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"I'm gonna guess good hygiene and signs of sanity" you forgot decent time keeping. According to West Country verifications that is what women want in a man. I don’t think it’s cool to be on time. I like to play chicken on a meet. Who can turn up the latest is the vibe I’m searching for tbh | |||
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"There must be a stray fiver down the back of the sofa The reading specs I put down a week ago and haven't seen since My sanity" Lol, this is non- gender specific. | |||
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"Hygiene surely is a no brainier, signs of sanity surely most people are kinks aside that is " You say that, but it used to be common for guys to say "I know what soap is" like it was some kind of flex. I know what a submarine is. I've never used one. | |||
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"Fair points all good advice , I mean surely putting the hoover in a butchers shop window would get people curious and wanting to ask the question so starting that initial contact a conversation starter no ?? lol " I think people overestimate the power of a bizarre conversation starter. It's more likely to make people walk away. (I speak with considerable experience of bizarre messages here or elsewhere - of the options reply, delete, or block, I employ delete or block in response to the bizarre) (Use the reply plus quote button under the post you're replying to, it makes conversation easier.) | |||
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"Fair points all good advice , I mean surely putting the hoover in a butchers shop window would get people curious and wanting to ask the question so starting that initial contact a conversation starter no ?? lol I think people overestimate the power of a bizarre conversation starter. It's more likely to make people walk away. (I speak with considerable experience of bizarre messages here or elsewhere - of the options reply, delete, or block, I employ delete or block in response to the bizarre) (Use the reply plus quote button under the post you're replying to, it makes conversation easier.)" ^^ me personally wouldn’t take ‘that’ as bizarre. Not in the slightest   | |||
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"Big dicks is the standard I find , I’m shit out of luck there was at the back of the queue when god was handing out height and cock size 🤷🏻♂️" So you sell what you've got. Not everyone wants a cervix masher. | |||
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"Fair points all good advice , I mean surely putting the hoover in a butchers shop window would get people curious and wanting to ask the question so starting that initial contact a conversation starter no ?? lol I think people overestimate the power of a bizarre conversation starter. It's more likely to make people walk away. (I speak with considerable experience of bizarre messages here or elsewhere - of the options reply, delete, or block, I employ delete or block in response to the bizarre) (Use the reply plus quote button under the post you're replying to, it makes conversation easier.)" Ah ha I’m learning your a very good teacher , see I find there is a difference between a bizarre message and a intriguing one the two can be very similar but one will get you blocked agreed the other will get curiosity going | |||
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"Fair points all good advice , I mean surely putting the hoover in a butchers shop window would get people curious and wanting to ask the question so starting that initial contact a conversation starter no ?? lol I think people overestimate the power of a bizarre conversation starter. It's more likely to make people walk away. (I speak with considerable experience of bizarre messages here or elsewhere - of the options reply, delete, or block, I employ delete or block in response to the bizarre) (Use the reply plus quote button under the post you're replying to, it makes conversation easier.) Ah ha I’m learning your a very good teacher , see I find there is a difference between a bizarre message and a intriguing one the two can be very similar but one will get you blocked agreed the other will get curiosity going " The vast majority don't know the difference. Intrigue is rare, irritation or concern is frequent. It's a risky strategy. | |||
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"Big dicks is the standard I find , I’m shit out of luck there was at the back of the queue when god was handing out height and cock size 🤷🏻♂️ So you sell what you've got. Not everyone wants a cervix masher." It’s getting the chance to sell what I have if the majority of profiles you read state looking for vwe pointless me trying to sell surely | |||
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"Fair points all good advice , I mean surely putting the hoover in a butchers shop window would get people curious and wanting to ask the question so starting that initial contact a conversation starter no ?? lol I think people overestimate the power of a bizarre conversation starter. It's more likely to make people walk away. (I speak with considerable experience of bizarre messages here or elsewhere - of the options reply, delete, or block, I employ delete or block in response to the bizarre) (Use the reply plus quote button under the post you're replying to, it makes conversation easier.) Ah ha I’m learning your a very good teacher , see I find there is a difference between a bizarre message and a intriguing one the two can be very similar but one will get you blocked agreed the other will get curiosity going " Dude. You own the penis. Never forget that 💪💪 | |||
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"Fair points all good advice , I mean surely putting the hoover in a butchers shop window would get people curious and wanting to ask the question so starting that initial contact a conversation starter no ?? lol I think people overestimate the power of a bizarre conversation starter. It's more likely to make people walk away. (I speak with considerable experience of bizarre messages here or elsewhere - of the options reply, delete, or block, I employ delete or block in response to the bizarre) (Use the reply plus quote button under the post you're replying to, it makes conversation easier.) Ah ha I’m learning your a very good teacher , see I find there is a difference between a bizarre message and a intriguing one the two can be very similar but one will get you blocked agreed the other will get curiosity going The vast majority don't know the difference. Intrigue is rare, irritation or concern is frequent. It's a risky strategy." Completely agree so then you go safe option and get nowhere as it’s deemed a generic or boring message so what’s the inbetween ? | |||
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"Fair points all good advice , I mean surely putting the hoover in a butchers shop window would get people curious and wanting to ask the question so starting that initial contact a conversation starter no ?? lol I think people overestimate the power of a bizarre conversation starter. It's more likely to make people walk away. (I speak with considerable experience of bizarre messages here or elsewhere - of the options reply, delete, or block, I employ delete or block in response to the bizarre) (Use the reply plus quote button under the post you're replying to, it makes conversation easier.) Ah ha I’m learning your a very good teacher , see I find there is a difference between a bizarre message and a intriguing one the two can be very similar but one will get you blocked agreed the other will get curiosity going Dude. You own the penis. Never forget that 💪💪" | |||
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"Big dicks is the standard I find , I’m shit out of luck there was at the back of the queue when god was handing out height and cock size 🤷🏻♂️ So you sell what you've got. Not everyone wants a cervix masher. It’s getting the chance to sell what I have if the majority of profiles you read state looking for vwe pointless me trying to sell surely " Yes. Don't message profiles like that. | |||
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"Fair points all good advice , I mean surely putting the hoover in a butchers shop window would get people curious and wanting to ask the question so starting that initial contact a conversation starter no ?? lol I think people overestimate the power of a bizarre conversation starter. It's more likely to make people walk away. (I speak with considerable experience of bizarre messages here or elsewhere - of the options reply, delete, or block, I employ delete or block in response to the bizarre) (Use the reply plus quote button under the post you're replying to, it makes conversation easier.) Ah ha I’m learning your a very good teacher , see I find there is a difference between a bizarre message and a intriguing one the two can be very similar but one will get you blocked agreed the other will get curiosity going Dude. You own the penis. Never forget that 💪💪" I’m happy with mine and never had any complaints the way I see it is can’t do fuck all about it anyway lol | |||
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"Big dicks is the standard I find , I’m shit out of luck there was at the back of the queue when god was handing out height and cock size 🤷🏻♂️ So you sell what you've got. Not everyone wants a cervix masher. It’s getting the chance to sell what I have if the majority of profiles you read state looking for vwe pointless me trying to sell surely Yes. Don't message profiles like that." That’s 90% of them lol so that’s why it’s so hard to find someone to give you that chance to have a chat | |||
