FabSwingers.com forum: Do you have an exception to the rule thing when it comes to fab?

By *exxyyDy11 OP Man
6 weeks ago

North West

What I mean is do you have an exception to the rule type thing going on, if someone doesn't fit your preferred preference or type. But you like the person anyway and so are willing to bypass this. Or do you stick to your preferred type regardless of whether or not you get on with said person?

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By (user no longer on site)
6 weeks ago

I have a preferred personality type, physically I just have to find them attractive. That varies from dark haired and tattooed to dark haired and less tattoos.

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By *olyGlamorousWoman
6 weeks ago

Chester

For me and TheHusband, every situation is bespoke, we change things to our liking

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By *naswingdressWoman
6 weeks ago

Manchester (she/her)

Yes. Most (not all) of my rules are preferences, and preferences can be overridden by other redeeming features.

Of course, I'm only comfortable saying this because my filters are closed. "I know I'm not what you're looking for, but I have all these redeeming features: source, trust me bro" doesn't cut it. I need to observe the redeeming features myself, and only I can tell if it's worth making an exception.

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By *ose-tinted GlassesMan
6 weeks ago

Glasgow

I find I’m other people’s exception, more often than vice versa.

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By *eliWoman
6 weeks ago

I don't have an aesthetic type. Generally prefer men older than me, there's one man younger than me (by a couple of months) who I find attractive - guess he's an exception to that!

For the most part it's more about personality traits and the people I like have those. Different levels obviously. I'm not sure I'd be attracted to someone if they didn't.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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6 weeks ago

East Sussex

If I like them they are my type. If someone says they'd make an exception for me I would politely decline

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By *eltCuteMightDeleteWoman
6 weeks ago

Reading

I'd say any preference or type is just a starting off point.

Anytime I thought something in absolutes (I don't like tall men/men over a certain age are less attractive to me) and somehow life throws people who go against that type at me to make me question those things.

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By *ose-tinted GlassesMan
6 weeks ago

Glasgow

"Anytime I thought something in absolutes (I don't like tall men/men over a certain age are less attractive to me) and somehow life throws people who go against that type at me to make me question those things.

Have to admit, I kinda like the way life does that.

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By *ensuallover1000Man
6 weeks ago

Somewhere In The Ether…

Be like the willow tree - bend in the wind rather than standing obstinately against it.

In other words, I don’t set stringent rules.

Everyone is different and some are even interesting.

…sort of 😜

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By *aitonelMan
6 weeks ago

Liverpool

I'm rigid in that I want both personality and physical attraction to mesh. If I'm not feeling either I won't break from that. I am open that a personality may enhance the physical of somebody I'm somewhat attracted to, somebody I'd maybe not consider otherwise but the personality pulls me in.

But I'd never have a personality make feel attracted to somebody I know I don't find appealing at all go whatever reason. And I'd never get with somebody that is exactly my physical type preference if I can't stand them as a personality/person.

I think I answers the question...

Meh, short version is no but I'm open to being surprised by what I may feel is unconventional for my tastes.

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By *oeBeansMan
6 weeks ago

Derby

I like to think my preferences are pretty fluid in terms of what I look for in someone as a lot can be based on facial attraction. There may be personality traits or aspects I may not find attractive but if that's outweighed by what I like about them, then it shouldn't be an issue.

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By *arc PolarisMan
6 weeks ago

Birmingham

I have a type in attracted to more than others but this is based on personality. I wouldn’t say I make exceptions because if we don’t get on then we are just wasting each others time.

I understand that the personality I’m attracted to has a sliding scale as well

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By *eltCuteMightDeleteWoman
6 weeks ago

Reading

Have to admit, I kinda like the way life does that."

Makes things more interesting. And I like being able to question past thinking or preferences and adapt. I need life to keep me on my toes. As long as she gives me a fucking break every now and again

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By *estructionDollyWoman
6 weeks ago

Manchester

I don't really have a type or rule. Like others have said, I have preferences but I'm still open minded to people who sit outside of them if I am attracted to them and we have chemistry. I've fancied people from a wide spectrum of looks and personality.

