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"a person before you've met them? Do you need that in person contact before you think yep, I'd have sex with you?" I think you fancy an idea of them, then meeting in person either confirms that feeling or blows it out of the water. | |||
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"Yes I can fancy people I haven't met. But I do need to meet them before I have sex with them, at least to introduce myself in person before sticking it in" 🤣🤣🤣 | |||
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"I think you fancy an idea of them, then meeting in person either confirms that feeling or blows it out of the water. " I like that. It's very much an idea of them until it happens. | |||
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"I think you fancy an idea of them, then meeting in person either confirms that feeling or blows it out of the water. " I think this is it. I have got to know people online first, some over quite long periods of time in the past, and the idea of what I believe that are like, or the version of themselves they present, I might find attractive and "fancy" or crush on. But I never know for sure if I want to be with someone or even just sleep with them until we meet in real life. Some people can be very different in real life to their online personas. | |||
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"Yes but I may change my mind in person. " I agree with this take. I can fancy someone based on a picture, but their personality will come out in person, and thay can be a dealbreaker | |||
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"a person before you've met them? Do you need that in person contact before you think yep, I'd have sex with you?" Neither of us do | |||
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"But I do need to meet them before I have sex with them, at least to introduce myself in person before sticking it in" That's good to know? Not sure what question you're answering but you do you. 🩷 | |||
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"a person before you've met them? Do you need that in person contact before you think yep, I'd have sex with you? I think you fancy an idea of them, then meeting in person either confirms that feeling or blows it out of the water. " Exactly this, you took the words right out of my mouth! | |||
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"Yes but I may change my mind in person. I agree with this take. I can fancy someone based on a picture, but their personality will come out in person, and thay can be a dealbreaker " And body language can be an even bigger turn on or off 🥵 | |||
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"Absolutely! I've been dribbling before a meet but then I did used to video call and chat a bit prior" Yeah, you've had a bit more of a feel of who they are. Connected a little. Dribbling is 👌 | |||
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"I’ve never met you Meli "Yeah... we've also never really spoken. So, how does that work? (from a curiosity point of view, not being rude!). Can you fancy a person after looking at their profile a bit? | |||
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"Yes It's pretty much an instant thing for me, it happens far too bloody rarely though for my liking. When I meet someone I know I'm gonna end the evening with their penis in me. " Find more men. Less pining, more penis. Win win. Please, no more pining. | |||
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"Yes It's pretty much an instant thing for me, it happens far too bloody rarely though for my liking. When I meet someone I know I'm gonna end the evening with their penis in me. Find more men. Less pining, more penis. Win win. Please, no more pining. " When was I pining?!? | |||
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"Some people can be very different in real life to their online personas. " Definitely. I also think that how someone is with you isn't just based on them. It's how you interact with each other. That might be wrong, it's very much a theory.  | |||
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"Some people can be very different in real life to their online personas. Definitely. I also think that how someone is with you isn't just based on them. It's how you interact with each other. That might be wrong, it's very much a theory. "It's very true. A true connection of any kind is feeding on each others energy. You get out what you out in. | |||
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"a person before you've met them? Do you need that in person contact before you think yep, I'd have sex with you?" Yeah if the vibe of the messages sparks something in you | |||
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"Yes but I may change my mind in person. " This ⬆️ | |||
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"Whoever said fancying the idea of them feels spot on for me too. I don't know for sure if sex will happen until we've met though (because of reciprosexual reasons)" So you fancy them but until they've made it clear they'd like sex with you it's more a fancying a Ken doll situation? | |||
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"Whoever said fancying the idea of them feels spot on for me too. I don't know for sure if sex will happen until we've met though (because of reciprosexual reasons) So you fancy them but until they've made it clear they'd like sex with you it's more a fancying a Ken doll situation? " I guess? I can find someone attractive but I can't work out until I've met them and they've expressed a sexual interest in me if I want that too! | |||
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"Yes, it is possible to fancy or fall for someone before meeting them in person, often based on shared values, intellectual connection, and chemistry built through conversation. This has been the case for me with most of my lovers, though whether the relationship becomes physical and/or survives can depend on whether that attraction survives the transition from virtual to reality." Have you found the majority of times it does? The things that you've stated - shared values, intellectual conversation etc? Really sweet. 🥰 | |||
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"Some people can be very different in real life to their online personas. Definitely. I also think that how someone is with you isn't just based on them. It's how you interact with each other. That might be wrong, it's very much a theory. "Oh I very much agree. Different people bring out different sides of my personality, the same way I like different friends for different reasons or I might have different partners. I am sure the same goes for others. It's about compatibility really isn't it. | |||
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"I did when I was younger. In fact I wasted most of my 20s with someone whose mind was spectacular, but I was never that attracted to him physically. We chatted online for nearly a year before we met in person. Then I left him for someone whose mind was even more brilliant but I was even -less- attracted to him physically! 😳 Nowadays no way. I am only fucking guys I am very attracted to… probably trying to make up for my missed twenties! 🤣🎀" I do not blame you at all. You should definitely only fuck people you're very attracted to, physically and mentally. You deserve that Avi. 😘 Everyone does but you get the sentiment. Mentally is where things fall down for me, rarely really attracted to someone on that level. You know when someone has that brilliance of mind and it's just so... 🫠 Yeah, that's a big thing. | |||
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"Yes, it is possible to fancy or fall for someone before meeting them in person, often based on shared values, intellectual connection, and chemistry built through conversation. This has been the case for me with most of my lovers, though whether the relationship becomes physical and/or survives can depend on whether that attraction survives the transition from virtual to reality. Have you found the majority of times it does? The things that you've stated - shared values, intellectual conversation etc? Really sweet. 🥰" Four have been long term, but distance means they fizzle - plus some are looking for more permance - a few have lasted months. I think my favourite Fabsters are two women who are social friends, they are lovely, we won't sleep together, but we meet for meals, walks, and even on holiday. | |||
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"Before I met my husband we talked online for a while. Meeting in person only confirmed what I already knew. That there was definitely something special between us " ❤️ That's really heartwarming. Is the same true for more casual situations? Know before you meet them kind of thing. | |||
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"Swoons over the pics of Big Harold "Yeah, that counts. And then some. | |||
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"Yeah I think can fancy someone before you meet them,and then not so much after 😂" Yeah that happens. 😅 There's no guarantee of chemistry. Sadly. | |||
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"Swoons over the pics of Big Harold "Don't mention Big Harold  | |||
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"Some people can be very different in real life to their online personas. Definitely. I also think that how someone is with you isn't just based on them. It's how you interact with each other. That might be wrong, it's very much a theory.
