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"I am wondering how many like me are not actually looking or wanting a significant other To share their lives... But others are always trying to convince me that I'm wrong.. and that I can't be happy... Do others find people can't seem to grasp that life without a love of your life is quite possible. Mirror image. There are many people just like us and yes I get exactly the same from friends..."oh you will find someone" etc etc....I just smile and just let it pass by me I have amazing friends, sexy play mate.. and my kids... And I won't have a partner as long as I have kids at home. As I don't think it's fair. So are you single and happy too. " | |||
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"I am wondering how many like me are not actually looking or wanting a significant other To share their lives... But others are always trying to convince me that I'm wrong.. and that I can't be happy... Do others find people can't seem to grasp that life without a love of your life is quite possible. I have amazing friends, sexy play mate.. and my kids... And I won't have a partner as long as I have kids at home. As I don't think it's fair. So are you single and happy too. " I'm 24 and have - through my own personal choice and not through a lack of options or offers I feel compelled to add! - never been in a serious relationship, nor do I have any real desire or compunction to get into one any time soon. I've always had an amazing circle of close friends, some of whom are fuck buddies that I've met through the scene and play with regularly. That's more than enough for me and always has been. If people are happy in the dynamic, good for them, but our society's obsession with almost forcing people into monogamous pairs as the proper and 'normal' way to live is something I've never quite understood. | |||
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"I am wondering how many like me are not actually looking or wanting a significant other To share their lives... But others are always trying to convince me that I'm wrong.. and that I can't be happy... Do others find people can't seem to grasp that life without a love of your life is quite possible. Mirror image. There are many people just like us and yes I get exactly the same from friends..."oh you will find someone" etc etc....I just smile and just let it pass by me I have amazing friends, sexy play mate.. and my kids... And I won't have a partner as long as I have kids at home. As I don't think it's fair. So are you single and happy too. " I am a lot happier than what I was. I was put into the situation of being single but right now I really do believe that it was the best thing for me personally because I enjoy it. | |||
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"I think it is mostly because being paired up is the norm.. but I spent most of my previous adult life paired up miserably with people I didn't love but went through the motions with. So I am much happier now... If only others would leave me to it. Lol " Maybe it is also just a little bit of jelousy on their part. I have friends like that who always seem to think they should pity me but seem to be stuck in the humdrum of life. I just think to myself that they must be craving some freedom too. It's great....enjoy it!!! | |||
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"I like being single but do miss the romantic side of being in a relationship and just to do spontaneous things " see I never had romance anyway, so nothing for me to miss. Lol guess I miss sex on tap.. but I can work around that. | |||
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"Being single sucks big balls " I find it ironic (considering the perceived image of footloose men and women who want to tie them down) that it appears to be men who would like to be in relationships and women who are happy single. | |||
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"I like being single but do miss the romantic side of being in a relationship and just to do spontaneous things see I never had romance anyway, so nothing for me to miss. Lol guess I miss sex on tap.. but I can work around that. " | |||
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"Being single sucks big balls I find it ironic (considering the perceived image of footloose men and women who want to tie them down) that it appears to be men who would like to be in relationships and women who are happy single." | |||
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"Being single sucks big balls I find it ironic (considering the perceived image of footloose men and women who want to tie them down) that it appears to be men who would like to be in relationships and women who are happy single." Maybe im a bit cynical, but do they want a relationship or a swinging partner! | |||
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"I get sick of my family and friends telling me i need a man and that i cant be happy on my own. They don't know about my swinging so assume i don't have dates n sex and such. I love my life the way it is i get to have fun when ive time to,i don't have to answer to anyone. Ive a family and a good job...my kids want for nothing and don't see me having a string of dates or men. Im the same as you i don't ever see me bringing a man into my home life im happy the way i am." | |||
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"I like being single but do miss the romantic side of being in a relationship and just to do spontaneous things " | |||
