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"I am an adult survivor of child abuse and neglect Stuff that was suppressed for years came to the surface when my wife died in 2011 I suffered a mental health breakdown in 2014 and tried to take my life on two separate occasions. Since 2018 I have studied counselling and psychotherapy and had looked at starting my own practice Instead I worked for a while with the NSPCC Childline as a counsellor. From there I have specialised in children especially those with Special Needs. I currently work in an ASN/SEN School however, I have also looked at starting my own online business using ancient Chinese practices to help other people live a longer more wellbeing life So will see where that leads me Anyway, I am in here sporadically for anyone looking for support " One of my main stressors at the moment is a teen with EBSA. I'm convinced ADHD is the cause, but no-one is listening! It's so frustrating! | |||
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"Not to good being honest,I've only just started coming out of the house 3 days ago for the first time in 4 weeks, didn't answer my phone, let anyone in ,PTSD reared up its been simmering since I first got a trigger last fathers day weekend and another 2 in a week about 2 months ago,which has had a riot,night terrors,graphic nightmares, not had a proper sleep in the time either, anxiety has been up there too,everything has been a hill climb,and had plenty of switched off couldn't give a fuck whatever happens days,and basically that eccentric in my behaviour, even I can see it myself,Hopefully I'm getting on top of it now, it's just yet another battle I have to win ,to stay in the war😐" Hugs. It sounds like it's been an exceptionally hard time. | |||
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"Not to good being honest,I've only just started coming out of the house 3 days ago for the first time in 4 weeks, didn't answer my phone, let anyone in ,PTSD reared up its been simmering since I first got a trigger last fathers day weekend and another 2 in a week about 2 months ago,which has had a riot,night terrors,graphic nightmares, not had a proper sleep in the time either, anxiety has been up there too,everything has been a hill climb,and had plenty of switched off couldn't give a fuck whatever happens days,and basically that eccentric in my behaviour, even I can see it myself,Hopefully I'm getting on top of it now, it's just yet another battle I have to win ,to stay in the war😐 Hugs. It sounds like it's been an exceptionally hard time. " Thanks, it's just been awful I've been ok for a couple of years, I don't take any medication, I weaned myself off it probably 5 years ago now,im lucky I had an awful amount of mental resilience until I got ill after my 15 lad was killed in a hit and run.Funny thing I was in the Army until I wrecked my knee,and I'd served in Bosnia and Kosovo in the 90s,and witnessed some grim shit ,yet never affected me and still doesn't,that burns me out thinking how that didn't effect me, yet other things did. | |||
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"I am an adult survivor of child abuse and neglect Stuff that was suppressed for years came to the surface when my wife died in 2011 I suffered a mental health breakdown in 2014 and tried to take my life on two separate occasions. Since 2018 I have studied counselling and psychotherapy and had looked at starting my own practice Instead I worked for a while with the NSPCC Childline as a counsellor. From there I have specialised in children especially those with Special Needs. I currently work in an ASN/SEN School however, I have also looked at starting my own online business using ancient Chinese practices to help other people live a longer more wellbeing life So will see where that leads me Anyway, I am in here sporadically for anyone looking for support One of my main stressors at the moment is a teen with EBSA. I'm convinced ADHD is the cause, but no-one is listening! It's so frustrating! " EBSA is a hard one. My 10 year old grandson has something very similar however, he has other major traumas in his short life that could be affecting it His mum and dad split up when he was 6, he was then taken in to a violent abusive relationship for 2 years. Now he is split 50% between each parent. At mums house his comfort is food and he has gained incredible amount of weight that is going unmonitored by his mum or her family, in fact if anything obesity is natural in her family His dad is currently living with me, although his food and his time on electronic games is limited and controlled, we have the added problem of school bullying Has anyone sat down with your teenager and discussed any of his emotions with him | |||
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"Not to good being honest,I've only just started coming out of the house 3 days ago for the first time in 4 weeks, didn't answer my phone, let anyone in ,PTSD reared up its been simmering since I first got a trigger last fathers day weekend and another 2 in a week about 2 months ago,which has had a riot,night terrors,graphic nightmares, not had a proper sleep in the time either, anxiety has been up there too,everything has been a hill climb,and had plenty of switched off couldn't give a fuck whatever happens days,and basically that eccentric in my behaviour, even I can see it myself,Hopefully I'm getting on top of it now, it's just yet another battle I have to win ,to stay in the war😐 Hugs. It sounds like it's been an exceptionally hard time. Thanks, it's just been awful I've been ok for a couple of years, I don't take any medication, I weaned myself off it probably 5 years ago now,im lucky I had an awful amount of mental resilience until I got ill after my 15 lad was killed in a hit and run.Funny thing I was in the Army until I wrecked my knee,and I'd served in Bosnia and Kosovo in the 90s,and witnessed some grim shit ,yet never affected me and still doesn't,that burns me out thinking how that didn't effect me, yet other things did." Did you get any emotional support after your son died ? What happened in Bosnia/Kosova etc is still underlying and you may be transferring that guilt. I would advise speaking to someone about it and mention EVERYTHING as one event can trigger the other in PTSD. Medication, yes if you can avoid then please do. Anti depressants can make you worse. As mentioned above in my original post I attempted to take my own life whilst on Mirtazapine, Seek out SSAFA, I did some voluntary work for them, they are a huge help for ex military getting there life together. | |||
