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"So this topic intrigues me a lot as I can understand the turn on and excitement about it from the guys view but I guess the guys can help me with this question does it ever enter your mind that your wife may like the sex more with one of her meets especially if she meets him often then she does with you and how do you cope with that feeling ? " TheHusband said "You just accept that the law of averages means you won’t be the best shag ever, but if wifey meets someone better, you reassure yourself that you have a better, deeper, emotional bond formed over time & than she would get with an FWB." | |||
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"Ignoring the fact I'm the best ... Good sex can be good in different ways, so its not intuitive it has to be ranked. But look, it's definitely possible she gets a load of enjoyment. That's the point. " Oh I totally agree and I completely get that , it’s just I’m trying to understand if any of you guys struggle between the excitement and turn on you get and possibly the overthinking or slight intrusive thought I mean that’s if you ever get them that’s what I’m trying to find out lol | |||
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"So this topic intrigues me a lot as I can understand the turn on and excitement about it from the guys view but I guess the guys can help me with this question does it ever enter your mind that your wife may like the sex more with one of her meets especially if she meets him often then she does with you and how do you cope with that feeling ? TheHusband said "You just accept that the law of averages means you won’t be the best shag ever, but if wifey meets someone better, you reassure yourself that you have a better, deeper, emotional bond formed over time & than she would get with an FWB." " Yeah that is definitely a good view I can see that , I know part of the Hotwife lifestyle is her telling you all about it do you think there is a big or small percentage of women that play it down a tad to avoid any potential problems or do you think it’s full up front honesty and that’s the point of it ? | |||
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"Ignoring the fact I'm the best ... Good sex can be good in different ways, so its not intuitive it has to be ranked. But look, it's definitely possible she gets a load of enjoyment. That's the point. Oh I totally agree and I completely get that , it’s just I’m trying to understand if any of you guys struggle between the excitement and turn on you get and possibly the overthinking or slight intrusive thought I mean that’s if you ever get them that’s what I’m trying to find out lol " TheHusband has had moments of insecurity We've been together 25yrs. I've been seeing TheBF for 16mths but all 3 of us know it's 'just sex' | |||
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"No, I'm a confident man and I don't worry about things like that. In fact, my usual question is "Did you have a good time?" and the answer is nearly always positive. She's happy and I'm happy she is. I don't know for sure if the sex is better, or worse. I assume, having had many partners myself, the sex is just "different". And there's nothing wrong with that. At the end of the day, we have a life outside of this and she ends up with me, no matter what else she's doing." That’s a very valid statement thank you | |||
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"Ignoring the fact I'm the best ... Good sex can be good in different ways, so its not intuitive it has to be ranked. But look, it's definitely possible she gets a load of enjoyment. That's the point. Oh I totally agree and I completely get that , it’s just I’m trying to understand if any of you guys struggle between the excitement and turn on you get and possibly the overthinking or slight intrusive thought I mean that’s if you ever get them that’s what I’m trying to find out lol TheHusband has had moments of insecurity We've been together 25yrs. I've been seeing TheBF for 16mths but all 3 of us know it's 'just sex' " How does husband deal or get over the insecurities? Do you reassure him or offer to stop or is it just a case of pull yourself together man we have been together too long for this lol 😂 | |||
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"We’re not a hot wife couple, but the thought of someone physically pleasuring Muse to the extent that I do would be a massive turn on! But great sex is about more than physical,, so that’s never going to happen. Even with our regular single guy, it’s never gonna be more than a bit of fun and fantasy, all 3 parties are fully aware of that & no one wants more. If anyone of the three wanted it to be more than that than something has gone badly wrong." Oh no I completely get that and fully agree I’m not meaning if someone catches feelings I’m meaning if intrusive thoughts or jealousy creeps in how’s that dealt with by either parties involved | |||
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"We’re not a hot wife couple, but the thought of someone physically pleasuring Muse to the extent that I do would be a massive turn on! But great sex is about more than physical,, so that’s never going to happen. Even with our regular single guy, it’s never gonna be more than a bit of fun and fantasy, all 3 parties are fully aware of that & no one wants more. If anyone of the three wanted it to be more than that than something has gone badly wrong. Oh no I completely get that and fully agree I’m not meaning if someone catches feelings I’m meaning if intrusive thoughts or jealousy creeps in how’s that dealt with by either parties involved " If you’re doing it together, it’s not gonna happen. Muse has no desire to fuck anybody else unless I’m there, normally encouraging her and daring her to do despicable sex acts 😂 seriously, I would be massively insecure even if she had private chats that I couldn’t see, we are not a poly couple we are swinging, there’s a huge difference | |||
