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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

There are times that this lifestyle is absolutely the best thing ever. But sometimes, like tonight, I feel a bit vulnerable (I'm sure there's some folk who will berate me for this thread) I would have loved to have snuggled up with someone tonight, felt wanted and there's. Shared how I'm feeling about Dad's anniversary approaching and how tonight was the night he left our family home for the last time two years ago.

But I'm not, I'm getting into a bed which I previously shared with 2 exes who weren't very nice to me and I'm feeling vulnerable. Its not a nice feeling.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

We'll snuggle up tomorrow

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Agree whilst this site is great it can often leave you feeling low and with damaged confidence

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"We'll snuggle up tomorrow"

thank you, I hope to have got this out of my system by then!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry to hear you're feeling like that. Sometimes its not just about the sex. Its about being physically close and intimate with someone and feeling loved and wanted..... It can seem a very cold place on here sometimes

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By *antyfetishTV/TS
over a year ago

Collooney/Sligo/Dublin

my heart goes out to you ruby.....

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By *ighland_RoseCouple
over a year ago

Brigadoon

I'm sorry to hear you are unhappy tonight (even tho we don't know each other). The only thing I can say is although you are unhappy now it won't always be that way, you will have someone again and they will be better than your exes, it won't always be the way it is now. xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

God you can tell I'm not myself. Typo which was grammatical! Theirs not there's.

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By *eal_Dick_TurpinMan
over a year ago

Exeter


"There are times that this lifestyle is absolutely the best thing ever. But sometimes, like tonight, I feel a bit vulnerable (I'm sure there's some folk who will berate me for this thread) I would have loved to have snuggled up with someone tonight, felt wanted and there's. Shared how I'm feeling about Dad's anniversary approaching and how tonight was the night he left our family home for the last time two years ago.

But I'm not, I'm getting into a bed which I previously shared with 2 exes who weren't very nice to me and I'm feeling vulnerable. Its not a nice feeling."

you can't have your cake and eat it.

you either live the NSA free love lifestyle, or you live the committed relationshit lifestyle, there is no middle ground, just transition phases.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"There are times that this lifestyle is absolutely the best thing ever. But sometimes, like tonight, I feel a bit vulnerable (I'm sure there's some folk who will berate me for this thread) I would have loved to have snuggled up with someone tonight, felt wanted and there's. Shared how I'm feeling about Dad's anniversary approaching and how tonight was the night he left our family home for the last time two years ago.

But I'm not, I'm getting into a bed which I previously shared with 2 exes who weren't very nice to me and I'm feeling vulnerable. Its not a nice feeling.

you can't have your cake and eat it.

you either live the NSA free love lifestyle, or you live the committed relationshit lifestyle, there is no middle ground, just transition phases."

well thank you for your support

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Sorry to here how you feel. Can't your boyfriend be with you or at least talk over the phone to you while your in bed. Jay sometimes talks to me until I'm ready to fall asleep if he's not here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sending big hugs your way xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have my moments where I feel like that too, hope you feel better soon!!! xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hugs hun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have my moments where I feel like that too, hope you feel better soon!!! xxx"

Me too, having uncomplicated nsa sex is great most of the time but sometimes, just sometimes it's nice to feel wanted for you not just your body. Sending hugs to the OP. xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry to hear your feeling low. Been there and it will come again....but with all the "friends" I have it would be nice to so e times just sit and be cuddled....hope you feel better and get back to your own self soon.xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How can anyone berate you for saying how you feel ???

Everyone feels a touch of vulnerability at times so you have nothing to apologise for !!!!

I miss my mum still and as for my dad he only passed away a little while ago and I'm still trying to deal with things regarding that - all those factors can make people low and in need of intimacy and closeness.

Keep smiling because the low days don't outweigh good days if you have good friends xx

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By *renchbambi xWoman
over a year ago

Need to know basis

Can I offer you lots of morning hugs? I hope you are feeling better this morning xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Awwww hope you feel better soon..i understand what your saying . xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry to hear you feel this way, and it is always tougher when special days arrive.

My advice for what its worth, is that when you feel this way you should just step away from the lifestyle for a day or two and concentrate on you and your family and close friends.

They are the ones who will support you and help you through tough times. Putting a front on and pushing through will lead to harder times in the future.

Have a bottle of wine with evie later, chill out and enjoy grillstock tomorrow. X x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry to hear that Ruby. A dear loss is never easy to get over. That I know many times over unfortunately. The loss that your feeling is more than likely making your vulnerablity heighten ten fold. It's such times when anniversaries come along we tend to reflect on our lives. I don't know you, but if I were closer, i'd have popped over for chat and a cuddle or too. Because I'm not I'll give you a virtual one instead. (((cuddles))) Hope you start to feel better about things soon x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have bad days, usually set backs at work or issues with the car that would wipe out my savings.

When I am down, I would go for a walk with the dog to clear my head, or have a good drive with the car if she is available with the music turned up to full blast, or have a good meal.

Normally the cloud would lift once I have decided what to do to address the issues that are bugging me.

The pets will always cheer me up whenever I am low, bless them both.

Life is a series of rollercoasters. If it is plain saling all the time it would be very boring.

