FabSwingers.com forum: Addressing the elephant in the room

By *eb005 OP Man
2 days ago

wigan

Strap in as I'm sure this has already come to light before today,as a single male I've used this site on and off for over ten years now and since jumping back on almost a year ago I've not met a single person,is it just me or are any of you other single males getting the feeling of hitting your head again a brick wall these days and wondering why at all are you bothering.

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By *hil most chillMan
2 days ago

London, South East & Europe

Apparently many are feeling this way as there are identical posts to this one daily

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By *parkle1974Woman
2 days ago

Leeds

Unfortunately the minority spoil it for the decent ones.

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By *eb005 OP Man
2 days ago

wigan

Sounds like I'm not along then mate

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By *offiacoolWoman
2 days ago

Alsager

Do you think your profile reflects you ? Looking for regular fun, ask me anything ?

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By *eb005 OP Man
2 days ago

wigan

This is very true,but it makes you wonder they must still meet otherwise why are they here

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By *eb005 OP Man
2 days ago

wigan

This could be true

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By *offiacoolWoman
2 days ago

Alsager

"This could be true "

Use reply and quote so people know who you are responding to.

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By *morousCouple8Couple
2 days ago

Cumbria

We have met people. And the people that we have met, have met other people. So it does happen.

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By *eb005 OP Man
2 days ago

wigan

"This could be true

Use reply and quote so people know who you are responding to. "

My bad it's been a long day

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By *ellhungvweMan
2 days ago

Cheltenham

"We have met people. And the people that we have met, have met other people. So it does happen. "

I have met people on here but I have never met an elephant.

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By *rightonsteveMan
2 days ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I just pootle along and if anything happens all well and good. Effort in = cock in

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By *ephyr66Man
2 days ago

Bristol

I do occasionally meet new people on Fab, but generally it tends to be through third party introductions, or we share mutual friends/contacts. I think meeting people through 'cold contact' here has never been very successful, but becoming less and less successful. Whether that is linked to a perceived general decline in politeness and tolerance, who can say.

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By *oobsandbeard69Couple
2 days ago

Birmingham

We normally use Fab to make new friends prior to going out. We don’t normally meet single men privately unless they are EXCEPTIONAL by Fab standards I.e. has similar sexual interests, can hold a good conversation, has a profile with something that interests us, respects our dynamic as a couple, seems like they won’t turn out to be a stalker/ unsafe.

Not bothered by looks/ dick size, I’m more interested in what someone would bring…

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By *eardedCuckMan
2 days ago

Malvern

There is no elephant in the room, men outweigh women,one status for a meet and their inbox is full, then half if not most women on here look for a spark/connection, and a hand full just want cock nothing else so your pretty much fucked.

All you can do is try try try but without harassment, other than that go to sex clubs etc or be willing to travel far.

Good luck

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By *aterpistolMan
2 days ago

London

"Strap in as I'm sure this has already come to light before today,as a single male I've used this site on and off for over ten years now and since jumping back on almost a year ago I've not met a single person,is it just me or are any of you other single males getting the feeling of hitting your head again a brick wall these days and wondering why at all are you bothering."

I first joined this site about 15 years ago and had a handful of meets – then I left (due to a relationship) and then rejoined, and then left, and then rejoined.

I have not met anyone new off this site for years.

But I don't try hard and don't send out huge amounts of messages, and only contact women I find attractive (not just looks).

When I initiate contact, I make an effort and try to reflect on something in the profile.

But, nearly all my messages sit with "unread" status until they eventually vanish – I rarely follow up.

So, I think there needs to be better way of vetting of single guys – women are clearly inundated, and (from what I gather) men have a "throw as much shit as you can" approach, which really doesn't do anyone any favours.

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By *riel13Woman
2 days ago

Northampton

"We have met people. And the people that we have met, have met other people. So it does happen.

I have met people on here but I have never met an elephant."

I only came in for the elephant!

