FabSwingers.com forum: Face pictures first... Is it a rule

By *atching88 OP Man
2 weeks ago

Bilton

Why is it that women will only talk if you send a face pic 1st but they have nothing on their profile to suggest what they look like... Why is it a rule and why do women get that power.

I know women get 1000s messages per few hours on here men get 1 or 2 every other day.

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By *he MinionMan
2 weeks ago

You have answered your own question 🤷‍♂️

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By *oyoteUglyWoman
2 weeks ago

Somewhere dark and gloomy

It's the pussy power

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By *oiluvfunMan
2 weeks ago

Penrith

It’s just another method of filtering messages for the ladies mate. You are going to have to share your face pic at some point, might as well fire it in early, as it saves time for you both 😎👍

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By *atching88 OP Man
2 weeks ago

Bilton

"It's the pussy power"

There is allot on here

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By *oyoteUglyWoman
2 weeks ago

Somewhere dark and gloomy

"It's the pussy power

There is allot on here"

Personally, I'd ignore the entitled ones.

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By *ellhungvweMan
2 weeks ago

Cheltenham

Women only get the “power” because some blokes are willing to send messages to people that they don’t know what they look like.

If people start to have a bit of respect for themselves and only mail people they _actually_ like the look of then the “power” disappears.

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By *vaRoseWoman
2 weeks ago

Ankh-Morpork

Why can’t members understand the difference between a photo shared privately and having one on a public gallery?

Why don’t members understand that even if someone asks for something, they don’t have to comply. It’s not compulsory. Just scroll on to the next profile.

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By *carlettsWoman
2 weeks ago

Harpenden

Personally when I was meeting I never asked for face pic. Usually if looking to meet would video call. After all photo's can be deceiving filters, years old, taken from miles away

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By *sm265Woman
2 weeks ago

Perthshire

It isn't a rule. But it also isnt wrong for people to want to establish if there is any physical attraction to someone before they invest time in chatting.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
2 weeks ago

Leeds

There's a huge difference between a public face pic and one sent in private.

Don't want to send one don't message the people who ask, it isn't rocket science.

Mrs

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By *eliWoman
2 weeks ago

It's not a rule.

Women don't have that power.

You don't have to do it if you don't want to.

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By *earditallWoman
2 weeks ago

Lancaster

We are pussy barers.

But in reality its not all women that do this.

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By *aitonelMan
2 weeks ago

Liverpool

Women get that power because men enable it.

Now don't confuse this with men allow women to have the power, but men certainly play in to it. Due to the numbers game, supply and demand etc men (not all) are simply trying to compete with the rest to be noticed by doing the same thing. It's just a rat race, and even by playing to the "law" chances are high you won't even see any increase in chances or benefit from doing so.

You don't have to play the gen pop game, it's not a rule or law, just the way the game positions itself to be played to which people keep it on that track.

You are welcome for this grenade 👍🏼

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By *hickthighs26Woman
2 weeks ago

your hotlist

"Women get that power because men enable it.

You don't have to play the gen pop game, it's not a rule or law, just the way the game positions itself to be played to which people keep it on that track.

You are welcome for this grenade 👍🏼 "

💣💧

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By *aitonelMan
2 weeks ago

Liverpool

"Women get that power because men enable it.

You don't have to play the gen pop game, it's not a rule or law, just the way the game positions itself to be played to which people keep it on that track.

You are welcome for this grenade 👍🏼

💣💧"

Did you just piss on my grenade?

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By *hickthighs26Woman
2 weeks ago

your hotlist

"Women get that power because men enable it.

You don't have to play the gen pop game, it's not a rule or law, just the way the game positions itself to be played to which people keep it on that track.

You are welcome for this grenade 👍🏼

💣💧

Did you just piss on my grenade? "

Yeah. With my tits out because i know how much you like tits out tuesday

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By *WB85Man
2 weeks ago

Staffordshire

Its your choice to message them first, if you don't agree with their terms.....move on.

Lots of female profiles are more confidential, but if they feel you're a match they will share pics in return.

Profiles that say they wont share pics until they feel comfortable I will ignore. There's no point chatting to someone you aren't attracted to.

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By *olvesxcoupleCouple
2 weeks ago

Round the bend

If we was going to ask for a face photo, we would send one ourselves first.

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By *issmorganWoman
2 weeks ago

Calderdale innit

They can ask for a face pic op , but nobody has to send a face pic if they don't want to.

