FabSwingers.com forum: How hard can it be???

By *mandatom OP Couple
1 week ago

London

Amanda is only 25 and she is slim and beautiful. We are looking for an online boyfriend for her and she prefers older men…easy right? 🤷‍♂️

She has spoken to so many but even after explaining to be respectful and go slowly, they go straight to sex chat which turns her straight off. Or they are so inconsistent with their messaging that progress to naughtiness is impossible.

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By *kphooey43Man
1 week ago

Barnet

Depends.

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By *naswingdressWoman
1 week ago

Manchester (she/her)

Finding people who'll respect boundaries, go gradually, etc, is incredibly difficult.

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By *nigmatic PeachTV/TS
1 week ago

Huddersfield

Patience and belief and the right one will come along for sure

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By *WB85Man
1 week ago

Staffordshire

A lot of people say one thing but then struggle to actually keep to their word.

Its actually a good thing when it happens quickly as you don't waste your time with the wrong people.

Its like people filter themselves out.

Hope you guys find the right people.

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By *ovelyDayXXXWoman
1 week ago

Niche

"…easy right? 🤷‍♂️

No, of course it's not easy.

Why on earth would you assume that it would be easy?

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By *reolush98Man
1 week ago

Manchester

There's going to be men that will respect what she is looking for and there's going to be men that don't respect what she's looking for. Those men will most likely jump into the sex talk.

However a lot of men not just men aren't looking for endless chats.

There's other places for that. Fab was designed as a platform for singles and couples alike to engage in sexual activity. Now of course over the years a lot has changed.

But this is not a dating site. It's a place where we come to unwind, engage into a bit of filth.

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By *mandatom OP Couple
1 week ago

London

Of course there will be respectful men on here but it’s finding them…needle in a haystack

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By *eroLondonMan
1 week ago

Mayfair

"Amanda is only 25 and she is slim and beautiful. We are looking for an online boyfriend for her and she prefers older men…easy right? 🤷‍♂️"

It's rarely easy. It would be folly to think so.

"She has spoken to so many but even after explaining to be respectful and go slowly, they go straight to sex chat which turns her straight off. Or they are so inconsistent with their messaging that progress to naughtiness is impossible. "

Do you search and message men in the first instance or are these experiences based on incoming messages?

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By *eautyandthebeast86Couple
1 week ago

Somewhere in Norfolk ask :)

What does she want from the online boyfriend etc ? Is it just sexting or pen pals type thing ? Is it video chats ? Lots of people on here don’t mind a few chats but want the real thing x

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By *ulldog_71Man
1 week ago

Sedgefield

"Of course there will be respectful men on here but it’s finding them…needle in a haystack "

The trouble is all us respectful old men are quiet ugly lol

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By *naswingdressWoman
1 week ago

Manchester (she/her)

"Of course there will be respectful men on here but it’s finding them…needle in a haystack

The trouble is all us respectful old men are quiet ugly lol"

Nah, plenty of young and/or attractive people are respectful, and plenty of old ugly people are also stains on the shoes of human decency.

(Also, self praise is no recommendation)

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By *mandatom OP Couple
1 week ago

London

It will be building up a rapport, making each other laugh, normal face to face video calls. Once that is established of course cam sex will follow. We know this isn’t a dating app but before moving to telegram we always explain what we want, they nearly always agree but as soon as it moves to telegram their dick starts talking rather than their head.

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By *hams123Man
1 week ago

London

It can be tough finding what you want. Patience and communication are key. Hopefully you find the man for you 👍🏾☺️

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By *et and WillingCouple
1 week ago

Nuneaton

No photo veri , only veri by one guy who profile is hidden , no profile pics. All looks a bit dodgy to us tbh 🤷

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By *ulldog_71Man
1 week ago

Sedgefield

"Of course there will be respectful men on here but it’s finding them…needle in a haystack

The trouble is all us respectful old men are quiet ugly lol

Nah, plenty of young and/or attractive people are respectful, and plenty of old ugly people are also stains on the shoes of human decency.

(Also, self praise is no recommendation)"

I know, it was a joke lol

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By *mandatom OP Couple
1 week ago

London

We always insist on an early video call once Amanda has agreed to talk, for verification for both parties

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By *ilbzMan
1 week ago

Swindon Wiltshire

I am old, okay and a bit ugly lol, but i never had a problem with keeping the conversation respectful.

I get some people just want to meet off the back of a short conversation, some prefer a long more respectful conversation so they can get comfortable, build a rapport and a connection.

Not sure how the more direct people get on with meeting people off fab, i do sometimes feel that being polite and respectful often leads to messages being passed by or over looked.

