FabSwingers.com forum: ADHD and "the dopamine hit"

By (user no longer on site) OP
12 weeks ago

Do you think there is a higher percentage or us fabbers that have some level of ADHD and we are here and on the scene as a way of getting that dopamine hit?

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By *asha86Couple
12 weeks ago

walsall

Absolutely 100%! I just saw your post and had abit of a Google on it and you are correct. We've spoke to a fair few people who are on the scene that have adhd

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By (user no longer on site) OP
12 weeks ago

I seem to be finding the same thing which is what got me thinking.

I'm undiagnosed but most definitely do have ADHD and the more I think about it I enjoy the risky sex etc more than the usual

Would he interesting to find out the percentage or this site with diagnosed and even self diagnosed ADHD Vs the percentage of the general population

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By *hitelotusMan
12 weeks ago

Farnborough

Absolutely agree . Haven’t read the evidence but personally speaking there is a higher percentage of them on here

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By *earditallWoman
12 weeks ago

Lancaster

Absolutely

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By *aughty50sCouple
12 weeks ago

Yorkshire - but we travel a lot

Quite possibly. Vive la neurospicy!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
12 weeks ago

"Quite possibly. Vive la neurospicy!

Haha love that

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By *entfootloverMan
12 weeks ago

Sevenoaks

In the process of getting an assessment. Not surprised!

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By *hGlobbitsMan
12 weeks ago

Leeds

Feeling seen here. Not sure I like it..

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By *otsossieMan
12 weeks ago

Chesterfield / Sheffield

I think it’s fairly prevalent.

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By *irty DiamondsCouple
12 weeks ago

London - South East and West

I also wonder whether ADHDers need to chase dopamine plays a part in the volume of cancelled meets that people in the Forums reference.

When you are in the moment and riding your dopamine wave and you have 3 or 4 conversations going, the obvious thing is to set up meets. Invariably though life means those meets are a week or two away. By which time you've 'crashed' post dopamine high and lost all interest in the meet.

Possibly why it would be better to attend clubs, because you would then be playing at the point of your dopamine peak and then return to normal life.

For info I've been 'diagnosed' through a 6 hour work place assessment, not yet via a clinical route. 🙂

Mrs.

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By *entfootloverMan
12 weeks ago

Sevenoaks

"I also wonder whether ADHDers need to chase dopamine plays a part in the volume of cancelled meets that people in the Forums reference.

Possibly why it would be better to attend clubs, because you would then be playing at the point of your dopamine peak and then return to normal life.

For info I've been 'diagnosed' through a 6 hour work place assessment, not yet via a clinical route. 🙂

Mrs."

Interesting take!

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By *wist my nipplesCouple
12 weeks ago

North East Scotland, mostly

*laughs in ND*

I think you may be on the money here, OP

Mrs TMN x

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By *elaxed CoupleCouple
12 weeks ago

Cheshire

I'm undiagnosed but highly suspected also. Having talked to many others, there's something else that's been put to me as a point of order.

Some ADHD people have an ability to focus to a level that regular people just can't achieve, so we have the patience to stick with our quest through longer periods of being unsuccessful.

As an example, for work, I regularly need to spend time reading & querying very long contracts. On Wednesday I read & commented on a 68 page document in a single afternoon.

Mrs can't understand how it's possible, but it's not that hard really for me. She also hasn't the patience to post, chat & comment in here.

That might add to the explanation.

Special wave 👋

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
Forum Mod
12 weeks ago

Central

Look for the neurospicy threads where similar discussions have been here before

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By *ilbert777Woman
12 weeks ago

Burton-on-Trent

I have ADHD.I've not met many people from here and I think its harder to tell with messages but I think it's very likely now you've pointed it out

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By *irty DiamondsCouple
12 weeks ago

London - South East and West

"I'm undiagnosed but highly suspected also. Having talked to many others, there's something else that's been put to me as a point of order.

Some ADHD people have an ability to focus to a level that regular people just can't achieve, so we have the patience to stick with our quest through longer periods of being unsuccessful.

