FabSwingers.com forum: When you just don't know what to want?

By *sWyld OP Woman
9 weeks ago

Edinburgh

On here we are all surrounded by people talking about and living out their fantasies. The assumption (possibly wrong) is that most know exactly what they want or they have some sort of sexual wish list. However what if you don't?

I don't think I do these days. Beyond experiencing certain things again or liking the idea of some things, though not sure I'd ever brave bringing them into reality! Infact some fantasies have been ruined over the years by trying 🤣

I struggle when someone asks me what I'm in to beyond reactions and chemistry!

So do you have a sexual wishlist or are you just waiting for something to inspire?

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By *lder.Woman
9 weeks ago

Not Local

I feel ancient. I don't want anything anymore and Im all touched out

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By *randMrsBullCouple
9 weeks ago

Eastwood

I don't think we have a sexual wishlist, we have fantasies and if they ever happen that's great. But, in the moment it's just whatever feels fun and what we are in the mood for at the time.

As long as everyone involved has fun, that's all that matters.

I think going in with a plan would spoil the mood.

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By *viatrixWoman
9 weeks ago

Gatwick

I just want my FWB to shag me everyday. Thst’s all.

Alas, that is difficult to attain. Damned distance.

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By (user no longer on site)
9 weeks ago

I just like sex with people I like. What form that takes flows from the people and our relationship and that's more than good enough for me.

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By *parkle1974Woman
9 weeks ago

Leeds

It's one question I hate being asked....

'What am I into"... I've no idea

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By *arialoueWoman
9 weeks ago

Doncaster

I know what i want ,it just seems impossible these days as most just want a bit of fun in the bedroom , i am actually looking for more than that ,

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By *arc PolarisMan
9 weeks ago

Birmingham

I don't have a wishlist, a bucket list, a hit list, or any fantasy.

What clicks and works is good for me. The person is more important than the act itself

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By *aFemmeCoquetteWoman
9 weeks ago

Somewhere in the middle not the.....

Nope if it feels right it feels right, and its very much about the person

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By *oelMan
9 weeks ago

Midlands, London, Brussels

"I just want my FWB to shag me everyday. Thst’s all.

Alas, that is difficult to attain. Damned distance.

Awww that's cute, I'm happy for ya... Weirdly I think that's a wish lots of us have 🤣

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By *sWyld OP Woman
9 weeks ago

Edinburgh

"I just want my FWB to shag me everyday. Thst’s all.

Alas, that is difficult to attain. Damned distance.

I think I'd be broken if I tried to achieve that! Hmm maybe this is why I'm single 🤣

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By *sWyld OP Woman
9 weeks ago

Edinburgh

"It's one question I hate being asked....

'What am I into"... I've no idea

Its so hard to answer.

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By *iltsguy38Man
9 weeks ago

swindon

I am looking for new experiences and fun. There is a list of sorts but if they don’t happen then that is life.

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By *avexxMan
9 weeks ago

cheshire

"It's one question I hate being asked....

'What am I into"... I've no idea

Its so hard to answer. "
,, this

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By *eyond PurityCouple
9 weeks ago

East Lincs

It’s a pointless question when someone asks ‘what are you into’ as it all depends on the connection and how often we’ll get to see someone as we like to get to know what works and how people are in person

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By *carlet SeductionWoman
9 weeks ago

Maidstone

"On here we are all surrounded by people talking about and living out their fantasies. The assumption (possibly wrong) is that most know exactly what they want or they have some sort of sexual wish list. However what if you don't?

I struggle when someone asks me what I'm in to beyond reactions and chemistry!

So do you have a sexual wishlist or are you just waiting for something to inspire?

I am exactly the same. I'm not turned on by certain acts. I'm turned on by the person. I'm sure I lose a lot of potential meets because I can't tell them what I'm into.

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By *lrightthenMan
9 weeks ago

Bradford

I don't even understand what people can fantasise over like, it's sex. Only difference is the people. Attraction and that. Like I genuinely don't understand

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By *ose-tinted GlassesMan
9 weeks ago

Glasgow / London / Manchester

I only got as far as the thread title because it gave me a White Stripes earworm and I went to watch the video to get it out of my head and now I just want Kate Moss please thank you.

So at least I do know what I want right now.

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By *merald1971Woman
9 weeks ago

dundee

Same here when they ask "what are you into" i have no idea until im with the person and the more you meet with that one person then the more you can get into and experiment with them

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By *ruella DeThrillWoman
9 weeks ago

Essex

I did have a fuckit-bucket list

Many fantasies fell somewhat short.

Some were fun

It is about the chemistry though.

I think that’s what I want.

A chemist. Who I want to do allllll the things with.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
Forum Mod
9 weeks ago

Central

I don't feel any pressure to have to have anything that I must explore and seek out.

Ideas may develop and morph over time. It's refreshing not to have to be on a mission to achieve something and to just let little seeds germinate, in the right season

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By *G74Woman
8 weeks ago

Blackburn

I find im in to different things with different people but I never know until I meet them what that might be 🤷‍♀️ what am I into? I'm earning what I'm into as i go

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By *lirtyFilthWoman
8 weeks ago

Barnstaple

I’m learning what I like, this is an amazing journey into finding myself. So when someone asks what I’m into I get a little flustered.

