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"Being open and transparent about being married on my profile due to being in a sexless marriage....my point is this...I have some folks on here judge me....but these are the same couples/ women who attend clubs....do they ask every guy at the club if they are married before playing....I doubt it....double standards." Is a complex thing for everybody fit lots of different reasons. Too easy for too many to be too judgemental. I think it better that if you disagree with someone’s stance on this just don’t engage and don’t comment either. Highly unlikely anyone gets the full story | |||
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"I suspect some/most couples exercise a level of due diligence before they meet 'single' men in clubs. Perhaps they met them for a coffee previously where the pertinent marital details were discussed...?" I've never be asked in a club before being invited to play. | |||
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"I suspect some/most couples exercise a level of due diligence before they meet 'single' men in clubs. Perhaps they met them for a coffee previously where the pertinent marital details were discussed...? I've never be asked in a club before being invited to play. " So you're complaining because people might be less careful in clubs, therefore you demand they drop their standards online? 🤔 | |||
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"I suspect some/most couples exercise a level of due diligence before they meet 'single' men in clubs. Perhaps they met them for a coffee previously where the pertinent marital details were discussed...? I've never be asked in a club before being invited to play. " So you believe that the onus should be on the other person to find out if you are a cheater, rather than you as the cheater? If couples/women asked every guy in a club, would the cheaters be open and honest in their answer? | |||
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"I suspect some/most couples exercise a level of due diligence before they meet 'single' men in clubs. Perhaps they met them for a coffee previously where the pertinent marital details were discussed...? I've never be asked in a club before being invited to play. So you're complaining because people might be less careful in clubs, therefore you demand they drop their standards online? 🤔" These online people with their ridiculous high standards.... Mrs | |||
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"I suspect some/most couples exercise a level of due diligence before they meet 'single' men in clubs. Perhaps they met them for a coffee previously where the pertinent marital details were discussed...? I've never be asked in a club before being invited to play. So you believe that the onus should be on the other person to find out if you are a cheater, rather than you as the cheater? If couples/women asked every guy in a club, would the cheaters be open and honest in their answer?" I don’t think they would be! Xx | |||
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"I suspect some/most couples exercise a level of due diligence before they meet 'single' men in clubs. Perhaps they met them for a coffee previously where the pertinent marital details were discussed...? I've never be asked in a club before being invited to play. So you're complaining because people might be less careful in clubs, therefore you demand they drop their standards online? 🤔" Not complaining just stating a fact....either way its double standards | |||
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"You've got two choices. 1. Like it. 2. Lump it." That's one choice with two options. | |||
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"I suspect some/most couples exercise a level of due diligence before they meet 'single' men in clubs. Perhaps they met them for a coffee previously where the pertinent marital details were discussed...? I've never be asked in a club before being invited to play. So you're complaining because people might be less careful in clubs, therefore you demand they drop their standards online? 🤔 These online people with their ridiculous high standards.... Mrs " Absolutely 💯 | |||
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"We've seen numerous married guys through the site, and they range from the "not getting enough", via sexless marriage right through to those whose partner has mental health problems, and all intimacy has ended. We've never judged anyone, and most guys are looking for conversation and a cuppa as well as the sex side of things, being somewhat of a pressure-valve for their home life. We're discrete, and offer a way to satiate their lust without catching anything or potentially entering a Fatal Attraction scenario. My nurse's outfit actually has "Sex Therapist" on the badge! "At last some non judgemental common sense | |||
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"We've seen numerous married guys through the site, and they range from the "not getting enough", via sexless marriage right through to those whose partner has mental health problems, and all intimacy has ended. We've never judged anyone, and most guys are looking for conversation and a cuppa as well as the sex side of things, being somewhat of a pressure-valve for their home life. We're discrete, and offer a way to satiate their lust without catching anything or potentially entering a Fatal Attraction scenario. My nurse's outfit actually has "Sex Therapist" on the badge!
At last some non judgemental common sense "It is judgemental but a positive judgement that happens to align with your way of thinking. | |||
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"We've seen numerous married guys through the site, and they range from the "not getting enough", via sexless marriage right through to those whose partner has mental health problems, and all intimacy has ended. We've never judged anyone, and most guys are looking for conversation and a cuppa as well as the sex side of things, being somewhat of a pressure-valve for their home life. We're discrete, and offer a way to satiate their lust without catching anything or potentially entering a Fatal Attraction scenario. My nurse's outfit actually has "Sex Therapist" on the badge!
