FabSwingers.com forum: It’s tough out here as a single guy

By *instone123 OP Man
1 week ago

Harlow

Hey everyone,

I wanted to ask the more experienced swingers here their thoughts about single guys on fab.

Ive been a on here about a week now and am having a hard time securing any meets with couples or single females.

If anyone out there could offer their opinion on how to come across as a serious guy, despite being single, I’d appreciate your input.

A little about me:

I’m 25 guy from Essex, don’t want to blow my own trumpet but I think I’m pretty handsome and am confident about my body. I’m pretty much brand new to the lifestyle and am excited about the possibilities of what could be out there. I’m a polite guy and easy to chat to.

Anyways, thanks for reading. Please leave ur thoughts below as I will read them all

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By *naswingdressWoman
1 week ago

Manchester (she/her)

If you think a week is a long time to wait for messages or meets around here, you're in for a bit of a rude shock.

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By *sWyldWoman
1 week ago

Edinburgh

A week?! Its not instashag

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By *radienightsMan
1 week ago

Local

It's a numbers game mate and they are against us. For every 1 woman/couple there is 100 single men.

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By *rightonsteveMan
1 week ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Well, what can you offer? Consider this: why would a lady choose to have sex with you rather than me?

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By *aitonelMan
1 week ago

Liverpool

Lower expectations. A week is barely any time at all. Expect weeks or months (years) depending of varied factors.

Just approach it as you feel you should. Be yourself, it may not be successful but it's not good to worry and stress about forcing fab to work.

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By *instone123 OP Man
1 week ago

Harlow

I’m not saying it is supposed to be instashag, just was open to any constructive criticism that could help me in the future as still new to this whole things and navigating how it all works

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By *radienightsMan
1 week ago

Local

I don't think of this site as a hookup site now. I come for a perv, chat in the forums and if something happens bonus!

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By *cherryblossom-Woman
1 week ago

South glos

Your status is a bit desperate, it sounds like you’re more interested in finding any woman to verify you rather then someone you might be compatible with. It would put me off anyway

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By *eroLondonMan
1 week ago

Mayfair

OP, you had a meet three days ago. Quite how much are you expecting in seven days?

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By *instone123 OP Man
1 week ago

Harlow

"If you think a week is a long time to wait for messages or meets around here, you're in for a bit of a rude shock."

What did your first week on fab look like?

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By *naswingdressWoman
1 week ago

Manchester (she/her)

* ask for profile advice. Your profile is your shop window, and if yours is crappy (general comment), people won't be interested in what you have on offer.

* Read profiles, message respectfully showing you've read and respected profiles

* Have low expectations. No, not that low, lower. Keep lowering them... Keep going... Maybe a bit further down.

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By *instone123 OP Man
1 week ago

Harlow

"OP, you had a meet three days ago. Quite how much are you expecting in seven days?"

Not sure what your seeing in my profile but no meets so far

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By *naswingdressWoman
1 week ago

Manchester (she/her)

"OP, you had a meet three days ago. Quite how much are you expecting in seven days?

Not sure what your seeing in my profile but no meets so far"

They're referring to your picture that involves someone whose consent we can't ascertain.

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By *instone123 OP Man
1 week ago

Harlow

"I don't think of this site as a hookup site now. I come for a perv, chat in the forums and if something happens bonus! "

That’s a good way of looking at it, I could think about changing up my mindset to just whatever happens happens

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By *eroLondonMan
1 week ago

Mayfair

"If you think a week is a long time to wait for messages or meets around here, you're in for a bit of a rude shock.

What did your first week on fab look like?"

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She was drowning is a sea of testosterone.

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By *tamanMan
1 week ago

around the corner

"A week?! Its not instashag"

This killed me! 😁😁😁😁

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By *ulieScrumptiousWoman
1 week ago

North West

"I’m not saying it is supposed to be instashag, just was open to any constructive criticism that could help me in the future as still new to this whole things and navigating how it all works"

I would find certain of your profile photos very off-putting.

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By *naswingdressWoman
1 week ago

Manchester (she/her)

"If you think a week is a long time to wait for messages or meets around here, you're in for a bit of a rude shock.

What did your first week on fab look like?"

I'm female. It's a very different experience.

I was bombarded with stupidity, demands, threats, pictures of penises, pleading, gimmicks, etc.

I could have fucked a hundred men a day at that stage, given the volume of messages, if I'd had no dignity or self respect.

As a generalisation, men message, women receive messages.

My messages have been off for six years (I do the messaging) and life is better for it. (I also rarely if ever meet

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By *instone123 OP Man
1 week ago

Harlow

"I’m not saying it is supposed to be instashag, just was open to any constructive criticism that could help me in the future as still new to this whole things and navigating how it all works

I would find certain of your profile photos very off-putting. "

What are some examples of profile photos that would not be off putting?

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By *naswingdressWoman
1 week ago

Manchester (she/her)

"I’m not saying it is supposed to be instashag, just was open to any constructive criticism that could help me in the future as still new to this whole things and navigating how it all works

I would find certain of your profile photos very off-putting.

