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"We don’t know how boring the content of your messages is tho from their post 😂 " The problem is, even if it was boring, it’s saying it’s not even been opened to be read to find out how boring it is. 🤪🤪 | |||
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"We don’t know how boring the content of your messages is tho from their post 😂 The problem is, even if it was boring, it’s saying it’s not even been opened to be read to find out how boring it is. 🤪🤪" You can read the first line without opening it so that gives a pretty good indication. I don’t bother opening stuff like how are you/ how’s your day 😴 | |||
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"Does anyone get as frustrated as me that mail doesn’t get read ? " No. Does it happen? | |||
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"Does anyone get as frustrated as me that mail doesn’t get read ? I totally understand that the amazing ladies on this site get smashed with messages daily, BUT, I have 20 messages I have sent out and none of them have been read. Even when a lovely lady had literally just been on site or is still on, and the message still doesn’t get read. As annoying and hard it is for ladies to read all the messages they get, it’s just as frustrating as the person putting a little bit of effort into sending someone a message and it doesn’t even get read Sorry - Monday morning frustration now passed on 🤣🤣😂😂🤣🤣😩😩😩😩😩😩😩" 
It doesn't bother me,as I don't send much private usually other than to people o know, anyway its only what I d o,when I get lads texting me filth,and decide to leave them hanging before I block them,depends how disgusting they are whether they hang or dangle | |||
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"You’ve got a Spurs top on in your profile picture, even gay men won’t open your messages " Maybe it’s a subtle hint he’s a bottom? | |||
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"Does anyone get as frustrated as me that mail doesn’t get read ? I totally understand that the amazing ladies on this site get smashed with messages daily, BUT, I have 20 messages I have sent out and none of them have been read. Even when a lovely lady had literally just been on site or is still on, and the message still doesn’t get read. As annoying and hard it is for ladies to read all the messages they get, it’s just as frustrating as the person putting a little bit of effort into sending someone a message and it doesn’t even get read Sorry - Monday morning frustration now passed on 🤣🤣😂😂🤣🤣😩😩😩😩😩😩😩" They can read your message and then mark it as unread. When you send a message it's best to forget about it and not check if it's been read, if someone wants to reply they will do. | |||
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Look, OP, hi, how are you can be fine if they're interested in your profile.
You've not acknowledged all the effort women have gone to to reply to this thread. Is that rude? No. Of course not.
If Fab makes you feel frustrated, step away. | |||
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"How do you start a message without being polite and say hi how are you ? Seems you cannot do right from wrong, ladies don’t want a dick pic as a first message but they also don’t want a Hi how are you message either 🤷🏻♂️" There are infinite possibilities other than dick pic and hi. *Starting* a message with hi is fine. If that's all there is in the message, that's probably just spam. | |||
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"How do you start a message without being polite and say hi how are you ? Seems you cannot do right from wrong, ladies don’t want a dick pic as a first message but they also don’t want a Hi how are you message either 🤷🏻♂️" In all seriousness, messaging to make an opening connection via Fab as a single man is futile. It works sometimes but the odds are unlikely. To see how bad it is just Search ‘Who’s near’. Yep, it’s mostly single men. They are your competition. The ratios of who’s near is pretty much representative of the Fab membership generally. | |||
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"Oh how awful of those ladies. Not wanting a dick pic. Hussies.
Look, OP, hi, how are you can be fine if they're interested in your profile.
You've not acknowledged all the effort women have gone to to reply to this thread. Is that rude? No. Of course not.
If Fab makes you feel frustrated, step away. "Hiya, thanks for all your help and advice. I think I’m only as frustrated as the amazing ladies on here get when they receive a bombardment of dick pics and no actual message with writing lol 😂 | |||
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"Oh how awful of those ladies. Not wanting a dick pic. Hussies.
Look, OP, hi, how are you can be fine if they're interested in your profile.
You've not acknowledged all the effort women have gone to to reply to this thread. Is that rude? No. Of course not.
If Fab makes you feel frustrated, step away.
