FabSwingers.com forum: Is texting cheating in a relationship?

By *hagTonight OP Man
7 days ago

From the land of haribos.

I saw this quote and it would be interesting to see what you think of it is, it was about if it is cheating if your partner is texting someone else every day?

The replies was mixed, for some it was and others it depends on what you are texting, like sending pics and such things.

I would say that, yes, it would be cheating, unless you know the person, because there wouldnt otherwise be a reason for the partner to text someone else in secret, because it brakes the established relationship boundaries.

Here is an interesting thing,did you know that it is called micro cheating, the reason it is called that is because it replaces the partners role.

It would be interesting to see what your view of it is, also would it depend what kind of relationship you have too?

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By *uitedGent.Man
7 days ago

Milton Keynes

Of course it is,

Telling someone you want to put your dick in them, is as bad as putting your dick in them.

Imo.

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By *all me FlikWoman
7 days ago

Galaxy Far Far Away

Anything physical or emotional that's done without a partner's knowledge and purposefully kept secret is cheating for me, whether that's as far as it goes or whether it leads to more, which is often the case.

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By *tlanshiaWoman
7 days ago

Chatham

I don’t agree texting someone everyday it cheating. I text my best friend every day

Likes she’s my man lol.

It’s if your deleting the messages or hiding them

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By *eorgesdad69Man
7 days ago

Long Eaton

I message a long term friend, she is married I have sent her naked pics of me and my male lovers she is one of 3 people who knows of my gay Her husband is aware we are friends but not of our intimate chats. I don’t see it as cheating 🤪👍

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By *eliWoman
7 days ago

Cheating isn't just someone saying they're working/busy/ill and lying to a partner whilst they're fucking another.

Texting can be a form of it. If it wasn't an issue, why would you actively try and keep it secret from your partner?

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By *uitedGent.Man
7 days ago

Milton Keynes

"I message a long term friend, she is married I have sent her naked pics of me and my male lovers she is one of 3 people who knows of my gay Her husband is aware we are friends but not of our intimate chats. I don’t see it as cheating 🤪👍"

I do. Because he’s not aware.

If there’s nothing wrong with it, why hide it?

But each to their own

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By *a LunaWoman
7 days ago

Wales

I’m sure her husband wouldn’t see it that way.

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By *AYENCouple
7 days ago

Lincolnshire

If done surreptitiously, yes, absolutely. K.

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By *eductiveSecretsWoman
7 days ago

Birmingham

Anything thats hidden is being deceptive but as long as your partner is aware of the kind of relationship you have with the person, there isn't a problem. If the person you are texting is providing you something thats missing in your relationship then thats not okay and needs addressing.

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By *issLickalottapusWoman
7 days ago

La La Land

Is texting cheating in a relationship?

Depends

I have an open relationship with my better half, she knows where I go and what I get up to, but she doesn't want to know the details

So when it comes to messages, she knows I am messaging others and most of those messages are of a sexual nature, but she doesn't know the context. If she did want to see them, I would have no issues showing

So I don't delete, I don't hide them, it's her personal choice not to see them or know about the content

But, if I was messaging without consent and hiding/deleting, then yes, I believe this is a form of cheating.

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By *ergus1622Man
7 days ago

Dundee

Well if you're on here without your partners knowing is cheating and then the extra of messaging and pictures. But if they know and you communicate its no problems!

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By *iCurvCPLCouple
7 days ago

Newport

It's emotional cheating which is just as bad and disrespectful

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By *ld Stella HeelsTV/TS
7 days ago

ross on wye

"I saw this quote and it would be interesting to see what you think of it is, it was about if it is cheating if your partner is texting someone else every day?

The replies was mixed, for some it was and others it depends on what you are texting, like sending pics and such things.

Here is an interesting thing,did you know that it is called micro cheating, the reason it is called that is because it replaces the partners role.

It would be interesting to see what your view of it is, also would it depend what kind of relationship you have too?

Wish she was

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
7 days ago

Leeds

If you have to hide it, lie about it or keep it secret then yes.

Mrs

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By *hams123Man
7 days ago

London

Yes.