Many women get lots of messages. So they want to see if there's attraction early on & not waste time chatting for ages to find they don't fancy someone.

It's just an easy filter, if you're not happy to send them a pic, just don't message, easy.

I don't ask for pics first message, but I use many filters to keep my mail low anyway.

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By *eyond PurityCouple
2 weeks ago

East Lincs

No one has more power than anyone else on here.

We wouldn’t chat for long without seeing face pics but are happy to share ours. Sometimes we’ve sent them first and sometimes received them first.

If the person sending the face pic first isn’t to the taste of the receiver then there’s no requirement to send pics back.

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By *naswingdressWoman
2 weeks ago

Manchester (she/her)

I say this as someone who's never asked for a face picture first.

You're upset about being asked to send a face picture *privately* (sending a picture to one person) because the woman has no *public* pictures of her face (revealing a picture to potentially thousands of people)? Are you serious?

Also, as others have said, you don't have to do it. Tesco could charge £1000 for an apple. I'm not obliged to give them £1000. I just don't get an apple. If you think it's unreasonable, go elsewhere.

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By *herrybakewellCouple
2 weeks ago

Staffordshire

We always send face pics in the first message on both our couples and solo profiles.

We see it as another way of enticing someone. If our bio doesn’t quite tick someones boxes, maybe the picture will help.

If its still a no. Atleast we can say we tried.

What we hate, is someone sending us the initial message, with no pics attached asking for ours. Thats just a red flag and gets you blocked.

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By *olyGlamorousWoman
2 weeks ago

Chester

"Why is it that women will only talk if you send a face pic 1st but they have nothing on their profile to suggest what they look like... Why is it a rule and why do women get that power.

I know women get 1000s messages per few hours on here men get 1 or 2 every other day."

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Why is it that women will only talk if you send a face pic 1st - BECAUSE there's absolutely no point talking to someone who you aren't attracted to

but they have nothing on their profile to suggest what they look like... - my profile is full of pics both public and private and the bio states clearly what I'm looking for. Although 90% of the messages I receive haven't read it

Why is it a rule and why do women get that power - BECAUSE we're the ones who say yes, we're the ones in control of our own bodies

I know women get 1000s messages per few hours on here men get 1 or 2 every other day - THIS, exactly this

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By *arc PolarisMan
2 weeks ago

Birmingham

The get that power because they are given it, just like all power is either given or taken

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By *ustyT85Man
2 weeks ago

Swarthmoor

Works both ways really mate

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By *iss DevilWoman
2 weeks ago

Hiding

Women do hold the power on here and, due to numbers, they can ask almost anything and there would be plenty of men who'd happily give those women what they want for the possibility of a meet. If you don't like it, OP, then don't do it. And not every single woman expects a face pic in the first message. What most women expect though is men (and couples) to read our profiles and respect them.

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By *estofbothCouple
2 weeks ago

Cardiff

I generally introduce us with a face picture if messaging a profile I’m interested in. It’s always nice to get one in return or at least see someone relatively early on just to gauge attraction. But it’s not a sticking point for us to chat. L xx

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By *essTTWoman
2 weeks ago

Birmingham

"Why is it that women will only talk if you send a face pic 1st but they have nothing on their profile to suggest what they look like... Why is it a rule and why do women get that power.

I know women get 1000s messages per few hours on here men get 1 or 2 every other day."

Why are you messaging women when according to you "they have nothing on their profile to suggest what they look like"?

It's giving any hole is goal tbh

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By *essTTWoman
2 weeks ago

Birmingham

"Women only get the “power” because some blokes are willing to send messages to people that they don’t know what they look like.

If people start to have a bit of respect for themselves and only mail people they _actually_ like the look of then the “power” disappears."

The only sensible answer cause why are they messaging blank profiles anyway lmao

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By *onin25Man
2 weeks ago

Durham

"It's the pussy power"

Isn't that the catchphrase from the ill fated cat version of Scooby Doo?

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By *londebiguyMan
2 weeks ago

Southport

"Why is it that women will only talk if you send a face pic 1st but they have nothing on their profile to suggest what they look like... Why is it a rule and why do women get that power.

I know women get 1000s messages per few hours on here men get 1 or 2 every other day."

Lots of single men here.

Nowhere near as many women.

Women hold the power in swingers sites so they can look like the back end of a bus here and men are still desperate for it.

They get tonnes of messages and cannot keep up with them all.

