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"I'd say I'm relieved that its not just me, but actually...I'm sorry its not just me, because its a horrible feeling. When you're discussing things before a meet over message....I'm ok that. But get me in a room and I lose my ability to ask. We all need to work on this!!! I really appreciate everyone taking the time and telling me their opinions. " Totally get what you mean! I clam up ! 🤣😖 | |||
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"No I'm incredibly jealous of you for this!! " I don't get how it would be like that? If you're with someone and you like each other does it not just progress naturally? Do we need a check list of things to do? | |||
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"No I'm incredibly jealous of you for this!! I don't get how it would be like that? If you're with someone and you like each other does it not just progress naturally? Do we need a check list of things to do?" Exactly this, absolutely hate that question and if it's asked I'd be out of there like a flash | |||
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"No I'm incredibly jealous of you for this!! I don't get how it would be like that? If you're with someone and you like each other does it not just progress naturally? Do we need a check list of things to do?" Its hard to explain, but here goes. Things can just naturally happen and thats like a perfect scenario. But sometimes for example, lets say I've made someone cum and then she ask what I'd like her to do in return.....thats what i find difficult. Where as if that other person doesn't ask, because she knows what she wants to do....happy days. I just cant direct someone whilst in the moment. I hope that makes some sense? | |||
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"No I'm incredibly jealous of you for this!! I don't get how it would be like that? If you're with someone and you like each other does it not just progress naturally? Do we need a check list of things to do? Exactly this, absolutely hate that question and if it's asked I'd be out of there like a flash " From my own experience, you'd be surprised how many people ask me what i want. We're all so very different. | |||
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"No I'm incredibly jealous of you for this!! I don't get how it would be like that? If you're with someone and you like each other does it not just progress naturally? Do we need a check list of things to do? Its hard to explain, but here goes. Things can just naturally happen and thats like a perfect scenario. But sometimes for example, lets say I've made someone cum and then she ask what I'd like her to do in return.....thats what i find difficult. Where as if that other person doesn't ask, because she knows what she wants to do....happy days. I just cant direct someone whilst in the moment. I hope that makes some sense? " I think you’d find it interesting to explore this with a clinical psychologist or psychodynamic therapist. Being genuine by the way. | |||
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"I really appreciate everyone taking the time and telling me their opinions." • You're most welcome, OP. 🩶 | |||
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"No I'm incredibly jealous of you for this!! I don't get how it would be like that? If you're with someone and you like each other does it not just progress naturally? Do we need a check list of things to do? Exactly this, absolutely hate that question and if it's asked I'd be out of there like a flash From my own experience, you'd be surprised how many people ask me what i want. We're all so very different. " I think you're extremely lucky to have so many people asking you what you want. A lot of guys struggle to get a meet so it seems like you're doing something right. Maybe get the questions out of the way before you meet so you don't feel awkward in these situations 🤷♀️ In my opinion I'd be more concerned that you and your wife of 11 years still need to ask each other what you like sexually. Do you not already know this? | |||
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"No I'm incredibly jealous of you for this!! I don't get how it would be like that? If you're with someone and you like each other does it not just progress naturally? Do we need a check list of things to do? Exactly this, absolutely hate that question and if it's asked I'd be out of there like a flash From my own experience, you'd be surprised how many people ask me what i want. We're all so very different. I think you're extremely lucky to have so many people asking you what you want. A lot of guys struggle to get a meet so it seems like you're doing something right. Maybe get the questions out of the way before you meet so you don't feel awkward in these situations 🤷♀️ In my opinion I'd be more concerned that you and your wife of 11 years still need to ask each other what you like sexually. Do you not already know this? " Me and the wife know exactly what we like. But, to set a scene....your having a chilled evening and you'd just like blowjob.....and asking for it should be easy. But its not easy.....luckily she can read me incredibly well. I appreciate your comments though. | |||
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"No I'm incredibly jealous of you for this!! I don't get how it would be like that? If you're with someone and you like each other does it not just progress naturally? Do we need a check list of things to do? Exactly this, absolutely hate that question and if it's asked I'd be out of there like a flash From my own experience, you'd be surprised how many people ask me what i want. We're all so very different. I think you're extremely lucky to have so many people asking you what you want. A lot of guys struggle to get a meet so it seems like you're doing something right. Maybe get the questions out of the way before you meet so you don't feel awkward in these situations 🤷♀️ In my opinion I'd be more concerned that you and your wife of 11 years still need to ask each other what you like sexually. Do you not already know this? Me and the wife know exactly what we like. But, to set a scene....your having a chilled evening and you'd just like blowjob.....and asking for it should be easy. But its not easy.....luckily she can read me incredibly well. I appreciate your comments though. " Yes, I agree that should be easy. If I was sitting with a partner I'd have no problem telling him what I needed in that moment | |||
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"How about saying I want to put my pole into you hole? Ladies love that " Only from you though  | |||
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"How about saying I want to put my pole into you hole? Ladies love that Only from you though "Riding my pogo stick? 😜 | |||
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"How about saying I want to put my pole into you hole? Ladies love that Only from you though
Riding my pogo stick? 😜"Pass it over, let me jump on | |||
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"Does anyone else find it really difficult asking for things of a sexual nature? Like you get in a room with someone and they ask "what would you like me to do?" I'd just say nothing because I find it soooooo awkward. Infact, I always take the lead to avoid the situation occurring. But then the question pops up and again I will say nothing, lets just chill. Its not even just people I meet in this swinger world. I've been married 11 years and still find it awkward asking me wife lol. Is it just me that feels this way? Pleaseeeee tell me I'm not alone...." If you're not already wait until you're married!!!!!    | |||
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"Is it the the sexual act itself that you feel uncomfortable asking for OP, or giving any direction at all? If it’s the sexual act, rather than saying ‘I want you to give me a blow job’, you could you try something like ‘I want you to take me in your mouth’ or ‘I want to go down on you’ could be ‘I want to see how good you taste’ etc." Its 100% the sexual side that makes me uncomfortable. My job means I'm constantly giving direction, and I'm fine with that. It's so frustrating. Really appreciate your response and interesting points. | |||
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"I love that you're reflecting on this.. I promise you will enter a whole new realm of deeper sexual/sensual pleasures if you explore this further with partners who want to. It's an opportunity to move away from performative sex and towards deeper mutual satisfaction. Nothing worse than silent, non communicative sex for me .. unless the natural chemistry is physically of the charts and we're in some amazing flow. But even then..I want to acknowledge it at some point. " I really appreciate your comment. Without reflection we can't improve. | |||
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"I prefer them to use intuition. Being asked or having to instruct is the least sexy thing ever. My body is a playground, so crack on and let’s play "You see, thats perfect. I don't need instruction, I know what I'm doing. Its just very common that people I've met like instruction.....and I find that incredibly awkward. | |||
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"No I'm incredibly jealous of you for this!! I don't get how it would be like that? If you're with someone and you like each other does it not just progress naturally? Do we need a check list of things to do?" I've seen your clip board - just amazed that you use emoji faces rather than ticks and crosses  | |||
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