FabSwingers.com forum: 5mths in …

By *picy Intrigue OP Man
11 weeks ago

Warwickshire

Still no meet but getting a good feel for who’s real, who are bots and who are just not who they say they are.

Any advice much appreciated given it’s now 5mths from when I came on here. I assume many will say zero meets is absolutely normal but it doesn’t feel it to me.

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By *hamallamadingdongMan
11 weeks ago

London

Have you been to any socials?

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
11 weeks ago

Central

The site doesn't add any bits. It's reliable here but single men will benefit from making realistic expectations and expecting to need to invest heavily in their efforts.

Get to Fab socials and clubs, to get to know people and vice versa

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By *oundtightCouple
11 weeks ago

Manchester

Nothing obviously wrong with your profile op, you might just be having bad luck or you might just not be cultivating enough opportunities (socials, messaging people, etc).

When I was on as a single guy in the past I generally got approximately what I wanted relatively quickly. But then maybe the times have changed 👴 nowadays I have more conversations elsewhere anyway.

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By *oxy-RedWoman
11 weeks ago

pink panther territory

Your profile is fine and honestly 5mths isn't really that long

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By *ampireLoveMan
11 weeks ago

Essex

How are you interacting with people on here? Hard to give advice based on little details. Do you go to socials that arranged here? You do interact in the forums to meet people. 5 months means nothing unless we know why you have done

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By *picy Intrigue OP Man
11 weeks ago

Warwickshire

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By *ambiThistleCouple
11 weeks ago

Coulston

5 months isn’t long at all, but the best advice we can give is get yourself along to some social events, or dare I even say - some club nights.

A perfect way to socialise, get some verifications and in turn, that should help put you in the right circles.

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By *viatrixCouple
11 weeks ago

Gatwick

Are you just waiting to be asked to meet by couples/women?

If so, I’d grab a comfy chair as you’re in for a long, long wait…

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By *adCherriesCouple
11 weeks ago

Cheshire/Northwest

Lovely written profile.

Maybe try socials, clubs or webcam room to get some verifications. We won't message a profile with no verifications (though I suggest in person verifications are better then cam).

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By *vaRoseWoman
11 weeks ago

Ankh-Morpork

Bio is decent

Pics are a little samey if I’m being picky. Too many “top on dick out” Winnie the Pooh style for my taste but it’s still better than 80% of other profiles. Maybe switch it up a bit.

Get out to the socials, chat to people and make an impression in person. You’ll pick up a few social verifications that way too

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By *rightonsteveMan
11 weeks ago

Hove, mainly…

"Bio is decent

Pics are a little samey if I’m being picky. Too many “top on dick out” Winnie the Pooh style for my taste but it’s still better than 80% of other profiles. Maybe switch it up a bit.

Get out to the socials, chat to people and make an impression in person. You’ll pick up a few social verifications that way too"

At the risk of being a lazy sod copycat - what she said ^^^ the pics are too similar. Buy a pineapple.

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By *an ClioCouple
11 weeks ago

Boston

Patience, persistence, respect and optimism will win the day. That and being lucky enough to be available at the right time for the right people in the right place for the right reasons. Never publically express your disappointment in not getting a meet.

Just as everyone else says, get yourself down to a local club and social. Flash your cock around in people's faces and brag about how you can smash doors in and ruin vaginas with your mighty wand of raptutous pleasure. That is a sure fire winner.

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By *AYENCouple
11 weeks ago

Lincolnshire

Your profile shows effort and is well written, but together with your public pics, it's very sex-centric.

It would certainly put us off - but have no idea if that's the reason for the lack of meets.

I don't think time alone ever changes anything. K.

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By *igJFromSAMan
11 weeks ago

Woking

Echoing what others have said, but you'll have far more luck at in person group socials or clubs than trying to generate connections purely from here.

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By *agic.MMan
11 weeks ago

Kent/London

"Are you just waiting to be asked to meet by couples/women?

If so, I’d grab a comfy chair as you’re in for a long, long wait… "

That's actually a perfectly reasonable approach 👌...that's how I do it 👀

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By *iss DevilWoman
11 weeks ago

Bedford

OP, your photos are very similar, it's either your cock or a body shot. Try something a little bit different. Personally, I am not a fan of many cock pics, and the ones that have just ejaculated making me want to

. But it's your profile and your choice.

Your bio has a feel of AI being used to write it- again, your profile, your choice.

Definitely get more involved in forum, and if you can, get yourself out and about, to organised socials and clubs. Those would help you get noticed in your swinging community.

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By *picy Intrigue OP Man
11 weeks ago

Warwickshire

"Lovely written profile.

Maybe try socials, clubs or webcam room to get some verifications. We won't message a profile with no verifications (though I suggest in person verifications are better then cam). "

Aww thank you. Taken a while to get it right I guess and I won’t satisfy all the feedback I get. Getting the first veri is so tough. It’s like proving I’m human rather than a bot 😂

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By *picy Intrigue OP Man
11 weeks ago

Warwickshire

"OP, your photos are very similar, it's either your cock or a body shot. Try something a little bit different. Personally, I am not a fan of many cock pics, and the ones that have just ejaculated making me want to

. But it's your profile and your choice.

Your bio has a feel of AI being used to write it- again, your profile, your choice.