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By *2000ManMan
2 days ago

Worthing

Use fab as a social club to make friends, have a laugh and share thoughts/ideas op.Anything else to me is a bonus.

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By *ealitybitesMan
2 days ago

Belfast

I've been here 10 years but haven't been meeting for personal reasons for 6 of those so I don't send introductory messages or start conversations.

I know however that if I decided to start meeting again I would just go back to chatting to people like I've always done and not taking it too seriously and I've no doubt getting meets wouldn't be any different than before.

If I had thought at any stage in the last 10 years I was banging my head against a wall I wouldn't be here right now typing this response.

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By *kphooey43Man
2 days ago

Barnet

"We have met people. And the people that we have met, have met other people. So it does happen.

I have met people on here but I have never met an elephant.

I only came in for the elephant!

I am sure that if the OP did not refer to women as elephants he would have more success!

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By *lue Eyed JokerMan
2 days ago

Always on the move

I think for Fab, same as I think modern dating in general, is that it's all got a bit skewed (largely due to social media expectations etc). A lot of what gets framed as ‘preferences’ can sometimes come across as unrealistic or unachievable expectations, and it can make the whole thing feel like you’re constantly falling short of a moving target.

Not saying people shouldn’t have standards, but it does feel harder to connect in a genuine way than it used to when sometimes it can feel like applying for a job, rather than trying to get to know someone.

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By *lue Eyed JokerMan
2 days ago

Always on the move

Or have I missed the point.

.and there's actually an elephant?

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By *bwlover372Man
2 days ago

high wycombe

first joined this site about 15 years ago and had a handful of meets – then I left (due to a relationship) and then rejoin nearly 2 years ago and now go to clubs and chat and if I get to play it bonus

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By *eliWoman
2 days ago

Op, have you considered looking inwards?

Yeah, navel gazing isn't great but if I weren't receiving the response I'd hope for, I might look at the messages I've been sending. Who I've been messaging. What my profile looks like.

And then I might look at what I could do to improve my happiness on a site.

This is all based solely on what I would do in such a situation, obviously.

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By *layfullsamMan
2 days ago

Solihull

Plenty of 🐘 in pubs etc

Don’t put all your eggs in one fab basket

Get your safari suit on and go big game hunting

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By *aitonelMan
2 days ago

Liverpool

That's just how it goes.

Don't get bogged down by the rat race of it all. Just drop in, be yourself (or whoever you want to be) and let it all play out the way it's going to.

At the end of the day it really doesn't matter who you are, what you do, or what you are trying to achieve.

Others will perceive you exactly how they want, regardless of anything else, making the extra effort wasted.

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By *ontyboi76Man
2 days ago

Pontypridd

Another day another identical post. This site is unbalanced, that it. Chances I get a chat, tiny. How much I care if I don't tinnier. Enjoy the forums

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By *lue Eyed JokerMan
2 days ago

Always on the move

I also think that no matter how well you write a profile or message, a lot of people still default to surface-level judgments. If they decide early on you’re not quite in their bracket, they won’t give it much time, which makes it feel pretty transactional.

And while ‘look inward’ can be fair advice, it can also feel a bit dismissive in this context. Not everyone’s starting from the same experience, some people are filtering through volume, others are just trying to get a foot in the door.

But maybe that's just my take on it

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
Forum Mod
2 days ago

Central

Many people don't use the site and its tools to full advantage.

People don't know you, unless meeting at a Fab social or a club, so have to rely on a profile, to do this for them.

How much would your profile give others, so that they'll likely pick you, rather than 1 of the others?

Are your expectations realistic? What did you expect from swinging? How much do you invest?

It's tough for single men but each of you can do things that can make it more profitable for yourself

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By *ilbert777Woman
2 days ago

Burton-on-Trent

I think the numbers are such that there are a lot less women on here than men. I don't know how you can go about changing that. There is probably just a lot more interest from men than women. If it helps I am inundated by messages but not by serious offers to meet.

