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By *anielandSK OP   Couple
8 weeks ago

Oxfordshire

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By *anielandSK OP   Couple
8 weeks ago

Oxfordshire

We've had a few supposedly couples try and arrange meets that were reasonably easy to spot as single guys, and even though we're new here have managed to navigate this.

We're almost entirely set that going forward we're just not gonna do meets via fabchat snd stick to socials, clubs and PDI, however... ahead if that decision we had some messages for a meet we were initially keen on, great pics shared, etc and we're in an increasingly narrowing back and forth. Since the initial few messages, we're getting either a low effort vibe or probably back to an ungenuine approach feel. One of the hooks though was that the account has 40+ verifications, which read genuine on first reviews. On two recent days when we go to recheck verifications (like just now).. their profile is hidden, then, last tine it happened came back next day.

Have tried to ask a basic questions like regarding locality to named town for meet (their town) and not getting much back, certainly not a straight forward answer. We're thinking of bailing on the meeting but also are conscious not to be the couple that gets nervous and drops out, though we are talking 2+ weeks out from date we offered.

Are nerves getting the better of us ahead of meet #1 or are these red flags?

Really appreciate feedback

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By *eroLondonMan
8 weeks ago

Mayfair

Phone calls and videos calls could potentially mitigate any chances of engaging with such bogus profiles.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
8 weeks ago

East Sussex

I think you're over thinking.

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By *anielandSK OP   Couple
8 weeks ago

Oxfordshire


"Phone calls and videos calls could potentially mitigate any chances of engaging with such bogus profiles."

We get this, but is 40+ fake or dud verifications something that we should not necessarily trust... if so, that's good to learn but our feeling was that's a bit high for a site we're paying a premium to be on to meet like minded people.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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8 weeks ago

East Sussex


"Phone calls and videos calls could potentially mitigate any chances of engaging with such bogus profiles.

We get this, but is 40+ fake or dud verifications something that we should not necessarily trust... if so, that's good to learn but our feeling was that's a bit high for a site we're paying a premium to be on to meet like minded people."

Why do you think the verifications are fake?

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By *anielandSK OP   Couple
8 weeks ago

Oxfordshire


"Phone calls and videos calls could potentially mitigate any chances of engaging with such bogus profiles.

We get this, but is 40+ fake or dud verifications something that we should not necessarily trust... if so, that's good to learn but our feeling was that's a bit high for a site we're paying a premium to be on to meet like minded people.

Why do you think the verifications are fake? "

We don't. It everything else that feels off and that's why we have asked the question in the way we have, as that's the main thing remaining that's makes me think their legit.

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By *vaRoseWoman
8 weeks ago

Ankh-Morpork

People hide their profile for lots of reasons. However if you’re not feeling the sort of keenness or effort you need then you are under no obligation to meet them

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By *eltCuteMightDeleteWoman
8 weeks ago

Reading

I don't think someone hiding their profile means anything nefarious. I hide mine all the time when I don't want further messages etc.

I also think it'd be really unusual for a profile to have that many verifications and for them to be fake.

Having said that, if you're not feeling it, then don't meet them.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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8 weeks ago

East Sussex


"Phone calls and videos calls could potentially mitigate any chances of engaging with such bogus profiles.

We get this, but is 40+ fake or dud verifications something that we should not necessarily trust... if so, that's good to learn but our feeling was that's a bit high for a site we're paying a premium to be on to meet like minded people.

Why do you think the verifications are fake?

We don't. It everything else that feels off and that's why we have asked the question in the way we have, as that's the main thing remaining that's makes me think their legit."

I think if you feel something is off it's best to call it a day.

I think there are several possibilities here. You're nervous (quite naturally) and looking for reasons its wrong.

They really aren't genuine.

They are genuine and you're being over cautious.

What I would say is that if they read this your decision might well be made for you. I think in these instances its a good ides to either have an honest chat with the people concerned or arrange a quick coffee meet for a chat and to set your mind at rest

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By *anielandSK OP   Couple
8 weeks ago

Oxfordshire


"People hide their profile for lots of reasons. However if you’re not feeling the sort of keenness or effort you need then you are under no obligation to meet them "

Thank you. We get this, and will decide, but at the root of the question is, how trustworthy are mass verifications on a profile?

Although only a few minutes, it doesn't seem like people are rushing to question mass verifications... its probably not that and our own situation.

Thanks for responding

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By *anielandSK OP   Couple
8 weeks ago

Oxfordshire


"Phone calls and videos calls could potentially mitigate any chances of engaging with such bogus profiles.

We get this, but is 40+ fake or dud verifications something that we should not necessarily trust... if so, that's good to learn but our feeling was that's a bit high for a site we're paying a premium to be on to meet like minded people.

Why do you think the verifications are fake?

