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"Men also like confident women 👍" Also it's better to regret things we have done than things we've never attempted | |||
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"How will you feel if he isn't interested? If you're in a good place self esteem wise go for it, if it might knock you back a bit personally if he turns you down wait until you feel stronger. " I do feel in a good place self esreem wise,but maybe not totally in mind,so thank you ,I maybe should wait until I feel a little stronger | |||
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"Obviously asking for a friend 😁 She has the horn for a very sexy guy on fab,but her very shy angelic nature puts her off from just grabbing him by the horns Should I ,coughs should she just go for it "Yes, tell your friend to go for it. Talk to horned person about your reservations before hand. Good lunch and ENJOY! 🫶🏼 | |||
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"Men also like confident women 👍" But not all women are as confident in real life until they get comfy with who they're with | |||
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"How will you feel if he isn't interested? If you're in a good place self esteem wise go for it, if it might knock you back a bit personally if he turns you down wait until you feel stronger. " The person in question might dissappear from her life by than...than the next question is...what would hurt you more? The rejection itself or the never knowing what could have been. | |||
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"How will you feel if he isn't interested? If you're in a good place self esteem wise go for it, if it might knock you back a bit personally if he turns you down wait until you feel stronger. The person in question might dissappear from her life by than...than the next question is...what would hurt you more? The rejection itself or the never knowing what could have been. " I think that's a question only the ops 'friend' can answer. I think a woman who can take chances whilst guarding her 'self' is a wise one | |||
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"Men also like confident women 👍 But not all women are as confident in real life until they get comfy with who they're with " That goes for everyone I believe...but in this specific example, it's more about the confidence to make the first move | |||
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"I will die on this hill that if a man likes you he will let you know" Yes and the same goes for women. It's just that some of us are rubbish at picking the signals up | |||
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"I will die on this hill that if a man likes you he will let you know" That's a very valid point | |||
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"I will die on this hill that if a man likes you he will let you know Yes and the same goes for women. It's just that some of us are rubbish at picking the signals up" I mean if a man likes you he will let you know so as a woman you shouldn’t bother chasing him. I’ve never seen it end well, the woman just ends up with a man that’s not really interested in her | |||
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"How will you feel if he isn't interested? If you're in a good place self esteem wise go for it, if it might knock you back a bit personally if he turns you down wait until you feel stronger. The person in question might dissappear from her life by than...than the next question is...what would hurt you more? The rejection itself or the never knowing what could have been. I think that's a question only the ops 'friend' can answer. I think a woman who can take chances whilst guarding her 'self' is a wise one " I think more women should be encouraged to make the so called first move...I personally find it extremely attractive (and I believe most men will find it attractive, unless they are the so called "old fashion" who believe in strict gender roles). Rejection is part of life ... we all experience it in some shape or form, and I feel the OP wants to do it, she just needs a bit of encouragement, regardless of the outcome. | |||
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"Well my friend has put her big girl pants on,and gone for it "Do let us know how it goes! I never approach due to self doubt  so I am invested now haha 🩷🎀 | |||
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"I will die on this hill that if a man likes you he will let you know Yes and the same goes for women. It's just that some of us are rubbish at picking the signals up I mean if a man likes you he will let you know so as a woman you shouldn’t bother chasing him. I’ve never seen it end well, the woman just ends up with a man that’s not really interested in her " Got 'ya! It doesn't hurt to open a conversation though. | |||
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"How will you feel if he isn't interested? If you're in a good place self esteem wise go for it, if it might knock you back a bit personally if he turns you down wait until you feel stronger. The person in question might dissappear from her life by than...than the next question is...what would hurt you more? The rejection itself or the never knowing what could have been. I think that's a question only the ops 'friend' can answer. I think a woman who can take chances whilst guarding her 'self' is a wise one I think more women should be encouraged to make the so called first move...I personally find it extremely attractive (and I believe most men will find it attractive, unless they are the so called "old fashion" who believe in strict gender roles). Rejection is part of life ... we all experience it in some shape or form, and I feel the OP wants to do it, she just needs a bit of encouragement, regardless of the outcome. " You're right. She did ask if she should go for it though, I assumed it meant she wanted opinions from both camps | |||
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"I will die on this hill that if a man likes you he will let you know Yes and the same goes for women. It's just that some of us are rubbish at picking the signals up I mean if a man likes you he will let you know so as a woman you shouldn’t bother chasing him. I’ve never seen it end well, the woman just ends up with a man that’s not really interested in her " 🦬💩...almost every relationship I ever had and every FWB I ever had, SHE was the initiator. And I was very much interested in them, and the fact they made the first "move" was part of the reason I was interested. We can all project our own experiences into this, but I believe the OP wants to do it, and that's why she asked...if she didn't, she would have your attitude about it and not even bother. | |||
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"I will die on this hill that if a man likes you he will let you know Yes and the same goes for women. It's just that some of us are rubbish at picking the signals up I mean if a man likes you he will let you know so as a woman you shouldn’t bother chasing him. I’ve never seen it end well, the woman just ends up with a man that’s not really interested in her 🦬💩...almost every relationship I ever had and every FWB I ever had, SHE was the initiator. And I was very much interested in them, and the fact they made the first "move" was part of the reason I was interested. We can all project our own experiences into this, but I believe the OP wants to do it, and that's why she asked...if she didn't, she would have your attitude about it and not even bother." How come you never initiated with her? Glad it worked out for you but if I messaged a guy on an app first how would I know he was really interested or just thought to himself ohh she’s ok I’ll give her a go, all while having zero excitement over me and continuing to message other women first? nah it’s not for me I want someone who takes the initiative | |||