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By *lowupdollTV/TS
2 days ago

Hets/Beds/Leeds

Bimbo.

Dumbo.

Different. Don’t mix them up.

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By *mileyculturebelfastMan
2 days ago

belfast

Absolutely no other single male feels like this despite the almost daily topics whinging about it.

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By *eyond PurityCouple
2 days ago

East Lincs

Have you maybe thought with the amount of guys on here that standing out a little more might help? Better pics and a good bio?

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By *inkShyWoman
2 days ago

near Windsor

The high number of idiots that make females and couples not want to reply are probably the root cause for decent people often being overlooked.

Perhaps the question should be posed to those men as to why they behave the way they do?

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By *xposedInTheMaleMan
2 days ago

Cambridgeshire

Maybe the real issue is that this is a site for swingers, and doesn't work very well for single guys because they're not really swingers...

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By *warf with a mullet.Man
2 days ago

cardiff

"The high number of idiots that make females and couples not want to reply are probably the root cause for decent people often being overlooked.

Perhaps the question should be posed to those men as to why they behave the way they do?"

Because for the most part we are arseholes

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By *olo180Man
2 days ago

Greater London

"The high number of idiots that make females and couples not want to reply are probably the root cause for decent people often being overlooked.

Perhaps the question should be posed to those men as to why they behave the way they do?

Because for the most part we are arseholes"

Speak for yourself Dwarf. Arsehole men are just arseholes. I happen to think I’m quite nice 🤷🏻‍♂️

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By *morousCouple8Couple
2 days ago

Cumbria

"The high number of idiots that make females and couples not want to reply are probably the root cause for decent people often being overlooked.

Perhaps the question should be posed to those men as to why they behave the way they do?

Because for the most part we are arseholes"

Careful, can’t say that without luring the incels

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By *riel13Woman
2 days ago

Northampton

Still no fucking elephants then!

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By *mileyculturebelfastMan
2 days ago

belfast

"The high number of idiots that make females and couples not want to reply are probably the root cause for decent people often being overlooked.

Perhaps the question should be posed to those men as to why they behave the way they do?

Because for the most part we are arseholes"

Speak for yourself.

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By *mileyculturebelfastMan
2 days ago

belfast

"The high number of idiots that make females and couples not want to reply are probably the root cause for decent people often being overlooked.

Perhaps the question should be posed to those men as to why they behave the way they do?

Because for the most part we are arseholes

Careful, can’t say that without luring the incels "

Oh for fuck sake.

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By *warf with a mullet.Man
2 days ago

cardiff

"The high number of idiots that make females and couples not want to reply are probably the root cause for decent people often being overlooked.

Perhaps the question should be posed to those men as to why they behave the way they do?

Because for the most part we are arseholes

Speak for yourself Dwarf. Arsehole men are just arseholes. I happen to think I’m quite nice 🤷🏻‍♂️"

Nah, you're a dick

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By *olo180Man
2 days ago

Greater London

"The high number of idiots that make females and couples not want to reply are probably the root cause for decent people often being overlooked.

Perhaps the question should be posed to those men as to why they behave the way they do?

Because for the most part we are arseholes

Speak for yourself Dwarf. Arsehole men are just arseholes. I happen to think I’m quite nice 🤷🏻‍♂️

Nah, you're a dick"

🙄

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By *warf with a mullet.Man
2 days ago

cardiff

"The high number of idiots that make females and couples not want to reply are probably the root cause for decent people often being overlooked.

Perhaps the question should be posed to those men as to why they behave the way they do?

Because for the most part we are arseholes

Careful, can’t say that without luring the incels "

Looks like it too late

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By *aitonelMan
2 days ago

Liverpool

"Still no fucking elephants then! "

They know better than to come on fab

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By *k_123Man
2 days ago

the north

"Still no fucking elephants then! "

I can do a good impression of an elephant 😉😀

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By *morousCouple8Couple
2 days ago

Cumbria

"The high number of idiots that make females and couples not want to reply are probably the root cause for decent people often being overlooked.