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"Big dicks is the standard I find , I’m shit out of luck there was at the back of the queue when god was handing out height and cock size 🤷🏻♂️" I was joking although some will be looking for that. And quite often what you're looking for will just come along,don't be disheartened different women look for different things . | |||
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"Fair points all good advice , I mean surely putting the hoover in a butchers shop window would get people curious and wanting to ask the question so starting that initial contact a conversation starter no ?? lol I think people overestimate the power of a bizarre conversation starter. It's more likely to make people walk away. (I speak with considerable experience of bizarre messages here or elsewhere - of the options reply, delete, or block, I employ delete or block in response to the bizarre) (Use the reply plus quote button under the post you're replying to, it makes conversation easier.) Ah ha I’m learning your a very good teacher , see I find there is a difference between a bizarre message and a intriguing one the two can be very similar but one will get you blocked agreed the other will get curiosity going The vast majority don't know the difference. Intrigue is rare, irritation or concern is frequent. It's a risky strategy. Completely agree so then you go safe option and get nowhere as it’s deemed a generic or boring message so what’s the inbetween ? " I can't speak for all women. But show an interest in their profile - think about it more like an email than a chat message. I'd say that at least 80% of attempts at "intriguing" manage to hit more in the region of "psycho", and you don't want to land there. | |||
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"Fair points all good advice , I mean surely putting the hoover in a butchers shop window would get people curious and wanting to ask the question so starting that initial contact a conversation starter no ?? lol I think people overestimate the power of a bizarre conversation starter. It's more likely to make people walk away. (I speak with considerable experience of bizarre messages here or elsewhere - of the options reply, delete, or block, I employ delete or block in response to the bizarre) (Use the reply plus quote button under the post you're replying to, it makes conversation easier.) Ah ha I’m learning your a very good teacher , see I find there is a difference between a bizarre message and a intriguing one the two can be very similar but one will get you blocked agreed the other will get curiosity going Dude. You own the penis. Never forget that 💪💪 I’m happy with mine and never had any complaints the way I see it is can’t do fuck all about it anyway lol " Don’t buckle from a sample size of 1 pal You’re in control of your own destiny on Fab dude
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"Big dicks is the standard I find , I’m shit out of luck there was at the back of the queue when god was handing out height and cock size 🤷🏻♂️ So you sell what you've got. Not everyone wants a cervix masher. It’s getting the chance to sell what I have if the majority of profiles you read state looking for vwe pointless me trying to sell surely Yes. Don't message profiles like that. That’s 90% of them lol so that’s why it’s so hard to find someone to give you that chance to have a chat " 10% of profiles is still a lot of profiles. Increase your chances by being yourself and not wasting your time on people who've already said they aren't interested in you. | |||
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"Big dicks is the standard I find , I’m shit out of luck there was at the back of the queue when god was handing out height and cock size 🤷🏻♂️ I was joking although some will be looking for that. And quite often what you're looking for will just come along,don't be disheartened different women look for different things ." I know I don’t get disheartened I’m very grounded logical and realistic it’s all good , it’s nice that so many of you are taking the time to have a chat with me so thank you | |||
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"Big dicks is the standard I find , I’m shit out of luck there was at the back of the queue when god was handing out height and cock size 🤷🏻♂️ So you sell what you've got. Not everyone wants a cervix masher. It’s getting the chance to sell what I have if the majority of profiles you read state looking for vwe pointless me trying to sell surely Yes. Don't message profiles like that. That’s 90% of them lol so that’s why it’s so hard to find someone to give you that chance to have a chat 10% of profiles is still a lot of profiles. Increase your chances by being yourself and not wasting your time on people who've already said they aren't interested in you." I’m always myself I don’t try and be someone I’m not , and it sounds like it’s rare on here which again I find crazy but if I message and I am lucky enough to get a reply if it’s sorry your not my type or whatever it’s cool I respect that and wish them happy fabbing all the best not going to pester or beg it’s weird | |||
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"Fair points all good advice , I mean surely putting the hoover in a butchers shop window would get people curious and wanting to ask the question so starting that initial contact a conversation starter no ?? lol I think people overestimate the power of a bizarre conversation starter. It's more likely to make people walk away. (I speak with considerable experience of bizarre messages here or elsewhere - of the options reply, delete, or block, I employ delete or block in response to the bizarre) (Use the reply plus quote button under the post you're replying to, it makes conversation easier.) Ah ha I’m learning your a very good teacher , see I find there is a difference between a bizarre message and a intriguing one the two can be very similar but one will get you blocked agreed the other will get curiosity going The vast majority don't know the difference. Intrigue is rare, irritation or concern is frequent. It's a risky strategy. Completely agree so then you go safe option and get nowhere as it’s deemed a generic or boring message so what’s the inbetween ? I can't speak for all women. But show an interest in their profile - think about it more like an email than a chat message. I'd say that at least 80% of attempts at "intriguing" manage to hit more in the region of "psycho", and you don't want to land there." What I’m learning from this thread is ‘don’t be a psycho!’ Every day’s a learning day!  | |||
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"Fair points all good advice , I mean surely putting the hoover in a butchers shop window would get people curious and wanting to ask the question so starting that initial contact a conversation starter no ?? lol I think people overestimate the power of a bizarre conversation starter. It's more likely to make people walk away. (I speak with considerable experience of bizarre messages here or elsewhere - of the options reply, delete, or block, I employ delete or block in response to the bizarre) (Use the reply plus quote button under the post you're replying to, it makes conversation easier.) Ah ha I’m learning your a very good teacher , see I find there is a difference between a bizarre message and a intriguing one the two can be very similar but one will get you blocked agreed the other will get curiosity going The vast majority don't know the difference. Intrigue is rare, irritation or concern is frequent. It's a risky strategy. Completely agree so then you go safe option and get nowhere as it’s deemed a generic or boring message so what’s the inbetween ? I can't speak for all women. But show an interest in their profile - think about it more like an email than a chat message. I'd say that at least 80% of attempts at "intriguing" manage to hit more in the region of "psycho", and you don't want to land there." Now this is an interesting one so when I read a profile I like I will send a message referencing something from that profile so they know I read it , also will say what I like from that profile , if it was funny , straight talking , same interest whatever but still very rarely do I get any reply’s | |||
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"Fair points all good advice , I mean surely putting the hoover in a butchers shop window would get people curious and wanting to ask the question so starting that initial contact a conversation starter no ?? lol I think people overestimate the power of a bizarre conversation starter. It's more likely to make people walk away. (I speak with considerable experience of bizarre messages here or elsewhere - of the options reply, delete, or block, I employ delete or block in response to the bizarre) (Use the reply plus quote button under the post you're replying to, it makes conversation easier.) Ah ha I’m learning your a very good teacher , see I find there is a difference between a bizarre message and a intriguing one the two can be very similar but one will get you blocked agreed the other will get curiosity going The vast majority don't know the difference. Intrigue is rare, irritation or concern is frequent. It's a risky strategy. Completely agree so then you go safe option and get nowhere as it’s deemed a generic or boring message so what’s the inbetween ? I can't speak for all women. But show an interest in their profile - think about it more like an email than a chat message. I'd say that at least 80% of attempts at "intriguing" manage to hit more in the region of "psycho", and you don't want to land there. What I’m learning from this thread is ‘don’t be a psycho!’ Every day’s a learning day! "I mean, I get it. It's hard not to get a reply, and people try gimmicks. However, from the recipient's perspective... gimmicks rarely work. | |||
