FabSwingers.com forum: Mental Health Check In

By *ouseblend OP Man
5 weeks ago

Carshalton

Hello all, as I haven't seen a recent mental heath check in thread I thought I should start another one rather than waiting for someone else to start one.

I hope everyone is doing ok and hopefully working on their mental health in whatever way helps, it is always good to talk.

For me, at the moment I am in a really good place, finishing my first 52 mile ultra marathon in February was amazing considering I only started running for my mental health.

Have a great weekend/ week

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By *G LanaTV/TS
5 weeks ago

Gosport

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By *ampireLoveMan
5 weeks ago

Essex

Morning OP. A very cool thread! Glad you’re doing well and huge congratulations on the ultra marathon. That’s amazing!

I’m doing well currently, but if anyone isn’t and doesn’t feel they can open up in the thread, always welcome to ping me. Happy to chat or listen to anyone who ever needs it

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By *G LanaTV/TS
5 weeks ago

Gosport

Glad your both doing well at the moment.

Mine, u fortunately, has a taken a bit of a hit in recent weeks due to the death of a friend and then worrying news about my future health care. Despite this I am carrying on doing all the positive things to try and improve it, medication, talking therapy, peer support groups and improved diet and life choices. Overall I am okay but it is an ongoing battle to stay that way.

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By *eltCuteMightDeleteWoman
5 weeks ago

Reading

An ultra is such a massive achievement, well done.

I've had a lot of stressful things happen in the past three months so I'm fairly focused on a self care plan to help mitigate that. It's going medium well, I'd say.

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By *ampireLoveMan
5 weeks ago

Essex

"Glad your both doing well at the moment.

That can’t be easy at all but that is amazing that you are continuing with all of the positive things. Do know that there are people around and want you to succeed and will help you on the way

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By *ouseblend OP Man
5 weeks ago

Carshalton

"Glad your both doing well at the moment.

Sorry to hear about your friend and your health care xx It is great that you are carrying on doing all the positive things in your life.

Mental health is always a work in progress and although you have hit a bump recently I know you can come out the otherside stronger

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By *rytomakelifefunMan
5 weeks ago

Leeds

I've been unwell this week, just coming to the end of a nasty cold.

I feel bloated and just ugh physically.

I'm also stressed because I'm getting nowhere fast seeking a better paying job which is making it harder in getting mortgage approved for anything more than a flat, which I don't really want to go for due to the costs of leaseholds ect. Back in with my folks and whilst I live their company it sucks not having my own space.

Butttt, I'm taking today for myself, going on a gentle walk to my local nature reserve, taking my camera kit, and hoping that a walk and being surrounded by nature might help.

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By *G LanaTV/TS
5 weeks ago

Gosport

Thank you for the support, I am lucky that I actually have good support structures around me. I did get some related good news this week in that I had my training course for becoming a workplace mental health first aider approved for early May.

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By *legantEnigmaWoman
5 weeks ago

South of the Watford Gap

I've hit a wall today. I'm facing unemployment in 4 weeks and it's a tough employment market out there right now. Knock back after knock back has really hit my confidence.

I've always used the gym as my stress relief but have probably been hitting it a bit hard and have a few niggles that are causing me discomfort.

I woke up this morning just feeling so overwhelmed by life. All I've done is cry. I did get dressed and drive to the gym to get some gentle cardio in, but couldn't even get out of the car.

I know this is a blip and I'll survive it, but I feel really helpless today.

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By *G LanaTV/TS
5 weeks ago

Gosport

"I've been unwell this week, just coming to the end of a nasty cold.

I feel bloated and just ugh physically.

Butttt, I'm taking today for myself, going on a gentle walk to my local nature reserve, taking my camera kit, and hoping that a walk and being surrounded by nature might help."

Sounds like a difficult situation, I'm glad your cold is clearing and hope your job hunting goes well. I know that living with your parents as an adult isn't ideal for a lot of people.

