play date. They turned us down - apparently I was too tarty.

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By *rightonsteveMan
22 hours ago

Brighton - even Hove!

What's the point of fabswingers if there's insufficient communication & nobody meets each other "

Experience from ladies and couples tells them that when they say ‘no’ men invariably ask ‘why’ and then change things to try and fit in or simply get abusive. It’s easier to say No then block. If men had more emotional intelligence and better social skills then they would stand a better chance of a ‘yes’ to begin with.

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By *eroLondonMan
19 hours ago

Mayfair

"I have just been turned down for a meeting for being too nice to someone."

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Ah, you didn't get the memo, dear fellow. Nice is just banal and insipid. What the women are really looking for on here is a cad, a bounder, a lothario, an unscrupulous swine, someone with a nefarious disposition.

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By *ordermanreturnsMan
19 hours ago

Llangollen

"There is always something haha. Too nice. Too short. Too old. Too available. Too anything.

I'm waiting for too male or too alive

You forgot too small for size quuens

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By *ordermanreturnsMan
19 hours ago

Llangollen

"I have just been turned down for a meeting for being too nice to someone.

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Terry Thomas would have had a ball on here

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By *etterdays2021Man
17 hours ago

PETERBOROUGH

Being to nice on this site it will chew you up and spit it ou.. like a normal Monday

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By *hamallamadingdongMan
9 hours ago

London

Breathing too much.

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By *enrietteandSamCouple
9 hours ago

Brum

Turned down…

No idea, if it ever happens I’ll pop back and post here.

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By *gent CoulsonMan
9 hours ago

Secret hideaway in the pennines

I got a first message from someone I have never spoken to saying I was too kinky and got blocked.

There are some strange people here

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By *onny PetersonMan
8 hours ago

Harrogate

I was contacted by a couple who seemed keen & liked my pictures. Had a decent chat then suddenly a message saying "you are clearly anti-drugs so we think you'll be too boring for us to bother"

I can live without junkies in my life but reading the profile before messaging me would have saved everyone's time.

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By *kphooey43Man
8 hours ago

Barnet

"Ive been told my hair is too black. Like morticia and he was scared of morticia"

Quite reasonable to be scared of Morticia! I wonder what such a phobia is called?

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By *hickthighs26Woman
8 hours ago

your hotlist

"Ive been told my hair is too black. Like morticia and he was scared of morticia

Quite reasonable to be scared of Morticia! I wonder what such a phobia is called?"

🥲

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By *arzanandJane2016Couple
8 hours ago

the big city

Not so much nice but we arranged a meet with a couple sent pics booked tickets we hadn’t seen them they were a cuck couple but you could tell from the pics they were attractive.

Club night comes she saw us downed a drink and went upstairs messaged us (no phones in the club policy comes in here) then didn’t understand why we didn’t go to their room?

Is it the thrill of the chase for some or do they just genuinely believe they are in the LS until it comes to the crunch.

Even with that meet nothing was guaranteed as we may not of clicked but why do people do it

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
8 hours ago

East Sussex

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
8 hours ago

East Sussex

"Ive been told my hair is too black. Like morticia and he was scared of morticia

Quite reasonable to be scared of Morticia! I wonder what such a phobia is called?"

Scaryhairyphobia

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By *actile TensionMan
8 hours ago

Sussex

"Ive been told my hair is too black. Like morticia and he was scared of morticia

Quite reasonable to be scared of Morticia! I wonder what such a phobia is called?

Scaryhairyphobia"

😂

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By *enuine_J87Man
8 hours ago

Eastleigh

I used to get the ‘too nice/mr nice guy’ thing in my teens and early 20’s and I used to complain about it a lot. Always wondering why women would say is “all I want is a nice honest guy” but then turn me down for those exact reasons.

The reality is most of the time, there was no attraction to me, didn’t like my personality, not confident enough… there were a dozen real reasons.

The too nice is often just an excuse, it’s easier to say than you are not attractive at all.

Once you have conversations with women and realise the truth behind it you can kind of move on, you just aren’t their type, it happens. Then you stop feeling bitter about it and you can let it go.

P.S If someone turns you down politely, don’t ever go on a rant saying but why, why though, what’s wrong with me?! Everyone hates it when someone does that

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By *kphooey43Man
8 hours ago

Barnet

"Ive been told my hair is too black. Like morticia and he was scared of morticia

Quite reasonable to be scared of Morticia! I wonder what such a phobia is called?

Scaryhairyphobia"

Brilliant, thank you. Now I shall wait for Nero to inform us that is is melanophobia trichophobia

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By *icecouple561Couple
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7 hours ago

East Sussex

"Ive been told my hair is too black. Like morticia and he was scared of morticia

Quite reasonable to be scared of Morticia! I wonder what such a phobia is called?

Scaryhairyphobia

Brilliant, thank you. Now I shall wait for Nero to inform us that is is melanophobia trichophobia

I know it looks as if I made that word up but it is in the Oxford dictionary of phobias directly under madeupwordaphobia 😝 and followed by gulliblaphobia

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By *heElvingtonTwoCouple
7 hours ago

elvington

Nah most people just ghost us or are so desperate to fuck A they’ll say anything

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By *WB85Man
7 hours ago

Staffordshire

Too nice to some may appear fake....like telling them what they want to hear.

