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By (user no longer on site) OP   
7 weeks ago

Has anyone else been diagnosed later in life?

I have and find it very hard to deal with sometimes

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By *uonline69Man
7 weeks ago

Saddleworth, UK

I'm undiagnosed but am very very aware.

My personal advice is to understand more. What it means to you, not the Instagram people.

Look up ADHD explained by Hallowell. Gray book.

Realise how many people around you are also in the same space as you and live in ignorance.

It's not an affliction or a disease, it is just something you are. Some are ginger, some are tall, some are ADHD and some are left handed.

It's just you. In all your wonderfulness. It's you. Enjoy being you. Work out what helps you, laugh at the days when it doesn't work and rejoice the days when it all clicks into place.

Oh and Lions Mane (2000mg from Amazon works for me).

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By *lirtyFilthWoman
7 weeks ago

Laughterton

ADHD alongside cPTSD and menopause has been a real challenge.

So, being forgetful due to the adhd is bad enough. Throw in a few (lots)of crazy hormones too and I forget where my glasses are when they’re on my head, where my keys are when they’re in my hand. Using the torch on my phone to actually look for my phone because I think it’s fallen off the bed in the dark. 🤷🏼‍♀️

Learn to laugh at the chaos. The good thing for me is my sense of humour. If I couldn’t laugh at the chaos that is now my life I’d struggle. Everyone that knows me, knows what I’m like. They either laugh with me or at me. Either way I’m making someone laugh which makes me feel all warm and fuzzy inside.

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By *egulatorsmountupMan
7 weeks ago

Worthing


"Has anyone else been diagnosed later in life?

I have and find it very hard to deal with sometimes "
buy some speed (in a place where it's legal to do so) take about 200mg and if you can focus far better you have the adhd

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By *ric18169Man
7 weeks ago

stockport


"I'm undiagnosed but am very very aware.

My personal advice is to understand more. What it means to you, not the Instagram people.

Look up ADHD explained by Hallowell. Gray book.

Realise how many people around you are also in the same space as you and live in ignorance.

It's not an affliction or a disease, it is just something you are. Some are ginger, some are tall, some are ADHD and some are left handed.

It's just you. In all your wonderfulness. It's you. Enjoy being you. Work out what helps you, laugh at the days when it doesn't work and rejoice the days when it all clicks into place.

Oh and Lions Mane (2000mg from Amazon works for me)."
Nice reply 👍

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
7 weeks ago

Reading

Rory Sutherland said something I totally agree with. Neurodiversity is a feature not a bug.

So thank you to all who face this struggle, you enrich society.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
7 weeks ago

Crumpet Castle

No, Sadly I am amongst the few that cannot join in with discussing my lived experience of this condition....

Maybe I'll just self diagnose.

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By *eardofVampiresWoman
7 weeks ago

Lancaster

After I was 40 made most things make sense to me tbh.

As to why i do some of the stuff I do

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By *heElvingtonTwoCouple
7 weeks ago

The Ramtops

Not ADHD no but I was diagnosed with ASD at 36 it has it’s challenges especially in finding work because my brain doesn’t form answers like neurotypical brains and then I get told “you didn’t get the job because your answers were superficial” lol sucks but it is what it is

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By *he MinionMan
7 weeks ago

Surrey

Undiagnosed but my child has been.

Friends and family have said i am, or must be, as my kid and I have very similar traits, behaviours and idiosyncrasies.

Maybe i am, maybe i'm not. But ultimately, I am what I am

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By *igladAndLulahCouple
7 weeks ago

South East

I have been diagnosed recently. For me lots of stuff clicked into place and doing research to understand myself and how my brain works has helped. I went through quite a sad, depressed period after the diagnosis reflecting on what my life might have been like if I had been diagnosed earlier and I had the support I needed. Now trying not to dwell. Waiting to start medication and hoping this will improve things further.

Solidarity OP

Lu xx

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By *actile TensionMan
7 weeks ago

Sussex


"Rory Sutherland said something I totally agree with. Neurodiversity is a feature not a bug.

So thank you to all who face this struggle, you enrich society."

I Can listen to Rory all day. Some days I do

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By *ortheastFarmerMan
7 weeks ago

Northumberland

Im currently undergoing the assessment for it. The assessor has basically said ive got ADHD they just need to collect the supporting evidence to conclude the assessment.

Honestly ive no idea why im getting assessed. Im going to be no different of a person, I may understand it a bit more, but im not going to suppress it or take meds etc. Its just a title to add to my ever grown list off issues, which clash with each other, like PTAD or anxiety.

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By *avej500Man
7 weeks ago

Stevenage

All I can saying is we all have special powers

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By (user no longer on site)
7 weeks ago

I’ve been diagnosed and I’m in 50/50 agreement with you. Of course you will be the same person, diagnosis doesn’t make you loose your superpowers so the situation is no worse and can only be better. Once your diagnosed your protected by law, I was in the closet up to this point. Once I had this protection I started to educate my fellow workers, highlighting the benefits of my super powers. That was 5 years ago, and my career has developed over that time. Diagnosis is a tool not a magic wand, it’s up to you to make the most of the opportunity in front of you.