Perhaps the question should be posed to those men as to why they behave the way they do?

Because for the most part we are arseholes

Careful, can’t say that without luring the incels

Looks like it too late "

🤣🤣🤣 don’t worry, it helps everyone’s block list stay up to date

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
2 days ago

Reading

I've met several men so some do!

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By *hilly1515Man
2 days ago

"Still no fucking elephants then!

I can do a good impression of an elephant 😉😀"

better with levi jeans the pockets are very deep and can be pulled all the way out..

don't ask how I know

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By *hristopherd999Man
2 days ago

Brentwood

I find it much more difficult nowadays, I don't know if my profile is bad or maybe it's an age thing, I wish I knew

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By *warf with a mullet.Man
2 days ago

cardiff

"I find it much more difficult nowadays, I don't know if my profile is bad or maybe it's an age thing, I wish I knew"

Definitely gets harder when you gdt older, but i also find myself not giving a shit or even trying, so that probably doesn't help me.

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By *hristopherd999Man
2 days ago

Brentwood

"I find it much more difficult nowadays, I don't know if my profile is bad or maybe it's an age thing, I wish I knew

Definitely gets harder when you gdt older, but i also find myself not giving a shit or even trying, so that probably doesn't help me."

People are more dismissive, plus there's an awful lot of timwasters and fakes on here, more than ther's ever been

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By *ovelyDayXXXWoman
2 days ago

Niche

🖐 I have met people.

Have we just launched a re-twist of the MeToo movement?

For those who meet in moresomes & groups say MeThree or get a lil crazy with a WeToo

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By *umagain58Man
2 days ago

London

"I find it much more difficult nowadays, I don't know if my profile is bad or maybe it's an age thing, I wish I knew

Definitely gets harder when you gdt older, but i also find myself not giving a shit or even trying, so that probably doesn't help me."

I think it’s easier as you get older. It is for me anyway as you get to know more and more people who swing. It definitely helps if you have a partner and most of meets not from here. Don’t do too bad on here though

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By *oastofReadingMan
2 days ago

Reading

As a single male on here, I tend not to meet people as such from here. I use it to keep in contact with friends I have made that I have met at socials or parties.

From those socials and parties I have made plans with some of those I have met to play outside of those events.

Your best bet is to actually meet people irl at club events. Especially those geared towards social etc.

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By *hickthighs26Woman
2 days ago

your hotlist

Isnt it only an "elephant in the room" if noone hardly mentions it? 👀

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By *inkShyWoman
2 days ago

near Windsor

"Isnt it only an "elephant in the room" if noone hardly mentions it? 👀"

This is more of a stampede in the room.

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By *hickthighs26Woman
2 days ago

your hotlist

"Isnt it only an "elephant in the room" if noone hardly mentions it? 👀

This is more of a stampede in the room."

Yes! 🤣

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By *raise_Me2026Woman
2 days ago

Close by

There’s a lot of men on here that sure do ruin it for others I’m sure

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By *tannersMan
2 days ago

stanley

How did an Elephant create a fab profile?? 🤷‍♂️

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By *olo180Man
2 days ago

Greater London

"How did an Elephant create a fab profile?? 🤷‍♂️"

He wasn’t a Dumbo

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By *ai Hard 2 - Dai HarderMan
2 days ago

Manchester / Cardiff

"How did an Elephant create a fab profile?? 🤷‍♂️

He wasn’t a Dumbo "

and what was Username did he choose?!

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By *issy LanaTV/TS
2 days ago

Slough

OP there are lots of lovely peeps on site, unfortunately there are some not so lovely peeps as well (just a case of embracing patience and understanding in the hope of connecting with someone who'll resonate mutual likeness).

Alternatively, venture to club and saunas where I've found it to be a lot more easier to engage with peeps who share similar interests.

Nothing ventured nothing gained...!

