FabSwingers.com forum: The Good Ones

By *ulieScrumptious OP Woman
6 weeks ago

North West

“Spoil it for the good ones”

Do they spoil it?

Are the good ones as good as they think they are?

Just some musings after seeing this phrase pop up for the zillionth time.

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By *ou only live onceMan
6 weeks ago

London

I'm perfectly capable of spoiling it for myself. I don't anyone else pitching in.

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By *aitonelMan
6 weeks ago

Liverpool

Nobody truely is a "good ones"

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By *he MinionMan
6 weeks ago

Surrey

The good ones spoil it for the bad ones !

How can us mere mortals live up to such standards 🤣🤣

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By *onin25Man
6 weeks ago

Durham

"The good ones spoil it for the bad ones !

How can us mere mortals live up to such standards 🤣🤣"

The good ones are spoiling it for the bad ones who are then spoiling it for the good ones, it's a perpetual loop of spoiling which just leads to dissatisfaction all round. The only way to end it is if we men as a gender pick a side and stick to it.

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By *eliWoman
6 weeks ago

No, I don't think the good ones are as good as think they are. Sometimes we can have a bit of blindness when it comes to our flaws, our limitations. Fuck knows I do.

I see it a lot when people say things like "they don't know what they're missing out on". No, they're more than aware. They're not missing out on anything. It doesn't mean you're crap or anything but they don't *want* you.

As far as spoiling it goes. For the most part I'd say a person is responsible for their own journey. That being typed - when I read cynical, angry profiles with a long list of demands... maybe their experience has been spoiled by someone. And in turn, that's resulted in the profile. The way they respond to people.

(This is a stream of consciousness and might be utter bollocks)

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By *eyond PurityCouple
6 weeks ago

North East Lincolnshire

No one spoils a persons FAB experience other than themselves.

99.9% of people who say their FAB experience has been ruined by the bad guys as they can’t meet anyone have a shit profile and/or pics.

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By *ensuallover1000Man
6 weeks ago

Somewhere In The Ether…

I asked Bethbigtitties69 if she fancied a fuck.

….She promptly blocked me.

Clearly this was due to the previous message she received from that complete arsehole, ClungePlungingWombBeast who spoiled it for all future men with his rude message to her 😭😭🙁

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By *aitonelMan
6 weeks ago

Liverpool

Give me some context and I might get serious enough to discuss.

Otherwise I shall continue to take the piss and annoy.

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By *eliWoman
6 weeks ago

"I asked Bethbigtitties69 if she fancied a fuck.

….She promptly blocked me.

Clearly this was due to the previous message she received from that complete arsehole, ClungePlungingWombBeast who spoiled it for all future men with his rude message to her 😭😭🙁"

And now you'll never send me a FAF message and then I'll be upset and not reply to someone offering a fuck...

What a cycle this is.

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By *ensuallover1000Man
6 weeks ago

Somewhere In The Ether…

"I asked Bethbigtitties69 if she fancied a fuck.

….She promptly blocked me.

Clearly this was due to the previous message she received from that complete arsehole, ClungePlungingWombBeast who spoiled it for all future men with his rude message to her 😭😭🙁

And now you'll never send me a FAF message and then I'll be upset and not reply to someone offering a fuck...

What a cycle this is.

😂😂 It’s like that film, Pay It Forward but with added negativity. The cycle of sadness is eternal 😭😭😭

On the plus side though, at least Kevin Spacey isn’t present in our version 👍🏻😜

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By *ose-tinted GlassesMan
6 weeks ago

Glasgow

"Just some musings after seeing this phrase pop up for the zillionth time. "

I think the phrase reveals an underlying sense of entitlement. And that’s rather unattractive.

The unspoken part is “I’m a good one, and I’m not getting the attention I deserve”.

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By *iver78Man
6 weeks ago

barton upon humber

I kinda get what they when they say it , the bad ones make it hard for the good ones and makes people weary and then unfortunately rude !!

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By *inkShyWoman
6 weeks ago

near Windsor

I'm sure there is a saying, or a statue, with "Good defeats Evil."

If you are truly a good one, do your thing and you'll be fine. Or something like that.

Just be good. 🤷🏼‍♀️

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By *morousCouple8Couple
6 weeks ago

Cumbria

It’s giving “I’m a nice guy, give me a chance”

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By *ude LawMan
6 weeks ago

This is good one

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By *ulieScrumptious OP Woman
6 weeks ago

North West

"Give me some context and I might get serious enough to discuss.