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" I can't speak for all women. But show an interest in their profile - think about it more like an email than a chat message. I'd say that at least 80% of attempts at "intriguing" manage to hit more in the region of "psycho", and you don't want to land there. Now this is an interesting one so when I read a profile I like I will send a message referencing something from that profile so they know I read it , also will say what I like from that profile , if it was funny , straight talking , same interest whatever but still very rarely do I get any reply’s " That's very normal on Fab. Even if you're doing all the right things (and these right things are my opinion, not law), men outnumber women by an enormous margin, and it's common not to reply if you're not interested (it's in the Fab FAQ). | |||
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"Fair points all good advice , I mean surely putting the hoover in a butchers shop window would get people curious and wanting to ask the question so starting that initial contact a conversation starter no ?? lol I think people overestimate the power of a bizarre conversation starter. It's more likely to make people walk away. (I speak with considerable experience of bizarre messages here or elsewhere - of the options reply, delete, or block, I employ delete or block in response to the bizarre) (Use the reply plus quote button under the post you're replying to, it makes conversation easier.) Ah ha I’m learning your a very good teacher , see I find there is a difference between a bizarre message and a intriguing one the two can be very similar but one will get you blocked agreed the other will get curiosity going The vast majority don't know the difference. Intrigue is rare, irritation or concern is frequent. It's a risky strategy. Completely agree so then you go safe option and get nowhere as it’s deemed a generic or boring message so what’s the inbetween ? I can't speak for all women. But show an interest in their profile - think about it more like an email than a chat message. I'd say that at least 80% of attempts at "intriguing" manage to hit more in the region of "psycho", and you don't want to land there. What I’m learning from this thread is ‘don’t be a psycho!’ Every day’s a learning day!
I mean, I get it. It's hard not to get a reply, and people try gimmicks.
However, from the recipient's perspective... gimmicks rarely work."So your saying don’t try intriguing as more then likely comes across crazy don’t be boring and generic and don’t try gimmicks so now I’m at a complete loss as to what to do 😂😂 lol | |||
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"My n=1 minimum A username that doesn’t make me vomit Minimal cock pics Profile pics that suggest they understand the female gaze In my preferred age range In my preferred height range Dad bod or slimmer A face that I’m attracted to (if they have a public face pic) Actually nice as opposed to performatively nice Compatible sense of humour That’ll do as a starting list 🤣 " Sense of humour always comes first I think. Feels quite depressing when you have to say… that was a joke by the way. …maybe that’s just a reflection on my jokes though! 😬 | |||
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"My n=1 minimum A username that doesn’t make me vomit Minimal cock pics Profile pics that suggest they understand the female gaze In my preferred age range In my preferred height range Dad bod or slimmer A face that I’m attracted to (if they have a public face pic) Actually nice as opposed to performatively nice Compatible sense of humour That’ll do as a starting list 🤣 " 😂😂 so not to much then fairly open minded 😂😂😂 lol | |||
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"Someone who can read and does read profiles." If they have shown they have read the profile does that get them a reply ? | |||
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"Fair points all good advice , I mean surely putting the hoover in a butchers shop window would get people curious and wanting to ask the question so starting that initial contact a conversation starter no ?? lol I think people overestimate the power of a bizarre conversation starter. It's more likely to make people walk away. (I speak with considerable experience of bizarre messages here or elsewhere - of the options reply, delete, or block, I employ delete or block in response to the bizarre) (Use the reply plus quote button under the post you're replying to, it makes conversation easier.) Ah ha I’m learning your a very good teacher , see I find there is a difference between a bizarre message and a intriguing one the two can be very similar but one will get you blocked agreed the other will get curiosity going The vast majority don't know the difference. Intrigue is rare, irritation or concern is frequent. It's a risky strategy. Completely agree so then you go safe option and get nowhere as it’s deemed a generic or boring message so what’s the inbetween ? I can't speak for all women. But show an interest in their profile - think about it more like an email than a chat message. I'd say that at least 80% of attempts at "intriguing" manage to hit more in the region of "psycho", and you don't want to land there. What I’m learning from this thread is ‘don’t be a psycho!’ Every day’s a learning day!
I mean, I get it. It's hard not to get a reply, and people try gimmicks.
However, from the recipient's perspective... gimmicks rarely work.
So your saying don’t try intriguing as more then likely comes across crazy don’t be boring and generic and don’t try gimmicks so now I’m at a complete loss as to what to do 😂😂 lol "Literally anything else? | |||
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" I can't speak for all women. But show an interest in their profile - think about it more like an email than a chat message. I'd say that at least 80% of attempts at "intriguing" manage to hit more in the region of "psycho", and you don't want to land there. Now this is an interesting one so when I read a profile I like I will send a message referencing something from that profile so they know I read it , also will say what I like from that profile , if it was funny , straight talking , same interest whatever but still very rarely do I get any reply’s That's very normal on Fab. Even if you're doing all the right things (and these right things are my opinion, not law), men outnumber women by an enormous margin, and it's common not to reply if you're not interested (it's in the Fab FAQ)." Oh i completely get that and it’s completely reasonable too , but then if there is so many different women looking for different things then wouldn’t law if average say someone would then r reply when in fact slim to none do so leads me to believe your all looking for the same kind of guy ?? | |||
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"My n=1 minimum A username that doesn’t make me vomit Minimal cock pics Profile pics that suggest they understand the female gaze In my preferred age range In my preferred height range Dad bod or slimmer A face that I’m attracted to (if they have a public face pic) Actually nice as opposed to performatively nice Compatible sense of humour That’ll do as a starting list 🤣 😂😂 so not to much then fairly open minded 😂😂😂 lol " Is it that much really? For them to be a decent human being that I find attractive? | |||
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"Fair points all good advice , I mean surely putting the hoover in a butchers shop window would get people curious and wanting to ask the question so starting that initial contact a conversation starter no ?? lol I think people overestimate the power of a bizarre conversation starter. It's more likely to make people walk away. (I speak with considerable experience of bizarre messages here or elsewhere - of the options reply, delete, or block, I employ delete or block in response to the bizarre) (Use the reply plus quote button under the post you're replying to, it makes conversation easier.) Ah ha I’m learning your a very good teacher , see I find there is a difference between a bizarre message and a intriguing one the two can be very similar but one will get you blocked agreed the other will get curiosity going The vast majority don't know the difference. Intrigue is rare, irritation or concern is frequent. It's a risky strategy. Completely agree so then you go safe option and get nowhere as it’s deemed a generic or boring message so what’s the inbetween ? I can't speak for all women. But show an interest in their profile - think about it more like an email than a chat message. I'd say that at least 80% of attempts at "intriguing" manage to hit more in the region of "psycho", and you don't want to land there. What I’m learning from this thread is ‘don’t be a psycho!’ Every day’s a learning day!