I am alive and well, with a roof over my head, a car that still thrills after 11 years when she is well, with a good job, with pets that love me unconditionally etc...

The cake that is life is very tasty as it is, anything else will be the cherries on the cake.

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By *exycleanerWoman
over a year ago

pontefract

totally feel for you Ruby as thats what i'm, going thru myself .

last sat went to a club and played .

sunday morning thought yep can do this

dont wan't to be bullied or controlled

but sunday nite felt so alone its just nice to ave someone there to cuddle up to

i sooooooooo miss that ,

i've lost both parents and brother and sister in past 20 yrs too.

hugs to you xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I believe that many people on here are looking for connection not just sexual experiences which can feel quite empty afterwards to some.

Were all emotionally vulnerable at times, and there's no shame in that, just be careful what you see as a fix to that.

Don't think sex with people who will sweet talk you and tell you anything you want to hear to get what they want is wise at times you feel in need of something more. I'm sure you already knew that though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I seldom feel emotionally vulnerable, perhaps it is because I am a loner by nature ever since I was a child.

As I have said before, I would rather be on my own than with the wrong person.

My BS detector and gut-feel are very sensitive, and I am not easily sweet-talked into having sex with people who promise me the earth and the moon.

Being self-assured and confident definitely helps in avoiding being vulnerable emotionally, IMHO.

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge

Sorry you are feeling low. In my experience, however, misery like happiness, does not last.

So enjoy the joy when you can, and plow through the bad times as joy is just round the corner waiting.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"There are times that this lifestyle is absolutely the best thing ever. But sometimes, like tonight, I feel a bit vulnerable (I'm sure there's some folk who will berate me for this thread) I would have loved to have snuggled up with someone tonight, felt wanted and there's. Shared how I'm feeling about Dad's anniversary approaching and how tonight was the night he left our family home for the last time two years ago.

But I'm not, I'm getting into a bed which I previously shared with 2 exes who weren't very nice to me and I'm feeling vulnerable. Its not a nice feeling.

you can't have your cake and eat it.

you either live the NSA free love lifestyle, or you live the committed relationshit lifestyle, there is no middle ground, just transition phases."

You've missed her point totally.

Not once did she say she wanted a committed relationship from here or anywhere else.

Human company.

Simple human compassion.

The security of a trusted persons arms.

Someone to be there for her during the anniversary of a family break up.

Not sex.

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By *exycleanerWoman
over a year ago

pontefract

here here to that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Virtual hug from me!! (You can have a real one next month!)

And in my absence give the woofer a big one and a sloppy kiss!

And while I know what's going on isn't easy - you've always got you Fab buddies to rely on! xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks granny. Its actually coming up to the anniversary of Dad's death. He left the house in an emergency ambulance to be rushed to hospital from where he went to the hospice.

I know I can be a bit maudling at times and I'm sorry to bring everyone else into my feeling of crapness.

Pearl, I do usually have strength, well on the outside. My dog gives me the unconditional love like yours, however its far too early for him to do anything other than sleep on his duvet!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do not rely on others for my own well-being and happiness.

Why? Because they cannot always be there physically when I need them the most.

My dearests are not my nearests as they all live miles away from me.

However, they are only a phone call away.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I stopped relying on others when my ex and I split up. I can't rely on my mum for anything, my brother has his own life.

Just a case of plodding on I guess.

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

Life will kick you in the bollocks sometimes when you don't need it to...I just get back up again and kick the shit out of it and say you are never going to get the better of me...I have my crap days but we are human..Just keep going the sunshine will come through after the storm has cleared... x

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

My dog gives me the unconditional love like yours, however its far too early for him to do anything other than sleep on his duvet!

Que ??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

never plod on you are better than that, like cheeky says the sunshine will come

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

And in my absence give the woofer a big one and a sloppy kiss!

Double Que ??

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Obi wants Blake, my dog, to give me a smooch better as he's a long way away and cant. Oh and my dog is pampered and has a double duvet for a bed!

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon


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Are you ok there granny??

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

I understood Ruby .....

Your dog is a good substitute kisser for Obie......

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


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Are you ok there granny?? "

Well no .... I'm aghast

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There are times that this lifestyle is absolutely the best thing ever. But sometimes, like tonight, I feel a bit vulnerable (I'm sure there's some folk who will berate me for this thread) I would have loved to have snuggled up with someone tonight, felt wanted and there's. Shared how I'm feeling about Dad's anniversary approaching and how tonight was the night he left our family home for the last time two years ago.

But I'm not, I'm getting into a bed which I previously shared with 2 exes who weren't very nice to me and I'm feeling vulnerable. Its not a nice feeling."

Bless you Ruby

Know how you feel I get like that I want a cuddle, have my feet rubbed things I enjoyed when I was married

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

But doggies are great my spaniel Bud it's a great kisser xxx

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

Apparently Obie kisses like a dog ...

Sniffs your arse , licks his balls n then your face.

There are only so many sticks I could throw !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Apparently Obie kisses like a dog ...

Sniffs your arse , licks his balls n then your face.

There are only so many sticks I could throw !"

That's the man for me

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I understood Ruby .....

Your dog is a good substitute kisser for Obie...... "

haha no comment. I don't kiss my dog!!

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