Just not being a dickhead is probably my only "rule".

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By *naswingdressWoman
6 weeks ago

Manchester (she/her)

"I don't really have a type or rule. Like others have said, I have preferences but I'm still open minded to people who sit outside of them if I am attracted to them and we have chemistry. I've fancied people from a wide spectrum of looks and personality.

Just not being a dickhead is probably my only "rule". "

Yeah. Ticks all my boxes except "not a dickhead" is still an absolutely not.

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By *r SensualMan
6 weeks ago

London

Flexible when it comes to someone’s appearance, absolutely do not budge when it comes to personality or behaviour.

Like a lot of people, I have my preferences when it comes to body type etc. but I wouldn’t rule someone out if they’re not that & we get along.

Most important thing is that they’re present, consistent, engaging and reciprocate the energy I put out towards them.

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By *exxyyDy11 OP Man
6 weeks ago

North West

"Flexible when it comes to someone’s appearance, absolutely do not budge when it comes to personality or behaviour.

Like a lot of people, I have my preferences when it comes to body type etc. but I wouldn’t rule someone out if they’re not that & we get along.

Most important thing is that they’re present, consistent, engaging and reciprocate the energy I put out towards them. "

Articulated my mindset too. They could be extremely good looking but it means zilch if the energy like you said is not reciprocated.

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By *eardofVampiresWoman
6 weeks ago

Lancaster

It depends what it was I could bypass the age thing give or take a couple of years if I liked a person enough.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
6 weeks ago

Crumpet Castle

"What I mean is do you have an exception to the rule type thing going on, if someone doesn't fit your preferred preference or type. But you like the person anyway and so are willing to bypass this. Or do you stick to your preferred type regardless of whether or not you get on with said person?"

Fab meets have to meet certain criteria. There isn't enough time to find out if I like them in any other way.

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By *otwife_couple_hullCouple
6 weeks ago

Hull

Every new email is a potential new experience, but sadly 99% of them are terrible.

While I have likes and dislikes, most can be broken by simply sending good, mature, fun emails.

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By (user no longer on site)
6 weeks ago

Politics/ideology is inflexible for me, since I don't ever find someone attractive based just on looks. I have to like and respect them, too. Some intelligence, too. And just a personal preference, but I'm tediously heterosexual, so no one with a penis works for me.

Other than that, they are preferences, not rigid requirements. And, as Rose Tinted says, I am lucky in that people often tell me I am their exception.

Thank Freya for the exceptions, and the exceptional.

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By *eroLondonMan
6 weeks ago

Mayfair

I find that having exceptions are in themselves part of my rule because I don't really do well when it comes to rigidity in what I'm looking for. My preferences have always been 'guiding principles' and nothing more.

However, I refuse to be an exception for others if they are looking to 'try' someone (me) who isn't Caucasian.

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By (user no longer on site)
6 weeks ago

Amanda prefers a lot older than her but her first (and only) meet the guy was only 32 so quite a bit younger than she goes for. He still gave her a great time.

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By *exxyyDy11 OP Man
6 weeks ago

North West

"I have a preferred personality type, physically I just have to find them attractive. That varies from dark haired and tattooed to dark haired and less tattoos. "

So anyone with lighter hair you wouldn't see?

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By *viatrixWoman
6 weeks ago

Back in Surrey, Dahlings!

I have made exceptions and most of the time they have been regrettable.

So i kind to stick to the type I like.

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By *omeotherguyMan
6 weeks ago

Sheffield/London/Derbyshire

I always feel my way tbrough, if you parden the pun. I know myself well enough that the complexities of all the minutae of a person and how they come together to appeal to me, or not, can't be predicted.

I don't have a type that I can predict, though I am fussy.