Otherwise I shall continue to take the piss and annoy. "

It wasn’t particularly serious. People can take it how they want to. I will add the context that the person who uttered it this time had a spectacular lack of self-awareness.

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By *eltCuteMightDeleteWoman
6 weeks ago

Reading

I think a lot of people need a reason to feel like they've been looked over. I'm not getting the attention/pussy/whatever else I want so let's blame it on these vague bad ones instead of taking a good look at themselves.

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By *ulieScrumptious OP Woman
6 weeks ago

North West

"No, I don't think the good ones are as good as think they are. Sometimes we can have a bit of blindness when it comes to our flaws, our limitations. Fuck knows I do.

(This is a stream of consciousness and might be utter bollocks)

It’s good bollocks Meli.

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By *aitonelMan
6 weeks ago

Liverpool

"Give me some context and I might get serious enough to discuss.

Otherwise I shall continue to take the piss and annoy.

It wasn’t particularly serious. People can take it how they want to. I will add the context that the person who uttered it this time had a spectacular lack of self-awareness."

I more mean was it a general thing or a fab specific thing (as we most suspect).

I will say "bad ones" whomever they may be certainly change the dynamic as such that navigation of the landacape is somewhat different for the "good ones". So they set the standard or the tone or whatever you call it - essentially it puts others (women in this example) on more of a defensive position than they potentially may be other wise. Bad ones will no doubt cause some women to be jaded.

But nothing is ever spoiled for the good ones. Even if that were true, the ability to adapt to things being spoiled surely should be a trait for a good one to have anyway.

And I do stand by my original statement of nobody is truely a good one.

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By *hilly1515Man
6 weeks ago

spoiler alert ... still about

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By *WB85Man
6 weeks ago

Staffordshire

I'm not sure they do.

They make it harder, but certainly don't spoil it.

What they do, is show ladies how different my approach is when I'm given the opportunity.

Everyone just needs to maintain a positive mindset, it helps.

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By *ellhungvweMan
6 weeks ago

Cheltenham

I don’t know who the good ones are but I love the bad ones. Keep it up lads, you make it easier for those who are marginally competent to stand out.

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By *lowupdollTV/TS
6 weeks ago

Herts/Leeds

"Just some musings after seeing this phrase pop up for the zillionth time.

I think the phrase reveals an underlying sense of entitlement. And that’s rather unattractive.

The unspoken part is “I’m a good one, and I’m not getting the attention I deserve”.

For some on here that’s a tattoo idea right there

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By *vmarisaTV/TS
6 weeks ago

Motherwell

Ah the good and the bad of fab as always and always will be as it's free. Mx 👿

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By *urry BlokeMan
6 weeks ago

I don't need others to ruin it for me

I'm perfectly capable of that myself

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By *hinstrapMan
6 weeks ago

sheffield

I don't do half arsed.....I use both cheeks

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By *evilinDavina1Man
6 weeks ago

Bristol

"I'm perfectly capable of spoiling it for myself. I don't anyone else pitching in."

Haha agreed 😂

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
Forum Mod
6 weeks ago

Central

Nobody should expect that everyone on a public internet site is going to match your standards, morals, etc - it would be naive and unrealistic.

The bad ones help you to be realistic in your expectations and approach

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By *he MinionMan
6 weeks ago

Surrey

Nothing worthwhile comes easy

(Another tattoo saying idea 😁 )

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By *ose-tinted GlassesMan
6 weeks ago

Glasgow

"For some on here that’s a tattoo idea right there "

I considered a tattoo of the eyeroll emoji myself, but I couldn’t make it work without the animation.

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By (user no longer on site)
6 weeks ago

Entitlement is the backbone of many a message on here. Personally being good is as overrated as being bad.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
6 weeks ago

East Sussex

I think in general, not just on fab certain behaviours make people more wary of some groups. It's the old bag of Maltesers story. If I offer you a bag of Maltesers and tell you one has a deadly poison in it you're going to be wary of all of them.

Ultimately though the bad ones just emphasise how good the good ones are

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By *eardofVampiresWoman
6 weeks ago

Lancaster

Noone spoils it for anyone,and some of the good ones are jot so good

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By *rHotNottsMan
6 weeks ago

Dubai & Nottingham

No one spoils it for anyone but themselves. I don't think there is two categories good and bad, more like three - mad bad and sad.