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"We’re not a hot wife couple, but the thought of someone physically pleasuring Muse to the extent that I do would be a massive turn on! But great sex is about more than physical,, so that’s never going to happen. Even with our regular single guy, it’s never gonna be more than a bit of fun and fantasy, all 3 parties are fully aware of that & no one wants more. If anyone of the three wanted it to be more than that than something has gone badly wrong. Oh no I completely get that and fully agree I’m not meaning if someone catches feelings I’m meaning if intrusive thoughts or jealousy creeps in how’s that dealt with by either parties involved If you’re doing it together, it’s not gonna happen. Muse has no desire to fuck anybody else unless I’m there, normally encouraging her and daring her to do despicable sex acts 😂 seriously, I would be massively insecure even if she had private chats that I couldn’t see, we are not a poly couple we are swinging, there’s a huge difference" Ah now this is interesting as I thought Hotwife was her going alone to meets I thought your situation was classed as stag vixen , so can a Hotwife scenario be with the husband involved everytime ? | |||
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" TheHusband has had moments of insecurity We've been together 25yrs. I've been seeing TheBF for 16mths but all 3 of us know it's 'just sex' ... How does husband deal or get over the insecurities? Do you reassure him or offer to stop or is it just a case of pull yourself together man we have been together too long for this lol 😂 " We talk. I reassure him. I'd stop if things weren't going well. My marriage is the most important thing to me And if I'm feeling sassy I tell him to man up and flick his dick! 😈 | |||
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"So this topic intrigues me a lot as I can understand the turn on and excitement about it from the guys view but I guess the guys can help me with this question does it ever enter your mind that your wife may like the sex more with one of her meets especially if she meets him often then she does with you and how do you cope with that feeling ? " I'd guess the 'couple' has the connection, the other is just sex. Meaningless. Regardless of how good it is | |||
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" TheHusband has had moments of insecurity We've been together 25yrs. I've been seeing TheBF for 16mths but all 3 of us know it's 'just sex' ... How does husband deal or get over the insecurities? Do you reassure him or offer to stop or is it just a case of pull yourself together man we have been together too long for this lol 😂 We talk. I reassure him. I'd stop if things weren't going well. My marriage is the most important thing to me And if I'm feeling sassy I tell him to man up and flick his dick! 😈 " You sound a great wife to be fair reassuring when needed and a good laugh at other times , I bet you can be very naughty at times lol , do you give him a little wink when you flick his dick too just to tease him that little bit more lol | |||
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"So this topic intrigues me a lot as I can understand the turn on and excitement about it from the guys view but I guess the guys can help me with this question does it ever enter your mind that your wife may like the sex more with one of her meets especially if she meets him often then she does with you and how do you cope with that feeling ? " Maybe ‘swinging’ isn’t for you 🤷🏻 | |||
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"So this topic intrigues me a lot as I can understand the turn on and excitement about it from the guys view but I guess the guys can help me with this question does it ever enter your mind that your wife may like the sex more with one of her meets especially if she meets him often then she does with you and how do you cope with that feeling ? I'd guess the 'couple' has the connection, the other is just sex. Meaningless. Regardless of how good it is" Absolutely but the human brain can’t help but sometimes read a little too much into things so surely it must come up at times ? | |||
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"So this topic intrigues me a lot as I can understand the turn on and excitement about it from the guys view but I guess the guys can help me with this question does it ever enter your mind that your wife may like the sex more with one of her meets especially if she meets him often then she does with you and how do you cope with that feeling ? Maybe ‘swinging’ isn’t for you 🤷🏻" I’m a single guy mate lol I’m just intrigued it’s always something I have wondered about so thought I would ask lol | |||
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"No, he gets flicked and has to stand there and take it! 😈 " What a lucky guy , while you wear the hold ups as well ?? lol | |||