I mean, I get it. It's hard not to get a reply, and people try gimmicks.
However, from the recipient's perspective... gimmicks rarely work.
So your saying don’t try intriguing as more then likely comes across crazy don’t be boring and generic and don’t try gimmicks so now I’m at a complete loss as to what to do 😂😂 lol
Literally anything else?"Is there anything else lol 😂 | |||
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"What are common things women on here are looking for ?" • Their clitoris. I mean, if they can't find it how on earth are we supposed to? | |||
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"My n=1 minimum A username that doesn’t make me vomit Minimal cock pics Profile pics that suggest they understand the female gaze In my preferred age range In my preferred height range Dad bod or slimmer A face that I’m attracted to (if they have a public face pic) Actually nice as opposed to performatively nice Compatible sense of humour That’ll do as a starting list 🤣 😂😂 so not to much then fairly open minded 😂😂😂 lol Is it that much really? For them to be a decent human being that I find attractive?" | |||
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"Someone who can read and does read profiles. If they have shown they have read the profile does that get them a reply ? " Nothing guarantees a reply. Absolutely nothing. Some people reply based on attraction alone, or attraction plus profile. You can't do anything to change if someone is attracted to you or not. But if "decent profile" and "decent message" are factors they consider, you *can* do something to change that. | |||
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"Fair points all good advice , I mean surely putting the hoover in a butchers shop window would get people curious and wanting to ask the question so starting that initial contact a conversation starter no ?? lol I think people overestimate the power of a bizarre conversation starter. It's more likely to make people walk away. (I speak with considerable experience of bizarre messages here or elsewhere - of the options reply, delete, or block, I employ delete or block in response to the bizarre) (Use the reply plus quote button under the post you're replying to, it makes conversation easier.) Ah ha I’m learning your a very good teacher , see I find there is a difference between a bizarre message and a intriguing one the two can be very similar but one will get you blocked agreed the other will get curiosity going The vast majority don't know the difference. Intrigue is rare, irritation or concern is frequent. It's a risky strategy. Completely agree so then you go safe option and get nowhere as it’s deemed a generic or boring message so what’s the inbetween ? I can't speak for all women. But show an interest in their profile - think about it more like an email than a chat message. I'd say that at least 80% of attempts at "intriguing" manage to hit more in the region of "psycho", and you don't want to land there. What I’m learning from this thread is ‘don’t be a psycho!’ Every day’s a learning day!
I mean, I get it. It's hard not to get a reply, and people try gimmicks.
However, from the recipient's perspective... gimmicks rarely work.
So your saying don’t try intriguing as more then likely comes across crazy don’t be boring and generic and don’t try gimmicks so now I’m at a complete loss as to what to do 😂😂 lol
Literally anything else?
Is there anything else lol 😂 "You don't know any other forms of communication other than gimmicks, attempts to be intriguing, and being generic? | |||
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"My n=1 minimum A username that doesn’t make me vomit Minimal cock pics Profile pics that suggest they understand the female gaze In my preferred age range In my preferred height range Dad bod or slimmer A face that I’m attracted to (if they have a public face pic) Actually nice as opposed to performatively nice Compatible sense of humour That’ll do as a starting list 🤣 😂😂 so not to much then fairly open minded 😂😂😂 lol Is it that much really? For them to be a decent human being that I find attractive?" Not at all but there are plenty of decent human beings but that’s not what is at the front of the list is it , in order is looks , then probably height and the ready if what your looking for now that weighs out the decent part as you won’t give every guy a chance to see if he is decent which we would all do it’s like tinder you swipe on looks not personality | |||
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" Is it that much really? For them to be a decent human being that I find attractive? Not at all but there are plenty of decent human beings but that’s not what is at the front of the list is it , in order is looks , then probably height and the ready if what your looking for now that weighs out the decent part as you won’t give every guy a chance to see if he is decent which we would all do it’s like tinder you swipe on looks not personality " For many women on here, to "give every guy a chance", we would need staff, we would need to quit our jobs, and we might need time travel. | |||
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"Fair points all good advice , I mean surely putting the hoover in a butchers shop window would get people curious and wanting to ask the question so starting that initial contact a conversation starter no ?? lol I think people overestimate the power of a bizarre conversation starter. It's more likely to make people walk away. (I speak with considerable experience of bizarre messages here or elsewhere - of the options reply, delete, or block, I employ delete or block in response to the bizarre) (Use the reply plus quote button under the post you're replying to, it makes conversation easier.) Ah ha I’m learning your a very good teacher , see I find there is a difference between a bizarre message and a intriguing one the two can be very similar but one will get you blocked agreed the other will get curiosity going The vast majority don't know the difference. Intrigue is rare, irritation or concern is frequent. It's a risky strategy. Completely agree so then you go safe option and get nowhere as it’s deemed a generic or boring message so what’s the inbetween ? I can't speak for all women. But show an interest in their profile - think about it more like an email than a chat message. I'd say that at least 80% of attempts at "intriguing" manage to hit more in the region of "psycho", and you don't want to land there. What I’m learning from this thread is ‘don’t be a psycho!’ Every day’s a learning day!
I mean, I get it. It's hard not to get a reply, and people try gimmicks.
However, from the recipient's perspective... gimmicks rarely work.
So your saying don’t try intriguing as more then likely comes across crazy don’t be boring and generic and don’t try gimmicks so now I’m at a complete loss as to what to do 😂😂 lol
Literally anything else?