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By *est-Yorkshire-GentMan
7 weeks ago

Leeds

I got diagnosed at 24 so quite some time ago but it was definitely a shock to me but as soon as they started telling me what it is, it all kind of made sense to me 😂

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By *ee04Man
7 weeks ago

Essex

2 of my kids were diagnosed in their childhood they are both now in their 30s but my ex was diagnosed at the same time as the kids. She coped with it ok if I remember. She already knew and she explained it gave her the answers to many questions.

It doesn’t change who you are but as she put it explains why you did certain things. As I’ve told my son all his life you have to think before you act. The best description I’ve ever heard is, you are stood atop a high wall. A none ADHD person thinks if I jump off this is going to hurt. The ADHD person jumps halfway down thinks this is going to hurt but can’t do anything about it.

Being diagnosed changes nothing you are already the person you are, it may give you answers to things you’ve done. My ex is a successful person owning her own business. My son has a good job with a good company he’s got a degree. My daughter diagnosed in her teens has her own business, she is very clever was the smart kid in class etc. she was actually diagnosed with ADD the same without the hyperactivity.

She had a mage wobbly in her late teens early 20s but has since sorted herself out and made good.

I’ve talked to both about it and how they feel, they both say it’s part of me and I’ve got to live with it.

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By *lue Eyed JokerMan
7 weeks ago

Always on the move

I was diagnosed last year.

It was an "oh that's why Im like this" moment for me to be honest. Pretty enlightening. On meds now which help massively for work too

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By (user no longer on site)
7 weeks ago


"ADHD alongside cPTSD and menopause has been a real challenge.

So, being forgetful due to the adhd is bad enough. Throw in a few (lots)of crazy hormones too and I forget where my glasses are when they’re on my head, where my keys are when they’re in my hand. Using the torch on my phone to actually look for my phone because I think it’s fallen off the bed in the dark. 🤷🏼‍♀️

Learn to laugh at the chaos. The good thing for me is my sense of humour. If I couldn’t laugh at the chaos that is now my life I’d struggle. Everyone that knows me, knows what I’m like. They either laugh with me or at me. Either way I’m making someone laugh which makes me feel all warm and fuzzy inside. "

This sounds excatly like me but throw chronic lymphocyte leukemia aswell

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By *agnbonermanMan
7 weeks ago

Sheffield

Undiagnosed but pretty sure I've got it, would explain so much of my youth.

Don't know about anyone else but I can knock back a couple cans of energy drink and be sparko asleep easy enough when I need to. Been reading into it and it says it's a form of self "medication"

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By *.GolferMan
7 weeks ago

Wirral

46 when finally diagnosed

Been ongoing for years & parent didn't want me to be labeled as a child.

Now medicated alot more focused and understanding of the issue I have.

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By (user no longer on site)
6 weeks ago

How do you guys find it affects your sex life? I’m in an open relationship and love my partner to bits, but find the constant craving for new experiences makes it harder to fully engage with her. We’ve discussed it and it’s not been a huge issue surprisingly, maybe as our relationship is open, but just wondering if this echoes others’ experiences?

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By *inkShyWoman
6 weeks ago

near Windsor

Not officially diagnosed, but was asked to do an assessment at work because of traits/habits etc that my boss noticed. Done with our EAP, said I'm 99% likely to have it but they cannot officially diagnose. Everyone around me says I have it. I can't get an appointment, so I'm just carrying on. Won't change me as a person to have a new label.

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By *igJohnwants269withuMan
6 weeks ago

Devon

I’m pending my diagnosis but 1000% sure I have it.

A diagnosis is as good as a cure in my opinion

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
6 weeks ago


"How do you guys find it affects your sex life? I’m in an open relationship and love my partner to bits, but find the constant craving for new experiences makes it harder to fully engage with her. We’ve discussed it and it’s not been a huge issue surprisingly, maybe as our relationship is open,

but just wondering if this echoes others’ experiences? "

Pretty much the same lol,like a sand

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By *herry77Woman
6 weeks ago

North West

I’m considering going down the diagnosis route to give more validation to the work I do with those who also have it, because I’m pretty sure I do have it.

It’s given me a level of understanding that’s allowed me to be more compassionate towards myself rather than beating myself up about things that are a result of how my brain works rather than laziness or other shortcomings.

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By *igJohnwants269withuMan
6 weeks ago

Devon

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By *igJohnwants269withuMan
6 weeks ago

Devon


"I’m considering going down the diagnosis route to give more validation to the work I do with those who also have it, because I’m pretty sure I do have it.

It’s given me a level of understanding that’s allowed me to be more compassionate towards myself rather than beating myself up about things that are a result of how my brain works rather than laziness or other shortcomings."

100% agreed. You have to be kind to yourself and once you do that you’ll feel so much better.

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