FabSwingers.com forum: Loss

By *parkle1974 OP Woman
2 weeks ago

Leeds

Can you really lose something you've never had??

Always makes me chuckle when someone says "your loss"

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By *eroLondonMan
2 weeks ago

Mayfair

I agree. I'm always bemused when people say that. A remark rarely uttered by a woman; I'm all for male solidarity but men really need to think twice when it comes to sycophancy directed at women.

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By *hickthighs26Woman
2 weeks ago

your hotlist

I think it makes people feel better about themselves in that moment. But yeah i agree you cant lose what youve never had.

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By *os19Man
2 weeks ago

Edmonton

"Can you really lose something you've never had??

Always makes me chuckle when someone says "your loss""
. Whenever someone says to me your loss I reply back my choice.

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By *oelMan
2 weeks ago

Midlands, London, Brussels

If someone thinks somethijg has value, it's been offered and then it's rejected. But was it valuable, and as you say it wasn't ever had or taken. Just a play on words by the person offering to try and save ego?

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By (user no longer on site)
2 weeks ago

"Can you really lose something you've never had??

Always makes me chuckle when someone says "your loss""

Said on here about two complete strangers 🤦‍♂️

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By *a LunaWoman
2 weeks ago

Wales

I don’t think it’s losing what you’ve never had that is the problem, it’s more losing the possibility of what you COULD have had.

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By *lrightthenMan
2 weeks ago

Bradford

Lol it's silly. Like I'm obviously not at a loss if their offer is something I have no interest in our not interested in because of who made the offer

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By *unkissedYorkieMan
2 weeks ago

BRADFORD/LEEDS

Hahaha yeah I love it when people say that too. I'm like... If it was my loss then I'd feel something but I don't so really you're projecting.

Or when people say that they're the best thing you've ever had

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By *a LunaWoman
2 weeks ago

Wales

"Hahaha yeah I love it when people say that too. I'm like... If it was my loss then I'd feel something but I don't so really you're projecting.

Or when people say that they're the best thing you've ever had "

I once had a guy shout after me “you’ll never find another bloke like me” after I had just dumped him.

Yeah I thought. And thank fuck for that!

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By *hams123Man
2 weeks ago

London

Some people mourn the loss of opportunities or paths not taken. Some people are bitter when things don't go their way. We humans are strange creatures.

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By *unkissedYorkieMan
2 weeks ago

BRADFORD/LEEDS

"Hahaha yeah I love it when people say that too. I'm like... If it was my loss then I'd feel something but I don't so really you're projecting.

Or when people say that they're the best thing you've ever had

I once had a guy shout after me “you’ll never find another bloke like me” after I had just dumped him.

Yeah I thought. And thank fuck for that!

Haha I had a lass say the same thing to me and I just replied... That's the point and left

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By (user no longer on site)
2 weeks ago

"Hahaha yeah I love it when people say that too. I'm like... If it was my loss then I'd feel something but I don't so really you're projecting.

Or when people say that they're the best thing you've ever had

I once had a guy shout after me “you’ll never find another bloke like me” after I had just dumped him.

Yeah I thought. And thank fuck for that!

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
2 weeks ago

East Sussex

I smile wryly when people suggest that people are missing out by not meeting folk over a certain age

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By *carlettsWoman
2 weeks ago

Harpenden

I dunno if I missed out on the lottery by one number then yeah my loss arghhh

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By (user no longer on site)
2 weeks ago

"I smile wryly when people suggest that people are missing out by not meeting folk over a certain age "

Those youngsters will never know the feel of the breeze in their hair on a flat out mobility scooter.

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By *WB85Man
2 weeks ago

Staffordshire

Its funny that people think it may make you reconsider. When actually it shows that you made the correct decision.

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By *kphooey43Man
2 weeks ago

Barnet

"I smile wryly when people suggest that people are missing out by not meeting folk over a certain age

Those youngsters will never know the feel of the breeze in their hair on a flat out mobility scooter."

Or the joy of ascending the stairs on my stannah stairlift

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By *ackformore100Man
2 weeks ago

Tin town

"Can you really lose something you've never had??

Always makes me chuckle when someone says "your loss""

It's rather similar to the ubiquitous "thats an easy block" when one stranger shares a post that another stranger doesn't like, in some kind of public demonstration of cleverness and superiority.

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By (user no longer on site)
2 weeks ago

"Can you really lose something you've never had??

Always makes me chuckle when someone says "your loss"

It's rather similar to the ubiquitous "thats an easy block" when one stranger shares a post that another stranger doesn't like, in some kind of public demonstration of cleverness and superiority. "

See also 'Follow the Green Arrow' 🤣

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By *utsackerMan
2 weeks ago

north east

I was once told it out on the drink by an overweight woman 15 years older than me who sounded like she had smoked 500 tabs a day for the last 50 years after she had spoke to me briefly about the gym then offered her number to go for coffee and I said no thanks haha

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By *carlettsWoman
2 weeks ago

Harpenden

"I was once told it out on the drink by an overweight woman 15 years older than me who sounded like she had smoked 500 tabs a day for the last 50 years after she had spoke to me briefly about the gym then offered her number to go for coffee and I said no thanks haha "

Maybe should have changed your name to nutcracker? X

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By *ackformore100Man
2 weeks ago

Tin town

I hope you have recovered from such a dreadful loss.