Is there anything else lol 😂
You don't know any other forms of communication other than gimmicks, attempts to be intriguing, and being generic?"I think they are pretty much all of them no ? I mean I love to have a laugh and take the piss , I don’t take myself to seriously will take the piss out myself , I’m kind caring old skool values but they don’t know any of that until they start talking to me but can’t try and joke in a first message too risky can’t be safe and say hi how are you to boring and generic and if I try and be mysterious well I’m shit at that kind of thing anyway lol so yeah I’m fucked lol | |||
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"OP you think you will find out , on here, on fab ?? 😂" Lol I’m not looking to date them lol this ain’t the sure for that | |||
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"It’s going to be individual. The right age, a complete profile that doesn’t disgust you but instead shows some intelligence and effort, photos that you find attractive/hot, verifications that show what you need them to and perhaps some shared interests sexually. " Oh and “meet now” status will be immediate block/ignore | |||
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" Is it that much really? For them to be a decent human being that I find attractive? Not at all but there are plenty of decent human beings but that’s not what is at the front of the list is it , in order is looks , then probably height and the ready if what your looking for now that weighs out the decent part as you won’t give every guy a chance to see if he is decent which we would all do it’s like tinder you swipe on looks not personality For many women on here, to "give every guy a chance", we would need staff, we would need to quit our jobs, and we might need time travel." Absolutely I completely get that but then surely you are then only going for the top 1% of guys on here to get the best of the best if you like which means your all talking to the same guys so the average guy is never getting a look in | |||
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" So your saying don’t try intriguing as more then likely comes across crazy don’t be boring and generic and don’t try gimmicks so now I’m at a complete loss as to what to do 😂😂 lol Literally anything else? Is there anything else lol 😂 You don't know any other forms of communication other than gimmicks, attempts to be intriguing, and being generic? I think they are pretty much all of them no ? I mean I love to have a laugh and take the piss , I don’t take myself to seriously will take the piss out myself , I’m kind caring old skool values but they don’t know any of that until they start talking to me but can’t try and joke in a first message too risky can’t be safe and say hi how are you to boring and generic and if I try and be mysterious well I’m shit at that kind of thing anyway lol so yeah I’m fucked lol " "Hi, I'm X, and (stuff about you). I'm interested in your profile because (specifics). I really like (specifics). I thought you might be interested in me because (specifics), and I am also interested in (specifics)" I mean, that's a bland structure and you might want to change it a bit, but if you actually add specifics in there that come from the profile and your own interests, it's no longer generic. It's not that hard. (And no, it doesn't guarantee you a reply) | |||
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"I repeat again, decent human being *that I find attractive* I’m not hiding it. You have to be both. I find a wide range of people attractive. 🤷♀️" Yeah of course it’s a fair statement and you have to be attracted to them , ok honestly I won’t be offended but do you find me attractive? | |||
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" Is it that much really? For them to be a decent human being that I find attractive? Not at all but there are plenty of decent human beings but that’s not what is at the front of the list is it , in order is looks , then probably height and the ready if what your looking for now that weighs out the decent part as you won’t give every guy a chance to see if he is decent which we would all do it’s like tinder you swipe on looks not personality For many women on here, to "give every guy a chance", we would need staff, we would need to quit our jobs, and we might need time travel. Absolutely I completely get that but then surely you are then only going for the top 1% of guys on here to get the best of the best if you like which means your all talking to the same guys so the average guy is never getting a look in " We don’t all want the same thing. But also we don’t owe any guys “a look in” 🤷🏼♀️ we can afford to be very fussy because a lot of us have what we want at home and are just looking to add extra sprinkles to a very delicious cake | |||
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" Is it that much really? For them to be a decent human being that I find attractive? Not at all but there are plenty of decent human beings but that’s not what is at the front of the list is it , in order is looks , then probably height and the ready if what your looking for now that weighs out the decent part as you won’t give every guy a chance to see if he is decent which we would all do it’s like tinder you swipe on looks not personality For many women on here, to "give every guy a chance", we would need staff, we would need to quit our jobs, and we might need time travel. Absolutely I completely get that but then surely you are then only going for the top 1% of guys on here to get the best of the best if you like which means your all talking to the same guys so the average guy is never getting a look in " Not everyone is attracted to the same thing. My average might be someone else's perfect, and vice versa. Even if there were some top 1%, women on here don't owe men anything other than abiding by the same rules. | |||
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" So your saying don’t try intriguing as more then likely comes across crazy don’t be boring and generic and don’t try gimmicks so now I’m at a complete loss as to what to do 😂😂 lol Literally anything else? Is there anything else lol 😂 You don't know any other forms of communication other than gimmicks, attempts to be intriguing, and being generic? I think they are pretty much all of them no ? I mean I love to have a laugh and take the piss , I don’t take myself to seriously will take the piss out myself , I’m kind caring old skool values but they don’t know any of that until they start talking to me but can’t try and joke in a first message too risky can’t be safe and say hi how are you to boring and generic and if I try and be mysterious well I’m shit at that kind of thing anyway lol so yeah I’m fucked lol "Hi, I'm X, and (stuff about you). I'm interested in your profile because (specifics). I really like (specifics). I thought you might be interested in me because (specifics), and I am also interested in (specifics)" I mean, that's a bland structure and you might want to change it a bit, but if you actually add specifics in there that come from the profile and your own interests, it's no longer generic. It's not that hard. (And no, it doesn't guarantee you a reply)" That’s my point this is what I have tried and do and nothing , I mean I’m not delusional I know I ain’t no oil painting but I thought a few more reply’s then what I do get would of been expected but I was very wrong lol that’s on me obviously completely get that | |||
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" Is it that much really? For them to be a decent human being that I find attractive? Not at all but there are plenty of decent human beings but that’s not what is at the front of the list is it , in order is looks , then probably height and the ready if what your looking for now that weighs out the decent part as you won’t give every guy a chance to see if he is decent which we would all do it’s like tinder you swipe on looks not personality For many women on here, to "give every guy a chance", we would need staff, we would need to quit our jobs, and we might need time travel. Absolutely I completely get that but then surely you are then only going for the top 1% of guys on here to get the best of the best if you like which means your all talking to the same guys so the average guy is never getting a look in Not everyone is attracted to the same thing. My average might be someone else's perfect, and vice versa. Even if there were some top 1%, women on here don't owe men anything other than abiding by the same rules." Absolutely they owe men nothing and vice versa I mean we all know that women control sex and could get the pick of them men on here or anywhere for that matter it’s about mutual attraction and respect I do want to say I do appreciate you time debating this topic and how it’s so refreshing to have an adult conversation it’s very attractive | |||
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"No oil painting? You could be an impressionist Monet. " Was thinking more the one that paints fucked up weird faces lol | |||