Hiya, thanks for all your help and advice. I think I’m only as frustrated as the amazing ladies on here get when they receive a bombardment of dick pics and no actual message with writing lol 😂 "have you considered it might also be the Spurs jumper in your pic?  | |||
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"Oh how awful of those ladies. Not wanting a dick pic. Hussies.
Look, OP, hi, how are you can be fine if they're interested in your profile.
You've not acknowledged all the effort women have gone to to reply to this thread. Is that rude? No. Of course not.
If Fab makes you feel frustrated, step away.
Hiya, thanks for all your help and advice. I think I’m only as frustrated as the amazing ladies on here get when they receive a bombardment of dick pics and no actual message with writing lol 😂 "Why not try an ‘arty’ teasing black and white profile pic of the bow tie, DJ and chest of medals, crop your face out so the ladies are driven by curiosity to take a look at your profile for context, face pics, body shots… | |||
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"How do you start a message without being polite and say hi how are you ? Seems you cannot do right from wrong, ladies don’t want a dick pic as a first message but they also don’t want a Hi how are you message either 🤷🏻♂️" If this is the first mail it won’t get read it’s boring and generic sorry to be so blunt | |||
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"A good place to begin would be to perhaps stop pedestalizing women… how can you be calling someone that you don’t know like that “amazing” 🤔" It becomes background noise to ignore, tbh. Hasn't rejected me yet: amazing, stunning, perfect, superlatives Has rejected me: same thing but insults | |||
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"How do you start a message without being polite and say hi how are you ? Seems you cannot do right from wrong, ladies don’t want a dick pic as a first message but they also don’t want a Hi how are you message either 🤷🏻♂️" Man sends out 20 hi how are you messages, and is shocked when 20 women ignore them | |||
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"A good place to begin would be to perhaps stop pedestalizing women… how can you be calling someone that you don’t know like that “amazing” 🤔 It becomes background noise to ignore, tbh. Hasn't rejected me yet: amazing, stunning, perfect, superlatives Has rejected me: same thing but insults " Which is why I advised the OP not to lead messages with such superlatives due to the perception that they can give off. | |||
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"How do you start a message without being polite and say hi how are you ? Seems you cannot do right from wrong, ladies don’t want a dick pic as a first message but they also don’t want a Hi how are you message either 🤷🏻♂️ Man sends out 20 hi how are you messages, and is shocked when 20 women ignore them " We all know that women are just so fickle  | |||
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"How do you start a message without being polite and say hi how are you ? Seems you cannot do right from wrong, ladies don’t want a dick pic as a first message but they also don’t want a Hi how are you message either 🤷🏻♂️ Man sends out 20 hi how are you messages, and is shocked when 20 women ignore them " I never once said I message with hi how are you and then send. I actually do send a message not just hi - but I do open the message with Hi (profile name) how are you how’s your week/day going ? - then I put a little message after. I cannot see why being slightly polite is such a bad thing ? | |||
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"A good place to begin would be to perhaps stop pedestalizing women… how can you be calling someone that you don’t know like that “amazing” 🤔" Not sure I’ve ever messaged people saying ‘hi you’re amazing’ ??? | |||
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"Don't bother with msgs op. Join in with forum/cam room chat. Even Henry Cavill and Chris Hemsworth would be unread or get a single emoji in reply!" I’ve checked out the cam rooms, unfortunately it’s even worse than sending a message. Went on the cam/chat room the other day, 110 people in the room, 12 of which were females 🤣😂🤣 | |||
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"Don't bother with msgs op. Join in with forum/cam room chat. Even Henry Cavill and Chris Hemsworth would be unread or get a single emoji in reply! I’ve checked out the cam rooms, unfortunately it’s even worse than sending a message. Went on the cam/chat room the other day, 110 people in the room, 12 of which were females 🤣😂🤣" Go too a club and talk face to face don’t get hung up on virtual messages | |||
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"A good place to begin would be to perhaps stop pedestalizing women… how can you be calling someone that you don’t know like that “amazing” 🤔 Not sure I’ve ever messaged people saying ‘hi you’re amazing’ ??? " Your first message says "the amazing ladies on this site". As a woman who's been on this site more than five minutes: stuff like this reads somewhere between insincere and desperate. | |||