At last some non judgemental common sense
It is judgemental but a positive judgement that happens to align with your way of thinking. "Fair comment | |||
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"I suspect some/most couples exercise a level of due diligence before they meet 'single' men in clubs. Perhaps they met them for a coffee previously where the pertinent marital details were discussed...? I've never be asked in a club before being invited to play. So you're complaining because people might be less careful in clubs, therefore you demand they drop their standards online? 🤔 Not complaining just stating a fact....either way its double standards " It's not double standards. A profile with no married cheats is pretty clear about boundaries. It is then on your moral compass whether you cross it and cheat on your partner and on them. I suspect it's not asked in clubs as everyone is on the same page if they go to a club, it's a matter if you find someone attractive to take things further. | |||
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"Being open and transparent about being married on my profile due to being in a sexless marriage....my point is this...I have some folks on here judge me....but these are the same couples/ women who attend clubs....do they ask every guy at the club if they are married before playing....I doubt it....double standards." Mate,, your wasting your breath on here Most people have compulsive disagreement syndrome Example If someone ran a child over on purpose There would always be someone who blamed the child Or stuck up for the driver Fact | |||
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"It's personal choice i suppose its the whole fear of the drama and upset it can bring that puts people off." Thanks for your reply, as for the drama that's for me to deal with should it occur. I wouldn't need to involve anyone else. | |||
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"I suspect some/most couples exercise a level of due diligence before they meet 'single' men in clubs. Perhaps they met them for a coffee previously where the pertinent marital details were discussed...? I've never be asked in a club before being invited to play. So you're complaining because people might be less careful in clubs, therefore you demand they drop their standards online? 🤔 Not complaining just stating a fact....either way its double standards " I don't think you understand what double standards means | |||
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"Being open and transparent about being married on my profile due to being in a sexless marriage....my point is this...I have some folks on here judge me....but these are the same couples/ women who attend clubs....do they ask every guy at the club if they are married before playing....I doubt it....double standards." You’re right. Hardly anyone would check at a club. Maybe that might be your best bet? | |||
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"It's personal choice i suppose its the whole fear of the drama and upset it can bring that puts people off. Thanks for your reply, as for the drama that's for me to deal with should it occur. I wouldn't need to involve anyone else. " Oh come on, we all know that the drama overflows. | |||
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"Being open and transparent about being married on my profile due to being in a sexless marriage....my point is this...I have some folks on here judge me....but these are the same couples/ women who attend clubs....do they ask every guy at the club if they are married before playing....I doubt it....double standards." Lol, you find the Moral Guardians on here take a 'very' different approach in clubs 🤣 | |||
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"It's personal choice i suppose its the whole fear of the drama and upset it can bring that puts people off. Thanks for your reply, as for the drama that's for me to deal with should it occur. I wouldn't need to involve anyone else. " Doesn't always work that way,unless the wife knows about it also. I think lots of people can potentially be hurt and thats why most will stear clear of the situation and that's a choice you're open about. | |||
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"It's personal choice i suppose its the whole fear of the drama and upset it can bring that puts people off. Thanks for your reply, as for the drama that's for me to deal with should it occur. I wouldn't need to involve anyone else. Oh come on, we all know that the drama overflows. " It does. I've posted this before. Years ago met a man, not from here. He told me he was single, no kids when I asked.. Saw him for a few months, then got a very arsey voice mail and several calls from a woman telling me she was his partner of 9 years. She found texts on his phone and I was then involved in the lies and drama, because he said he was single. It took me ages to convince her I didn't know, I didn't need that hassle, nor did she. That's why I avoid men who cheat or couples who are fbs and married to others. You should always tell people you're attached, before anything happens,or you're taking away their choices. | |||
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"Thanks for your reply, as for the drama that's for me to deal with should it occur. I wouldn't need to involve anyone else. " Your wife might beg to differ… she may choose to involve the other parties, and you’d have no say in that, which is just one of the reasons many have a “no married men” policy. To be balanced, you’re up front about your situation, so anyone choosing to get involved knows up front what they’re getting into. Pretending to be single if you’re not actually opens up an entirely different can of worms. I’ve never heard the question “Excuse me, are you married?” Being asked in a club. Lying if asked though is whole different problem, alluded to above. | |||
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"Being open and transparent about being married on my profile due to being in a sexless marriage....my point is this...I have some folks on here judge me....but these are the same couples/ women who attend clubs....do they ask every guy at the club if they are married before playing....I doubt it....double standards." Judge.. No! Being given an honest choice, now that's different. In a club environment, have we played with attached guys in the moment without their 'partners' awareness or ours? Possibly! Knowingly doing so via Fab, consciously eradicating the value of consent of their partner.. Nah we'll pass thank you! Hypocritical or not, we at least have a choice 😘 | |||
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"If you tell them they have the moral dilemma of should they, shouldn't they. If you don't say anything you've taken that dilemma away. Maybe it's why people like clubs with the anonymity. " I reckon you're right there | |||
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"Being open and transparent about being married on my profile due to being in a sexless marriage....my point is this...I have some folks on here judge me....but these are the same couples/ women who attend clubs....do they ask every guy at the club if they are married before playing....I doubt it....double standards." sadly I have same problem i got lots of abuse | |||
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"I do not want to sleep with people who are cheating on their partner. People have lied to me about it both in clubs and on here. They're cunts either way 💜" Agreed 👍🏻 | |||
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"It's not judgemental to choose not to play with someone who is cheating. I've been cheated on, by my husband of nearly 30 years, and even though I've been through a lot in my life, it was one of the most painful things I've ever experienced. I just never want to participate in someone else possibly going through that pain. Just the thought makes me feel physically sick. (MW)"  | |||
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