As an example, for work, I regularly need to spend time reading & querying very long contracts. On Wednesday I read & commented on a 68 page document in a single afternoon.

Mrs can't understand how it's possible, but it's not that hard really for me. She also hasn't the patience to post, chat & comment in here.

That might add to the explanation.

Special wave 👋

Mr"

Hyper focus at work yes ...but often an inability to focus sexually and reach orgasm, because your mind is flitting between multiple things.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
12 weeks ago

"I'm undiagnosed but highly suspected also. Having talked to many others, there's something else that's been put to me as a point of order.

Some ADHD people have an ability to focus to a level that regular people just can't achieve, so we have the patience to stick with our quest through longer periods of being unsuccessful.

As an example, for work, I regularly need to spend time reading & querying very long contracts. On Wednesday I read & commented on a 68 page document in a single afternoon.

Mrs can't understand how it's possible, but it's not that hard really for me. She also hasn't the patience to post, chat & comment in here.

That might add to the explanation.

Special wave 👋

Hyper focus at work yes ...but often an inability to focus sexually and reach orgasm, because your mind is flitting between multiple things."

That's often me

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By *ockchickCouple
12 weeks ago

Staffordshire

Im diagnosed with it.

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By *rightonfranceMan
12 weeks ago

brighton - chalais france

I totally agree, I think there is a direct correlation to high functioning people with ADHD and their sex drive and need to sate that lust..

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By *clovin89420Man
12 weeks ago

Barnsley

Hey I agree with original post. I'm diagnosed ADHD with autistic traits and it's a big hit of dopamine for me.

it's the risk of everything.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
12 weeks ago

For those that are diagnosed was this done as a child or in adulthood?

How do you even go about getting a diagnosis?

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By (user no longer on site)
12 weeks ago

"For those that are diagnosed was this done as a child or in adulthood?

How do you even go about getting a diagnosis?"
right to choose with NHS. Look into it

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By *isfits behaving badlyCouple
12 weeks ago

Coventry

I definitely think so. As a quick ADHD and AuDHD couple we've noticed traits in many people in the swinging and kink scene. I think this can often play out online here on fab in terms of site activity. Sometimes more chasing likes for photos, winks, messages rather/or aside from chasing realistic opportunities for genuine meets. I think some of us can be a bit fickle beyond that initial dopamine hit.

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By *ib.Man
12 weeks ago

Hampshire

"For those that are diagnosed was this done as a child or in adulthood?

How do you even go about getting a diagnosis? right to choose with NHS. Look into it

Look up reviews on the providers before you choose though - some of them are awful and have numerous complaints. You may have to wait a bit longer for one of the better outfits.

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By (user no longer on site)
12 weeks ago

I think there's just more attention seekers on here.

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By *TM_BoiMan
12 weeks ago

Stoke

ADHDer here. Can confirm that I'm hornier than a dog with two dicks as a baseline, but the hyper focus means I have a hard time stopping once I start! There's definitely something about the dopamine hit, but I think there's a lot in the co-regulation too

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By *ecadentDeviantsCouple
12 weeks ago

North West

"I think there's just more attention seekers on here."

I think it’s more likely for a person to be wired in an unconventional way to be in this game (could be ADHD or whatever) & that’s all that needs to be said really…

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By *ib.Man
12 weeks ago

Hampshire

Also, medication (lisdexafetamine for me) can make me hyper focus on sex - it's a tool you need to wield very carefully. 😅

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By *lue Eyed JokerMan
12 weeks ago

Always on the move

As a formally diagnosed ADHFabber,.o can 100% confirm this to be accurate and true OP

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By (user no longer on site) OP
12 weeks ago

"For those that are diagnosed was this done as a child or in adulthood?

How do you even go about getting a diagnosis? right to choose with NHS. Look into it

Thanks dude 🙏

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By (user no longer on site) OP
12 weeks ago

"Also, medication (lisdexafetamine for me) can make me hyper focus on sex - it's a tool you need to wield very carefully. 😅"

Thanks mate

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By *ilbert777Woman
12 weeks ago

Burton-on-Trent

Diagnosed through gp. Was told I couldn't be by the gp because I have a degree, but I asked to be referred. With women it's often diagnosised at say perimenopause, because that's one of the times it shows up more.