Hope your walk is relaxing and restorative

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By *ouseblend OP Man
5 weeks ago

Carshalton

"I've been unwell this week, just coming to the end of a nasty cold.

I feel bloated and just ugh physically.

Butttt, I'm taking today for myself, going on a gentle walk to my local nature reserve, taking my camera kit, and hoping that a walk and being surrounded by nature might help."

Sorry to hear you aren't feeling great at the moment, I can fully prescribe to you going out with your camera and surrounding yourself with nature, does wonders for me if I am feeling stressed out with life.

Yes, miving back in with the parents is a drag, but if you look at it positivley, you are lucky to have that option and their support even though it isn't the ideal situation.

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By *ouseblend OP Man
5 weeks ago

Carshalton

"I've hit a wall today. I'm facing unemployment in 4 weeks and it's a tough employment market out there right now. Knock back after knock back has really hit my confidence.

I've always used the gym as my stress relief but have probably been hitting it a bit hard and have a few niggles that are causing me discomfort.

I woke up this morning just feeling so overwhelmed by life. All I've done is cry. I did get dressed and drive to the gym to get some gentle cardio in, but couldn't even get out of the car.

I know this is a blip and I'll survive it, but I feel really helpless today. "

Sorry to hear today you are feeling overwhelmed.

Tomorrow will be a better day x you still managed to get out of bed today with is progress in itself and you got dressed and left the house.

Okay so you didn't get out of the car to go to the gym but that is okay too, it would have been very easy to just stay in bed.

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By *ittlemissFlirtyCouple
5 weeks ago

The bottom of the River Ankh

"I've hit a wall today. I'm facing unemployment in 4 weeks and it's a tough employment market out there right now. Knock back after knock back has really hit my confidence.

I've always used the gym as my stress relief but have probably been hitting it a bit hard and have a few niggles that are causing me discomfort.

I woke up this morning just feeling so overwhelmed by life. All I've done is cry. I did get dressed and drive to the gym to get some gentle cardio in, but couldn't even get out of the car.

I know this is a blip and I'll survive it, but I feel really helpless today. "

Sending hugs lovely , message me if you need a chat x

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By *G LanaTV/TS
5 weeks ago

Gosport

"I've hit a wall today. I'm facing unemployment in 4 weeks and it's a tough employment market out there right now. Knock back after knock back has really hit my confidence.

I've always used the gym as my stress relief but have probably been hitting it a bit hard and have a few niggles that are causing me discomfort.

I woke up this morning just feeling so overwhelmed by life. All I've done is cry. I did get dressed and drive to the gym to get some gentle cardio in, but couldn't even get out of the car.

I know this is a blip and I'll survive it, but I feel really helpless today. "

Really sorry your feeling overwhelmed, I think a lot of us know those sort of days where we just can't face even the things that normally make us feel better. I'm glad that you feel it is just a temporary blip but do reach out for help if you need it.

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By *iddle aged and chubbyMan
5 weeks ago

Shefford

Currently on a definite high. Feeling good about life and myself. After being at such a low point a few months back I felt the need to create a post here about it. A very nice person messaged me and we chatted for a few weeks which really did help.

Always happy to pay that on, so ANYONE that just wants to chat, please do feel free to drop me a message

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By *ouseblend OP Man
5 weeks ago

Carshalton

"Currently on a definite high. Feeling good about life and myself. After being at such a low point a few months back I felt the need to create a post here about it. A very nice person messaged me and we chatted for a few weeks which really did help.

Always happy to pay that on, so ANYONE that just wants to chat, please do feel free to drop me a message "

The power of communication!

So glad to hear you are in a better place and really happy to hear it was a fellow fabber who reached out

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By *tannersMan
5 weeks ago

stanley

Thanks for the thread OP my MH and confidence has nosedived a bit since new year, down to some persistent physical health issues.

