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By *layfullsam OP   Man
13 hours ago

Solihull

From social media

Let’s have your advice to the poster

Looking for those serious answers and the down right ridiculous

I’m currently mid-divorce papers were served, he didn't even bother to respond (typical 🙄), so I was all set to just go for the default judgment and get it over with.

BUT ... literally just as I’m about to finish it, his dad passes away. Sad, obviously, but now he’s come into a bit of inheritance.

Now I’m sitting here like ... hold on a minute. The terms I filed for originally were based on us having basically nothing. This is a whole new "reality." If I just push through with the original papers, am I being a mug and walking away from money I should be considering?

Do I amend the terms now to reflect his new bank balance?

Or do I just leave it and get him out of my life ASAP? 🏃‍♀️

I don't want to look like a gold digger, but I also don't want to be realistic and look after my own future. Is it "calculated" or just "smart"?

What would you lot do? Stick or twist? 🤔

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By *icecouple561Couple
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13 hours ago

East Sussex

You don't want to look like a gold digger but you do . Twist i say a girls gotta live

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By *layfullsam OP   Man
13 hours ago

Solihull


"You don't want to look like a gold digger but you do . Twist i say a girls gotta live "

😂

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By *icecouple561Couple
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13 hours ago

East Sussex


"You don't want to look like a gold digger but you do . Twist i say a girls gotta live

😂"

I sometimes wonder if people would change their minds about divorce if one of them suddenly got loads of money.

When I got divorced I was just glad to get away

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By *actile TensionMan
13 hours ago

Sussex

Entirely depends on your current financial situation and... How much you hate the ex

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By *ur1Man
13 hours ago

Rochdale

Yes you definitely look like a gold digger. Divorce is about parting from someone you’re not happy with, not about getting money from them that was never yours anyway. Best of luck with whatever you do.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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13 hours ago

East Sussex


"Yes you definitely look like a gold digger. Divorce is about parting from someone you’re not happy with, not about getting money from them that was never yours anyway. Best of luck with whatever you do. "

Yeah but what if she supported him while he 'followed his dream'?

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By *parkle1974Woman
13 hours ago

Leeds


"Yes you definitely look like a gold digger. Divorce is about parting from someone you’re not happy with, not about getting money from them that was never yours anyway. Best of luck with whatever you do.

Yeah but what if she supported him while he 'followed his dream'?"

"He didnt work for it....it was an inheritance

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By *icecouple561Couple
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13 hours ago

East Sussex


"Yes you definitely look like a gold digger. Divorce is about parting from someone you’re not happy with, not about getting money from them that was never yours anyway. Best of luck with whatever you do.

Yeah but what if she supported him while he 'followed his dream'?

"He didnt work for it....it was an inheritance "

Maybe this mythological woman feels she's due repayment for all the hours she worked while he was writing his novel that never got published.

I hope Sam appreciates my commitment to this

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By *ustBoWoman
12 hours ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

Divorce is moving away from the person and getting on with your own life. The fact that one person has come into money should have no bearing on tbe fact especially once papers are already being processed. Going after his inheritance is just being a gold digger. And wrong in my opinion,it was inheritance for him from his father.

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By *layfullsam OP   Man
7 hours ago

Solihull


"Yes you definitely look like a gold digger. Divorce is about parting from someone you’re not happy with, not about getting money from them that was never yours anyway. Best of luck with whatever you do.

Yeah but what if she supported him while he 'followed his dream'?

"He didnt work for it....it was an inheritance

Maybe this mythological woman feels she's due repayment for all the hours she worked while he was writing his novel that never got published.

I hope Sam appreciates my commitment to this "

Absolutely I feared it wasn’t going to work as a thread lol

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod

7 hours ago

East Sussex


"Yes you definitely look like a gold digger. Divorce is about parting from someone you’re not happy with, not about getting money from them that was never yours anyway. Best of luck with whatever you do.

Yeah but what if she supported him while he 'followed his dream'?

"He didnt work for it....it was an inheritance

Maybe this mythological woman feels she's due repayment for all the hours she worked while he was writing his novel that never got published.

I hope Sam appreciates my commitment to this

Absolutely I feared it wasn’t going to work as a thread lol "

If built a whole back story

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By *uga40Man
7 hours ago

Hemel Hempstead

Depends if you just want rid of him why drag it out

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By *oml and mwgcCouple
7 hours ago

oadby

I'd make sure i got some money. I wouldn't be bothered about being thought of as a golddigger.

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
6 hours ago

Reading

It's not your money.

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