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By *lirtyFilthWoman
12 weeks ago

Barnstaple

"I'm undiagnosed but highly suspected also. Having talked to many others, there's something else that's been put to me as a point of order.

Some ADHD people have an ability to focus to a level that regular people just can't achieve, so we have the patience to stick with our quest through longer periods of being unsuccessful.

As an example, for work, I regularly need to spend time reading & querying very long contracts. On Wednesday I read & commented on a 68 page document in a single afternoon.

Mrs can't understand how it's possible, but it's not that hard really for me. She also hasn't the patience to post, chat & comment in here.

That might add to the explanation.

Special wave 👋

Hyper focus at work yes ...but often an inability to focus sexually and reach orgasm, because your mind is flitting between multiple things.

That's often me "

Im neurospicy. For many aspects of my life it is great. I have a very physical job that I love. I’m a hyperactive and inattentive mix. So I agree with the above comment. Orgasms are difficult if the mind starts to wander. Staying present is not easy

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By *ELondonOralGiverMan
11 weeks ago

Bexley/London

I agree I think there are likely to be a higher proportion of ADHD and other neurodiversities in the lifestyle community

Fewer limits, bigger risk takers.

Sex is a great dopamine hit, so is posting pics and getting fabs

I was diagnosed ADHD combined back in 2023, it’s made a lot of things in my life make sense one of those being my participation in the lifestyle

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By (user no longer on site)
5 weeks ago

ADHD here, I really used fab for many year for a dopamine boost. Wasn’t good for me mental health

I didn’t know anything about adhd then

It really got out of hand 10 years ago but then I went cold turkey for 10 years.

Has any one explored hyper sexuality which I think I have definitely got

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By *hat.coupleCouple
5 weeks ago

Kent

I have ADHD and the majority of ladies we meet in this lifestyle in particular are neurodivergent we've found x just last night we must have spoken to 5 or 6 women in the club we was at who had it.

Mrs x

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By *utsackerMan
5 weeks ago

north east

Never been diagnosed but I been told by a friend who has it that I have strong traits of having it and it would explain where my daughter got it from

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By (user no longer on site)
5 weeks ago

"Never been diagnosed but I been told by a friend who has it that I have strong traits of having it and it would explain where my daughter got it from "

Yes I think my parents were adhd tio

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By (user no longer on site)
5 weeks ago

My (sadly ex) married partner who I met on another site was undiagnosed ADHD. She is an ex Fabber too. I have traits also. It makes for an absolutely exhillerating experience that I wonder if I will ever recapture. A very very large part of me still loves and misses her and the things we shared.

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By *ature-Gent-73Man
5 weeks ago

NN1

Without a doubt yes

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By (user no longer on site)
5 weeks ago

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By (user no longer on site)
5 weeks ago

"My (sadly ex) married partner who I met on another site was undiagnosed ADHD. She is an ex Fabber too. I have traits also. It makes for an absolutely exhillerating experience that I wonder if I will ever recapture. A very very large part of me still loves and misses her and the things we shared."

I feel like this about a couple of my ex fab FWB

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By (user no longer on site)
5 weeks ago

I feel like this about a couple of my ex fab FWB

Yeah it's really difficult at times.

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By (user no longer on site)
5 weeks ago

There is no such thing as ADHD. But there is such a thing as psychiatric labelling which makes soneone, somewhere, a lot of money.

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By (user no longer on site)
5 weeks ago

"Do you think there is a higher percentage or us fabbers that have some level of ADHD and we are here and on the scene as a way of getting that dopamine hit?"

No.

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By (user no longer on site)
5 weeks ago

Has anyone taken prescription medication and how does that affect your sexual impulsively???

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By *ELondonOralGiverMan
5 weeks ago

Bexley/London

It has toned mine down a bit, at least for part of the day

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By *rebus1975Man
5 weeks ago

Birmingham

"I also wonder whether ADHDers need to chase dopamine plays a part in the volume of cancelled meets that people in the Forums reference.