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" Is there anything else lol 😂 You don't know any other forms of communication other than gimmicks, attempts to be intriguing, and being generic? I think they are pretty much all of them no ? I mean I love to have a laugh and take the piss , I don’t take myself to seriously will take the piss out myself , I’m kind caring old skool values but they don’t know any of that until they start talking to me but can’t try and joke in a first message too risky can’t be safe and say hi how are you to boring and generic and if I try and be mysterious well I’m shit at that kind of thing anyway lol so yeah I’m fucked lol "Hi, I'm X, and (stuff about you). I'm interested in your profile because (specifics). I really like (specifics). I thought you might be interested in me because (specifics), and I am also interested in (specifics)" I mean, that's a bland structure and you might want to change it a bit, but if you actually add specifics in there that come from the profile and your own interests, it's no longer generic. It's not that hard. (And no, it doesn't guarantee you a reply) That’s my point this is what I have tried and do and nothing , I mean I’m not delusional I know I ain’t no oil painting but I thought a few more reply’s then what I do get would of been expected but I was very wrong lol that’s on me obviously completely get that " Low rates of reply are the norm here. Very low rates. No technique will guarantee you a better reply rate. But generic screams "I'll fuck anything within fifty miles, I'm not sure if I care if you have a pulse". Intriguing/gimmick often screams "my carer had to nip to the loo and I shouldn't be unsupervised" | |||
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"My “top 1%” is very different to another woman’s. Swing has given some excellent advice and a great message template. " She has given some great advice the template is something I have already used numerous times with no success but I appreciate the help , you did not answer the question though if you found me attractive or not again I don’t take anything to heart so be honest | |||
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"No oil painting? You could be an impressionist Monet. Was thinking more the one that paints fucked up weird faces lol " Ah, a more Picasso style portrait or ‘The Scream’ Style? | |||
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"That’s my point this is what I have tried and do and nothing , I mean I’m not delusional I know I ain’t no oil painting but I thought a few more reply’s then what I do get would of been expected but I was very wrong lol that’s on me obviously completely get that " Would you like profile advice? Given that you know that most will look at it before replying. | |||
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" Is there anything else lol 😂 You don't know any other forms of communication other than gimmicks, attempts to be intriguing, and being generic? I think they are pretty much all of them no ? I mean I love to have a laugh and take the piss , I don’t take myself to seriously will take the piss out myself , I’m kind caring old skool values but they don’t know any of that until they start talking to me but can’t try and joke in a first message too risky can’t be safe and say hi how are you to boring and generic and if I try and be mysterious well I’m shit at that kind of thing anyway lol so yeah I’m fucked lol "Hi, I'm X, and (stuff about you). I'm interested in your profile because (specifics). I really like (specifics). I thought you might be interested in me because (specifics), and I am also interested in (specifics)" I mean, that's a bland structure and you might want to change it a bit, but if you actually add specifics in there that come from the profile and your own interests, it's no longer generic. It's not that hard. (And no, it doesn't guarantee you a reply) That’s my point this is what I have tried and do and nothing , I mean I’m not delusional I know I ain’t no oil painting but I thought a few more reply’s then what I do get would of been expected but I was very wrong lol that’s on me obviously completely get that Low rates of reply are the norm here. Very low rates. No technique will guarantee you a better reply rate. But generic screams "I'll fuck anything within fifty miles, I'm not sure if I care if you have a pulse". Intriguing/gimmick often screams "my carer had to nip to the loo and I shouldn't be unsupervised"" You have good humour I like it lol , yeah I get that it’s a lottery what one you use and if that person likes it or not just got to roll with it I guess lol , So I will ask the same question and I won’t be offended but do you find me attractive? | |||
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"That’s my point this is what I have tried and do and nothing , I mean I’m not delusional I know I ain’t no oil painting but I thought a few more reply’s then what I do get would of been expected but I was very wrong lol that’s on me obviously completely get that Would you like profile advice? Given that you know that most will look at it before replying." Absolutely go for it | |||
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"I repeat again, decent human being *that I find attractive* I’m not hiding it. You have to be both. I find a wide range of people attractive. 🤷♀️ Yeah of course it’s a fair statement and you have to be attracted to them , ok honestly I won’t be offended but do you find me attractive? " I would need to see a smile photo. I would need to have a better idea of body shape. To be very honest I struggle when a man is shorter than me. So I usually look for 5’8” or taller. But you have a nice face. | |||
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" Is it that much really? For them to be a decent human being that I find attractive? Not at all but there are plenty of decent human beings but that’s not what is at the front of the list is it , in order is looks , then probably height and the ready if what your looking for now that weighs out the decent part as you won’t give every guy a chance to see if he is decent which we would all do it’s like tinder you swipe on looks not personality For many women on here, to "give every guy a chance", we would need staff, we would need to quit our jobs, and we might need time travel. Absolutely I completely get that but then surely you are then only going for the top 1% of guys on here to get the best of the best if you like which means your all talking to the same guys so the average guy is never getting a look in We don’t all want the same thing. But also we don’t owe any guys “a look in” 🤷🏼♀️ we can afford to be very fussy because a lot of us have what we want at home and are just looking to add extra sprinkles to a very delicious cake" Yeah I completely get that , your very lucky to have the best of both worlds and have a partner you think that highly of it’s rare these days | |||
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" Is there anything else lol 😂 You don't know any other forms of communication other than gimmicks, attempts to be intriguing, and being generic? I think they are pretty much all of them no ? I mean I love to have a laugh and take the piss , I don’t take myself to seriously will take the piss out myself , I’m kind caring old skool values but they don’t know any of that until they start talking to me but can’t try and joke in a first message too risky can’t be safe and say hi how are you to boring and generic and if I try and be mysterious well I’m shit at that kind of thing anyway lol so yeah I’m fucked lol "Hi, I'm X, and (stuff about you). I'm interested in your profile because (specifics). I really like (specifics). I thought you might be interested in me because (specifics), and I am also interested in (specifics)" I mean, that's a bland structure and you might want to change it a bit, but if you actually add specifics in there that come from the profile and your own interests, it's no longer generic. It's not that hard. (And no, it doesn't guarantee you a reply) That’s my point this is what I have tried and do and nothing , I mean I’m not delusional I know I ain’t no oil painting but I thought a few more reply’s then what I do get would of been expected but I was very wrong lol that’s on me obviously completely get that Low rates of reply are the norm here. Very low rates. No technique will guarantee you a better reply rate. But generic screams "I'll fuck anything within fifty miles, I'm not sure if I care if you have a pulse". Intriguing/gimmick often screams "my carer had to nip to the loo and I shouldn't be unsupervised" You have good humour I like it lol , yeah I get that it’s a lottery what one you use and if that person likes it or not just got to roll with it I guess lol , So I will ask the same question and I won’t be offended but do you find me attractive? " As long as you're aware it's a risky strategy. I don't answer those questions in public. I don't think it'd be right. | |||