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"So this topic intrigues me a lot as I can understand the turn on and excitement about it from the guys view but I guess the guys can help me with this question does it ever enter your mind that your wife may like the sex more with one of her meets especially if she meets him often then she does with you and how do you cope with that feeling ? Maybe ‘swinging’ isn’t for you 🤷🏻 I’m a single guy mate lol I’m just intrigued it’s always something I have wondered about so thought I would ask lol " Well my advice would be to not get married | |||
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"No, he gets flicked and has to stand there and take it! 😈 What a lucky guy , while you wear the hold ups as well ?? lol " Oh yes 😉 I look after my husband ... And TheBF | |||
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"So this topic intrigues me a lot as I can understand the turn on and excitement about it from the guys view but I guess the guys can help me with this question does it ever enter your mind that your wife may like the sex more with one of her meets especially if she meets him often then she does with you and how do you cope with that feeling ? Maybe ‘swinging’ isn’t for you 🤷🏻 I’m a single guy mate lol I’m just intrigued it’s always something I have wondered about so thought I would ask lol Well my advice would be to not get married No chance of that mate you need to have women attracted and reply to you first before that can happen 😂 | |||
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"No, he gets flicked and has to stand there and take it! 😈 What a lucky guy , while you wear the hold ups as well ?? lol Oh yes 😉 I look after my husband ... And TheBF Oh like I say he is a very lucky guy , what is the colour of choice ? | |||
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"No, he gets flicked and has to stand there and take it! 😈 What a lucky guy , while you wear the hold ups as well ?? lol Oh yes 😉 I look after my husband ... And TheBF TheHusband likes black TheBF like white | |||
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"The best way to describe my thoughts when my partner is out playing solo and the range of feelings that you go through, would be, "la folie douce" My partner goes through similar intense feelings, and it definitely amplifies the lust and passion in us both. We both love it and are enjoying our shared adventures ❤️ Yeah I can understand that and I think it’s why I can understand the attraction of it within couples, you been together long ? " | |||
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"No, he gets flicked and has to stand there and take it! 😈 What a lucky guy , while you wear the hold ups as well ?? lol Oh yes 😉 I look after my husband ... And TheBF I’m on the bf side I love white , but not fishnets normal ones and lace top hold ups over stockings | |||
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"C doesn’t meet others for sex alone, other than with other ladies. However, I would want C to have the best sex, whoever we played with. The last guy we played with gave her just as many orgasms as I did. We are in this to have amazing sex with others, so I’d be more disappointed if it was average sex she was getting. Yeah I mean it must be a turn on hearing her orgasm from another guy as it’s a bit of a surreal experience seeing another guy pleasure her but also knowing this isn’t the norm is the turn on as well would you say ? K" | |||
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"I am neither hot nor his wife, but J loves me seeing other men - actively encourages it! Our reunions are always very steamy, with me filling him in on all the gory details. It’s just sex - we’re crystal clear on that E" Yeah see that is the thing that turns me on , I think I would love hearing the explicit details as I was wanked off to get me wild with excitement before then enjoying each other | |||
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"So this topic intrigues me a lot as I can understand the turn on and excitement about it from the guys view but I guess the guys can help me with this question does it ever enter your mind that your wife may like the sex more with one of her meets especially if she meets him often then she does with you and how do you cope with that feeling ? I'd guess the 'couple' has the connection, the other is just sex. Meaningless. Regardless of how good it is Absolutely but the human brain can’t help but sometimes read a little too much into things so surely it must come up at times ? " If that’s happening, I would suggest you stop. It’s not the brain reading too much into things it is the fact that swinging is not for you. Or you can just carry on knowing it hurts your partner, which is emotional abuse. | |||
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"I am neither hot nor his wife, but J loves me seeing other men - actively encourages it! Our reunions are always very steamy, with me filling him in on all the gory details. It’s just sex - we’re crystal clear on that E Yeah see that is the thing that turns me on , I think I would love hearing the explicit details as I was wanked off to get me wild with excitement before then enjoying each other " He loves it - LOVES it! I met my FWB the other week and we FaceTimed J so he could see what we were doing. Then J and I had an explosive session when we saw each other that weekend, recounting what he’d seen, how hard I came, what was said E | |||