Different people bring different things to the table.

I’ve also learnt that some people seem to judge when you do say what you’re into.

I like CNC but it seems it’s not something that everyone understands. And I definitely wouldn’t do it with just anyone.

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By *issy LanaTV/TS
8 weeks ago

Slough

Never really had a bucket list so to speak, just relied on chemistry to be my charioteer and consider myself fortunate to have met some lovely peeps than not...!

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By *lumber1Man
8 weeks ago

cork

I love women but honestly us men can never win, honestly can any women be pleased????

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By *issy LanaTV/TS
8 weeks ago

Slough

"I love women but honestly us men can never win, honestly can any women be pleased????"

You know when they're pleased, it's simple (the signs are there). Example: when they gush like Niagara falls you know they're happy.

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By *lumber1Man
8 weeks ago

cork

Maybe for a few hours just saying

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By *vaRoseWoman
8 weeks ago

Ankh-Morpork

I can give you a list of things I’m into but that doesn’t mean I want any of it all of the time

I can list fantasies unfulfilled but many will remain that way becuse sometimes some things are best left in the mind.

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By *lumber1Man
8 weeks ago

cork

Eva I concur,gosefaba!!!!(Anger management)

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By *eepshow1Man
8 weeks ago

London

Always freaks me out when asked 'So, what you into?'.

Apart from the one obvious thing, pretty much everything.

And then they say 'If you say pretty much everything, I'll delete your message and block you'.

It's a minefield on here sometimes!!!

Anyway, sweet dreams xx

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By *partharmonyCouple
8 weeks ago

Tonbridge

We don't really have a sexual wish list. We know what we enjoy. We know how we enjoy sex with each other. We just want to do those things with other people sometimes.

We don't have a list of things like having a threesome upside down in a cupboard and trying to find the right person to do that with.

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By *ustbrowsingfab40Woman
8 weeks ago

Chesterfield

I struggle when someone asks me what I'm in to beyond reactions and chemistry!

So do you have a sexual wishlist or are you just waiting for something to inspire?

I am exactly the same. I'm not turned on by certain acts. I'm turned on by the person. I'm sure I lose a lot of potential meets because I can't tell them what I'm into. "

This is me also. For me it’s that initial attraction and good vibes, the rest follows after that.

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By *oodmessMan
8 weeks ago

yumsville

I've always gone with the flow and done what comes in the moment. Sometimes there's been a plan but that often goes out the window once boobs come out, mostly it's been exploring different ways myself or women get off, not ahh 'I have to have a threesome' or 'I am going to do some DVPing'... Things are just sort of arrived at.

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By *alm_one4Man
8 weeks ago

Close To The Edge, Down Bi The River

It sounds like a cop out when I’m asked this, but it’s really not. I’m pretty fluid in what I’ll try, a few things are off the table, but otherwise I’m happy to go along with another’s thoughts.

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By *rthur30Man
8 weeks ago

Warrington

I've been fortunate to have had fulfilling encounters in the past. I agree that some things should remain fantasies.

I do have a wish list of things I'd like to try but I'd abandon it in a heartbeat for a soul mate.

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By *a LunaWoman
8 weeks ago

Wales

I don’t have a wish list. Never have. Spontaneous passionate fun is what I like (I don’t mean “meet in 5 minutes”, more not having a tick list of things to do).

I get a bit turned off by those who have a tick list if I’m honest. Where’s the passion in that?

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By *idnightcowboy69Man
8 weeks ago

cirencester

Someone to show me something new...

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By *hams123Man
8 weeks ago

London

I don't have a wishlist. Just looking for fun experiences with interesting people. Some of the threads have piqued my interest. And definitely some of the profiles.

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By *ose-tinted GlassesMan
8 weeks ago

Glasgow / London / Manchester

I find that people who ask what you’re into have something in mind already and are hoping you’ll say it so they don’t have to.

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By *imiUKMan
8 weeks ago

Ledbury

I am far to disorganised to have any kind of list, fucket or not.

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By *007ManMan
8 weeks ago

Worthing

They want me more than any Hollywood actor.

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By *ymbunny99Woman
8 weeks ago

sheerness

I just go with the flow, I enjoy meeting new people and see what happens, I have scenarios I enjoy but I only experience those if the situation is right

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By *ervent_fervourMan
8 weeks ago

Halifax

I struggle when someone asks me what I'm in to beyond reactions and chemistry!

So do you have a sexual wishlist or are you just waiting for something to inspire?

There are a few things I'd like to try, but i much prefer meeting and seeing where we both spontaneously take each other as we ride the chemistry and moment. There's nothing worse than prescriptive sex apmost as much as striving to make x,y or z happen. I see it as a gift and wouldn't want to spoil it by trying to channel it in a certain direction.

However, if you both talk about fantasies and can agree on what you'd like to help facilitate for each other, then that's very hot.

Eve more so if discussed before, during, or after fucking.

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By *estructionDollyWoman
8 weeks ago

Manchester

I have no idea what I want, but I know what I *don't* want

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