FabSwingers.com forum: No shows

By *aughty treats OP Man
6 days ago

tamworth

Just wondering what experiences others her in terms of arranging a meet and then people not turning up. I asked someone for a coffee this morning as we’re quite local. They told me a coffee shop about 30 mins away and then just didn’t turn up. Just don’t understand it and trying to figure out it it is just me or this happens regularly now across the sit

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By *uttercupWoman
6 days ago

Borders

No show = Instant block

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By *aomilatteCouple
6 days ago

Midlands

We only meet at clubs. Nine times out of ten when a couple say they're going to meet us in a club they don't, however we always have a good night anyway. What you're describing is very common.

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By *aughty treats OP Man
6 days ago

tamworth

Yes deffo. I just don’t get the logic. I don’t get why you would actually agree a meet suggest a location and then just not turn up or message x

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By *indaCharmingDubMan
6 days ago

South Dublin

"No show = Instant block"

Absolutely!

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By *hams123Man
6 days ago

London

It happens. That's life. Some people like the thrill of the chase. I hope you're ok OP. Be kind to yourself. Hopefully you have a better experience next time. 👍🏾☺️

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By *hil most chillMan
6 days ago

London, South East & Europe

I've been lucky enough to never have experienced a no show, but I'm sure it's just a matter of time

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By *indaCharmingDubMan
6 days ago

South Dublin

"I don’t get why you would actually agree a meet suggest a location and then just not turn up or message"

Some people are on here purely for the fantasy, but may not actually look like they claim, and take no head of the fact the rest of us are humans with expectations and feelings 🤷🏻‍♂️

I'd love to even just meet up for more sociable coffees, but you have to be confident who you're chatting with before taking that step.

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
6 days ago

Reading

It's never happened to me but I put a few safeguards in place such as they have to contact me on the day to confirm.

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By *herry77Woman
6 days ago

North West

It’s not you, OP, it’s very definitely a them issue. There are some strange people on here. Onwards and upwards 💪💕

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By *rightonsteveMan
6 days ago

Brighton - even Hove!

It’s good to meet for a coffee so if they don’t show you can still chill and have a coffee. Shitty behaviour though.

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By *aughty treats OP Man
6 days ago

tamworth

Thanks everyone. I was arranged very quickly and last minute so maybe that should have been for first responders flag but they had lots of verifications. I wouldn’t have minded the no show so much had they now send me 20 mins in the front direction as well!

Sadly I do feel my 25 year association with Fab might edging to a close.

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By *ilkyHotChocolateCouple
6 days ago

Basingstoke

After having 4 arranged meets in a row with single guys go wrong from them not showing up we now won't chat with anyone not photo and meet verified. Plus we message some of the people on his verification list to check how the meet went, kind of like a reference from a job interview... 🤣

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By *rightonsteveMan
6 days ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"After having 4 arranged meets in a row with single guys go wrong from them not showing up we now won't chat with anyone not photo and meet verified. Plus we message some of the people on his verification list to check how the meet went, kind of like a reference from a job interview... 🤣"

Oh no! One of mine says I’m a shit shag!

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By *WB85Man
6 days ago

Staffordshire

Weve always been so lucky.....people do turn up.

Whether they're what you expect, thats a totally different story.

People say clubs are better but thats fine if you're ok with the rushed feel. Its really not our thing.

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By *lirtyFilthWoman
6 days ago

Barnstaple

I do turn up for mine. However, I’m timeblind so tend to be late. It’s such an awful trait and I hate it. Are you sure they just weren’t late OP?

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By *utoftheBluexWoman
6 days ago

Bot Farm

It happens so often that I have lost the keenness to meet tbh.

Even though I don't do last-minute meetings, only after chatting and building a connection, I have been stood up many times. I deleted my previous profile a while ago and started this one. The same guys who ghosted me when I was waiting for a social, dared to ask for a meeting. again making the most ridiculous excuses.

“ I was in the hospital, I'm married and I was scared, I'm 20 years older than my profile pic” All blocked again.

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By *est-Yorkshire-GentMan
6 days ago

Leeds

It can be quite common unfortunately 😕 block and move on

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By *erkshire8299Man
6 days ago

slough

Any reply or meeting I take with a pinch of salt...you never know how it will work out or not.

Very odd your no show was very local.

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By *orphia2003Woman
6 days ago

Tonypandy.

Happens frequently. I now don't meet outside of organised socials I'm already attending.

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By *lowupdollTV/TS
6 days ago

Hets/Beds/Leeds

Always have a Plan B then assume you are their Plan B and treat them like Plan B in your Plan A which was your Plan B but is now your Plan A which could be Plan B again if you find your Plan B is treating you like their Plan A and now you’re both Plan A.

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By *reative-mindMan
6 days ago

Exeter

"Always have a Plan B then assume you are their Plan B and treat them like Plan B in your Plan A which was your Plan B but is now your Plan A which could be Plan B again if you find your Plan B is treating you like their Plan A and now you’re both Plan A. "

Who would you describe as your favourite British Rap/Grimsby artist that dabbled in a spot of acting?

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By *issmorganWoman
6 days ago

Calderdale innit

It seems to happen a fair bit here nowadays op. Sorry you had that, please report their profile and block them.

There's not many reasons someone can't let you know if they've changed their mind or something has come up these days.

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By *lowupdollTV/TS
6 days ago

Hets/Beds/Leeds

Who would you describe as your favourite British Rap/Grimsby artist that dabbled in a spot of acting? "

What Drew you to ask that?

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By *issmorganWoman
6 days ago

Calderdale innit

When I was more active and single, I only evey had one no show for a social. He was well verified too, so go figure.

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By *reative-mindMan
6 days ago

Exeter

Who would you describe as your favourite British Rap/Grimsby artist that dabbled in a spot of acting?

What Drew you to ask that? "

It was an awful Plan B joke... don't worry.

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By *lowupdollTV/TS
6 days ago

Hets/Beds/Leeds

Who would you describe as your favourite British Rap/Grimsby artist that dabbled in a spot of acting?

What Drew you to ask that?

It was an awful Plan B joke... don't worry. "

Ben Drew. Real name of Plan B.

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By *tlanshiaWoman
6 days ago

Chatham

That’s the reason why I only meet a clubs now, if they turn up great. If they don’t I still have a good night.

I’ve had single dudes accuse me of being paid by clubs to get people to pay to go lol

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By *eautyandthebeast86Couple
6 days ago

Somewhere in Norfolk ask :)

We had a couple ask us to meet in their local and was only 30 min drive, got there no sign of them, waited 30 mins had a pint and then left , blocked them. It happens.

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By *upra1Man
6 days ago

essex area

I think everyone has at some point been let down.

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By *hastity_roseTV/TS
2 days ago

Nowhere

From the experience of a cross dresser / tv that's been let down so many times , so frustrating and upsetting. Some dressers get a chance once or twice a year to get dressed with the view of meeting.

In my case hotel , make up , travel and new clothes have been booked and paid for before a meet . Only for that person not to turn up is as usual disappear that day .

The reason I don't have a plan b is that I don't want to let someone down that I won't meet as it's not fair .

The emotional empty feeling for a dresser that's went through the emotional, physical and psychological barriers to even be honest with themselves in the first place to go ahead with it , never mind meet someone is horrible.

The people that get turned down because one liar has made it feel they are coming to see you is unreal and happened to me recently.

So if you've no intention of tuning up . Think about what you're actually doing to someone's mind , body and soul .

And for those let down , I feel for you x

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