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"So this topic intrigues me a lot as I can understand the turn on and excitement about it from the guys view but I guess the guys can help me with this question does it ever enter your mind that your wife may like the sex more with one of her meets especially if she meets him often then she does with you and how do you cope with that feeling ? Im a single guy this is all just hypothetical and something I just wonder about so thought I would ask that’s all lol I'd guess the 'couple' has the connection, the other is just sex. Meaningless. Regardless of how good it is Absolutely but the human brain can’t help but sometimes read a little too much into things so surely it must come up at times ? If that’s happening, I would suggest you stop. It’s not the brain reading too much into things it is the fact that swinging is not for you. Or you can just carry on knowing it hurts your partner, which is emotional abuse. " | |||
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"I am neither hot nor his wife, but J loves me seeing other men - actively encourages it! Our reunions are always very steamy, with me filling him in on all the gory details. It’s just sex - we’re crystal clear on that E Yeah see that is the thing that turns me on , I think I would love hearing the explicit details as I was wanked off to get me wild with excitement before then enjoying each other He loves it - LOVES it! I met my FWB the other week and we FaceTimed J so he could see what we were doing. Then J and I had an explosive session when we saw each other that weekend, recounting what he’d seen, how hard I came, what was said E" Yeah see that’s what would do it for me too , I would love to watch and see how hard you orgasm , then like I say you reliving it as you wank me I reckon orgasm would be so amazing | |||
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"No, he gets flicked and has to stand there and take it! 😈 What a lucky guy , while you wear the hold ups as well ?? lol Oh yes 😉 I look after my husband ... And TheBF Next visit I'll upload a new pic | |||
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"No, he gets flicked and has to stand there and take it! 😈 What a lucky guy , while you wear the hold ups as well ?? lol Oh yes 😉 I look after my husband ... And TheBF No way you being serious 🤤🤤 I would love that , does bf ever cum over them while your wearing them ? | |||
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"I am neither hot nor his wife, but J loves me seeing other men - actively encourages it! Our reunions are always very steamy, with me filling him in on all the gory details. It’s just sex - we’re crystal clear on that E Yeah see that is the thing that turns me on , I think I would love hearing the explicit details as I was wanked off to get me wild with excitement before then enjoying each other He loves it - LOVES it! I met my FWB the other week and we FaceTimed J so he could see what we were doing. Then J and I had an explosive session when we saw each other that weekend, recounting what he’d seen, how hard I came, what was said E Yeah see that’s what would do it for me too , I would love to watch and see how hard you orgasm , then like I say you reliving it as you wank me I reckon orgasm would be so amazing " That’s pretty much how it works out, yeah E | |||
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"C doesn’t meet others for sex alone, other than with other ladies. However, I would want C to have the best sex, whoever we played with. The last guy we played with gave her just as many orgasms as I did. We are in this to have amazing sex with others, so I’d be more disappointed if it was average sex she was getting. Yeah I mean it must be a turn on hearing her orgasm from another guy as it’s a bit of a surreal experience seeing another guy pleasure her but also knowing this isn’t the norm is the turn on as well would you say ? K" I’m adding to her experience by encouraging her to enjoy herself. Knowing it’s slightly taboo is very much adds to the heat. K | |||
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"I am neither hot nor his wife, but J loves me seeing other men - actively encourages it! Our reunions are always very steamy, with me filling him in on all the gory details. It’s just sex - we’re crystal clear on that E Yeah see that is the thing that turns me on , I think I would love hearing the explicit details as I was wanked off to get me wild with excitement before then enjoying each other He loves it - LOVES it! I met my FWB the other week and we FaceTimed J so he could see what we were doing. Then J and I had an explosive session when we saw each other that weekend, recounting what he’d seen, how hard I came, what was said E Yeah see that’s what would do it for me too , I would love to watch and see how hard you orgasm , then like I say you reliving it as you wank me I reckon orgasm would be so amazing That’s pretty much how it works out, yeah E" Sounds incredible, do you ever wear hold ups as well to rather the meets or with your regular guy ? | |||
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"C doesn’t meet others for sex alone, other than with other ladies. However, I would want C to have the best sex, whoever we played with. The last guy we played with gave her just as many orgasms as I did. We are in this to have amazing sex with others, so I’d be more disappointed if it was average sex she was getting. Yeah I mean it must be a turn on hearing her orgasm from another guy as it’s a bit of a surreal experience seeing another guy pleasure her but also knowing this isn’t the norm is the turn on as well would you say ? K I’m adding to her experience by encouraging her to enjoy herself. Knowing it’s slightly taboo is very much adds to the heat. K" Yeah I can definitely see where your coming from pardon the pun lol 😂 | |||