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By *elvet RopeMan
2 days ago

by the big field

You're over 45 now, so obviously well past it and unable to even understand the concept of sex. Once you get to fifty, you get your complimentary tartan slippers, which you wear to shuffle round the back of the shed, where you're shot and fed to the pigs....happy swinging

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By *oastofReadingMan
2 days ago

Reading

"You're over 45 now, so obviously well past it and unable to even understand the concept of sex. Once you get to fifty, you get your complimentary tartan slippers, which you wear to shuffle round the back of the shed, where you're shot and fed to the pigs....happy swinging

Sweet. Get my tartan slippers next year. I thought eligibility for saga holidays was the only benefit of being over 50.

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By *xposedInTheMaleMan
2 days ago

Cambridgeshire

"Definitely gets harder when you gdt older"

You should be grateful. Most guys have the opposite problem as they get older.

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By *rightonsteveMan
2 days ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I’ve read your profile, OP. There’s something fishy about it.

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By *riel13Woman
2 days ago

Northampton

"Still no fucking elephants then!

I can do a good impression of an elephant 😉😀"

Hahahaha so I see! 🤣

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By *wissTantraMasseurMan
2 days ago

geneva / lausanne switzerland

I have met a few when I lived abroad, in person, and a few in switzerland through here and also saunas and another site.

Honestly, not many meets from the sites, some gave reviews, some didn't, we had a nice time when meeting and playing.

I don't feel it is an issue for me.

I have not locked single men out of my message box, and understand why single women are cautious, and couples too.

Personally it's quality over quantity, and I trust the meets find me as I find them, we match, when it is meant to.

No pushing, no forcing, no craving or begging, and if we all feel safe, and safe and comfortable then we play. (note safe comes first and is doubled)

Many tend to look for a masturbation human, be it a sleeve on legs or a dildo on legs, and its not appealing to be an object, both ways.

Lets enjoy what us, and meets when they occur, even if it comes up to a couple a year, so what...

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By *m2330Man
2 days ago

Bromborough

Unfortunately even getting some level of replies probably means you’re in the 1-2% 🤣

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By *attooedbbwandhubbyCouple
2 days ago

Dorset

Meeting our first MFM for a 2nd time, so single males have a chance but it’s all down to how they interact.sadly alot of men can’t do that very well at all

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By *naswingdressWoman
2 days ago

Manchester (she/her)

"Unfortunately even getting some level of replies probably means you’re in the 1-2% 🤣"

Maybe. But showing that you understand the recipient is a person probably puts you in the top 50%, so it's not as hard as it seems.

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By *onnyeasygoingMan
1 day ago

Somewhere either Manchester or West London

I talk via messages but, those messages are only to whom I find physically or mentally attractive. There is a a massive amount more messaging than meetings, but after being around this site for some time, I understand what this site is about and how some ladies ( be they couple or single ) find the site.

There is no magic words that stimulate one and all.

As a single male on here, the only advice would be... be polite, be very patient and be realistic.

If it happens, and its what you have truly been wanting, celebrate like its the euro millions jackpot, if it doesn't then enjoy the site for the other activities. If that's not for you there is no point in being bitter, after all not everyone wins the jackpot in the euro's but you can take away little wins every now and then and no one is forcing you to play in that exact game, there are easier one to play, it's just different rules.

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By *uitedGent.Man
1 day ago

Milton Keynes

"Unfortunately even getting some level of replies probably means you’re in the 1-2% 🤣

Maybe. But showing that you understand the recipient is a person probably puts you in the top 50%, so it's not as hard as it seems. "

This.

You get out, what you put in.

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By *partharmonyCouple
1 day ago

Tonbridge

Why are you addressing an elephant about this?

Is it a stamped, addressed envelope? Because I've never found one big enough.

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By *eroLondonMan
1 day ago

Mayfair

"...is it just me or are any of you other single males getting the feeling of hitting your head again a brick wall these days..."

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It's not just you, OP.