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"I am wondering how many like me are not actually looking or wanting a significant other To share their lives... But others are always trying to convince me that I'm wrong.. and that I can't be happy... Do others find people can't seem to grasp that life without a love of your life is quite possible. I have amazing friends, sexy play mate.. and my kids... And I won't have a partner as long as I have kids at home. As I don't think it's fair. So are you single and happy too. " 'm similar (honest). Very much about the kids for me. I think actually living with another would be very difficult and if she even implied I should put her before my children it'd be: "there's the door my dear". Maybe this'll change and, as with everything else: never say never. I have also had a couple of meets with a nice girl on here who says it causes big problems when her bloke's children come to stay with them coz they don't get on with her children. No way do I want hat kind of set up! I spend very few nights in a house with just me coz 've either got my children with me or am sleeping at another one of my babe's flat. Here's to not be attached to another adult except for pure pleasure. x | |||
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"I am wondering how many like me are not actually looking or wanting a significant other To share their lives... But others are always trying to convince me that I'm wrong.. and that I can't be happy... Do others find people can't seem to grasp that life without a love of your life is quite possible. I have amazing friends, sexy play mate.. and my kids... And I won't have a partner as long as I have kids at home. As I don't think it's fair. So are you single and happy too. " Yes...and no. At the moment life is good. I'm enjoying my single status and all that entails. However, would I like to spend my twilight years alone? No, I wouldn't! | |||
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"The irony of this is if I was looking for a relationship it would be a Poly one lol " Try Codnor Pets. They've got s sale on with Parrots currently | |||
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"Can I be honest and open at this point in my life I hate being single....." I'm with you on this one been single 4 half years now and although i don't hate it and won't settle for just anyone although I think i have found someone i would spend the rest of my life with just circumstances and distance hold us back at the minute, Nights can be very lonely as can the days when i'm not at work, going home to nothing can be very lonely | |||
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"Being single sucks big balls I find it ironic (considering the perceived image of footloose men and women who want to tie them down) that it appears to be men who would like to be in relationships and women who are happy single. " Women find it easyier to be single cause they make friends quickly and at a drop of a hat to have sex when they feel like it but men have to work really hard for women to trust them and convince them to do anything. | |||
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"Being single sucks big balls I find it ironic (considering the perceived image of footloose men and women who want to tie them down) that it appears to be men who would like to be in relationships and women who are happy single. Women find it easyier to be single cause they make friends quickly and at a drop of a hat to have sex when they feel like it but men have to work really hard for women to trust them and convince them to do anything." you make it sound as if sex is such an important thing to a relationship.. i havent met anyoen for a year now and still just as happy single.. being sinlge i certainyl have never been able to have sex whenever i feel like it | |||
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"Being single sucks big balls I find it ironic (considering the perceived image of footloose men and women who want to tie them down) that it appears to be men who would like to be in relationships and women who are happy single. Women find it easyier to be single cause they make friends quickly and at a drop of a hat to have sex when they feel like it but men have to work really hard for women to trust them and convince them to do anything. you make it sound as if sex is such an important thing to a relationship.. i havent met anyoen for a year now and still just as happy single.. being sinlge i certainyl have never been able to have sex whenever i feel like it " it's not the most important but I in a relationship expected it and pursued it daily at minimum. I enjoy spending time with my friends and partners in sexual deviation on here. I go out but haven't spent the night with anyone in a long time. Am enjoying cuddles and kisses too now.. so guess I don't feel a relationship would give me anything that would be a plus. | |||
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"I enjoy the companionship of my fuck buddies (plural). They are lovely men who make me feel special and sexy and we have agreat time but they also leave and give me my own space iindependence and life. I don't want a full on relationship I certainly don't want anyone living with me. But a couple of evenings a week of unadulterated fun with a guy who makes me laugh and feel good works for me. I have no further expectations of them nor they of me. Xx" Like your emphasis on the 'plural' I'm pretty sure this is the perfect solution but I think I'm too lazy to do the interviews! | |||
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"I am wondering how many like me are not actually looking or wanting a significant other To share their lives... But others are always trying to convince me that I'm wrong.. and that I can't be happy... Do others find people can't seem to grasp that life without a love of your life is quite possible. I have amazing friends, sexy play mate.. and my kids... And I won't have a partner as long as I have kids at home. As I don't think it's fair. So are you single and happy too. " Totally agree with you, ive been single 5 years this August and people are always asking me if im with anyone yet and seem really surprised when I say no, almost like its a must that when you split up your supposed to be looking for someone else I also agree with the child thing, I have a 12 year old and there's no way I would introduce a man into her life, I don't feel my children (I also have a 18 and 20 year old still at home) should share their home and life with someone just because I want to be with them Some people have a need to be with someone other don't, I know a few people who as soon as a relationship splits they are on the look out, I have no interest at all in sharing my life with anyone Like you Cali I have friends, family, play mates and my children and im quite happy with who I have already in my life and the ability to come and go as I please there's no way I could go back to being in a relationship and sharing my life with another people, I honestly don't think i'll ever be with anyone ever again, maybe when all my kids have grown up and left home I may feel different but I cant see it | |||
