FabSwingers.com forum: LGBTQ+ people with first timers?

By *ANiCURE OP TV/TS
15 weeks ago

Winchester

Do you like first timers?

Do you think they should let us know if it's their first time?

What was your experiences?

I know everyone has to start somewhere but I don't really want to be their first "try" and I feel more confortable if they had experience before... but that doesn't mean I didn't met any because some of them are lying about it when you ask them or they're so brave, they don't even tell you and you just finds out when you on your knees and they're shaking...😑

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By *G LanaTV/TS
15 weeks ago

Gosport

I definitely don't go out of my way to find first timers. I generally try and find out in the discussion with people before a meet because it is important to me to understand the risks. If I am sufficiently comfortable I then arrange the initial meet to be a social somewhere neutral so that if either side are uncomfortable they can easily walk away.

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By *kibirdWoman
15 weeks ago

Gillingham ( Dorset, not Kent)

I think I get what you’re trying to say. It can definitely be a worry that someone is treating as a check box to tick off, that their expectation may not gel with reality and more worryingly have negative feelings during or after the meet.

In my experience though that can happen regardless of how many times they’ve met and is something I’m looking to gauge through the pre meet conversations.

I approach with a view of personal safety first and if there’s any sign at all of red flags, the meet doesn’t happen. I think people can somwtimes forget how vulnerable we can be meeting alone and don’t understand the importance we place on feeling safe above all else

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By *smiaTV/TS
15 weeks ago

Ilkeston

I get a little hesitant especially on here as it can become a fetish for my transness rather than me as a person. Ive often found that they dont care about me as a person rather the fact im trans and pre op.

Face to face in a club is easier to gauge as i dont play with people anymore who want to be on the DL. Either you want to play with me or you dont. Im not being told a list of requirements so you “dont loose favourability to couples” (yes this is a direct quote from someone in a club). I want someone who isnt afraid to talk to me and be seen going into a room with me. If that means i dont have sex for a while im okay with that as the number of times my self confidence has been knocked so people are comfortable in themselves that they wont be seen with me is too many to count

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By *orphia2003Woman
15 weeks ago

Tonypandy.

I've certainly experienced couples with 'bi' women who are clearly not and just fulfilling the guys fantasy, and it's often quick to establish once you watch the dynamic.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
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15 weeks ago

Central

I need to have everyone be comfortable and I don't want to be the kink checkbox but desired for who I am and what I need

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By *earditallWoman
15 weeks ago

Lancaster

It has happened a few times witb ladies for me,I don't mind just go with what they feel and how they respond and I think you can be a bit more tactile if you know.

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By *xLedZepxx2Man
15 weeks ago

Didcot

I guess because I have very specific expectations from a meet ie something that feels more like making love as opposed to a blow job or mutual wanking session, I may unintentionally put first timers off, I have met newbies on occasion but I feel slightly awkward about it, I don't like being the one with all the experience.

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
15 weeks ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

Whilst I can understand someone wanting to start at the top

I'd rather not be their experiment. I've no wish for someone to shoot their load and then have some kind of breakdown. Nor do I want to be a tick on a bucket list.

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By *mmakinkycdTV/TS
15 weeks ago

South Birmingham

Luckily the two or three tv virgins I’ve been with have enjoyed the time we had. I’d give it another go but as said above I wouldn’t want a cum and a breakdown on my hands x

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By *xLedZepxx2Man
15 weeks ago

Didcot

"Whilst I can understand someone wanting to start at the top

I'd rather not be their experiment. I've no wish for someone to shoot their load and then have some kind of breakdown. Nor do I want to be a tick on a bucket list.

To be fair, when it comes to sex with men, a lot of bisexual/bicurious men suffer some sort of remorse after shooting their load, not just newbies.

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By *vmarisaTV/TS
15 weeks ago

Motherwell

I love meeting experienced men , but I also meet first timers as I like to give them a great first experience with a TV and also let them decide if they want to keep seeing me or they have scratched that particular itch. Mx 😈

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By *etitesaraTV/TS
15 weeks ago

rochdale

"I get a little hesitant especially on here as it can become a fetish for my transness rather than me as a person. Ive often found that they dont care about me as a person rather the fact im trans and pre op.

Absolutely this!

If you're too scared to been seen with me then we've nothing further to talk about.

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By *una_RaineCouple
15 weeks ago

worcester

We never used to mind so much but over time we’ve just become a little uncomfortable with it, I tend to be a pleaser and take the lead with women as much as I’d rather not, but it’s so awkward when they say they are bi curious then decide it’s not for them, I don’t like feeling like an way to experiment, I want a woman to enjoy what I’m doing rather than being unsure if they like it because I’m a woman, it’s it’s even more awkward when it’s a couple and I joined to please the woman and now the man thinks he gets to play with me just because she was experimenting and it’s not her thing..

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By *tephTV67TV/TS
15 weeks ago

Cheshire

I have had messages from guys wanting to experiment and even in clubs once you’re in a room being very nervous about what they want to do.

Getting too old to be nursing someone I prefer a more experienced partner. So if it’s your first time, give me a miss.

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By *xLedZepxx2Man
15 weeks ago

Didcot

"I have had messages from guys wanting to experiment and even in clubs once you’re in a room being very nervous about what they want to do.

Getting too old to be nursing someone I prefer a more experienced partner. So if it’s your first time, give me a miss.

Yeah, that point where you've been messaging each other and are looking at arranging a meet and the next message from him is something along the lines of "what are we going to do?" and it's at that point that you know you've got a newbie who will more than likely chicken out when he realises shit is going to get real.

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By *ellyAndYammiTV/TS
15 weeks ago

eastbourne

I am pretty over being peoples first trans gal at this point. Almost worse with women tbh. As can tell I am just seen as diet-lesbian for girlies trying to quit men a lot of the time.

Not that it’s always an issue but I’d rather just be with someone I don’t have to over explain every facet of my life to. It’s gotten pretty boring being trans over the years and if that’s a focus for anyone beyond a mild interest, then I find it difficult to relax and just be myself rather than an identity. Am just a girly girl, ideals friends and hookups are barely going to bring it up.

And mechanically I have no interest in the thing everyone wants lol. Special treats for good girls only x

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