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"I explained Fab to a poly friend and they said "cool, can you get a cuddle date on Fab". I had to admit that was probably not easy to find. (For the non poly folk reading a cuddle date is pretty much what it suggests. You are going out specifically to end up cuddled up on the sofa watching a film or something. Sex isn't impossible but mostly it's about comfort and closeness.)" I wouldn't describe myself as poly (I can just about manage one actual relationship 😂) but this I can do ! | |||
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"I explained Fab to a poly friend and they said "cool, can you get a cuddle date on Fab". I had to admit that was probably not easy to find. (For the non poly folk reading a cuddle date is pretty much what it suggests. You are going out specifically to end up cuddled up on the sofa watching a film or something. Sex isn't impossible but mostly it's about comfort and closeness.) I wouldn't describe myself as poly (I can just about manage one actual relationship 😂) but this I can do ! " We need to get fab to add the cuddle date function! | |||
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"I explained Fab to a poly friend and they said "cool, can you get a cuddle date on Fab". I had to admit that was probably not easy to find. (For the non poly folk reading a cuddle date is pretty much what it suggests. You are going out specifically to end up cuddled up on the sofa watching a film or something. Sex isn't impossible but mostly it's about comfort and closeness.) I wouldn't describe myself as poly (I can just about manage one actual relationship 😂) but this I can do ! We need to get fab to add the cuddle date function! " 🫂 | |||
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"I explained Fab to a poly friend and they said "cool, can you get a cuddle date on Fab". I had to admit that was probably not easy to find. (For the non poly folk reading a cuddle date is pretty much what it suggests. You are going out specifically to end up cuddled up on the sofa watching a film or something. Sex isn't impossible but mostly it's about comfort and closeness.) I wouldn't describe myself as poly (I can just about manage one actual relationship 😂) but this I can do ! We need to get fab to add the cuddle date function! " Cuddle dates sound ace! | |||
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"...(For the non poly folk reading a cuddle date is pretty much what it suggests. You are going out specifically to end up cuddled up on the sofa watching a film or something. Sex isn't impossible but mostly it's about comfort and closeness.)..." Is it bad etiquette on a cuddle date to have a nap? 'Cos I'd be napping. | |||
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"Oh we fell asleep a few times 😁" I get so paranoid I’d snore 😂 | |||
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"Oh we fell asleep a few times 😁 I get so paranoid I’d snore 😂 " Snoring makes it a cuter scene, somehow. | |||
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"Although I didn’t know the language at the time, I would have been considered poly when I was married as I was also dating someone else. My partner was dating someone else as well, but my husband never did find the right person. I still consider myself poly even though I’m single. " You are still poly if you are single. It's a mindset not a relationship status. Often one partner will find another partner before the other. In a way that's a good thing establishing the new change before another occurs. It can be a very human thing to see a partner happy and having the attention of more than one person and thinking "when am I going to experience that?!". Generally you just deal with it and enjoy having your whole time to focus on one partner, maybe with a bit of swinging thrown in. I gave a massage to a friend before while his gf was on a date with her other bf. It certainly took the edge off. Find the right person... Yeah that's the trick. | |||
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"I’ve realised that I’m definitely poly recently xx" Amazing! Was there a triggering event or did you just realise you always were? | |||
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"Oh we fell asleep a few times 😁 I get so paranoid I’d snore 😂 " Oh we did lol. Thankfully neither of us were trying to sleep or it would've been ear plugs time. When it was her I was able to reposition myself (she was cuddled into me) and she stopped. | |||
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"I don't know if I'm poly. Never dated two or more people at the same time. I'm down for the cuddle date. It's a brilliant idea. 👍🏾😊" Right? Cuddle dates are cute. 🥰 I didn't realise I was poly until seven/eight years ago. The main things are - could you have romantic feelings for more than one person at a time? And the next - is it ethical for everyone? As an example - if I was dating someone and my partner didn't know - not polyamory. Or if I was dating someone and their partner didn't know - not polyamory. Feelings and ethical? Yep, that's good old poly. 🩷 | |||