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By *ontyboi76Man
7 days ago

Pontypridd

Cheating is all forms of contact in an inappropriate nature with someone you shouldn't be or have not got the permission to contact. Deceiving your partner.

Now on a site like this if a partner has given permission to chat or more and vice versa, that's not cheating. The deception is the cheating.

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By *hagTonight OP Man
7 days ago

From the land of haribos.

"Anything physical or emotional that's done without a partner's knowledge and purposefully kept secret is cheating for me, whether that's as far as it goes or whether it leads to more, which is often the case."
Hi callmeflik, yes, you are right there, anything physical or emotional that is done without their knowledge is cheating too

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By *ineapple_turnoverCouple
7 days ago

London

Whether something is cheating or not is only dependent on the two (or more) people in the relationship.

Is it cheating? Only the partner can say yes or no.

I can have sex with other swingers without explicitly telling Mrs every time and that's fine. If I was intimately, emotionally texting someone I met at work that would not be fine.

A couple sets their own expectations, rules and boundaries and anything outside can be considered cheating.

But as others have said if you'd be worried about your partner finding out, that's probably a good sign that you've crossed a line.

Whether that bothers you or not is then your decision!

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By *lkGuyMagic24Man
7 days ago

Kingswood

Cheating is subjective to the individual, if I had a gf or wife and she was fucking someone behind my back then relationship over. If she handed her number to somebody or texting someone else I’d be upset and I’d have the conversation but I don’t see it as cheating. I really only see cheating as a physical action kissing fucking etc

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By *estructionDollyWoman
7 days ago

Manchester

I'm confused here.

Do people consider your partner texting someone they are friends with every day cheating then, even if the conversation is completely non sexual? 🤯

Isn't that just friendships?

Is it okay if a partner texted a friend of the same gender every day but not if its someone of the opposite gender (or the equivalent for gay couples)?

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
7 days ago

Reading

It's the secrecy that is damaging.

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By *cherryblossom-Woman
7 days ago

South glos

It’s fab, there’s people who think having a whole ass other boyfriend isn’t cheating in a relationship 😅

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By *s Little SecretWoman
7 days ago

Harlow

I think it's more for us, if I'm texting and deleting them would be considered cheating. Or meeting someone and not saying prior, or withholding information after. He gets off on knowing I'm sexting someone else, so there would be no reason to hide it 🤷🏻‍♀️

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By *PS81Man
7 days ago

Ashton

it's not just physical.. feelings for someone else, in any form, is cheating

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By *2000ManMan
7 days ago

Worthing

Every day? I'd be very worried but depends who it is.

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By *olyGlamorousWoman
7 days ago

Chester

"It's emotional cheating which is just as bad and disrespectful "

This 👆🏼

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By *lym4realCouple
7 days ago

plymouth

Anything done behind a partners back and without there knowledge is cheating ? and surely that's the whole point of being on here is the abilty to be honest/upfront and not sneaking around behind peoples/partners back or are we just a pair of weirdo's/odd balls for thinking that way ? but different strokes for differents folks we guess xx

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By *olvesxcoupleCouple
7 days ago

Round the bend

If your partner doesn't have any knowledge of it, it's cheating.

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By *parkle1974Woman
7 days ago

Leeds

If you can't/won't show your partner then yes it's cheating.

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By *ound1Man
7 days ago

Blackpool

If the other half doesn't know then yes

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By *hisIsMe58Man
7 days ago

Winchester

If they were texting someone I didn't know and behind my back, I would definitely call this cheating.

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By *vonne5exMan
7 days ago

Doncaster

Yep

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
Forum Mod
7 days ago

Central

It depends what has explicitly been agreed between partners. If it's not been discussed, then it doesn't make it acceptable and just shows the need to discuss it and agree - before the act starts.

If you sense your partner doesn't know and hasn't given consent, then it's time to get it, to prevent loss of trust.