However over the last week I am feeling a bit more positive as more and more “ nasty health conditions “ are ruled out , the days get longer and warmer.

I shall get there 😁

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By *WB85Man
5 weeks ago

Staffordshire

It's a definite rough patch for me at the moment.

But I'm taking it one day at a time, walking lots and enjoying the weather.

Swinging definitely doesn't help at times.

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By *uaveNightsMan
5 weeks ago

Canvey Island

Anxiety has flared up through the absolute roof at the moment. 😭

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By *ellsOMan
5 weeks ago

hull

Brilliant thread, I'm so pleased people are posting how they feel whether it's up or down, there is always room to reach out and talk

I've been down but now up, same as the OP, I'm back running after a knee injury without pain, slow but getting there

Anytime you fine people find yourselves struggling, pop me a message, I'm always here to listen

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By *ouseblend OP Man
5 weeks ago

Carshalton

"Thanks for the thread OP my MH and confidence has nosedived a bit since new year, down to some persistent physical health issues.

However over the last week I am feeling a bit more positive as more and more “ nasty health conditions “ are ruled out , the days get longer and warmer.

I shall get there 😁"

Good to hear more nast health conditions are being ruled out, it must be a big relief. The warmer weather certainly does have a positive effect too.

And YES you will get there!!!

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By *ouseblend OP Man
5 weeks ago

Carshalton

"It's a definite rough patch for me at the moment.

But I'm taking it one day at a time, walking lots and enjoying the weather.

Swinging definitely doesn't help at times. "

Good to hear you are addressing your rough patch, it is very much one day at a time. We can't solve/fix everything in one go.

I do worry some on here think that swinging might help and Ibam sure in some cases it does but ai find if I am low, coming on here is quite unhealthy hence why threads like this are important albeit less popular than most threads

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By *ouseblend OP Man
5 weeks ago

Carshalton

"Anxiety has flared up through the absolute roof at the moment. 😭"

Talking is good especially to a qualified professional. As good as it is to talk to friends, remember whilst they will try to help they are not trained to

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By *ouseblend OP Man
5 weeks ago

Carshalton

"Brilliant thread, I'm so pleased people are posting how they feel whether it's up or down, there is always room to reach out and talk

I've been down but now up, same as the OP, I'm back running after a knee injury without pain, slow but getting there

Anytime you fine people find yourselves struggling, pop me a message, I'm always here to listen "

You are doing the right thing not rushing the knee!! Nothing worse than rushing back and making things worse.

I definitely believe threads like this can help people, even if it is just a small way

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By *oung GunnerMan
5 weeks ago

Cleckheaton

Hi everyone , I’m Michael & I’m a member of Andys Man Club, if any of you men are struggling at all , I just want to let you know all know that its ok not to be ok & its ok to talk , dont bottle up your feelings, dont be ashamed of crying either , & if any of you need someone to listen I’m more than happy to be that person . ITS OK TO TALK 👌👌

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By *atch0101Man
5 weeks ago

The wrong place

Started painting. Today though. Back in the dark place that I can never get away from.

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By *omedeethMan
5 weeks ago

Coventry

Improving my mental health by connecting and not isolating

If that means coming on here then so be it

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By *oung GunnerMan
5 weeks ago

Cleckheaton

"Started painting. Today though. Back in the dark place that I can never get away from. "

Get a chair out in the sun & relax .

