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By *rHotNotts OP   Man
8 weeks ago

Dubai & Nottingham

When someone is constantly messaging you and asking you to go out for coffee or to get food, even though you say no every single time they're still keep on doing it and they always happen to be there when you meet your friends, and even turn up the odd time in the evening and knock on your door? Although you suspect they want more than friendship, they do nothing concrete that you can pinpoint other than being overly sickly nice all the time so the other people just go or I think they really like you they have a crush etc ...

At what point does it become weird or creepy or worrying

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By *ellsOMan
8 weeks ago

hull

As soon as any unwanted attention comes my way, I'll let you know

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By *ools and the brainCouple
8 weeks ago

couple, us we him her.


"When someone is constantly messaging you and asking you to go out for coffee or to get food, even though you say no every single time they're still keep on doing it and they always happen to be there when you meet your friends, and even turn up the odd time in the evening and knock on your door? Although you suspect they want more than friendship, they do nothing concrete that you can pinpoint other than being overly sickly nice all the time so the other people just go or I think they really like you they have a crush etc ...

At what point does it become weird or creepy or worrying

"

I'd say:

" look hun I know we are married but I've made it perfectly clear we only talk to each other on birthdays and special occasions "

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By *ittlemissFlirtyCouple
8 weeks ago

The bottom of the River Ankh


"When someone is constantly messaging you and asking you to go out for coffee or to get food, even though you say no every single time they're still keep on doing it and they always happen to be there when you meet your friends, and even turn up the odd time in the evening and knock on your door? Although you suspect they want more than friendship, they do nothing concrete that you can pinpoint other than being overly sickly nice all the time so the other people just go or I think they really like you they have a crush etc ...

At what point does it become weird or creepy or worrying

"

I think you just have to be blunt by the sounds of things...

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By *EAT..85Woman
8 weeks ago

Nottingham

It sounds like it already is. Be brutal with their ass and confirm your boundaries with them.

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
8 weeks ago

Carlisle usually

Make your nos more clearly about not wanting to. Instead of claiming busy or just saying a simple no thanks, include that that's just not something you want to do with them.

Turning up on the doorstep is not okay. I think the last time that happened to me I just said "It's really uncomfortable that you're at my home uninvited, please don't ever do that." and shut the door. They didn't come back to my house and the messages eventually tailed off.

Be kind of you can, but be really clear 💜

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By *abulincsCouple
8 weeks ago

pe129 area

Tell them straight lol if that don’t work block button works lol

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By *kphooey43Man
8 weeks ago

Barnet


"When someone is constantly messaging you and asking you to go out for coffee or to get food, even though you say no every single time they're still keep on doing it and they always happen to be there when you meet your friends, and even turn up the odd time in the evening and knock on your door? Although you suspect they want more than friendship, they do nothing concrete that you can pinpoint other than being overly sickly nice all the time so the other people just go or I think they really like you they have a crush etc ...

At what point does it become weird or creepy or worrying

"

I'm sorry OP, but I thought that I was quite inconspicuous in the lobby of the Burj Khalifa, and i only came up to your flat on the 123 floor on five occasions, cos the lift kept getting stuck.

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
8 weeks ago

Carlisle usually


"Tell them straight lol if that don’t work block button works lol"

I mean, when they're showing up to your house the block button doesn't do a lot.

Plus, if you block them and they decided to find ways around it, if you try and report it to the police later they'll tell you that there's no way to prove it's the same person from the spoofed numbers and accounts 💜

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By *ovelyDayXXXWoman
8 weeks ago

Niche

Be direct. Kind always. But direct.

Ask a direct question about their intentions.

If they ask to get a coffee or whatever be straight and simply ask 'are you meaning that as 100% platonic or like 'maybe we could try a date'?

And just wait. Let them pin their flag.

If they scoff and say "no just friends! Lol!", then simply say you're happier in the bigger group.

No add ons.

No explanation.

No extra gap filling with soft words.

Because they might interpret the filler words as encouragement.

And if they say yes, you need to shut it down simply

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By *oodmessMan
8 weeks ago

yumsville

You could always shag them but at the opportune moment present whips, horse blinkers, spurs and a saddle asking them if they could plug you while riding you around the garden.. Other fetishes are available

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By *elix SightedMan
8 weeks ago

Cloud 8

I ask my guard, Barry, not to allow visitors until I’ve finished afternoon tea and then close my cell door.

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By *rchie300Man
8 weeks ago

Hamworthy

I never get unwanted attention…. Attention I get from those who I like … I want it …🤷‍♂️

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By (user no longer on site)
8 weeks ago

Fuck them just in case they're a top shag

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By *rHotNotts OP   Man
8 weeks ago

Dubai & Nottingham


"When someone is constantly messaging you and asking you to go out for coffee or to get food, even though you say no every single time they're still keep on doing it and they always happen to be there when you meet your friends, and even turn up the odd time in the evening and knock on your door? Although you suspect they want more than friendship, they do nothing concrete that you can pinpoint other than being overly sickly nice all the time so the other people just go or I think they really like you they have a crush etc ...