We don't. It everything else that feels off and that's why we have asked the question in the way we have, as that's the main thing remaining that's makes me think their legit.

I think if you feel something is off it's best to call it a day.

I think there are several possibilities here. You're nervous (quite naturally) and looking for reasons its wrong.

They really aren't genuine.

They are genuine and you're being over cautious.

What I would say is that if they read this your decision might well be made for you. I think in these instances its a good ides to either have an honest chat with the people concerned or arrange a quick coffee meet for a chat and to set your mind at rest "

We're hours apart, hence the meet was potentially a big deal with us doing the traveling (which we offered and preferred that way)

We'll chat tomorrow together, it does feel like we need to call it and cancel soon.

Thanks

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By *allySlinkyWoman
8 weeks ago

Leeds

I don't see how 40+ verifications on a profile could be faked. Have you clicked on the profiles of the people verifying them and seen what they look like ?

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By *ittlebirdWoman
8 weeks ago

The Big Smoke

OPs from your post it doesn’t seem like you’ve made any kind of friendship or at least likeminded conversation with this couple. Why would you consider meeting them until a time you do? It’s not a race here. Take your time. Meet socially for a coffee. Get to know people and then perhaps your nerves will be a little more settled. I certainly wouldn’t meet anyone after a few messages and even less likely if the messages back are banal.

Just go with your Scooby senses. Take your time and if it’s not fun, don’t do it.

Hope this helps 🌈

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By *icecouple561Couple
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8 weeks ago

East Sussex

Personally I think multiple verifications are likely to be genuine.

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By *HertsfunMan
8 weeks ago

Home

Mostly I think lots of veries are genuine..

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
8 weeks ago

East Sussex


"Phone calls and videos calls could potentially mitigate any chances of engaging with such bogus profiles.

We get this, but is 40+ fake or dud verifications something that we should not necessarily trust... if so, that's good to learn but our feeling was that's a bit high for a site we're paying a premium to be on to meet like minded people.

Why do you think the verifications are fake?

We don't. It everything else that feels off and that's why we have asked the question in the way we have, as that's the main thing remaining that's makes me think their legit.

I think if you feel something is off it's best to call it a day.

I think there are several possibilities here. You're nervous (quite naturally) and looking for reasons its wrong.

They really aren't genuine.

They are genuine and you're being over cautious.

What I would say is that if they read this your decision might well be made for you. I think in these instances its a good ides to either have an honest chat with the people concerned or arrange a quick coffee meet for a chat and to set your mind at rest

We're hours apart, hence the meet was potentially a big deal with us doing the traveling (which we offered and preferred that way)

We'll chat tomorrow together, it does feel like we need to call it and cancel soon.

Thanks"

Honestly, I dont think it's right for you. There's absolutely nothing wrong with that.

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By (user no longer on site)
8 weeks ago


"People hide their profile for lots of reasons. However if you’re not feeling the sort of keenness or effort you need then you are under no obligation to meet them

Thank you. We get this, and will decide, but at the root of the question is, how trustworthy are mass verifications on a profile?

Although only a few minutes, it doesn't seem like people are rushing to question mass verifications... its probably not that and our own situation.

Thanks for responding"

Verifications are definitely not to be over relied on but faking 40 does seem like a lot of effort !

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By * MRS ShyButNotShy MRSCouple
8 weeks ago

Stoke


"

We've had a few supposedly couples try and arrange meets that were reasonably easy to spot as single guys, and even though we're new here have managed to navigate this.

We're almost entirely set that going forward we're just not gonna do meets via fabchat snd stick to socials, clubs and PDI, however... ahead if that decision we had some messages for a meet we were initially keen on, great pics shared, etc and we're in an increasingly narrowing back and forth. Since the initial few messages, we're getting either a low effort vibe or probably back to an ungenuine approach feel. One of the hooks though was that the account has 40+ verifications, which read genuine on first reviews. On two recent days when we go to recheck verifications (like just now).. their profile is hidden, then, last tine it happened came back next day.

Have tried to ask a basic questions like regarding locality to named town for meet (their town) and not getting much back, certainly not a straight forward answer. We're thinking of bailing on the meeting but also are conscious not to be the couple that gets nervous and drops out, though we are talking 2+ weeks out from date we offered.

Are nerves getting the better of us ahead of meet #1 or are these red flags?

Really appreciate feedback

"

We always to a quick video chat very early on. Saves everybody time and effort.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
8 weeks ago

SW1A1AA

I hide my profile because I mo longer meet. I have loads of genuine verifications

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By *allySlinkyWoman
8 weeks ago

Leeds


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Verifications are definitely not to be over relied on but faking 40 does seem like a lot of effort !"

Plus you would have to fake lots more verifications on the 40 fake profiles

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By *anielandSK OP   Couple
8 weeks ago

Oxfordshire


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Verifications are definitely not to be over relied on but faking 40 does seem like a lot of effort !"