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By *utsackerMan
5 weeks ago

north east

It’s been worst start to a year in a long time , mother fell over and broke both wrists on New Year’s Eve should have known then more shit was to come then a week later my work van snapped a rocker arm which wedged underneath the exhaust cam and wrecked that spend 3 days in freezing cold rebuilding it only for weather to turn wet making earning a living working outside near impossible, van fucked again this time was just an injector then turbo went which I’ve since replaced but it’s running rough and I don’t trust the fucker so miles behind at work barely earned fuck all since before Christmas between all this relationship ended with someone who was pretty dear to me so much so I waited 3 years for her and backed out of every potential relationship during that time as though she was the right one and was genuinely happy when we reconciled last year actually considering packing everything in work wise and just going to work on site and I swore I’d never work for anyone agsin as long as I live just all seems fucked up at minute and be lying if said it wasn’t getting to me sorry for long rant

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By *WB85Man
5 weeks ago

Staffordshire

"It’s been worst start to a year in a long time , mother fell over and broke both wrists on New Year’s Eve should have known then more shit was to come then a week later my work van snapped a rocker arm which wedged underneath the exhaust cam and wrecked that spend 3 days in freezing cold rebuilding it only for weather to turn wet making earning a living working outside near impossible, van fucked again this time was just an injector then turbo went which I’ve since replaced but it’s running rough and I don’t trust the fucker so miles behind at work barely earned fuck all since before Christmas between all this relationship ended with someone who was pretty dear to me so much so I waited 3 years for her and backed out of every potential relationship during that time as though she was the right one and was genuinely happy when we reconciled last year actually considering packing everything in work wise and just going to work on site and I swore I’d never work for anyone agsin as long as I live just all seems fucked up at minute and be lying if said it wasn’t getting to me sorry for long rant "

Dont apologise for the rant mate, sometimes getting it off your chest helps.

I hope things improve for you going forwards.

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By *aughtyNymphsCouple
5 weeks ago

Gosport

Love this. We should all try to lift the spirits of those around us.

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By *atch0101Man
5 weeks ago

The wrong place

"Started painting. Today though. Back in the dark place that I can never get away from.

Get a chair out in the sun & relax . "

Im surrounded by tech. Football team at home. Didn't go. So sitting in the sun looking at the same buildings...nah.

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By *YDB75Man
5 weeks ago

East Yorks

Health anxiety has been a max levels this week bit think starting to come down now

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By *utsackerMan
5 weeks ago

north east

Dont apologise for the rant mate, sometimes getting it off your chest helps.

I hope things improve for you going forwards. "

Thank you mate hope it does for you too

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By *peshul91Man
5 weeks ago

NOTTINGHAM

Could be better but then again Could be worse i guess

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By *lark_KentMan
5 weeks ago

here and there

I'm struggling, a parent is very poorly and has been in hospital for 3 weeks, another close family member has been given a terminal diagnosis.

I'm spending every day by my dad's bed in hospital. It's playing havoc with my ADHD.

My motto at the moment is one day at a time. Get through today and I will deal with tomorrow when I wake up tomorrow morning.

I also try and find some joy every day, be it a daffodil in the garden, a nice ride on my bike, the sun in the sky. These little snipets of joy are a small but nice distraction

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By *YDB75Man
5 weeks ago

East Yorks

"I'm struggling, a parent is very poorly and has been in hospital for 3 weeks, another close family member has been given a terminal diagnosis.

I'm spending every day by my dad's bed in hospital. It's playing havoc with my ADHD.

My motto at the moment is one day at a time. Get through today and I will deal with tomorrow when I wake up tomorrow morning.

I also try and find some joy every day, be it a daffodil in the garden, a nice ride on my bike, the sun in the sky. These little snipets of joy are a small but nice distraction

Send thoughts and best wishes brother. Inbox always open for ya and for anyone who needs it 🙏🙏

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By *heElvingtonTwoCouple
5 weeks ago

elvington

Mine will hopefully improve if I can find a new job. My workplace has become increasingly toxic

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
5 weeks ago

SW1A1AA

I have severe mental health issues and it takes a lot for me to function. I rarely leave the house although last week I went out twice and next week I will be out seeing my grandchildren.

I spend most of my time on here

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By *WB85Man
5 weeks ago

Staffordshire

Threads like this always amaze me as to how common mental health issues are.

I often just think its me that has difficulties.

If anyone ever needs to talk in a friendship non swinger sense, my inbox is always open.