This confounded place saps the very life force out of you. It's slim pickings on here; not an ounce of crumpet for the 'thinking men', let alone the dullards.

All my dreams have turned to dust and despair, with very little on offer to satiate my lust.

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By *ate2theparty808Man
1 day ago

Erdington

Fab for me is that little extra in my life, I’m fortunate enough to have a FWB who is dedicated to her job and her children and just wants a little no strings intimacy from time to time, without all the emotional baggage and drama, and we’re good friends too.

She knows I’m on here, and she knows I’m on here to meet other women, the only thing she asks is that I don’t unnecessary risks with both of our health.

So from my point of view, I don’t have that nagging feeling that I need to fuck someone, I can just go with the flow, make friends and enjoy some intelligent conversation.

I feel like I’m doing fab the right way.

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By *reeneggsandsamMan
1 day ago

Perpignan and cap

Oh cheer up you ol' tart! There's posts like this daily saying exactly the same thing. Stand out man! Be creative, use colour, ask a question that's not been asked before, have a sense of humour.

Jeez, drag yourself up, dust yourself off and grab the day by it's horns.

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By *.A.KinkWoman
1 day ago

wigan

Oh cheer up you ol' tart! There's posts like this daily saying exactly the same thing. Stand out man! Be creative, use colour, ask a question that's not been asked before, have a sense of humour.

Jeez, drag yourself up, dust yourself off and grab the day by it's horns. "

LOL

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By *warf with a mullet.Man
1 day ago

cardiff

"Meeting our first MFM for a 2nd time, so single males have a chance but it’s all down to how they interact.sadly alot of men can’t do that very well at all"

That is why wd are singe on here, instead of being in a relationship

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
1 day ago

Leeds

Many men think they can come here, make zero effort with their profile or messages & somehow meet people?

Expectations need to meet reality at some point.

We meet people we are compatible with, I guage this by looking at their profile & pics, if I can't see anything I assume we aren't compatible.

Mrs

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By *est-Yorkshire-GentMan
1 day ago

Leeds

Finding real genuine people isn’t as simple as it once was but there’s still so many great people on Fab! I’ve been on and off as a single guy and as part of a couple for a period, for a total of 12 years.

It’s changed a lot and it’s a lot more challenging for single guys now but if you’re genuine, fun and patient, you’ll get plenty of interest which could lead to meets

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By *art1968Man
1 day ago

stafford

I just use it really to chat and read what’s going on, I’m realistic about what’s going to or not going to happen so any meets are a bonus

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By *arc PolarisMan
1 day ago

Birmingham

What's the elephant in the room?

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By *xposedInTheMaleMan
1 day ago

Cambridgeshire

"What's the elephant in the room? "

It's behind you...

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By *r_MrsLCouple
1 day ago

Leeds

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By *r_MrsLCouple
1 day ago

Leeds

"Use fab as a social club to make friends, have a laugh and share thoughts/ideas op.Anything else to me is a bonus. "

I think this is a great response. I’ve not been on here long but had a couple of chats already where I felt there was a good connection / shared interests and although it won’t lead to anything else, meeting people virtually like this is underrated - if this is agreeable, of course.

To put into perspective- we’re open but very much ‘not out’ - so even being able to chat about this without judgement is really nice, actually.

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By *ulieScrumptiousWoman
1 day ago

North West

I think the elephant ties the room together nicely 😍

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By *aitonelMan
1 day ago

Liverpool

"I think the elephant ties the room together nicely 😍"

They do have big ties

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By *exxyyDy11Man
1 day ago

North West

There is an Elephant on fab? This site continues to surprise me.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
1 day ago

Crumpet Castle

"I think the elephant ties the room together nicely 😍

They do have big ties"

They are very handy for stopping them falling off the skis.