Possibly why it would be better to attend clubs, because you would then be playing at the point of your dopamine peak and then return to normal life.

For info I've been 'diagnosed' through a 6 hour work place assessment, not yet via a clinical route. 🙂

Mrs."

This is so true.

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By *lark_KentMan
5 weeks ago

here and there

Deffinately. Ive come across alot of great nurospicy people on fab, and im one of them

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By *asualandFeistyCouple
5 weeks ago

Ruislip

"Do you think there is a higher percentage or us fabbers that have some level of ADHD and we are here and on the scene as a way of getting that dopamine hit?"

Feels like it's about a third of the scene is on the spectrum. Which is more than the supposed 10% or so in the general population.

It does fit the profile though in terms of spontaneity, dopamine hunting, and general attraction to risky behaviours.

Personally as someone with AuDHD, I enjoy the openness of communication in the lifestyle. People are more prone to be straight and honest, as once we're all naked, and exposing our deepest neuroses, then why worry about keeping up a facade. Which is a godsend for someone who is socially awkward and struggled with body language and reading between the lines.

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By *uffcubMan
4 weeks ago

Oxford

So it’s a condition associated with ADHD called hyper sexualisation basically the sex drive goes through the roof and they’re inhibitions are quite low

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By *eralDeviantWoman
4 weeks ago

Hull

"So it’s a condition associated with ADHD called hyper sexualisation basically the sex drive goes through the roof and they’re inhibitions are quite low"

Expessed as "oh I forgotten you were like this" by an ex partner

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By *reaky builderMan
4 weeks ago

East London/Glasgow

I'm adhd

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By *haft10Man
4 weeks ago

Wandsworth

I think everyone just likes to be part of a club.

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By *arkylad1981Man
4 weeks ago

Havant

"Do you think there is a higher percentage or us fabbers that have some level of ADHD and we are here and on the scene as a way of getting that dopamine hit?"

Great question...took me by surprise actually..I've got an adhd video call tomorrow.. I think the addictive nature and the trill brings us here... I only log in when I'm manic if I'm honest...very confusing

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By *asualandFeistyCouple
4 weeks ago

Ruislip

"I think everyone just likes to be part of a club. "

I think some people think education stops when the leave school.

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By *vmarisaTV/TS
4 weeks ago

Motherwell

Nope I am just a nymphomaniac, like a lot of other people on here and the fg site. Mx 👿

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By *uffcubMan
4 weeks ago

Oxford

"So it’s a condition associated with ADHD called hyper sexualisation basically the sex drive goes through the roof and they’re inhibitions are quite low

Expessed as "oh I forgotten you were like this" by an ex partner"

Can be a total nightmare finding a partner who can handle it 😔

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By *ELondonOralGiverMan
3 weeks ago

Bexley/London

You’re not wrong, education is not just about th stuff to uh learnt at school or the pieces of paper with your name one x

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By *tlanshiaWoman
3 weeks ago

Chatham

It's definitely why I like the kinkier side of sex. Vanilla doesn't do it for me

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By *uonline69Man
3 weeks ago

Saddleworth, UK

I first went into this lifestyle thinking it was a release. Letting my inhibitions go.

What I became very quickly aware of was the addiction side of what I was doing. Everything became about orgasms and it went really quickly off the rails.

I reigned it back in just before lockdown and really took stock of why I was here as a 'swinger' or whatever Is call myself.

I then took a better and healthier view of myself and the dopamine hits then became less but then more intense.

Even now, in my interactions, my total focus is about giving pleasure, not necessarily receiving it. If even say I find attention can be quite difficult.

So yes, I do think there is a correlation between this lifestyle and ADHD ... But it starts with being self aware to break out of the dopamine addiction to have a healthier journey.

Enjoy being who you are and do it safely, for others and yourself.

Undiagnosed ADHD, some RSD and other bits thrown into the mix.

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By *ELondonOralGiverMan
2 days ago

Bexley/London

Same here, vanilla is ok with someone new at first but can quickly become stale and boring

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