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"I will die on this hill that if a man likes you he will let you know Yes and the same goes for women. It's just that some of us are rubbish at picking the signals up I mean if a man likes you he will let you know so as a woman you shouldn’t bother chasing him. I’ve never seen it end well, the woman just ends up with a man that’s not really interested in her " I think some men can be a bit shy,I've initiated the first message before and it's led to meeting I don't chase anything but I'm happy to make a first move. | |||
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"Well my friend has put her big girl pants on,and gone for it "Could you tell your friend to try again, cos i think her DM got lost in all the other messages I receive  | |||
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"Obviously asking for a friend 😁 She has the horn for a very sexy guy on fab,but her very shy angelic nature puts her off from just grabbing him by the horns Should I ,coughs should she just go for it "Yes find a friend to support her, you and go in as a pair? | |||
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"Obviously asking for a friend 😁 She has the horn for a very sexy guy on fab,but her very shy angelic nature puts her off from just grabbing him by the horns Should I ,coughs should she just go for it "Go for it, life is too short for wondering If he isnt interested at least you know and can move on (after a little bit of wound licking, rejection is hard no matter how confident you are) If he is interested then woohoo 😁 | |||
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" How come you never initiated with her? Glad it worked out for you but if I messaged a guy on an app first how would I know he was really interested or just thought to himself ohh she’s ok I’ll give her a go, all while having zero excitement over me and continuing to message other women first? nah it’s not for me I want someone who takes the initiative "That's fair...I too like a woman that takes initiative, I too like to feel wanted, however the second guessing about if a guy actually is interested in you, I personally find a bit juvenile...how would you know if a man that does make the first move is actually interested in you and not is chasing 10 other women at the same time...you wouldn't know until you spend a bit of time with them. Why I don't personally make the initiative is because I only have the physical to go by when I make the first move, and that's less important to me than her personality and being compatible (and that's even of it's a FWB)...I also dislike the traditional gender dynamics where the man has to "chase" and court a woman...I mean what next, do I also have to ask her father before taking her out on a date?🤭 | |||
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"I will die on this hill that if a man likes you he will let you know" My apologies but balls to that, men are just as capable of prevarication and self doubt as women Also what they consider a clear show pf interest can be so subtle as to be practically invisible If we want to own our power then we need to step up to be clear about our wants and needs and stop being passive And if one person mentions "masculine energy" i will lose my shit 😊 | |||
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"I will die on this hill that if a man likes you he will let you know My apologies but balls to that, men are just as capable of prevarication and self doubt as women Also what they consider a clear show pf interest can be so subtle as to be practically invisible If we want to own our power then we need to step up to be clear about our wants and needs and stop being passive And if one person mentions "masculine energy" i will lose my shit 😊" I can own my power without chasing a man who may or may not be interested in me though
The fact that most men are always moaning that their inboxes are empty and most women are overrun shows that my way of thinking is very much prevalent | |||
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"I will die on this hill that if a man likes you he will let you know" Many men in here do precisely that, but their messages are lost in a tsunami of others, or read and left unreplied to, or simply bulk deleted in to oblivion. Gallows or crucifix? Your choice…. | |||
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"I will die on this hill that if a man likes you he will let you know" yea and no. They may let you know... Eventually. Eg on fab some read profiles and pick up on preferences. Couples looking for couples. Or we know that some gals are getting a gazillion messages so we want to time it right: a profile status. A forum post. | |||
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"Life is short, do it " Agreed. Do it | |||
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"I will die on this hill that if a man likes you he will let you know Many men in here do precisely that, but their messages are lost in a tsunami of others, or read and left unreplied to, or simply bulk deleted in to oblivion. Gallows or crucifix? Your choice…." Write better messages 💅 If anyone is sending hi how are you messages then off to the gallows it is 😆 | |||
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"Obviously asking for a friend 😁 She has the horn for a very sexy guy on fab,but her very shy angelic nature puts her off from just grabbing him by the horns Should I ,coughs should she just go for it "Grab with both hands. You only get what you seek. | |||
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" I can answer this. Grab him by the horn and tell him its time to come with me now... Reason I say this a woman could have her tongue in my ear .. But i still would miss the signs. " Exactly. What if she just liked my ears? She's not into me. She's just being friendly. What if it's a cultural thing and she's just saying hello? I need clarity. | |||
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"I went for it,first time that I thought stuff it what's the worst that can happen,and he politely declined,said the usual stuff that I was nice but just not for him in a sexual way,we still decided to keep on chatting though and I'm fine with that,to be honest I was well punching "No such thing as punching, but I’m glad you went for it, and you’ve made a new friend because of it. | |||
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"I will die on this hill that if a man likes you he will let you know My apologies but balls to that, men are just as capable of prevarication and self doubt as women Also what they consider a clear show pf interest can be so subtle as to be practically invisible If we want to own our power then we need to step up to be clear about our wants and needs and stop being passive And if one person mentions "masculine energy" i will lose my shit 😊 I can own my power without chasing a man who may or may not be interested in me though
The fact that most men are always moaning that their inboxes are empty and most women are overrun shows that my way of thinking is very much prevalent "To be clear Im not talking about chasing, im talking about a simple Im interested, are you? 😁 | |||
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