FabSwingers.com forum: Been called a prude and a time waster ?

By *eautyandthebeast86 OP Couple
15 weeks ago

Somewhere in Norfolk ask :)

We have just been called a prude and a time waster because the bloke kept talking about cumming in my Cunt. I personally can’t stand that word in that context and all I did was politely say please can you not use the word to refer to my lady parts, we are not prudes you can see from our verifications.. this was a couple too so not even the usual single men. What’s wrong with people ? They said horrible things after I politely asked and then blocked us, I know we have dodged a bullet but am I prudish for not liking my pussy talked about like that ?

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By (user no longer on site)
15 weeks ago

No your not a prude,

It’s a weird word,

In Glasgow it can be a term of endearment like He is a good cunt

He is a nasty cunt

Using it instead of vagina is a nasty horrible word that personally have never used or liked

So no stuck to your guns on that one,

Think you dodged a bullet there

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By *eautyandthebeast86 OP Couple
15 weeks ago

Somewhere in Norfolk ask :)

"No your not a prude,

It’s a weird word,

In Glasgow it can be a term of endearment like He is a good cunt

He is a nasty cunt

Using it instead of vagina is a nasty horrible word that personally have never used or liked

So no stuck to your guns on that one,

Think you dodged a bullet there "

Thank you

I don’t mind the word used as you described above but just feel it degrading when it’s used in the context the person did, I was so polite about it as well and didn’t kick off so don’t understand why the horrible reaction!

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By *veragecouple2000Couple
15 weeks ago

South Wales

It’s perfectly reasonable to ask someone to stop using a word or phrase that makes you uncomfortable xx 😘

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By *unga2525Man
15 weeks ago

Mid Wales

Not prudes or time wasters at all. You are here for your own enjoyment and if that doesn't align with others expectations they need to be polite and move on till they find a like minded person who shares their interests. I've had similar from guys who just don't read profiles and respect them.

Keep sharing your photos and most importantly enjoy yourselves.

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By *naswingdressWoman
15 weeks ago

Manchester (she/her)

Respect is a two way street. I don't think it's too much to ask to be mindful of language used, to make people comfortable (particularly people you want to be intimate with).

As for words like "prude" or "time waster", in contexts like this specific one, all that means is "you're not giving me exactly what I want. I'm having a tantrum about it"

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
15 weeks ago

Leeds

We are all prudes when we ask for something to be worded better, or even dare say no thank you.

Mrs

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By *ABflirtyWoman
15 weeks ago

Norfolk

"Respect is a two way street. I don't think it's too much to ask to be mindful of language used, to make people comfortable (particularly people you want to be intimate with).

As for words like "prude" or "time waster", in contexts like this specific one, all that means is "you're not giving me exactly what I want. I'm having a tantrum about it""
Yours so right xxx

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By *uperstar76Woman
15 weeks ago

North Lanarkshire

I dont like sex talk fullstop, i wont engage with anyone let alone a stranger online im far from being a prude and if someone thought that then block and bye

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By *ellyAndYammiTV/TS
15 weeks ago

eastbourne

I think it’s a pretty huge portion of guys that just talk like they are mid wank all the time, probably as they are. Not really anything to do other than ignore anyone that gives the smallest red flags let alone directly dismissing an issue you have with them.

Does seem to be a minority that can message and communicate properly. I don’t think I’ve ever been on a site where had as many people be a bit weird. Think the nature of it is just mostly people having a wank and treating others like interactive porn.

And at end of day if someone can’t do the basics in messages they are guna be shite in bed anyway. So easy to ignore em.

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By *ackB393Man
15 weeks ago

Liverpool

No not at all

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By *vmarisaTV/TS
15 weeks ago

Motherwell

It's interesting the many connotations of the word C*nt. In Jean Paul Sartre " The devil and the good lord", Goethe uses it to express his desire and pleasure for a red light lady. While in gay parlance I have heard it used to describe a bottom in thrall to the sexual desires of a well hung gay top. But no one should have to put up with it being rudely used if not asked for or enjoyed being called such. Mx 👿

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By *r_Tickle_OGMan
15 weeks ago

Staffs

This definitely does not make you a pride, it does make them disrespectful at the very least and probably would make for an awful meet had you got that far, although I would imagine it wouldn't ever progress to that point.

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By *az89400Man
15 weeks ago

salford

Just makes them sound like a waste of time and space to be honest you seem perfectly fine to me

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By (user no longer on site)
15 weeks ago

There's no way he would respect your boundaries if you decided to get jiggy with him.