It's cheating to try to use anything but the full truth, to gain consent

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By *orkshirefun26Man
7 days ago

leeds

Depends on the context I think

As if it's normal friendship and it stays like that. Then no not cheating

If goes romantic or sexual then yes definitely cheating

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By *arialoueWoman
7 days ago

Doncaster

Yeah it's cheating

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By *urvytattedprincessWoman
7 days ago

Pentney

Yep....it all starts with deception. No matter how small

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By *arzanandJane2016Couple
7 days ago

the big city

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By *arzanandJane2016Couple
7 days ago

the big city

How many people are on here without their partners consent

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By *uckyNineMan
7 days ago

prescot

"How many people are on here without their partners consent "

Now that sounds like a title for a whole new forum thread

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By *ontyboi76Man
7 days ago

Pontypridd

"How many people are on here without their partners consent "

At least 10 a day in my partners inbox. She loves to reject them lol.

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By *hagTonight OP Man
7 days ago

From the land of haribos.

"Cheating isn't just someone saying they're working/busy/ill and lying to a partner whilst they're fucking another.

Texting can be a form of it. If it wasn't an issue, why would you actively try and keep it secret from your partner? "
Hi _eli, yes, you are right there, texting can be a form of cheating, there would be no other reason for it too

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By *oyoteUglyWoman
7 days ago

Somewhere dark and gloomy

If you're hiding it from your partner. It's cheating.

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By *eautyandthebeast86Couple
7 days ago

Somewhere in Norfolk ask :)

I have a couple of men I text most days who are part of a couple but the female isn’t interested in chatting just play ( and yes there really is a female ) and my fella doesn’t mind but that’s because I’m open and honest with him and most of the time it’s talking about the weather, my partner knows for me I prefer to build a connection especially with men if I’m to play so messaging regularly helps me do this.

It would be totally different if I was to get a single man’s number and text him constantly or if my fella was to do the same with a single woman.

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By *hagTonight OP Man
7 days ago

From the land of haribos.

"If they were texting someone I didn't know and behind my back, I would definitely call this cheating."
Yes, if they were texting someone else you didnt know about too

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By *laytime_13Woman
7 days ago

Lincs

I'd be more likely to be forgiving of physical cheating than emotional cheating.

It would depend on the frequency and content of the messages and secrecy surrounding them to me as to whether I'd class it as cheating or not. I think I might find it odd if a partner was messaging someone else on a daily basis though. Explicit messages is much clearer cut. Intimate messages even more so.

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By *umfun24Man
7 days ago

wilmslow

I think this is a really deep question. I think most people would agree that physical activity is cheating, there is clearly a split of opinions about messaging, but what is the opinion on thoughts? Looking, imagining, wanting….. how is that perceived?

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By *andleit1980Man
7 days ago

BRISTOL

Personally I think the main word is 'hidden'

If you are hiding replies,keeping your phone with you at all times etc then clearly there must be something to it

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By *ampireLoveMan
7 days ago

Essex

Relationships (Infidelity): Breaking emotional or sexual exclusivity (e.g., secret dating, physical affairs, emotional infidelity, hiding communication with someone else).

It’s cheating. How you perceive cheating is a different question though.

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By *parklingeclipseWoman
7 days ago

Lincolnshire

"How many people are on here without their partners consent "

There are absolutely loads!! Im married. My hubby knows I am on here. He takes some of my pics, but he's not on here himself. I talk to lots of guys through the messages I receive and so many of their wives/partners have no idea.

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By *igblue70Man
7 days ago

Bootle

If done secretly it’s cheating

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By *rightonsteveMan
7 days ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"I think this is a really deep question. I think most people would agree that physical activity is cheating, there is clearly a split of opinions about messaging, but what is the opinion on thoughts? Looking, imagining, wanting….. how is that perceived?"

PreCog ThoughtCrime. Double Plus Ungood.

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By *ex HolesMan
7 days ago

Up North

I love a bit of micro-cheating

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By *hagTonight OP Man
7 days ago

From the land of haribos.

"It's emotional cheating which is just as bad and disrespectful "
Yes, you are right there, emotional cheating is just as bad and disrespectful too

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By *hagTonight OP Man
6 days ago

From the land of haribos.

"Anything thats hidden is being deceptive but as long as your partner is aware of the kind of relationship you have with the person, there isn't a problem. If the person you are texting is providing you something thats missing in your relationship then thats not okay and needs addressing."
Yes, you are right there, anything that is hidden is being deceptive, unless the partner is aware of it, then it is ok too

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