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"That’s my point this is what I have tried and do and nothing , I mean I’m not delusional I know I ain’t no oil painting but I thought a few more reply’s then what I do get would of been expected but I was very wrong lol that’s on me obviously completely get that Would you like profile advice? Given that you know that most will look at it before replying. Absolutely go for it " Your tagline - we’re not all here for the same thing. Tell me what you’re actually here for or use that bit to be funny. Make sure your age is your age. Either your profile text hasn’t been updated in a long time or you’re fibbing. Both those things would put me off replying. | |||
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"I repeat again, decent human being *that I find attractive* I’m not hiding it. You have to be both. I find a wide range of people attractive. 🤷♀️ Yeah of course it’s a fair statement and you have to be attracted to them , ok honestly I won’t be offended but do you find me attractive? I would need to see a smile photo. I would need to have a better idea of body shape. To be very honest I struggle when a man is shorter than me. So I usually look for 5’8” or taller. But you have a nice face." I really appreciate that thank you I guess I don’t smile because I hate my smile , body shape is not so much a six pack more a keg lol I’m a bigger guy hate my body too but im working on it and yeah I know most women prefer taller guys obviously not a lot I can do about that although it’s nice to see your only looking for 5ft 8 most look for 6ft so it’s better lol | |||
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"That’s my point this is what I have tried and do and nothing , I mean I’m not delusional I know I ain’t no oil painting but I thought a few more reply’s then what I do get would of been expected but I was very wrong lol that’s on me obviously completely get that Would you like profile advice? Given that you know that most will look at it before replying. Absolutely go for it Your tagline - we’re not all here for the same thing. Tell me what you’re actually here for or use that bit to be funny. Make sure your age is your age. Either your profile text hasn’t been updated in a long time or you’re fibbing. Both those things would put me off replying." Noted I think a profile update is needed haven’t done it for a long time I’m 43 | |||
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" Is there anything else lol 😂 You don't know any other forms of communication other than gimmicks, attempts to be intriguing, and being generic? I think they are pretty much all of them no ? I mean I love to have a laugh and take the piss , I don’t take myself to seriously will take the piss out myself , I’m kind caring old skool values but they don’t know any of that until they start talking to me but can’t try and joke in a first message too risky can’t be safe and say hi how are you to boring and generic and if I try and be mysterious well I’m shit at that kind of thing anyway lol so yeah I’m fucked lol "Hi, I'm X, and (stuff about you). I'm interested in your profile because (specifics). I really like (specifics). I thought you might be interested in me because (specifics), and I am also interested in (specifics)" I mean, that's a bland structure and you might want to change it a bit, but if you actually add specifics in there that come from the profile and your own interests, it's no longer generic. It's not that hard. (And no, it doesn't guarantee you a reply) That’s my point this is what I have tried and do and nothing , I mean I’m not delusional I know I ain’t no oil painting but I thought a few more reply’s then what I do get would of been expected but I was very wrong lol that’s on me obviously completely get that Low rates of reply are the norm here. Very low rates. No technique will guarantee you a better reply rate. But generic screams "I'll fuck anything within fifty miles, I'm not sure if I care if you have a pulse". Intriguing/gimmick often screams "my carer had to nip to the loo and I shouldn't be unsupervised" You have good humour I like it lol , yeah I get that it’s a lottery what one you use and if that person likes it or not just got to roll with it I guess lol , So I will ask the same question and I won’t be offended but do you find me attractive? As long as you're aware it's a risky strategy. I don't answer those questions in public. I don't think it'd be right." Yeah of course , ok can I message you privately then is that ok ? | |||
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"I’d just add men who actually turn up to meet, follow through to confirm they still want to meet and don’t runaway and hide because they’re scared they can’t handle a hot confident woman. I had 5 no shows in a row which was infuriating and totally disheartening. " And this is what really annoys me they have been given a chance a lot of guys on here would give anything for and fuck it up it’s frustrating for someone like me who is genuine | |||
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"I kind of wish there was a place to name and shame them. You are right. It makes me much more cynical and much less trusting v" Absolutely | |||
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"That’s my point this is what I have tried and do and nothing , I mean I’m not delusional I know I ain’t no oil painting but I thought a few more reply’s then what I do get would of been expected but I was very wrong lol that’s on me obviously completely get that Would you like profile advice? Given that you know that most will look at it before replying. Absolutely go for it Your tagline - we’re not all here for the same thing. Tell me what you’re actually here for or use that bit to be funny. Make sure your age is your age. Either your profile text hasn’t been updated in a long time or you’re fibbing. Both those things would put me off replying." Would you mind if I messaged you privately ? | |||
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" So I will ask the same question and I won’t be offended but do you find me attractive? As long as you're aware it's a risky strategy. I don't answer those questions in public. I don't think it'd be right. Yeah of course , ok can I message you privately then is that ok ? " You've got the answer you're going to get. | |||
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" So I will ask the same question and I won’t be offended but do you find me attractive? As long as you're aware it's a risky strategy. I don't answer those questions in public. I don't think it'd be right. Yeah of course , ok can I message you privately then is that ok ? You've got the answer you're going to get." Reading between the lines it’s a I don’t find you attractive lol | |||
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" So I will ask the same question and I won’t be offended but do you find me attractive? As long as you're aware it's a risky strategy. I don't answer those questions in public. I don't think it'd be right. Yeah of course , ok can I message you privately then is that ok ? You've got the answer you're going to get. Reading between the lines it’s a I don’t find you attractive lol " Between the lines is "I'm not answering that question" and "my filter is staying on". | |||
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" So I will ask the same question and I won’t be offended but do you find me attractive? As long as you're aware it's a risky strategy. I don't answer those questions in public. I don't think it'd be right. Yeah of course , ok can I message you privately then is that ok ? You've got the answer you're going to get. Reading between the lines it’s a I don’t find you attractive lol Between the lines is "I'm not answering that question" and "my filter is staying on"." Remember what you said intriguing comes across as lol 😂 | |||
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"That’s my point this is what I have tried and do and nothing , I mean I’m not delusional I know I ain’t no oil painting but I thought a few more reply’s then what I do get would of been expected but I was very wrong lol that’s on me obviously completely get that Would you like profile advice? Given that you know that most will look at it before replying. Absolutely go for it Your tagline - we’re not all here for the same thing. Tell me what you’re actually here for or use that bit to be funny. Make sure your age is your age. Either your profile text hasn’t been updated in a long time or you’re fibbing. Both those things would put me off replying. Would you mind if I messaged you privately ?" I’d rather you ask here. If it’s something that needs a private reply I will message you. | |||
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"That’s my point this is what I have tried and do and nothing , I mean I’m not delusional I know I ain’t no oil painting but I thought a few more reply’s then what I do get would of been expected but I was very wrong lol that’s on me obviously completely get that Would you like profile advice? Given that you know that most will look at it before replying. Absolutely go for it Your tagline - we’re not all here for the same thing. Tell me what you’re actually here for or use that bit to be funny. Make sure your age is your age. Either your profile text hasn’t been updated in a long time or you’re fibbing. Both those things would put me off replying. Would you mind if I messaged you privately ? I’d rather you ask here. If it’s something that needs a private reply I will message you." Ok well after speaking to me a little bit , will you private message me then lol | |||