What are some examples of profile photos that would not be off putting?"

You should probably experiment and create your own profile, rather than expect to be spoon fed. Being able to make your own decisions is more attractive than the alternative.

Also, the forum is a subset of the site, and we would tell you what we like, not what works for everyone.

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By *hil most chillMan
1 week ago

London, South East & Europe

1 week is nothing here. Plenty guys have been here years before getting their first sniff.

I struggled to make out what your profile pic was, then when I looked at your profile I realised it's you having sex. Just a hint - most women don't want to see potential fwbs inside other women in their pics, especially when one of the pics shows bareback sex.

My advice, read all the other threads from guys here who complain about not getting meets, take the advice onboard, learn from others.

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By *cLovin2Man
1 week ago

London

OP, you are looking in the wrong place, fab isn't the best place to find a woman, because there's a handful of women and thousands of randy ignorant men. That's the ratio, the irony is most of the women on fab aren't getting any on here either 😂

Honestly you'd be better off on tinder.

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By *olo180Man
1 week ago

Greater London

If you’ve only been here a matter of weeks and not a returning member I will just advise you that Fab will be a steep learning curve with much initial disappointment until you find your feet.

The biggest thing I can say is to treat women with respect, as people, and not as sexual objects. Be realistic and don’t have too high expectations.

Also, there is a vast array of differing personalities on here that will all want different things in a person. Be your own self and don’t try to pretend to be someone you are not in an attempt to bed someone.

Good Luck

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By *instone123 OP Man
1 week ago

Harlow

Thanks for all the replies so far Fabbers, both positive and negative. It’s all a learning curve

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By *ulieScrumptiousWoman
1 week ago

North West

"I’m not saying it is supposed to be instashag, just was open to any constructive criticism that could help me in the future as still new to this whole things and navigating how it all works

I would find certain of your profile photos very off-putting.

What are some examples of profile photos that would not be off putting?"

Swing is right, if I wanted to be specific I would’ve. A profile by numbers is generic blah. And sometimes I don’t want to let people know what their red flags are.

That said, Phil has explained it clearly.

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By *aughtydealcoupleCouple
1 week ago

Walmer, Deal

As others have said a week is no time at all we dont ever meet people unless we have chatted with them for a couple weeks also your age will put alot off and nothing on your profile about what you like and what you dont also only one photo and its a dick pic so again not much to go on

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By *amantha_JadeWoman
1 week ago

Liverpool

A week is no time at all. You need to be patient. I won’t critique your profile as you haven’t asked for it, but some general feedback:

Dick pics will put some people off.

Action shots will put some people off.

Some will be put off by pictures of bareback sex when the profile says they are into safe sex.

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By *2000ManMan
1 week ago

Worthing

Join in with forum/cam room chat op and make friends. Anything else is a bonus.

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By *ustathingMan
1 week ago

Reading

A vague profile, an awkward profile pic, and 1 public picture of your cock ...

You're literally the epitome of new single men on fabs...!

Go back and read through the many posts offering advice on new profiles and pictures.

Get stuck into the forums/chat rooms, and expect very little!

This place is a bit like fishing... Most of the time you sit around and nothing at all happens, but every now and again a nibble will come along and it can be amazing!

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By *exxyyDy11Man
1 week ago

North West

I'd ramp up your bio a bit. Add more about your likes, who you are, your interests.

I'd remove the cock pic. Put in friends only.

Join in on the forums or cams. Interact with people. If possible, go to clubs or group socials. Make yourself known.

And most importantly, just be yourself.

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By *WB85Man
1 week ago

Staffordshire

Patience man.....you need lots more of it.

I see Fab as a place people can be really specific of their sexual needs and desires......and there's lots of people to choose from.

It takes a long time, but when it works, its a great feeling.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
1 week ago

SW1A1AA

The usual length of time before getting a meet is around 6 months.

You need a decent profile and decent photos and then need to send a decent message.

Its not all that simple

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By *andleit1980Man
1 week ago

BRISTOL

I've been here a while,haven't had any meets but it's all in the chase

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By *ogisticalBigManMan
1 week ago

Sheffield

Been here a while as well. Find someone with similar interests, had a few meets in the past because I've met hockey fans also on here but that just me, who knows what it could be for you 🤷🏻

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By *ess King tvTV/TS
1 week ago

KING'S LYNN

"Hey everyone,

I wanted to ask the more experienced swingers here their thoughts about single guys on fab.

Ive been a on here about a week now and am having a hard time securing any meets with couples or single females.

If anyone out there could offer their opinion on how to come across as a serious guy, despite being single, I’d appreciate your input.

A little about me:

Anyways, thanks for reading. Please leave ur thoughts below as I will read them all

Trouble is babe, that fabswingers is primarily for couples. Single guys, and 'gals' like me, have to feed on the scraps 😆

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By *ercuryMikeMan
1 week ago

Newtown / Oswestry

Straight off you’re only pics are of your cock and you on top of some girl.

Does she know your using that pic?

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