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By *lark_KentMan
5 weeks ago

here and there

"I'm struggling, a parent is very poorly and has been in hospital for 3 weeks, another close family member has been given a terminal diagnosis.

I'm spending every day by my dad's bed in hospital. It's playing havoc with my ADHD.

My motto at the moment is one day at a time. Get through today and I will deal with tomorrow when I wake up tomorrow morning.

I also try and find some joy every day, be it a daffodil in the garden, a nice ride on my bike, the sun in the sky. These little snipets of joy are a small but nice distraction

Send thoughts and best wishes brother. Inbox always open for ya and for anyone who needs it 🙏🙏"

Thank you 💚

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By *odgerMooreMan
4 weeks ago

Rummage Up The Jumper

"I have severe mental health issues and it takes a lot for me to function. I rarely leave the house although last week I went out twice and next week I will be out seeing my grandchildren.

I spend most of my time on here "

I was wondering how you were doing as you seemed to be making steady progress

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
4 weeks ago

SW1A1AA

"I have severe mental health issues and it takes a lot for me to function. I rarely leave the house although last week I went out twice and next week I will be out seeing my grandchildren.

I spend most of my time on here

I was wondering how you were doing as you seemed to be making steady progress

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
4 weeks ago

SW1A1AA

"I have severe mental health issues and it takes a lot for me to function. I rarely leave the house although last week I went out twice and next week I will be out seeing my grandchildren.

I spend most of my time on here

I was wondering how you were doing as you seemed to be making steady progress

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My pms are ope

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By *ouseblend OP Man
4 weeks ago

Carshalton

Sorry to those who posted about their respective issues since I have been at work, but good to see other members giving words of encouragment and offering support

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By *G LanaTV/TS
3 weeks ago

Gosport

I am going to revive this thread with the question, how are people doing this week?

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By *G LanaTV/TS
3 weeks ago

Gosport

"I am going to revive this thread with the question, how are people doing this week?"

I am a little better, not least because I was with my talking group last night and a peer support group Sunday and both are really positive for me. I'm getting quiet a lot of challenging situations but seem to be coping with them a little better.

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By *ogerroger69Man
3 weeks ago

West Yorks

Glad to hear it x🙏

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By *n my 50sMan
3 weeks ago

leicester

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By *n my 50sMan
3 weeks ago

leicester

Just been to drs no energy, sleeping a lot back aches etc had discussion and he mentioned it could be mental health issue? I’m having bloods tested next week to check if all ok

Lots my sister 18 months ago then I had massive heart attack resulting in bypass surgery

And advice appreciated

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By *izzy.Woman
3 weeks ago

Stoke area

"Just been to drs no energy, sleeping a lot back aches etc had discussion and he mentioned it could be mental health issue? I’m having bloods tested next week to check if all ok

Lots my sister 18 months ago then I had massive heart attack resulting in bypass surgery

And advice appreciated"

Sorry to hear about your sister and your own health problems. Great that your doctor is checking your bloods.

If you feel it might be your mental Health that is affecting you, maybe look up Andys Man Club who are great at getting guys together and the opportunity to talk about how you feel. I hope things improve for you.

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By *oneyBee200Woman
3 weeks ago

Kent

Congratulations on the Ultra 🎉

I seem to of hit a low which is very unusual for me. Hopefully all hormone related, so getting levels checked.

A big hug to those that need it 🤗

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By *G LanaTV/TS
3 weeks ago

Gosport

I hope things turn out to be relatively simple fix issues In 'My 50s' and 'Honeybee200'. And of course I am really sorry for your loss and struggles. If you are suffering talking groups can be really helpful and oddly mine manages to make the sessions fun even when we are discussing challenging issues.

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By *atch0101Man
3 weeks ago

The wrong place

Another bad day. So to block it out, plenty of Guinness and whisky. Crash out in bed.