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"I am neither hot nor his wife, but J loves me seeing other men - actively encourages it! Our reunions are always very steamy, with me filling him in on all the gory details. It’s just sex - we’re crystal clear on that E Yeah see that is the thing that turns me on , I think I would love hearing the explicit details as I was wanked off to get me wild with excitement before then enjoying each other He loves it - LOVES it! I met my FWB the other week and we FaceTimed J so he could see what we were doing. Then J and I had an explosive session when we saw each other that weekend, recounting what he’d seen, how hard I came, what was said E Yeah see that’s what would do it for me too , I would love to watch and see how hard you orgasm , then like I say you reliving it as you wank me I reckon orgasm would be so amazing That’s pretty much how it works out, yeah E Sounds incredible, do you ever wear hold ups as well to rather the meets or with your regular guy ? " Nope, but he likes me to be prepared in other ways E | |||
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"I am neither hot nor his wife, but J loves me seeing other men - actively encourages it! Our reunions are always very steamy, with me filling him in on all the gory details. It’s just sex - we’re crystal clear on that E Yeah see that is the thing that turns me on , I think I would love hearing the explicit details as I was wanked off to get me wild with excitement before then enjoying each other He loves it - LOVES it! I met my FWB the other week and we FaceTimed J so he could see what we were doing. Then J and I had an explosive session when we saw each other that weekend, recounting what he’d seen, how hard I came, what was said E Yeah see that’s what would do it for me too , I would love to watch and see how hard you orgasm , then like I say you reliving it as you wank me I reckon orgasm would be so amazing That’s pretty much how it works out, yeah E Sounds incredible, do you ever wear hold ups as well to rather the meets or with your regular guy ? Nope, but he likes me to be prepared in other ways E" Oh like what I’m intrigued now ?? | |||
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"I am neither hot nor his wife, but J loves me seeing other men - actively encourages it! Our reunions are always very steamy, with me filling him in on all the gory details. It’s just sex - we’re crystal clear on that E Yeah see that is the thing that turns me on , I think I would love hearing the explicit details as I was wanked off to get me wild with excitement before then enjoying each other He loves it - LOVES it! I met my FWB the other week and we FaceTimed J so he could see what we were doing. Then J and I had an explosive session when we saw each other that weekend, recounting what he’d seen, how hard I came, what was said E Yeah see that’s what would do it for me too , I would love to watch and see how hard you orgasm , then like I say you reliving it as you wank me I reckon orgasm would be so amazing That’s pretty much how it works out, yeah E Sounds incredible, do you ever wear hold ups as well to rather the meets or with your regular guy ? Nope, but he likes me to be prepared in other ways E Oh like what I’m intrigued now ?? " Haha that’s for mine, his & J’s eyes only, I’m afraid! E | |||
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"I am neither hot nor his wife, but J loves me seeing other men - actively encourages it! Our reunions are always very steamy, with me filling him in on all the gory details. It’s just sex - we’re crystal clear on that E Yeah see that is the thing that turns me on , I think I would love hearing the explicit details as I was wanked off to get me wild with excitement before then enjoying each other He loves it - LOVES it! I met my FWB the other week and we FaceTimed J so he could see what we were doing. Then J and I had an explosive session when we saw each other that weekend, recounting what he’d seen, how hard I came, what was said E Yeah see that’s what would do it for me too , I would love to watch and see how hard you orgasm , then like I say you reliving it as you wank me I reckon orgasm would be so amazing That’s pretty much how it works out, yeah E Sounds incredible, do you ever wear hold ups as well to rather the meets or with your regular guy ? Nope, but he likes me to be prepared in other ways E Oh like what I’m intrigued now ?? Haha that’s for mine, his & J’s eyes only, I’m afraid! E" Can I not be described so I can build a mentle image lol 😂 | |||
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"So this topic intrigues me a lot as I can understand the turn on and excitement about it from the guys view but I guess the guys can help me with this question does it ever enter your mind that your wife may like the sex more with one of her meets especially if she meets him often then she does with you and how do you cope with that feeling ? " It's all about trust and love. | |||
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"So this topic intrigues me a lot as I can understand the turn on and excitement about it from the guys view but I guess the guys can help me with this question does it ever enter your mind that your wife may like the sex more with one of her meets especially if she meets him often then she does with you and how do you cope with that feeling ? " Aspiring cuck here | |||
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