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By *ew2buryMan
6 weeks ago

Forums.

"I think in general, not just on fab certain behaviours make people more wary of some groups. It's the old bag of Maltesers story. If I offer you a bag of Maltesers and tell you one has a deadly poison in it you're going to be wary of all of them.

Ultimately though the bad ones just emphasise how good the good ones are"
I was gonna mention this analogy.

It explains why people are on edge. Especially when they have no prior information.

However, unlike Maltesers, we can show we aren't poisoned/shit-filled.

And while some ppl assume chocolate until proven otherwise, some will assume shit ball.

Either which way, roll with their experiences, and show them you are different. That may take some time. But hey ho. Accept or roll out.

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By *ealitybitesMan
6 weeks ago

Belfast

I've no idea where I am on the scale in regards to being good or bad in fab terms but I've never allowed anyone else influence my approach here.

I've always said that for every person on fab who has blocked me or doesn't like what I say on the forums there is someone else who messages to say how much they admire my forum interaction and that it's a breath of fresh air so I'm good with that.

I'd much prefer if someone liked me for being me rather than just because I might appear to be the best of a bad lot.

On the flip side I'd also prefer if they disliked me because of something I've said or done rather than just lump me in as part of a collective.

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By *hilly1515Man
6 weeks ago

I go with the saying one mans paradise is anothers poison..

figuritively speaking of course.

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By *issy LanaTV/TS
6 weeks ago

Slough

The Good, the Bad and the Ugly. I've been told I'm Bad my many and therefore, in need of disciplinary action by hung assertive tops to punish me and turn me into a Good Gurl. Albeit some ones Good can be anothers Ugly...! 😜😘😘

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By *mf123Man
6 weeks ago

with one foot out the door

Nobody ever spoiled anything for me but me

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By *007ManMan
6 weeks ago

Worthing

More good ones the better.

Makes us bad ones seem better.

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By *tannersMan
6 weeks ago

stanley

Some like me, some dislike me , lots don’t know I exist. Some think I’m decent, some think I’m a bellend. Such is life 🤷‍♂️

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By *lowupdollTV/TS
6 weeks ago

Herts/Leeds

I wonder (sometimes, not often) how much of an asshole I am.

Anyone got a tape measure I can borrow?

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By *peedyGMan
6 weeks ago

Telford

I've mastered the art of fucking things up all by myself, no blame to anyone for that 😂

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By *morousCouple8Couple
6 weeks ago

Cumbria

"I wonder (sometimes, not often) how much of an asshole I am.

Anyone got a tape measure I can borrow? "

It’s more appropriate to use a can or tv controller to measure one’s arsehole

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By (user no longer on site)
6 weeks ago

The ones that come out with this maybe need to realise they aren't one of the good ones...

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By *lowupdollTV/TS
6 weeks ago

Herts/Leeds

"I wonder (sometimes, not often) how much of an asshole I am.

Anyone got a tape measure I can borrow?

It’s more appropriate to use a can or tv controller to measure one’s arsehole"

I tried the tv remote. I’m not fidgeting I’m trying to change channel.

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By *lderflowerAppleWoman
6 weeks ago

Hampshire

Isn't 'good' a subjective term?

I'm sure we all feel we're 'good' - why would we admit to not being so? And has been mentioned on the thread earlier, we all become blind to our own flaws, so that in itself means potentially there is no such thing as a 'good one'.

Fundamentally we are all responsible for our own actions and reactions here, whether those become negative or positive; and only those who view us can determine whether - in their perception - we're a good one or a bad egg...

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By *rHotNottsMan
6 weeks ago

Dubai & Nottingham

"Isn't 'good' a subjective term?

I'm sure we all feel we're 'good' - why would we admit to not being so?

Because, surprisingly? Many women on here seem to like men who know themselves and are okay with what they are and don't have to try to be something they are not. usually the ones claiming they are good, genuine, nice are the really bad ones. I mean, I'm not evil, but I don't think I've ever described myself as good or nice.

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By *ovelyDayXXXWoman
6 weeks ago

Niche

Is 'good ones' not self praise?

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By *lderflowerAppleWoman
6 weeks ago

Hampshire

"Isn't 'good' a subjective term?

I'm sure we all feel we're 'good' - why would we admit to not being so?

That's kind of what I was trying to say - we'd all claim to be one of the good ones (if we were pressed to make such a claim) because, well, why wouldn't we?

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