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"I don't know if I'm poly. Never dated two or more people at the same time. I'm down for the cuddle date. It's a brilliant idea. 👍🏾😊 Right? Cuddle dates are cute. 🥰 I didn't realise I was poly until seven/eight years ago. The main things are - could you have romantic feelings for more than one person at a time? And the next - is it ethical for everyone? As an example - if I was dating someone and my partner didn't know - not polyamory. Or if I was dating someone and their partner didn't know - not polyamory. Feelings and ethical? Yep, that's good old poly. 🩷" I think I understand. As long as everyone knows what's going on and is comfortable with it. Anyone available for a cuddle date? | |||
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"Although I didn’t know the language at the time, I would have been considered poly when I was married as I was also dating someone else. My partner was dating someone else as well, but my husband never did find the right person. I still consider myself poly even though I’m single. You are still poly if you are single. It's a mindset not a relationship status. Often one partner will find another partner before the other. In a way that's a good thing establishing the new change before another occurs. It can be a very human thing to see a partner happy and having the attention of more than one person and thinking "when am I going to experience that?!". Generally you just deal with it and enjoy having your whole time to focus on one partner, maybe with a bit of swinging thrown in. I gave a massage to a friend before while his gf was on a date with her other bf. It certainly took the edge off. Find the right person... Yeah that's the trick." I've learned a whole new language since my relationships broke down. We were instinctively doing some things right and it worked for us at the time but I can see where it could have been better. I'm definitely seeing better levels of communication than I've experienced before and has made me dona lot of thinking about my wants and needs. | |||
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"I'd like my wife to have boyfriends. She's just got to take that step. " Just tell her that the door is open and let her take her time. K was 8 years between second boyfriends. It happens when it happens. | |||
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"Although I didn’t know the language at the time, I would have been considered poly when I was married as I was also dating someone else. My partner was dating someone else as well, but my husband never did find the right person. I still consider myself poly even though I’m single. You are still poly if you are single. It's a mindset not a relationship status. Often one partner will find another partner before the other. In a way that's a good thing establishing the new change before another occurs. It can be a very human thing to see a partner happy and having the attention of more than one person and thinking "when am I going to experience that?!". Generally you just deal with it and enjoy having your whole time to focus on one partner, maybe with a bit of swinging thrown in. I gave a massage to a friend before while his gf was on a date with her other bf. It certainly took the edge off. Find the right person... Yeah that's the trick. I've learned a whole new language since my relationships broke down. We were instinctively doing some things right and it worked for us at the time but I can see where it could have been better. I'm definitely seeing better levels of communication than I've experienced before and has made me dona lot of thinking about my wants and needs." Yeah my first stint of being a "hub" I really didn't do well at. Three partners, one nesting, one casual and another casual but looking to be very serious. Couldn't manage expectations for one and the other turned out to be a bit of knob when it came to dependency and I should have told him earlier. I have to own that I didn't communicate well enough though. | |||
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"Would love to be mfm poly but we wouldn’t want friends and family knowing so would love to find it discreetly x" I imagine that's the hardest part for all about a poly (as opposed to a convenient FWB dynamic). A lot of masking something that's kinda a big part of life. Sucks. | |||
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"I explained Fab to a poly friend and they said "cool, can you get a cuddle date on Fab". I had to admit that was probably not easy to find. (For the non poly folk reading a cuddle date is pretty much what it suggests. You are going out specifically to end up cuddled up on the sofa watching a film or something. Sex isn't impossible but mostly it's about comfort and closeness.) I wouldn't describe myself as poly (I can just about manage one actual relationship 😂) but this I can do ! We need to get fab to add the cuddle date function! Cuddle dates sound ace! " I could work with that, cuddle date is just what I need, I miss the closeness of my late partner  | |||
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"I explained Fab to a poly friend and they said "cool, can you get a cuddle date on Fab". I had to admit that was probably not easy to find. (For the non poly folk reading a cuddle date is pretty much what it suggests. You are going out specifically to end up cuddled up on the sofa watching a film or something. Sex isn't impossible but mostly it's about comfort and closeness.) I wouldn't describe myself as poly (I can just about manage one actual relationship 😂) but this I can do ! " I'll cuddle with you any day  | |||
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