Definitely get more involved in forum, and if you can, get yourself out and about, to organised socials and clubs. Those would help you get noticed in your swinging community. "

Thank you - common theme with the pics which I’ll review. I can assure you no AI used for this at all. Just about me and what I enjoy 🤷🏼‍♂️

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By *oelMan
11 weeks ago

Midlands, London, Brussels

"Still no meet but getting a good feel for who’s real, who are bots and who are just not who they say they are.

Any advice much appreciated given it’s now 5mths from when I came on here. I assume many will say zero meets is absolutely normal but it doesn’t feel it to me. "

The activity doesn't happen on fab, where have you been, what have you attended?

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By *rightonsteveMan
11 weeks ago

Hove, mainly…

I like a sexy bot.

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By *veragecouple2000Couple
11 weeks ago

South Wales

I agree with lot of the other comments……a local group social is a great way of meeting people xx 😘

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By *artorialMan
11 weeks ago

weymouth

5months is no time at all TBF, its taken me several years along with club visits - the best thing I did was wear some 'out there' clothes that got me noticed as I stood out. Conversations then happened contacts made and my swinging life picked up

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By *007ManMan
11 weeks ago

Worthing

A social is the way to go. Chat in forums/cam rooms make friends and get noticed.

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By *igladAndLulahCouple
11 weeks ago

South East

"Still no meet but getting a good feel for who’s real, who are bots and who are just not who they say they are.

Any advice much appreciated given it’s now 5mths from when I came on here. I assume many will say zero meets is absolutely normal but it doesn’t feel it to me. "

You have a great profile, better than most in fairness. The one issue you have and that would mean we wouldn’t meet you is that you have no in person verifications. You need to get to socials and clubs, meet some people, it gives you so much more credibility.

Obviously we don’t know how you message, if you sends pics and what type of pics, how you communicate but, based on what we can see, the. I veris is a big thing for us personally

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By *picy Intrigue OP Man
2 days ago

Warwickshire

Update: 7mths in and still dry as a bone. Profiles read, messages sent to those of interest and either no reply or deleted.

Hard work

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By *WB85Man
2 days ago

Staffordshire

I think it was around 12 months before I got first meet.

Group socials or newbie events at clubs can be helpful.

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By *he MinionMan
2 days ago

Surrey

If you have changed nothing between being here for 5 months and being here 2 more months then nothing will change.

Your pics look fine to me as does your profile. But as others have said, get yourself to a social and widen or attempt to create a social network. The social side of this is a big part of it. Get out there, be seen, introduce yourself to people. Fab itself is just a very small tool, useful yes but not the be all and end all.

Socials and clubs, you'll enjoy meeting more people and I reckon you'll do just fine at them.

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By *picy Intrigue OP Man
2 days ago

Warwickshire

"If you have changed nothing between being here for 5 months and being here 2 more months then nothing will change.

Socials and clubs, you'll enjoy meeting more people and I reckon you'll do just fine at them."

🫶🏻🫶🏻

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By *ull of PuddinWoman
2 days ago

isle of munters

I know it's gonna be an unpopular opinion but I always think when someone puts a far younger starting age to their age and smaller range from their age to older it's off putting to me.

I agree with above comments of AI, samey pics and a high expectation.

7 months is like 7 seconds in fab time

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By *picy Intrigue OP Man
2 days ago

Warwickshire

"I know it's gonna be an unpopular opinion but I always think when someone puts a far younger starting age to their age and smaller range from their age to older it's off putting to me.

I agree with above comments of AI, samey pics and a high expectation.

7 months is like 7 seconds in fab time"

Thank you. Not sure on the AI as have not used any whatsoever 🤷🏼‍♂️

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By *eroLondonMan
2 days ago

Mayfair

You haven't really clarified what your approach is and what type of messages you're sending. Are they identikit messages or tailored to the profiles that you are trying to engage with?

I think it's your profile which is the (potential) culprit: your photographs come across as 'contrived' monochrome for the sake of being monochrome; they are simply too dark and indiscernible. They are also too similar and don't deviate from the repetition.

Seething status updates aren't going to help your cause for you target audience.

Your profile narrative: I don't know what "EQ" is.

"Happy to send face pics and will usually send in my first message.

Happy Fabbing x" — boilerplate sentence often found on many profiles.

"...if my profile is of interest please drop me a message." — remove this. Women aren't stupid, if they're interested they will message you. They don't need prompting.

Otherwise your profile text is fine but it's missing something which I'm struggling to pinpoint.

I hoping things improve for you. Good luck, gentlefellow. 🩶

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By *picy Intrigue OP Man
2 days ago

Warwickshire

"You haven't really clarified what your approach is and what type of messages you're sending. Are they identikit messages or tailored to the profiles that you are trying to engage with?

Seething status updates aren't going to help your cause for you target audience.

Your profile narrative: I don't know what "EQ" is.

"Happy to send face pics and will usually send in my first message.

Happy Fabbing x" — boilerplate sentence often found on many profiles.

"...if my profile is of interest please drop me a message." — remove this. Women aren't stupid, if they're interested they will message you. They don't need prompting.

Otherwise your profile text is fine but it's missing something which I'm struggling to pinpoint.

I hoping things improve for you. Good luck, gentlefellow. 🩶"

Thanks. Messages I send are tailored for the profile I read. I’ll amend profile to adjust those bits you’ve suggested. Thanks.

Will need to sort out pure natural coloured pics next I guess.

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