Oh I very much agree. Different people bring out different sides of my personality, the same way I like different friends for different reasons or I might have different partners. I am sure the same goes for others. It's about compatibility really isn't it. "Yes! That's exactly it. Person A might think Person C is gregarious, type B, blah blah blah. Person B might find them a shy retiring wallflower. A lot of it is about compatibility. How you naturally bounce off a person. So maybe it's not so much people are different to their personas? Not sure how to describe it tho'. | |||
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"a person before you've met them? Do you need that in person contact before you think yep, I'd have sex with you?" Yes. We knew each other online for about seven months before we ever met. | |||
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"Yes I think you can if you have taken time to get to know them a little first but it's the social that can make or break " This 👆🏼 | |||
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" I think you fancy an idea of them, then meeting in person either confirms that feeling or blows it out of the water. " This is very true. FAB messages and exchanges allow the build up and helps filter the 'fancy you 'towards either yes or no. The idea of a yes then creates the meet. | |||
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"Yes. But then fancying to me is mostly physical if im being honest i could fancy someone but not want to have sex with them until i know them and build a connection. Some people i instantly think "id bonk you" because my vagina takes over but in real life i'd just like to bonk them over the head with a spatula." Are you only wanting sex if there's the physical fancying and the connection? Beginning to think there are differing degrees of fancying.
And yeah, when I'm ovulating I fancy a lot more people than I actually do. Pesky vagina.  | |||
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"Yes. But then fancying to me is mostly physical if im being honest i could fancy someone but not want to have sex with them until i know them and build a connection. Some people i instantly think "id bonk you" because my vagina takes over but in real life i'd just like to bonk them over the head with a spatula. Are you only wanting sex if there's the physical fancying and the connection? Beginning to think there are differing degrees of fancying.
And yeah, when I'm ovulating I fancy a lot more people than I actually do. Pesky vagina. "cock on head  well little tiny micro cock on head sort of  | |||
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"Yes I can fancy people I haven't met. But I do need to meet them before I have sex with them, at least to introduce myself in person before sticking it in" So no poking it through the letterbox then? | |||
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"Can you fancy a person before you've met them?" Yes. And I can fancy a Twix before I’ve even gone to the shop. | |||
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"Can you fancy a person before you've met them?" Sorry Meli. Serious answer? Also yes. I’ve had entire relationships with women I’ve never met. | |||
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"I think you can find attraction desire, lust and possibly lust though this can also be confused to Limerence depending on the situation and virtual relationship, reality kicks in when you meet, are thy as they seem online do the two match up we met on here talking for about 3 months before we met and well it was definitely as it was before physically meeting soooo a few years later we married "Limerence is kind of the exaggerated fancying the idea of them isn't it? The infatuation and pedestalisation of a person. Not experienced it personally, have been on the receiving end and seen friends go through it. Doesn't look fun. At all. Lust is quite a key part of fancying. Sometimes it might be the only and that's cool, some connections are more lust driven. Was going to type superficial but that sounds a bit mean. | |||
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"a person before you've met them? Do you need that in person contact before you think yep, I'd have sex with you? I think you fancy an idea of them, then meeting in person either confirms that feeling or blows it out of the water. " This | |||
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"a person before you've met them? Do you need that in person contact before you think yep, I'd have sex with you?" Yes you can fancy a person before you meet them, but that can also quickly change when you do meet them, know a few absolutely beautiful women who i wouldn't fuck with a borrowed dick, as their attitudes stink | |||
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"I can 'fancy' people I've never met and never spoken with, but it's just a physical thing. But if I met and got to know them, my opinion might change vastly." I'm the same  | |||
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"You can definitely pick up a vibe and the start of a chemistry from the messages you receive, especially if they actually take the time read your profile before messaging. Mx 👿" Ooooh a good vibe is 🔥. There's that playful energy and you think that this could work. Yeah, that's kind of fancying. | |||
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"Nope have to fancy ther laugh more than anything " I've read a lot in my time on Fab. Too much. Never read fancying someone's laugh. New in a good way. | |||
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"a person before you've met them? Do you need that in person contact before you think yep, I'd have sex with you?" Yes but prefer a social first unless been chatting a while | |||
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