I think it’s a fine line, we are all different, if we weren’t it would be a boring world! Some like fast paced some like it to be nice and relaxed, i don’t have a problem with either as long as it’s respectful

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By *hil most chillMan
1 week ago

London, South East & Europe

I guess we'll have to take your word for it that she is slim and beautiful

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By *hickthighs26Woman
1 week ago

your hotlist

"I guess we'll have to take your word for it that she is slim and beautiful"

What? You mean people lie? 😱 im shooketh

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
1 week ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

With no pics it must be very hard to attract guys who want to meet her specifically, rather than just someone who happens to be female.

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By *oyoteUglyWoman
1 week ago

Somewhere dark and gloomy

"I guess we'll have to take your word for it that she is slim and beautiful"

But it says on the profile she is...

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By *oiluvfunMan
1 week ago

Penrith

"I guess we'll have to take your word for it that she is slim and beautiful

What? You mean people lie? 😱 im shooketh"

‘They’ have one verification, from a hidden solo guy profile……alarm bells ring for me, from so many fakers in here…

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By *adyBugsWoman
1 week ago

not local even if it says I am

Try being a single woman looking for a partner, at least you have each other OP

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By *mandatom OP Couple
1 week ago

London

We can’t help that he hid his profile.

Now we have a verification it would be easy to make other profiles, verify them the get that profile to verify us back. We could easily go on google images and put up fake pictures. If we wanted to make a fake profile it would be so much better than the one we have.

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By *andsCouple
1 week ago

Edin

With your profile very hard! You actually state if another profile has no pics you wouldn’t reply so what makes you different?

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
1 week ago

East Sussex

"Amanda is only 25 and she is slim and beautiful. We are looking for an online boyfriend for her and she prefers older men…easy right? 🤷‍♂️

Make it clear in your profile exactly what you're looking for, block men from messaging and have a good look for yourself

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By *naswingdressWoman
1 week ago

Manchester (she/her)

"With your profile very hard! You actually state if another profile has no pics you wouldn’t reply so what makes you different? "

Yeah, the fact you have no pictures is going to make your life way harder.

"Slim, beautiful, 25" is completely unverifiable - why would people bother messaging?

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
1 week ago

East Sussex

Also I think you need to remember the nature of the site you're on. What you want is a long term thing and most people aren't here for that. A lot of forum members will say they are but they represent a fraction of all site members.

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By *oiluvfunMan
1 week ago

Penrith

"We can’t help that he hid his profile.

You will be found out very quickly, for using other peoples’ pics on your profile, as reverse image searches aren’t difficult.

Post up some pics yourself, and include a watermark on them, to prove they are genuinely your gorgeous, stunning partner.

Get on the cams in here, you will soon pick up genuine verification from people who don’t hide their profiles.

It’s easy to be a fake. It’s equally as easy to prove you are genuine, and then maybe you will have more success in here.

Good luck…..mate 😋👍

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By *vaRoseWoman
1 week ago

Ankh-Morpork

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By *vaRoseWoman
1 week ago

Ankh-Morpork

There are things you can control and things you can’t. You can’t control the members actions but you can set your profile to attract the types of men you want.

Make your profile very clear what you are seeking. This includes employing the right filters for age, verification status, public pics etc etc.

It’s not clear that you’re looking for an online only arrangement or playing on cam together. So changing that will attract more of the guys who are wanting that sort of thing.

Double down that Amanda won’t be engaging with anyone who turns the conversation instantly sexual, and that a rapport needs to be built first.

Personally I find a blank profile without any public gallery demanding photos to be an instant red flag - and maybe that’s also attracting the wrong types of guys to your account.

It’s still going to be hard to find the right connections but those are a few things you could do to increase your chances

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By *kphooey43Man
1 week ago

Barnet

"I guess we'll have to take your word for it that she is slim and beautiful

But it says on the profile she is..."

Hey, not everyone is as truthful as you UB

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By *kphooey43Man
1 week ago

Barnet

"With your profile very hard! You actually state if another profile has no pics you wouldn’t reply so what makes you different?

Yeah, the fact you have no pictures is going to make your life way harder.

"Slim, beautiful, 25" is completely unverifiable - why would people bother messaging?"

Cos, men!

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By *naswingdressWoman
1 week ago

Manchester (she/her)

"With your profile very hard! You actually state if another profile has no pics you wouldn’t reply so what makes you different?

Yeah, the fact you have no pictures is going to make your life way harder.

"Slim, beautiful, 25" is completely unverifiable - why would people bother messaging?

Cos, men!"

People who'll bother messaging a shadow profile and people who'll work on quality connection - the Venn diagram is two separate circles.

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By *ellinever70Woman
1 week ago

Ayrshire

If she's only looking for an online boyfriend, I think it's safe to assume that will attract those who are predominantly looking for wank chat

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By *ellhungvweMan
1 week ago

Cheltenham

Call me cynical but I think a profile without any pictures is only going to attract those types on here who don’t care who they meet as long as they get their end away. I am amazed those messages don’t just jump straight to the sex talk as their opening line.

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