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" So I will ask the same question and I won’t be offended but do you find me attractive? As long as you're aware it's a risky strategy. I don't answer those questions in public. I don't think it'd be right. Yeah of course , ok can I message you privately then is that ok ? You've got the answer you're going to get. Reading between the lines it’s a I don’t find you attractive lol Between the lines is "I'm not answering that question" and "my filter is staying on". Remember what you said intriguing comes across as lol 😂 " You're trying to work out how to attract people. That's not my aim here, so different parameters apply. If you think I come across badly because I'm maintaining my boundary... I really don't care. | |||
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" So I will ask the same question and I won’t be offended but do you find me attractive? As long as you're aware it's a risky strategy. I don't answer those questions in public. I don't think it'd be right. Yeah of course , ok can I message you privately then is that ok ? You've got the answer you're going to get. Reading between the lines it’s a I don’t find you attractive lol Between the lines is "I'm not answering that question" and "my filter is staying on". Remember what you said intriguing comes across as lol 😂 You're trying to work out how to attract people. That's not my aim here, so different parameters apply. If you think I come across badly because I'm maintaining my boundary... I really don't care." See what I mean about trying to have a laugh over messages completely gets taken the wrong way it’s impossible lol 😂 | |||
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" See what I mean about trying to have a laugh over messages completely gets taken the wrong way it’s impossible lol 😂 " Trying to take things private from the forum is a bit of a faux pas. Fyi. (It happens, but it's usually more of a friendly build up over time) | |||
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" See what I mean about trying to have a laugh over messages completely gets taken the wrong way it’s impossible lol 😂 Trying to take things private from the forum is a bit of a faux pas. Fyi. (It happens, but it's usually more of a friendly build up over time)" I asked to go private as you said you wouldn’t answer publicly that was all don’t see anything wrong in that to be fair | |||
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" See what I mean about trying to have a laugh over messages completely gets taken the wrong way it’s impossible lol 😂 Trying to take things private from the forum is a bit of a faux pas. Fyi. (It happens, but it's usually more of a friendly build up over time) I asked to go private as you said you wouldn’t answer publicly that was all don’t see anything wrong in that to be fair " Well, the answer is no. | |||
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" See what I mean about trying to have a laugh over messages completely gets taken the wrong way it’s impossible lol 😂 Trying to take things private from the forum is a bit of a faux pas. Fyi. (It happens, but it's usually more of a friendly build up over time) Well that was simple wasn’t it lol 😂 I asked to go private as you said you wouldn’t answer publicly that was all don’t see anything wrong in that to be fair Well, the answer is no." | |||
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"The wang to my quim" Ah the old wang aye lol 😂 | |||
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" See what I mean about trying to have a laugh over messages completely gets taken the wrong way it’s impossible lol 😂 Trying to take things private from the forum is a bit of a faux pas. Fyi. (It happens, but it's usually more of a friendly build up over time) I asked to go private as you said you wouldn’t answer publicly that was all don’t see anything wrong in that to be fair Well, the answer is no. Well that was simple wasn’t it lol 😂" Trying to get people to budge from their stated position - whether that's commenting on attractiveness, which I have not done, or whether that's "can I message you" - is a bold strategy, on a site where consent is such a vital concept. | |||
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" See what I mean about trying to have a laugh over messages completely gets taken the wrong way it’s impossible lol 😂 Trying to take things private from the forum is a bit of a faux pas. Fyi. (It happens, but it's usually more of a friendly build up over time) I asked to go private as you said you wouldn’t answer publicly that was all don’t see anything wrong in that to be fair Well, the answer is no. Well that was simple wasn’t it lol 😂 Trying to get people to budge from their stated position - whether that's commenting on attractiveness, which I have not done, or whether that's "can I message you" - is a bold strategy, on a site where consent is such a vital concept." What are you talking about how habe I tried to get you to budge in your positing please explain ? Wasn’t asking you to comment on my attractiveness I asked wether you thought I was attractive in a yes or no answer I have been nothing but respectful | |||
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"So just read a post saying about unread messages , a lot of the replies are saying women read profiles then don’t reply as more then likely not what they are looking for , so get me thinking what are a lot of the most common things women are looking for on here ??" C'mon ........ do you REALLY think that with the wide range of women here , they are all looking for similar types of men and expect the same type of sex ? And if there were such common desires amongst women, would you list them on your profile like a smorgasbord , a wimmens trap ? and reel the poor li'l ladies in ? Tsk on you ..... | |||
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"So just read a post saying about unread messages , a lot of the replies are saying women read profiles then don’t reply as more then likely not what they are looking for , so get me thinking what are a lot of the most common things women are looking for on here ?? C'mon ........ do you REALLY think that with the wide range of women here , they are all looking for similar types of men and expect the same type of sex ? And if there were such common desires amongst women, would you list them on your profile like a smorgasbord , a wimmens trap ? and reel the poor li'l ladies in ? Tsk on you ....." Errr yeah, of course! 🤣🤣🤣 | |||
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"So just read a post saying about unread messages , a lot of the replies are saying women read profiles then don’t reply as more then likely not what they are looking for , so get me thinking what are a lot of the most common things women are looking for on here ?? C'mon ........ do you REALLY think that with the wide range of women here , they are all looking for similar types of men and expect the same type of sex ? And if there were such common desires amongst women, would you list them on your profile like a smorgasbord , a wimmens trap ? and reel the poor li'l ladies in ? Tsk on you ....." When a lot of profiles are saying vwe and tall and muscular I do yeah and it is in black and white lol 😂 kind of got lost with the rest of your comment but it don’t take much to confuse me lol | |||
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"I find a lot of the profiles I have scanned of men (not at all often) it cock and cock and naked. Do you guys not wear clothes that much. Conversation and manners. Us ladies like to be spoken to like ladies sometimes. Even though im not str8 I still find the male body somewhat attractive but just not cock. " I have to admit I mean coming from a males outlook I much prefer a sexy teasing pic on a woman’s profile not naked I like a sexy outfit , hold ups something that leaves your imagination running wild so I can understand your point about seeing just cocks lol | |||
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" I'd say that at least 80% of attempts at "intriguing" manage to hit more in the region of "psycho", and you don't want to land there." Yep Just had one with “do you want to play a game” Ok Jigsaw, calm down  | |||
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" I'd say that at least 80% of attempts at "intriguing" manage to hit more in the region of "psycho", and you don't want to land there. Yep Just had one with “do you want to play a game” Ain’t woken up on a bathroom floor have you lol 😂 Ok Jigsaw, calm down " | |||
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"Manners, ability to hold a normal conversation other than about sex, sense of humour, normal, well ish! "Would love the chance to show I’m just that lol but I guess if they don’t find you initially attractive you won’t get that chance which is fair enough | |||
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