Trouble is, I have another 3 days until back to work. I cant do it every day

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By *izzy.Woman
3 weeks ago

Stoke area

Struggling with anxiety and depression. I am waiting for results of my recent breast cancer surgery, and the journey is made more difficult by my regular fella opting out 3 days after my operation. Dealing with this alone is tough.

No caring night time chats, no little messages of support.

Most of the time I am able to stay positive and know the prognosis is likely to be good.

But today, I am just sad and lonely.

Doesn't help that I am not allowed to drive following the operation, so I am isolated too.

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By *izzy.Woman
3 weeks ago

Stoke area

How are people doing today ?

I slept better and feel a little brighter.

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By *gMineheadMan
3 weeks ago

Minehead

Best of luck. Life throws curved balls every now and then.if you need an ear message me.

Kev

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By *F25Man
3 weeks ago

kent

what a great thread. if anyone ever needs a chat or someone to talk to please just message me. all welcome. i will do my best to support. sometimes a chat can go a long way

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By *G LanaTV/TS
3 weeks ago

Gosport

"Another bad day. So to block it out, plenty of Guinness and whisky. Crash out in bed.

Trouble is, I have another 3 days until back to work. I cant do it every day"

I hope your doing better today and fine things to distract yourself.

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By *G LanaTV/TS
3 weeks ago

Gosport

"How are people doing today ?

I slept better and feel a little brighter.

Glad you got a better night, it is amazing the difference it can make.

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By *gMineheadMan
3 weeks ago

Minehead

Best of luck. Life throws curved balls every now and then.if you need an ear message me.

Kev

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By *WB85Man
3 weeks ago

Staffordshire

Breaking life down into small blocks I find makes it more manageable. Looking at the bigger picture can be overwhelming.

Everyday find something to be greatful for, no matter how small and insignificant it may be.

Today I'm greatful for our wonderful son who turned 10 today.

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By *orthwest.Man
2 weeks ago

Manchester

Great to see this thread!

Struggling myself, but keep trying to find the small things that can brighten your day. The sun today certainly did me some good

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By *couseBaldyMan
2 weeks ago

Liverpool

Mate that Ultra is insane, congrats .. you should be proud of yourself!

I love this checkin thread, things like this may look small and insignificant on the surface but may be the lifeline some people need.

My Dad died back in 2024 and i've struggled so much since. I think i am am the luckiest person on the planet to have such incredible friends and family around me who constantly check in and help me out.

Over the past 18 months i've lost my dad, my relationship, my job and very soon my house ... so it's been incredibly tough and I suffered so much until i hit rock bottom ... I then let go of the "stigmatism"aroud mental health and started telling my freinds and family whats going on and it's been such an upward journey for which i am thankful for every day.

But being in such a desperate position, i know how important it is to have someone you can reach out to is ...

So... i am always here to just sit and listen to anyone who needs to vent/get something off their chest or anyone who is just lonely and wants someone to talk with.

To those suffering ... you're doing better than you think and should be proud of yourself

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By *ad4ladys1973Man
2 weeks ago

Southport

Well done on doing the ultra jeez that’s some achievement!

Divorced over a year now and living on my own was a struggle at first…also lost my job and car so things were pretty dark but someone randomly past me a note one day while I was just sitting in town here…it simply read “The story ends well”

Jeez that hit home… I still have the note on my table at my one bed flat I am still in even though I hoped it would be only a temp 13 months ago!

I have walked locally every day bar a couple in those 13 months sometimes only an hour, sometimes 2 or 3… again someone recommended me do it plus get some wireless headphones so I did and have…listen to music, audiobooks, podcasts, or just the radio and you don’t realise how far you walked! Although my feet do!! Need me some better walking trainers now as others have worn through and were only second hand…anyway, it has been a huge help for my mental health as well as physical with all the walking…

Just need that job now, then car or a small van and then get a better flat and place to live etc

No matter what…keep going, don’t dwell or hide away, get out and about even when the weather is bad - keep yer head up and remember “the story ends well!”