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By *hickthighs26Woman
2 weeks ago

your hotlist

Maybe should have changed your name to nutcracker? X"

Hahahaha this made me LOL 🤣

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By *aitonelMan
2 weeks ago

Liverpool

Loss. No

Miss out, kind of. By not doing something that may very well have made your life different for the better (whatever it may be), you may never knowingly feel the effects and difference but the universe will know it was a missed opportunity - or you dodged a bullet of course.

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By *eorge1949Man
2 weeks ago

Broadwaywr12

"Can you really lose something you've never had??

Always makes me chuckle when someone says "your loss". Whenever someone says to me your loss I reply back my choice."

I generally say, that attitude justifies my choice.

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By *utsackerMan
2 weeks ago

north east

Maybe should have changed your name to nutcracker? X"
haha maybe yes

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By *vaRoseWoman
2 weeks ago

Ankh-Morpork

"Can you really lose something you've never had??

Always makes me chuckle when someone says "your loss""

This and “Shame” always make me chuckle

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By *utsackerMan
2 weeks ago

north east

I hope you have recovered from such a dreadful loss. "

Not yet mate, to make matters worse about a year later I unknowingly quoted a patio and driveway for her mother and step dad and got the fucker to do haha

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By *ealitybitesMan
2 weeks ago

Belfast

I've seen it said on here when people post about being stood up and someone will inevitably reply that it was their loss based simply on a few pics on a profile.

I laugh when I read comments about it being someone's loss because their filters or preferences don't allow the commenter to message them but it's an idiotic response because they weren't looking for them in the first place so obviously they haven't lost anything.

I've had it said directly to me by women and couples who have messaged with demands as their opening gambit and I've politely said no.

How it can be my loss when they contacted me and not the other way round I've no idea?

It's usually accompanied by being called a time waster which once again is strange as I hadn't initiated contact.

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By *ex HolesMan
2 weeks ago

Up North

I lost my virginity once and never found it

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
Forum Mod
2 weeks ago

Central

It's classic projection, the old defence mechanism, trying to soothe their ego

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By *elix SightedMan
2 weeks ago

Cloud 8

"Can you really lose something you've never had??

Always makes me chuckle when someone says "your loss""

I suspect it’s less a statement about loss, more about reclaiming their value as a person. ie if someone is rejected and says “Oh well, it’s their loss” I don’t think they really mean that - as you say, they never had it. What they’re doing is affirming to themselves they are worth having, to prevent a spiral of self loathing and maintain positivity.

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By *kphooey43Man
2 weeks ago

Barnet

Have you still got her number? (asking for a friend, naturally!)

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
2 weeks ago

SW1A1AA

It makes me laugh, how can it be their loss if they dont want to message, meet or fuck. It's usually said to make people feel better

Just makes me laugh

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By *oiluvfunMan
2 weeks ago

Penrith

"Can you really lose something you've never had??

Always makes me chuckle when someone says "your loss""

Nope! You’ll never miss, what you’ve never had 😎👍

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By *lowupdollTV/TS
2 weeks ago

Hets/Beds/Leeds

So if someone says ‘your loss’ in a message it’s not your loss. But from all the no show threads it’s also apparently their loss for being a no show.

So if you’re not interested it’s not your loss but if they’re not interested it is their loss, have i got that right?

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By *amie HantsWoman
2 weeks ago

Mariana Trench

I went to see my mum today and didn’t get an Easter egg.

I woke up without an Easter egg and I’ll go to bed without one. I never had an egg but yet I still lost.

In terms of fab, no it’s not your loss.

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By *ackformore100Man
2 weeks ago

Tin town

"So if someone says ‘your loss’ in a message it’s not your loss. But from all the no show threads it’s also apparently their loss for being a no show.

So if you’re not interested it’s not your loss but if they’re not interested it is their loss, have i got that right? "

It's also their loss if you're trying to impress a complete stranger who's been stood up and starts a thread about it. Closely followed by... They must be mad.

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By *angled up in twoCouple
2 weeks ago

West Mids

Imagine if Jim Bowen could only be bothered to utter "your loss" instead of "come and have a look at what you could've won".

Bullseye wouldn't have been the same. The total ingomnity of hearing the words "your loss" when you've just missed out on a twenty quid toaster.

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By *ackformore100Man
2 weeks ago

Tin town

"Imagine if Jim Bowen could only be bothered to utter "your loss" instead of "come and have a look at what you could've won".

Bullseye wouldn't have been the same. The total ingomnity of hearing the words "your loss" when you've just missed out on a twenty quid toaster. "

It's a great catch phrase.... Say what you see...

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By *lowupdollTV/TS
2 weeks ago

Hets/Beds/Leeds

"So if someone says ‘your loss’ in a message it’s not your loss. But from all the no show threads it’s also apparently their loss for being a no show.

So if you’re not interested it’s not your loss but if they’re not interested it is their loss, have i got that right?

It's also their loss if you're trying to impress a complete stranger who's been stood up and starts a thread about it. Closely followed by... They must be mad. "

If it’s a woman. If it’s a man it’s because they did something wrong to cause it.

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