Upto you if you want to be a part of all that.

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By *mf123Man
2 weeks ago

with one foot out the door

Not a rule iv boinked many women who never asked for a mugshot depends how drippy her minge is for ya

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By *lkGuyMagic24Man
2 weeks ago

Kingswood

"Why can’t members understand the difference between a photo shared privately and having one on a public gallery?

Why don’t members understand that even if someone asks for something, they don’t have to comply. It’s not compulsory. Just scroll on to the next profile.

Well said, I don’t have face pics public but I will send on private if I trust the profile requesting, if I don’t trust them I’d request a video call in some way which if they are interested shouldn’t be a problem. I’d never send anything to unverified accounts or those unwilling to share too.

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By *sWyldWoman
2 weeks ago

Edinburgh

It's not a rule, however why anyone would want to waste time chatting without checking there is mutual attraction is beyond me.

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By *aFemmeCoquetteWoman
2 weeks ago

Somewhere in the middle not the.....

No its not a rule, but wouldn't you want to see the person you are potentially going to meet, or don't you care if they're attractive to you or not? 🤷‍♀️

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By *inkPomPomWoman
2 weeks ago

Isle of Man

Its not all women, but i would expect a willingness to exchange in the first few messages

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By *hisIsMe58Man
2 weeks ago

Winchester

Asking for a face pic is just a personal choice, the same as with age limit, the gender/genders of the people they are seeking and so on . It also prevents a lot of invested time chatting if they can see if there is any attraction from the beginning. I don't see it as one gender holding power over another as men also set criteria about who they wish to meet.

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By *ontyboi76Man
2 weeks ago

Pontypridd

If I chat with a lady with no profile pic, they ain't getting a face pic quickly. Face pics are for lead to a meet for me, not general chat. And ideally no pic needs to share something to get a face pic. Show me some encouragement

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By *eautyandthebeast86Couple
2 weeks ago

Somewhere in Norfolk ask :)

Nothing worse than getting messages from single men saying I’m stunning or beautiful yet they haven’t seen my face, yes I appreciate my body is on show but I could have a face like a bulldog chewing a wasp and I’m sure the beautiful/stunning comments would be very quickly retracted. Face pic swapping is a must but it shouldn’t have to be a certain order. Neither men or women should or need to send first, it should just happen as the conversation is getting somewhere so not to waste each others time.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
2 weeks ago

Crumpet Castle

"Why is it that women will only talk if you send a face pic 1st but they have nothing on their profile to suggest what they look like... Why is it a rule and why do women get that power.

I know women get 1000s messages per few hours on here men get 1 or 2 every other day."

It isn't a rule.

If they have no pictures , how do you know they are women?

Set your own rules.

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By *eroLondonMan
2 weeks ago

Mayfair

Dear OP, do not - I repeat - do not ask women for photos, lest your countenance be turned into granite by one of the many Fab gorgons on here.

I've narrowly avoided such a mythological fate.

Women indeed hold the power: a single gaze from their êyês and it's enough to sink a battleship!

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By *ou only live onceMan
2 weeks ago

London

"Why is it that women will only talk if you send a face pic 1st but they have nothing on their profile to suggest what they look like... Why is it a rule and why do women get that power.

I know women get 1000s messages per few hours on here men get 1 or 2 every other day.

It isn't a rule.

If they have no pictures , how do you know they are women?

Set your own rules. "

Listen to Granny. You can decide who to send pictures to and when, not them.

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By *veragecouple2000Couple
2 weeks ago

South Wales

It’s not a rule, just don’t send a face pic until you’re ready xx 😘

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By *estructionDollyWoman
2 weeks ago

Manchester

Just because someone asks for something, do you have to send it? No.

They have the power to ask, you have the power to refuse.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
2 weeks ago

SW1A1AA

It isnt a rule. You dont have to contact those profiles.

Women only have as much power as men give them

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By *ew2buryMan
2 weeks ago

Newbury

Face pic moan Friday.

I Photoshop my face onto my cock, that way it's win win.

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By *recticWoman
2 weeks ago

taunton

Are these women initiating the engagement or are you doing it? If so, maybe go for profiles where you have an idea of what they might look like.

I get your frustration, but it probably comes down to different comfort levels. A lot of women prefer to see who they’re talking to first, especially with the number of messages they get.

Tone matters too, your profile might be coming across a bit stronger than you intend…. Or not

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