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"A good place to begin would be to perhaps stop pedestalizing women… how can you be calling someone that you don’t know like that “amazing” 🤔 Not sure I’ve ever messaged people saying ‘hi you’re amazing’ ??? " I was referring more so to the post of which you started this thread with | |||
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"Don't bother with msgs op. Join in with forum/cam room chat. Even Henry Cavill and Chris Hemsworth would be unread or get a single emoji in reply! I’ve checked out the cam rooms, unfortunately it’s even worse than sending a message. Went on the cam/chat room the other day, 110 people in the room, 12 of which were females 🤣😂🤣 Go too a club and talk face to face don’t get hung up on virtual messages " . Unfortunately I found the club scene uncomfortable- not great for someone in a swingers site I know but I am looking for online friendship and NSA fun with married or single ladies, just found the club scene uncomfortable. | |||
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"Delete your sent messages then you don't have to think about it. Mrs" All deleted 🤪 | |||
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"A good place to begin would be to perhaps stop pedestalizing women… how can you be calling someone that you don’t know like that “amazing” 🤔 Not sure I’ve ever messaged people saying ‘hi you’re amazing’ ??? Your first message says "the amazing ladies on this site". As a woman who's been on this site more than five minutes: stuff like this reads somewhere between insincere and desperate." My apologies, I didn’t mean it to sound pedestalizing or insulting to anyone. | |||
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"A good place to begin would be to perhaps stop pedestalizing women… how can you be calling someone that you don’t know like that “amazing” 🤔 Not sure I’ve ever messaged people saying ‘hi you’re amazing’ ??? Your first message says "the amazing ladies on this site". As a woman who's been on this site more than five minutes: stuff like this reads somewhere between insincere and desperate. My apologies, I didn’t mean it to sound pedestalizing or insulting to anyone. " I'm not offended, it's very common. I'm just letting you know how it comes across. | |||
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"You’ve got a Spurs top on in your profile picture, even gay men won’t open your messages " It means he's going down | |||
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"You can read the message in email without opening it on site You can read the first line without opening it You can check the profile to see if you’re even interested in opening it You can be online on fab and not checking your inbox It’s likely a combination of all of the above plus other factors. Send your message and then delete it from your sent box so you don’t sit worrying " All of the above. | |||
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"You’ve got a Spurs top on in your profile picture, even gay men won’t open your messages It means he's going down" We are going to get some amazing manager and win all the remaining games 🤣😂🤣😂🤣 | |||
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"Does anyone get as frustrated as me that mail doesn’t get read ? " Not really.  | |||
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"Hi op, as others said, most women look at a profile first and if they're not looking for married men or discreet hotel meets, they probably won't look at the message. Just delete your sent messages and if you get a reply it's a vice bonus. Why not look at a club to meet women instead?many are open daytimes. It's hard to just rely on fab for meets nowadays I'd say, especially when you're after something specific ie daytime hotel fun. " Hiya, unfortunately like I’ve said previously, I have attended a day club but found it uncomfortable and overwhelming. I like the one to one discreet more intimate meet up and I just felt the club was too much. Being in the same room with a few guys who were naked just made me feel uncomfortable. I know that’s not good being on a swingers site like FAB, but I was old about this site and I joint. No regrets joining, but clubs are just not for me. | |||
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"Hi op, as others said, most women look at a profile first and if they're not looking for married men or discreet hotel meets, they probably won't look at the message. Just delete your sent messages and if you get a reply it's a vice bonus. Why not look at a club to meet women instead?many are open daytimes. It's hard to just rely on fab for meets nowadays I'd say, especially when you're after something specific ie daytime hotel fun. Hiya, unfortunately like I’ve said previously, I have attended a day club but found it uncomfortable and overwhelming. I like the one to one discreet more intimate meet up and I just felt the club was too much. Being in the same room with a few guys who were naked just made me feel uncomfortable. I know that’s not good being on a swingers site like FAB, but I was old about this site and I joint. No regrets joining, but clubs are just not for me. " While clubs are by no means compulsory, you might find it harder to meet - even compared to the average man - because of a mismatch in expectations. | |||