At what point does it become weird or creepy or worrying

I'm sorry OP, but I thought that I was quite inconspicuous in the lobby of the Burj Khalifa, and i only came up to your flat on the 123 floor on five occasions, cos the lift kept getting stuck. "

Lol.... do you know how much it cost to live in that building.... even a low floor

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By *rHotNotts OP   Man
8 weeks ago

Dubai & Nottingham

Thanks everyone just gotta have the awkward conversation & probably get accused of reading way more into it...but creepy people always turn it back on you

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By *hePerkyPumpkinTV/TS
8 weeks ago

Bristol

You say no politely.

Then you say no bluntly.

Then you explain that you said no and you meant it, and then you block them.

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By *ovelyDayXXXWoman
8 weeks ago

Niche


"Thanks everyone just gotta have the awkward conversation & probably get accused of reading way more into it...but creepy people always turn it back on you "

But they know that you know that they know you probs didn't read too much in to it.

Either way hopefully they stop. Result.

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By *ovelyDayXXXWoman
8 weeks ago

Niche

Best to be deadpan about it and act a bit dim. Like 'oh!' Lightbulb moment.

No? Oh silly me

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By *oodmessMan
8 weeks ago

yumsville

Say how much you Trump, Tate, Farage... Say you're a flat earther

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By *oodmessMan
8 weeks ago

yumsville

*you like

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By *oelMan
8 weeks ago

Midlands, London, Brussels


"When someone is constantly messaging you and asking you to go out for coffee or to get food, even though you say no every single time they're still keep on doing it and they always happen to be there when you meet your friends, and even turn up the odd time in the evening and knock on your door? Although you suspect they want more than friendship, they do nothing concrete that you can pinpoint other than being overly sickly nice all the time so the other people just go or I think they really like you they have a crush etc ...

At what point does it become weird or creepy or worrying

"

When you decide you need to block them

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By *ature male OldhamMan
8 weeks ago

Royton nr Oldham

Any attention is welcome...I'll decide if it's unwanted or not

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By *ittlebirdWoman
8 weeks ago

The Big Smoke


"You say no politely.

Then you say no bluntly.

Then you explain that you said no and you meant it, and then you block them."

^^

This. And in real life tell them directly. Openly. And bluntly if needed.

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By *KTim61Man
8 weeks ago

Tipton


"Any attention is welcome...I'll decide if it's unwanted or not "

Good Answer

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By *earditallWoman
8 weeks ago

Lancaster

Sounds like it has already become creepy...I would be out at them turning up uninvited

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By *rLucky777Man
8 weeks ago

Leeds


"When someone is constantly messaging you and asking you to go out for coffee or to get food, even though you say no every single time they're still keep on doing it and they always happen to be there when you meet your friends, and even turn up the odd time in the evening and knock on your door? Although you suspect they want more than friendship, they do nothing concrete that you can pinpoint other than being overly sickly nice all the time so the other people just go or I think they really like you they have a crush etc ...

At what point does it become weird or creepy or worrying

"

Is it a guy or a girl?

Where do you know them from?

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By *onko the SaneMan
8 weeks ago

3rd rock from the sun

I'll let you know if it ever happens

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By *homas400Man
8 weeks ago

Carmarthen / Llandeilo

I wish

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
8 weeks ago

Crumpet Castle


"When someone is constantly messaging you and asking you to go out for coffee or to get food, even though you say no every single time they're still keep on doing it and they always happen to be there when you meet your friends, and even turn up the odd time in the evening and knock on your door? Although you suspect they want more than friendship, they do nothing concrete that you can pinpoint other than being overly sickly nice all the time so the other people just go or I think they real1. ly like you they have a crush etc ...

At what point does it become weird or creepy or worrying

"

I'd say back off a bit and wait until they ask you over instead of just turning up. Or you could just be upfront and let them know that you fancy them

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By *utsackerMan
8 weeks ago

north east

Not that I’ve ever had to experience this but if I did I’d just do everything possible to put her off me

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By *rHotNotts OP   Man
8 weeks ago

Dubai & Nottingham


"Thanks everyone just gotta have the awkward conversation & probably get accused of reading way more into it...but creepy people always turn it back on you

But they know that you know that they know you probs didn't read too much in to it.

Either way hopefully they stop. Result."

You never quite know , some people are just super insensitive to stuff, some people can be innocently just being friendly without realising and some people are scheming and evil. You never quite know and they can leave you doubting in yourself sometimes, all they just being nice did I give them the wrong impression, although they act defensive or be distraught, etc

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By *he Silver FuxMan
8 weeks ago

Utero


"When someone is constantly messaging you and asking you to go out for coffee or to get food, even though you say no every single time they're still keep on doing it and they always happen to be there when you meet your friends, and even turn up the odd time in the evening and knock on your door? Although you suspect they want more than friendship, they do nothing concrete that you can pinpoint other than being overly sickly nice all the time so the other people just go or I think they really like you they have a crush etc ...

At what point does it become weird or creepy or worrying

"

You have a stalker

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By *kphooey43Man
8 weeks ago

Barnet


"You say no politely.

Then you say no bluntly.

Then you explain that you said no and you meant it, and then you block them.

^^

This. And in real life tell them directly. Openly. And then you hit them with a blunt instrument. "

I corrected that for you. I knew what you meant to say!

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