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By *izzy.Woman
2 weeks ago

Stoke area

"Well done on doing the ultra jeez that’s some achievement!

Jeez that hit home… I still have the note on my table at my one bed flat I am still in even though I hoped it would be only a temp 13 months ago!

Just need that job now, then car or a small van and then get a better flat and place to live etc

No matter what…keep going, don’t dwell or hide away, get out and about even when the weather is bad - keep yer head up and remember “the story ends well!”"

What a great message. The story ends well....I love that

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By *orthwest.Man
2 weeks ago

Manchester

You’ve had a tough time pal by all accounts. Feel free to message if you need a pal to chat to!

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By *outhLondonSmileMan
2 weeks ago

London

Empty chairs on insta is a fast growing movement. Great for loneliness. Recommend it to everyone.

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By *orthwest.Man
2 weeks ago

Manchester

Anyone fancy a chat now? I could use one

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By *oxy-RedWoman
2 weeks ago

pink panther territory

My mental health has really pushed me to it's limits I'm surprised that I'm still standing ,some days I just want to shut the world out and wallow in self pity,I don't because my daughter needs me and her pain is so much harder to bare than mine,so I get up and just hope that today is a better day

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By *ad4ladys1973Man
2 weeks ago

Southport

Just want to jump in again on this thread to say a huge THANK YOU to the lovely person who contacted me after what I had written!

They know who they are and wish to remain anonymous.

There are angels among us folks!

Be kind, be strong and keep going as you never know!

As I have said to them - I will pay it forward when I am in a better position because I won’t forget their kindness

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By *ittynzWoman
2 weeks ago

Richmond

"I've hit a wall today. I'm facing unemployment in 4 weeks and it's a tough employment market out there right now. Knock back after knock back has really hit my confidence.

I've always used the gym as my stress relief but have probably been hitting it a bit hard and have a few niggles that are causing me discomfort.

I woke up this morning just feeling so overwhelmed by life. All I've done is cry. I did get dressed and drive to the gym to get some gentle cardio in, but couldn't even get out of the car.

I know this is a blip and I'll survive it, but I feel really helpless today. "

Sorry yourve hit a wall but take the win for the small steps you got out of bed, you got in car you went to gym didn’t go in but who cares

Slow and steady for the win when life throws you lemons. Xx

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By *ittynzWoman
2 weeks ago

Richmond

I love that there are people out there who have the empathy, to just pass a note, say a kind word or smile at someone when they need it the most. I often say be kind as you really don’t know what people are going through or what it took them to smile.

I love those sweat shirts that say Dear Person Behind Me, You Are Enough,

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By *he Flat CapsCouple
2 weeks ago

Pontypool

"My mental health has really pushed me to it's limits I'm surprised that I'm still standing ,some days I just want to shut the world out and wallow in self pity,I don't because my daughter needs me and her pain is so much harder to bare than mine,so I get up and just hope that today is a better day"

This resonateswith me at the moment. I had an Occupational health assessment this week. It crystallised what I had been trying to avoid. I'm on the cusp of burnout. Like you say, Foxy, when you have a dependent, you find something to keep yourself going.

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By *oxy-RedWoman
2 weeks ago

pink panther territory

I'm really sorry to hear that,life can be so hard and sometimes we are forced to tackle things that we so want to avoid

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By *WB85Man
2 weeks ago

Staffordshire

One massive thing I'm aware of is that if I'm having a rough patch, fab has to stop, because it certainly doesn't helps my mindset.

I'm only really just starting my journey again after the latest situation failed.

Just be mindful of what in life is essential, and what in life brings you complications and sadness.

Right now, I'm in middle ground....not overly sure how I feel. So I'm here enjoying forums, its very rare I send messages to new people. Most times I do its just to pass on a compliment.

Always here if anyone wants to reach out for a chat.

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