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"Hi op, as others said, most women look at a profile first and if they're not looking for married men or discreet hotel meets, they probably won't look at the message. Just delete your sent messages and if you get a reply it's a vice bonus. Why not look at a club to meet women instead?many are open daytimes. It's hard to just rely on fab for meets nowadays I'd say, especially when you're after something specific ie daytime hotel fun. Hiya, unfortunately like I’ve said previously, I have attended a day club but found it uncomfortable and overwhelming. I like the one to one discreet more intimate meet up and I just felt the club was too much. Being in the same room with a few guys who were naked just made me feel uncomfortable. I know that’s not good being on a swingers site like FAB, but I was old about this site and I joint. No regrets joining, but clubs are just not for me. " Not all clubs are strip down we regularly go to the naughty pineapple we can stay fully dressed all night if we choose no one will bat an eyelid | |||
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"I tend to have a bulk delete when messages get too much as I like a tidy box "This 👆🏼 👌🏼 👍🏼 | |||
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"It makes me a little sad that the OP has gone unlos. There was some good advice on this thread but a whole load of smug too. " He probably thought it would be easier to get meets. He was looking for daytime hotel meets, so is most likely married. | |||
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"You’ve got a Spurs top on in your profile picture, even gay men won’t open your messages " Message of the week right here | |||
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"...BUT, I have 20 messages I have sent out and none of them have been read..." • I'm surprised you can even find 20 women to message. I can hardly find 2 that would be worthy of a message from me. | |||
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"In relation to this, I was talking with a beautiful woman and it was going really well then just nothing. I've been left of not opened. Do chats get lost in the mountain of incoming messages? " They do but to give it context, I’ve got 1118 messages unread at the mo. Sometimes it just gets overwhelming and then I can’t be arsed at all. Someone I was talking to will send repeated messages and it puts me off. It’s hard for a guy to strike the balance right but if it’s meant to be then it will work out for you. Some of its presentation, some of its physical attraction and its part luck. Getting attention back for a guy must be difficult alone but keeping it is even trickier | |||
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"In relation to this, I was talking with a beautiful woman and it was going really well then just nothing. I've been left of not opened. Do chats get lost in the mountain of incoming messages? They do but to give it context, I’ve got 1118 messages unread at the mo. Sometimes it just gets overwhelming and then I can’t be arsed at all. Someone I was talking to will send repeated messages and it puts me off. It’s hard for a guy to strike the balance right but if it’s meant to be then it will work out for you. Some of its presentation, some of its physical attraction and its part luck. Getting attention back for a guy must be difficult alone but keeping it is even trickier " 1118?? | |||
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"In relation to this, I was talking with a beautiful woman and it was going really well then just nothing. I've been left of not opened. Do chats get lost in the mountain of incoming messages? They do but to give it context, I’ve got 1118 messages unread at the mo. Sometimes it just gets overwhelming and then I can’t be arsed at all. Someone I was talking to will send repeated messages and it puts me off. It’s hard for a guy to strike the balance right but if it’s meant to be then it will work out for you. Some of its presentation, some of its physical attraction and its part luck. Getting attention back for a guy must be difficult alone but keeping it is even trickier " And i bet when you post a new pic the messages come flooding in on top of the 1000+ messages you already have | |||
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"In relation to this, I was talking with a beautiful woman and it was going really well then just nothing. I've been left of not opened. Do chats get lost in the mountain of incoming messages? They do but to give it context, I’ve got 1118 messages unread at the mo. Sometimes it just gets overwhelming and then I can’t be arsed at all. Someone I was talking to will send repeated messages and it puts me off. It’s hard for a guy to strike the balance right but if it’s meant to be then it will work out for you. Some of its presentation, some of its physical attraction and its part luck. Getting attention back for a guy must be difficult alone but keeping it is even trickier 1118??" 1122 now  it’s too much admin for me. | |||
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