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By *elvet RopeMan
1 day ago

by the big field

Sweet. Get my tartan slippers next year. I thought eligibility for saga holidays was the only benefit of being over 50. "

TBF, the car insurance is pretty decent- you get added reductions for a trilby on the back shelf and a decent stock of Werthers Originals in the glove box

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By *art1968Man
1 day ago

stafford

"Use fab as a social club to make friends, have a laugh and share thoughts/ideas op.Anything else to me is a bonus.

To put into perspective- we’re open but very much ‘not out’ - so even being able to chat about this without judgement is really nice, actually."

You’ve put it as perfectly as it could be

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By *urvytattedprincessWoman
1 day ago

Pentney

Different people use fab for different things.

Some are here to yap in the forums

Some to watch/perform on cam

Some just to peruse

Some are on the club scene and use it to message those they've met

Some for meets.

Meets are so dependent on so many things but especially profile, mindset and approach.

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By *reachers SonMan
1 day ago

north West

It's always been somewhat difficult for guys in the years I've been on and off here. It's a rare occasion for me to send a message first because of the stacked odds of it even being read let alone being wanted. I just enjoy the people watching aspect of being here now. It's akin to sitting in a coffee shop watching the world and all it's wonderfully weird people go by.

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By *xposedInTheMaleMan
1 day ago

Cambridgeshire

"It's always been somewhat difficult for guys in the years I've been on and off here. It's a rare occasion for me to send a message first because of the stacked odds of it even being read let alone being wanted. I just enjoy the people watching aspect of being here now. It's akin to sitting in a coffee shop watching the world and all it's wonderfully weird people go by."

Nicely put!

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By *ornucopiaMan
1 day ago

Bexley

How can the OP expect to get anywhere on Fab without having any tattoos or piercings?

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By *uts123Man
1 day ago

Nr Ipswich

Anyone seen the elephant in here yet? If not check the fridge!

By the way what did the elephant say to the naked man?

"Cute, but can you pick up peanuts with it?"

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By *oastofReadingMan
1 day ago

Reading

"How can the OP expect to get anywhere on Fab without having any tattoos or piercings?"

This. I got mine purely to boost my chances of a meet.

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By *exxyyDy11Man
1 day ago

North West

Has anyone found this Elephant yet?

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By *aitonelMan
1 day ago

Liverpool

"Has anyone found this Elephant yet?"

Yes

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By *ornucopiaMan
1 day ago

Bexley

"How can the OP expect to get anywhere on Fab without having any tattoos or piercings?

This. I got mine purely to boost my chances of a meet. "

Also, he's a non smoker. So of no benefit to anyone who needs to bum a roll up off him...

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By *urvytattedprincessWoman
1 day ago

Pentney

"Has anyone found this Elephant yet?"

Its on my left quad if you still cant find it 😘😉🤷🏼‍♀️

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By *xposedInTheMaleMan
1 day ago

Cambridgeshire

"Its on my left quad if you still cant find it 😘😉🤷🏼‍♀️"

I think the forum needs proof. I'm willing to come and do an inspection to validate it...

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By *akeharmanMan
1 day ago

Reading

No meets and most of my messages (pretty well thought out messages - I always read profiles, can't understand why people wouldn't) are either left unread or deleted.

Actually impacting my confidence.

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By *ulieScrumptiousWoman
1 day ago

North West

"Has anyone found this Elephant yet?"

His name is Jeremiah Jellytots. But you may address him as Sir

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By *moothdickMan
1 day ago

stoke

What do u dress an elephant in!!

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By *naswingdressWoman
1 day ago

Manchester (she/her)

"No meets and most of my messages (pretty well thought out messages - I always read profiles, can't understand why people wouldn't) are either left unread or deleted.

Actually impacting my confidence.

How's your profile? Does it sell you as well as it can?

Also, try not to take confidence from Fab - she's a fickle beast.

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By *urvytattedprincessWoman
1 day ago

Pentney

"Its on my left quad if you still cant find it 😘😉🤷🏼‍♀️

I think the forum needs proof. I'm willing to come and do an inspection to validate it... "

Its in my pics....for all to see

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