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"I am an adult survivor of child abuse and neglect Stuff that was suppressed for years came to the surface when my wife died in 2011 I suffered a mental health breakdown in 2014 and tried to take my life on two separate occasions. Since 2018 I have studied counselling and psychotherapy and had looked at starting my own practice Instead I worked for a while with the NSPCC Childline as a counsellor. From there I have specialised in children especially those with Special Needs. I currently work in an ASN/SEN School however, I have also looked at starting my own online business using ancient Chinese practices to help other people live a longer more wellbeing life So will see where that leads me Anyway, I am in here sporadically for anyone looking for support One of my main stressors at the moment is a teen with EBSA. I'm convinced ADHD is the cause, but no-one is listening! It's so frustrating! EBSA is a hard one. My 10 year old grandson has something very similar however, he has other major traumas in his short life that could be affecting it His mum and dad split up when he was 6, he was then taken in to a violent abusive relationship for 2 years. Now he is split 50% between each parent. At mums house his comfort is food and he has gained incredible amount of weight that is going unmonitored by his mum or her family, in fact if anything obesity is natural in her family His dad is currently living with me, although his food and his time on electronic games is limited and controlled, we have the added problem of school bullying Has anyone sat down with your teenager and discussed any of his emotions with him " I do a lot of emotional support, in fact, the first practioner who signed them off said they were the most emotionally aware 10 yr old they'd come across. The difference being theory and practical application! There has been lots of emotional support, but we have still ended up with EBSA, and I know ND is underlying it. Masking is huge. I also think RSD and PDA are present. Parenting PDA is hard. So hard. | |||
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"I remember this being a regular thing a couple of years ago here and I found it useful when I was going through my stresses and anxieties to have that safe space. With stresses and anxieties back I'd like to create that space for others. So I will start, I've had a combination of stresses with work and my own health and have rolled from one thing to another over a few months, until i've had a meeting at work and tried to address them and i feel better for verbalising. "Nice thread, and sorry to hear life has been putting you through the ringer. Glad the you were able to make some headway at work. Fair play to you for opening up and sharing and I hope that things continue to improve. 👍 | |||
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"I remember this being a regular thing a couple of years ago here and I found it useful when I was going through my stresses and anxieties to have that safe space. With stresses and anxieties back I'd like to create that space for others. So I will start, I've had a combination of stresses with work and my own health and have rolled from one thing to another over a few months, until i've had a meeting at work and tried to address them and i feel better for verbalising.
Nice thread, and sorry to hear life has been putting you through the ringer. Glad the you were able to make some headway at work. Fair play to you for opening up and sharing and I hope that things continue to improve. 👍"Thank you very much, appreciate that | |||
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"So important this is talked about more thank you for posting and best wishes with everything you are going through… My story.. Divorced over a year now and living on my own which was a huge struggle at first…I also lost my job and car as a result, so things were pretty dark but one day while I was simply sat somewhere (as you do!) someone randomly passed me a note…it simply read “The story ends well” Jeez that hit home…I still have the note on my table at my one bed flat I am still surviving in even though I hoped it would be only a tempsituation 13 months ago! I have walked locally every day bar a couple in those 13 months sometimes only an hour, sometimes 2 or 3… again someone recommended me to do it plus get some wireless headphones; so I did and have…I listen to music, audiobooks, podcasts, or just the radio and you don’t realise how far you walked! Although my feet do!! Thanks to the kindness of someone from fab (which I mentioned on another MH thread) i managed to get some decent new walking trainers and my steps have further increase! anyway, it has been a huge help for my mental health as well as physical with all the walking…still more weight to lose lol but I’m a terrible snacker which I need to stop, etc I’ve had some health issues, anxiety etc down to the divorce stress etc, then got 2, yes 2 frozen shoulders and a queried “non-alcoholic fatty liver disease” detected from the blood tests originally taken for the shoulders issue!! Hence why trying to lose some dadbod timber! I just need that new job now, then get a car or a small van and then get a better flat and place to live etc Always good to have goals and ideas! No matter what…keep going, don’t dwell or hide away, get out and about even when the weather is bad - keep yer head up and remember that note I got “the story ends well!”" the pain will ease eventually, with me it was probably 5 or 6 years before I'd stopped thinking about her and once you realise it going forward is so much easier. | |||
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"Dose anyone else think that they are not good looking enough " I know its tough mate, but don't get in that head space as its really not healthy. It takes time to find the right people. We all have moments where we don't feel desired....its even harder to swallow when your partner gets lots of attention in comparison. I have times where I have to log out of fab and focus on my own self worth. Then when I'm good, I will log back in. I've had a particular rough patch this last couple of months. I stil am struggling....but i take it one day at a time. My approach is very different now. I rarely send messages, I have to feel that I'm a good potential match to do it, and have reasons I can show to back it up. Keep chatting on the forum, get your name seen. God luck.  | |||
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"Anxiety off the charts just now. Too much going on. " Have you spoken to your GP about this? You can get help, I'm on anti anxiety meds that help me feel more under control. | |||
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"Dose anyone else think that they are not good looking enough " Always Hate my body, real negative confidence in finding any women sadly Trying my best! | |||
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