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Can you trust.........

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By *i fem hunters OP   Couple
15 weeks ago

london

Someone who cheated on you in the past?

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By *utsackerMan
15 weeks ago

north east

I wouldn’t no

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By *he milf next doorWoman
15 weeks ago

bluebell woods

No!

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By *tillNewbiesCouple
15 weeks ago

Manchester

Personally, once a cheater always a cheater

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By (user no longer on site)
15 weeks ago

absolutely no

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By *ace400Man
15 weeks ago

near knock

Never and wouldn’t go back anyway

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By *i fem hunters OP   Couple
15 weeks ago

london


"Personally, once a cheater always a cheater

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Im of this belief........

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By *i fem hunters OP   Couple
15 weeks ago

london

Would having children together be a factor in your decision?

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By *hamallamadingdongMan
15 weeks ago

London

Trust takes time, communication, patience and so much more. The short answer is no. The long answer is it depends on the people involved. If they are both willing to renew their relationship it's possible. I've seen some couples come back and succeed, while others haven't. And some couples have ended it.

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By *otstuff77Woman
15 weeks ago

to close for comfort

No!

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By *earditallWoman
15 weeks ago

Lancaster

No

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By *issmorganWoman
15 weeks ago

Calderdale innit

Absolutely not.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
15 weeks ago

East Sussex

Yes I think it's possible for some people with time, communication and possibly counselling. Whether or not I could do it would depend on soooo many things that it probably wouldn't be worth the effort

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By (user no longer on site)
15 weeks ago

No. Never.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
Forum Mod
15 weeks ago

Central

I'd struggle but could with the right partner and their dedication to rebuild trust

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By *og and MuseCouple
15 weeks ago

Dubai & Nottingham

You would need to be pretty emotionally damaged to automatically never trust anyone who lied, cheated , stole etc it's like being unable to forgive or understand people can change. It just leads to bad choices and a repeating pattern.

But I guess you mean something else - going back to an ex who cheated etc ?

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By *verageHoesCouple
15 weeks ago

Bessacarr

In most cases, probably not. The only time I've known a relationship genuinely recover after infidelity was when the unfaithful person confessed immediately after the event and didn't hide or minimise anything. I think that's pretty rare as people mostly go into self-preservation mode upon discovery, which has the opposite effect of what they intend and just feeds into more mistrust and anxiety.

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By *riel13Woman
15 weeks ago

Northampton

I think only you could answer that... My ex husband cheated when our son was a baby (actually seems to be a thing)... We separated but ended up back together but not until I felt I could trust him again... We married a couple of years later... We separated and divorced many years ago now but he never cheated again... He was in love with beer so another woman wouldn't have gotten a look in.... So yeah, I don't believe the "once a cheat" thing... We are all capable of change but trust is a you thing... Always go with your gut not your emotion

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By *007ManMan
15 weeks ago

Worthing

If they cheated no issue. They'd be out of my life.

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By *atiekisskissWoman
15 weeks ago

London

Yes, If I loved them enough.

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By *olvesxcoupleCouple
15 weeks ago

Round the bend

No. There would always be an element of doubt and id never give someone a second shot at abusing my trust twice.

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By *emptme1993Man
15 weeks ago

manchester

Nope, once a cheater always a cheater. And generally if they’ve cheated on someone with you, they’ll cheat on someone when they’re with you

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
15 weeks ago

Leeds

You can try, some can, some can't, you can't erase memories they are always there so I think some element of doubt always is too.

Mrs

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By *i fem hunters OP   Couple
15 weeks ago

london

There's also the elements of saying things that can't be unsaid and doing things you can't undo

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By (user no longer on site)
15 weeks ago

No. I would never be able to trust them again and who needs to live a life like that? Fool me once…

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By *isfits behaving badlyCouple
15 weeks ago

Coventry

I know I should be extra cautious having been cheated on myself by my former Wife. However I'm not of the opinion once a cheat always a cheat. There will always be some dodgy toxic people who will always cheat. But then for others cheating can be symptomatic of a relationship that's not right or broken down. No saying its an excuse for cheating either. Just sometimes relationships fail. And I've know people with really healthy established relationships which started as an affair. Plus people grow up, they learn, they mature. Sometimes that makes them fix their own toxic mistakes, sometimes that makes them pick healthier and more compatible partners, often its both. So no I don't think once a cheat always a cheat for everyone.

I think you have to take people as they are now, not as they where. Are they honest and open with you? Are the accepting and take responsibility for their actions or do they blaim others? Are they candid with you about their cheating? Do they display other toxic traits and red flags? Just things to think about going forward. But at the end of the day it's you who must use your judgment, life experience and spidy senses.

Mr

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By (user no longer on site)
15 weeks ago

I did once as she confessed straight away, I was also an arsehole back then.... each circumstance is different 🤷‍♂️

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
15 weeks ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

No. Someone cheating at Snakes and Ladders is unforgiveable

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By *ovelyDayXXXWoman
15 weeks ago

Niche

No

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