It does seem a lot, but we've also had quite a few approaches that eventually became clear to be disingenuous, even with photos and extended conversations (via Fab chat)

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By *issmorganWoman
8 weeks ago

Calderdale innit

I think if you feel something I'd off op, that's enough reason to be wary and not go ahead with the meet.

On my early days here, there were times I wish I'd listened more to my gut instinct about people.

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By *anielandSK OP   Couple
8 weeks ago

Oxfordshire


"I think if you feel something I'd off op, that's enough reason to be wary and not go ahead with the meet.

On my early days here, there were times I wish I'd listened more to my gut instinct about people. "

Thank you, I think we're both leaning this way.

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By *anielandSK OP   Couple
8 weeks ago

Oxfordshire


"I don't see how 40+ verifications on a profile could be faked. Have you clicked on the profiles of the people verifying them and seen what they look like ?"

Yes, no face pics on profile and difficult to say for sure that the face pics shared in chat were definately those in the profile.. not saying definately not either. Thing is, that's part of wanting to go back for another look and wondering why profile is locked at certain times, but this hasn't prompted a response as being unusual.

Am accepting to the idea we're being over cautious and we're not looking to cast unwanted doubt. But, gut instinct said ask the question.

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By *anielandSK OP   Couple
8 weeks ago

Oxfordshire


"OPs from your post it doesn’t seem like you’ve made any kind of friendship or at least likeminded conversation with this couple. Why would you consider meeting them until a time you do? It’s not a race here. Take your time. Meet socially for a coffee. Get to know people and then perhaps your nerves will be a little more settled. I certainly wouldn’t meet anyone after a few messages and even less likely if the messages back are banal.

Just go with your Scooby senses. Take your time and if it’s not fun, don’t do it.

Hope this helps 🌈"

This is about right. as mentioned in a previous reply, we're probably just gonna do socials and clubs rather than meets via chat here, so we can connect in person first. Thank you.

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By *inkyandthebrain2023Couple
8 weeks ago

Cheshire

We have plenty of veris from meets yet we can find ourselves in conversations that slowly start to fade to nothing. We have more chats that fizzle out than end up in bed.

I Wouldn't worry to much about it just let the chat drop off you will soon find a new one.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
8 weeks ago

SW1A1AA

What a.load.of bollocks maybe you.could.have one or two fake but a whole.list.i doubt very.much

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By *hovskolMan
8 weeks ago

South Manchester

Often people with loads of veris are often just from social meets in clubs.

Sounds like they aren't interested. Just because some one has a load of veris, doesn't mean they aren't bellends

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By *anielandSK OP   Couple
8 weeks ago

Oxfordshire


"We have plenty of veris from meets yet we can find ourselves in conversations that slowly start to fade to nothing. We have more chats that fizzle out than end up in bed.

I Wouldn't worry to much about it just let the chat drop off you will soon find a new one."

Seems to be the concensus, which is reassuring as far as trusting Fab goes. In the age of AI I guess there was some doubt. Thank you.

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By *cottish guy 555Man
8 weeks ago

London

The suggestions of a video call are sound. Use an app such as telegram so you don't have to share numbers.

I'd agree that 40+ verifications would be hard to fake but circumstances on a profile can change.

A couple may no longer be a couple being one example.

Always go with your gut.

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By *eard and BoobsCouple
8 weeks ago

Portstewart

Op your right to have your doubts and the simple way to sort if they really are interested is ask for a video call on telegram that way you don't have to swap numbers but can actually speak to them face to face. And if you think there too good to be true then go with your gut block them and move on and remember everyone uses the site in there own personal way. And most importantly if you don't end up meeting whomever it is your talking about in your post that it's there loss

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
Forum Mod
8 weeks ago

Central

It's always right to be cautious and it's also good to report suspect inappropriate behavior and profiles to Admin.

Some people don't list themselves as living where their actual homes are, due to potential invasion of privacy and security. OP might find some reluctant to confirm their home location for decent reasons.

It's always worth being able to develop your certainty of others, including using cams etc.

Fab does depend on each of us to increase the high standards here. It does investigate every report that you make on others. They definitely help!

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By *unhunter 71Man
8 weeks ago

Luton

Probably I’ve been on a few meets where they have been verified asked them to verify me but nothing

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By *ipstick KissesWoman
8 weeks ago

Newry

It could just be a combination of you being overly cautious and them perhaps going a bit cold on the idea of meeting Which came first doesn't really matter. As someone else said, more often than not conversations drop off. People you initially thought might be a good fit turn out not to be, and if you've been chatting a while, that can be a bit awkward to admit.

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By *rightonsteveMan
8 weeks ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I’d listen to your gut feeling and if you’re doubting anything, bail, block and move on.

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