FabSwingers.com forum: Flirting

By *eekyscot OP Man
8 weeks ago

Rhyl

I'm pretty dense when it comes to picking up of subtlety and reading between the lines but i also have no real "game" when it comes to flirting etc.

How can you tell if someone is flirting with you as I don't default to the "she's flirting with me" response and just assume she's being friendly with me

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By *icecouple561Couple
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8 weeks ago

East Sussex

I think when people are flirting it's easier to tell from their body language and eye contact than their words

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By *hehighlander88Man
8 weeks ago

inverness

I always seem to miss signs too sadly

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By *eekyscot OP Man
8 weeks ago

Rhyl

Can you give some examples?

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By *eductiveSecretsWoman
8 weeks ago

Birmingham

She'll lay on her side, leg in the air, tongue out like a exhibitionist cat. If she doesn't do this, she isnt flirting.

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By *dwalu2Couple
8 weeks ago

Bristol

"She'll lay on her side, leg in the air, tongue out like a exhibitionist cat. If she doesn't do this, she isnt flirting."

Don’t forget knickers hanging off one shoe!

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By *eekyscot OP Man
8 weeks ago

Rhyl

But what about out in public as I've been told at work that i was being flirted with and i didn't notice especially since I don't think about that kind of stuff when interacting with customers as it could cost me my position if they reported me

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By *earditallWoman
8 weeks ago

Lancaster

I'm really bad at flirting but I may take lessons

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By *hams123Man
8 weeks ago

London

I agree with you OP. I've always seen it as friendly, never flirting. It's difficult to decipher for some of us. I'm wary of getting it wrong and being ridiculed or getting in trouble. Too risky for me. I much prefer if a person just tells me they like me.

Unfortunately that's not how the world works. Some people flirt because they enjoy the game, others do it because they are genuinely interested.

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By *eekyscot OP Man
8 weeks ago

Rhyl

"I agree with you OP. I've always seen it as friendly, never flirting. It's difficult to decipher for some of us. I'm wary of getting it wrong and being ridiculed or getting in trouble. Too risky for me. I much prefer if a person just tells me they like me.

Unfortunately that's not how the world works. Some people flirt because they enjoy the game, others do it because they are genuinely interested."

That's what I'd wish would happen as I'm a blunt and up front kinda person as one of my biggest fears when it comes to socialising is misunderstanding something someone said as one thing and it was totally incorrect. E.g thinking someone fancies you and it turns out incorrect and you've now ruined your friendship with them

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By *ynamicnatureMan
8 weeks ago

Doncaster

When their is chemistry there and both parties are open, then the flirting flows easily.

Things I pick up on are to gauge if someone is into me:

Lots of smiling and eye contact

Playing with their hair

Laughing at my silly jokes/ one liners

A little touch in my arm or shoulder during a conversation.

If none of the above is happening, then I know that they are probably not into me and I leave any flirting alone.

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By *eekyscot OP Man
8 weeks ago

Rhyl

"When their is chemistry there and both parties are open, then the flirting flows easily.

Things I pick up on are to gauge if someone is into me:

Lots of smiling and eye contact

Playing with their hair

Laughing at my silly jokes/ one liners

A little touch in my arm or shoulder during a conversation.

If none of the above is happening, then I know that they are probably not into me and I leave any flirting alone.

If i see those types of actions being made I'll have to consider if i should shoot my shot (assuming i find her attractive as well) as i don't default to the "she's attracted to me and os flirting with me"

Tbf compliments are few and far for me so when i get a compliment like "i like your hair" I don't really know how to respond and just say thanks

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By *hehighlander88Man
8 weeks ago

inverness

Same here don’t get many compliments at all so never know how to take them really

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By *eroLondonMan
8 weeks ago

Mayfair

I just flirt indiscriminately. However, I ruffle my plumage at those I find quite fanciable.

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