Its a difficult one isn't it.

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By *ambamxxxMan
7 hours ago

Daventry

Iv come to a stage I have no idea on what you’re supposed to say or do?

I read a profile, if I see some similarities I send a Personel message - not chatGPT of copy paste! I’m not arrogant to think I’m undesirable, but out of 100’s over the past year or so, Iv not had one meeting!

But if I go to a club, and I connect with either a female or couple then we play.

Again I’m not suggesting everyone at clubs play, I don’t go with the pretext of playing - if it happens then great, if not then no problem. But trying to connect with a female or couple on fab is simply 1m-1 chance!

Amazes me when you see couples complain of no meets, no shows I find it bizarre that if they had spoken to a male, that they would be let down? Because it’s so difficult…maybe the males photos and profile is irresistible?

Back to the grind….;)

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By *r_MrsLCouple
7 hours ago

Leeds

Yeah, this. Just odd behaviour!

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By *r_MrsLCouple
7 hours ago

Leeds

"Ive been told my hair is too black. Like morticia and he was scared of morticia

Quite reasonable to be scared of Morticia! I wonder what such a phobia is called?

🥲"

That’s *so* specific, TT…! Wow

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By *oeBeansMan
7 hours ago

Derby

I've been told that I look too innocent when I shared a face pic. Like I wouldn't be filthy enough which seemed an odd one to me because it made me wonder what type of face that would fit 🤔

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By *oyoteUglyWoman
7 hours ago

Somewhere dark and gloomy

Turned down? What a strange concept....

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By * L RipleyWoman
7 hours ago

Buckinghamshire

"I've been told that I look too innocent when I shared a face pic. Like I wouldn't be filthy enough which seemed an odd one to me because it made me wonder what type of face that would fit 🤔"

Innocent? You?!

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By *a LunaWoman
6 hours ago

Wales

I think folk are over thinking it and taking their responses literally. What they were (politely) trying to say but without saying it, is that you were not for them.

How can I let this person down gently? I know, I’ll say they are too…..kind/polite/attractive/look like my dad/uncle/sister/brother.

It’s a gentle let down. Not a personality analysis.

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By *oeBeansMan
6 hours ago

Derby

"I've been told that I look too innocent when I shared a face pic. Like I wouldn't be filthy enough which seemed an odd one to me because it made me wonder what type of face that would fit 🤔

Innocent? You?! "

I know right? I've had sex before, and it was great!

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By *hamallamadingdongMan
6 hours ago

London

"I've been told that I look too innocent when I shared a face pic. Like I wouldn't be filthy enough which seemed an odd one to me because it made me wonder what type of face that would fit 🤔

Innocent? You?!

I know right? I've had sex before, and it was great!"

That's weird. Some of the most innocent looking people I've met (work/social events, not just meets) have been the filthiest. Men and women. They missed out on the JB experience.

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By *oeBeansMan
6 hours ago

Derby

"I've been told that I look too innocent when I shared a face pic. Like I wouldn't be filthy enough which seemed an odd one to me because it made me wonder what type of face that would fit 🤔

Innocent? You?!

I know right? I've had sex before, and it was great!

That's weird. Some of the most innocent looking people I've met (work/social events, not just meets) have been the filthiest. Men and women. They missed out on the JB experience."

Yeah, I mean, I do get to an extent but I never thought of how someone looks would be a reflection of how they are in the bedroom

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By *icecouple561Couple
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6 hours ago

East Sussex

"I've been told that I look too innocent when I shared a face pic. Like I wouldn't be filthy enough which seemed an odd one to me because it made me wonder what type of face that would fit 🤔

Innocent? You?!

I know right? I've had sex before, and it was great!

That's weird. Some of the most innocent looking people I've met (work/social events, not just meets) have been the filthiest. Men and women. They missed out on the JB experience.

Yeah, I mean, I do get to an extent but I never thought of how someone looks would be a reflection of how they are in the bedroom"

Loads of people assume a lot about how I will be in the bedroom from how I look and to an extent how I dress

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By *carlettsWoman
6 hours ago

Harpenden

"I had a message earlier saying hi handsome.

I messaged back

Then they messaged back saying I'm not there type, that made me laugh "

Haha was it a couple's profile either that or split personality perhaps?

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By *evilinyouMan
6 hours ago

Bristol

"I had a message earlier saying hi handsome.

I messaged back

Then they messaged back saying I'm not there type, that made me laugh

Haha was it a couple's profile either that or split personality perhaps?"

😂 Singles profile, maybe they did have a split personality, or maybe they just didn't like my message (though as always it was polite and inquisitive) but no worries either way

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By *ichaelsmy OP Man
5 hours ago

douglas

i even think that it is hilarious the way the thread has split with the comments.

i get not the type, people have a type.

but seriously the comments about "shock you were turned down" kind of says more about the people saying that than anything else.

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