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By *naswingdressWoman
6 weeks ago

Manchester (she/her)

"Politics/ideology is inflexible for me, since I don't ever find someone attractive based just on looks. I have to like and respect them, too. Some intelligence, too. And just a personal preference, but I'm tediously heterosexual, so no one with a penis works for me.

Other than that, they are preferences, not rigid requirements. And, as Rose Tinted says, I am lucky in that people often tell me I am their exception.

Thank Freya for the exceptions, and the exceptional."

Yeah. I've made exceptions based on politics, and it's invariably a disaster. I'd rather abstain than do that again.

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By *WB85Man
6 weeks ago

Staffordshire

I was very specific of what i wanted when I first joined.

Now I'm far more open minded.....if I click with someone and I'm attracted to her, bring it on.

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By *ature male OldhamMan
6 weeks ago

Royton nr Oldham

In the real world I wouldn't date someone a lot younger than myself...on fab my age range is very different..

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By (user no longer on site)
6 weeks ago

Other than that, they are preferences, not rigid requirements. And, as Rose Tinted says, I am lucky in that people often tell me I am their exception.

Thank Freya for the exceptions, and the exceptional.

Yeah. I've made exceptions based on politics, and it's invariably a disaster. I'd rather abstain than do that again."

I'm not saying right wing people can't fuck.

It's just that I'm not fucking my principles for a brief flicker of desire.

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By *amantha_JadeWoman
6 weeks ago

Newcastle

"I have made exceptions and most of the time they have been regrettable.

So i kind to stick to the type I like. "

Same… the attraction is just not the same. I know what I like and don’t want to try and convince myself otherwise.

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
6 weeks ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

I think we're all willing to stretch a point for someone we find hot

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By *exxyyDy11 OP Man
6 weeks ago

North West

"I have made exceptions and most of the time they have been regrettable.

So i kind to stick to the type I like.

Same… the attraction is just not the same. I know what I like and don’t want to try and convince myself otherwise. "

It is hard to have exceptions especially if someone doesn't fit what you're after. Regardless or whether you get along with the person.

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By *exxyyDy11 OP Man
6 weeks ago

North West

"I was very specific of what i wanted when I first joined.

Now I'm far more open minded.....if I click with someone and I'm attracted to her, bring it on.

Do you think fab changed your outlook a lot then?

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By *naswingdressWoman
6 weeks ago

Manchester (she/her)

Other than that, they are preferences, not rigid requirements. And, as Rose Tinted says, I am lucky in that people often tell me I am their exception.

Thank Freya for the exceptions, and the exceptional.

Yeah. I've made exceptions based on politics, and it's invariably a disaster. I'd rather abstain than do that again.

I'm not saying right wing people can't fuck.

It's just that I'm not fucking my principles for a brief flicker of desire."

Same

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By *hamallamadingdongMan
6 weeks ago

London

I'm not sure. I need to do more research.

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By *exxyyDy11 OP Man
6 weeks ago

North West

"I'm not sure. I need to do more research."

Sydney University funding this?

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By *hamallamadingdongMan
6 weeks ago

London

"I'm not sure. I need to do more research.

Sydney University funding this? "

I cannot confirm nor deny.

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By *exxyyDy11 OP Man
6 weeks ago

North West

"I'm not sure. I need to do more research.

Sydney University funding this?

I cannot confirm nor deny."

Wait. You're not 008 are you?

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By *hamallamadingdongMan
6 weeks ago

London

"I'm not sure. I need to do more research.

Sydney University funding this?

I cannot confirm nor deny.

Wait. You're not 008 are you? "

The next in line after 007? Instead of Bond it's Bend. James Bend. Middle name Will.

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By *ornucopiaMan
6 weeks ago

Bexley

Every so often I alternate between Africans and West Indians!

As long as the latter aren't smokers. I find that Africans are more likely to be drinkers than smokers and both groups shag equally enthusiastically!

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