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By *orba69Man
15 weeks ago

driffield

"Respect is a two way street. I don't think it's too much to ask to be mindful of language used, to make people comfortable (particularly people you want to be intimate with).

As for words like "prude" or "time waster", in contexts like this specific one, all that means is "you're not giving me exactly what I want. I'm having a tantrum about it""
most definitely, well said

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By *isfits behaving badlyCouple
15 weeks ago

Coventry

Some of us have different sensibilities and icks. That doesn't make us prudes. Neither does not being easy. You only really find out who is a prude or not when you get them into the bedroom.

Unfortunately the site is full of toxic people. The best thing is to identify them fast, not waste time on them and block them. Simple as that.

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By *ife NinjaMan
15 weeks ago

Dunfermline

Someone has been watching too much porn.

You don't have to be vulgar. Cheekiness is better than vulgarity 🤓🥷

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By *r SensualMan
15 weeks ago

London

I’ve experienced similar clap back as you OP when I’ve had to (politely) ask people not to use objectifying terms towards me… anyone wanna take a guess of such terms I’m referring to? 🙊

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By *ilbert777Woman
15 weeks ago

Burton-on-Trent

Listening to Ian mcshane reading henry Miller tropic of cancer may change your mind about the word..

. But I might be biased

It's easier to call you a prude than identify where he has gone wrong. I'm very glad for your sake you won't be

re Ian mcshane

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By *ilbert777Woman
15 weeks ago

Burton-on-Trent

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By *ilbert777Woman
15 weeks ago

Burton-on-Trent

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By *ilbert777Woman
15 weeks ago

Burton-on-Trent

"Someone has been watching too much porn.

You don't have to be vulgar. Cheekiness is better than vulgarity 🤓🥷"

Very much so

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By *astMidsMInkyWoman
15 weeks ago

Leicester

I don’t see it as a vulgar word for the most part, I’ve heard it frequently from the other half as stated above by someone, it’s generally used as a term of endearment.

Personally I don’t think it’s wrong to use it and I have done myself in certain circumstances as I know there won’t be any no objection in the right context, crucially it’ll be with someone I know well, not a stranger.

HOWEVER, if an objection has been voiced then yes absolutely it’s wrong to take the path they chose afterwards.

Sorry if this echos what already been said.

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By *otblonde71Woman
15 weeks ago

stonehaven

Not a prude at all . I'm very hard line re cant listen and respect my wishes in here then you are definitely a block and bullet dodged . You had a lucky escape !

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By *xLedZepxx2Man
15 weeks ago

Didcot

You are not a prude at all and have definitely dodged a bullet, sadly a lot of men think with their dick and it comes across in the language they use, arguably there's a place for dirty talk but only if you are familiar with each other and it doesn't cross any set boundaries.

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By *olvesxcoupleCouple
15 weeks ago

Round the bend

Not a prude at all, and it definitely seems like you've dodged a bullet! X

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By *lassiccokeorpepsimaxCouple
15 weeks ago

Cardiff

I hate that word too. 🤢

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By *issmorganWoman
15 weeks ago

Calderdale innit

Not at all op

Thing is, many people just reduce others to their genitals here.

There's nothing wrong with telling someone if they're saying something you don't like/enjoy.. That reaction seems over the top to me and kind of shows they wouldn't have stuck to the agreed boundaries.

I think you dodged a bullet.

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By *hamen1300Man
15 weeks ago

manchester

"We have just been called a prude and a time waster because the bloke kept talking about cumming in my Cunt. I personally can’t stand that word in that context and all I did was politely say please can you not use the word to refer to my lady parts, we are not prudes you can see from our verifications.. this was a couple too so not even the usual single men. What’s wrong with people ? They said horrible things after I politely asked and then blocked us, I know we have dodged a bullet but am I prudish for not liking my pussy talked about like that ?"
no they sound horrible. Forget them and get on with having fun

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
Forum Mod
15 weeks ago

Central

I think it's really valuable when people out themselves very clearly as not right for you. It can be scary just how different other people can be from ourselves, especially when we hold some values very dearly and strictly.

I'd hate to be in a very intimate position with what some people show themselves as

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By *ustmehorny1976Man
15 weeks ago

Birmingham

For me the lack of respect and politeness on here is worrying.

This is simply a matter of respect for your wishes, agree or disagree, it’s not important but respect the wishes of the people you are interacting with.

🤦‍♂️

Makes me a little sad tbh

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