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"Being single sucks big balls I find it ironic (considering the perceived image of footloose men and women who want to tie them down) that it appears to be men who would like to be in relationships and women who are happy single. Women find it easyier to be single cause they make friends quickly and at a drop of a hat to have sex when they feel like it but men have to work really hard for women to trust them and convince them to do anything. you make it sound as if sex is such an important thing to a relationship.. i havent met anyoen for a year now and still just as happy single.. being sinlge i certainyl have never been able to have sex whenever i feel like it " I didn't just mean sex, anything in general, women think most most men just want sex but we need friendship too with other females and compassion, we men just find it harder to express ourselves and our true emotions. | |||
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"I am the happiest I have ever been now that I am single. In fact when I look back at the times when I was properly happy, I was on my own. I love not having to be responsible for anyone else. I don't have kids, I have me..I guess I am happy because I don't need anyone to give me what I need. I actually like me, and my own company. I am financially secure I point blank refuse to compromise on the big things in life again. Yes I appreciate that is selfish but at least I am being selfish and single, not selfish and in a relationship. I am wholly better on my own." | |||
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"See thing is for much of my early life I was pushed by various people and influences that I needed someone. That my children needed a stable family. It took me till quite recently to realise that I can give them stability without having a man in my house. To be honest the ex husband has done such a number on my older kids that I won't risk their happiness again. my children know I have male friends, they just don't meet them.. same as they rarely meet any of my female friends. I'm extra protective of my kids since they got hurt by my ex leaving as he did. 10years and he has nothing to do with all the older ones. So no matter how I feel .. no one will get close in that way. " It sounds to me like you have just realised what a fantastic job you have done in bringing up your children even when times have been difficult. All I would add would be never say never. If your happy with the way your life is now then great enjoy it. But you never know because sometime in the future you may well just meet the right one or not as the case may be. Have fun x | |||
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"I am the happiest I have ever been now that I am single. In fact when I look back at the times when I was properly happy, I was on my own. I love not having to be responsible for anyone else. I don't have kids, I have me..I guess I am happy because I don't need anyone to give me what I need. I actually like me, and my own company. I am financially secure I point blank refuse to compromise on the big things in life again. Yes I appreciate that is selfish but at least I am being selfish and single, not selfish and in a relationship. I am wholly better on my own." That's probably word for word what I would have typed if I could have put it so eloquently I will add that I occasionally slightly miss a cuddle on the sofa, but when that happens I remind myself that cuddles on the sofa could lead to the loo seat being left up, a needy bloke wanting me to stifle myself, whinging when i book a solo holiday and me feeling trapped - I grab the cat for a cuddle and the desire evaporates PDQ! | |||
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"I thought however you had a partner; a Dom or am I thinking if the wrong person?" I have a dominant but we are not in a relationship. | |||
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"Being single is a sack of shit. It's all well and good getting laid every now and then, but you just feel empty inside afterwards." I agree | |||
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"Being single is a sack of shit. It's all well and good getting laid every now and then, but you just feel empty inside afterwards." I stopped playing when it was leaving me feeling like that. x | |||
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"Being single is a sack of shit. It's all well and good getting laid every now and then, but you just feel empty inside afterwards." I must admit tho I never feel empty inside after sex with people off here, the lack of sex is the only down side to being single, because of the long hours I work and the fact I cant accommodate I don't meet often at all, it would be nice to come home at 10pm after work and have a shag before sleep every night instead of having to arrange meets on my days off which as I work on a 7 day rolling router isn't often, I only get about 3 days a month off, but I wouldn't give up my freedom for more sex | |||
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"Being single is a sack of shit. It's all well and good getting laid every now and then, but you just feel empty inside afterwards. I must admit tho I never feel empty inside after sex with people off here, the lack of sex is the only down side to being single, because of the long hours I work and the fact I cant accommodate I don't meet often at all, it would be nice to come home at 10pm after work and have a shag before sleep every night instead of having to arrange meets on my days off which as I work on a 7 day rolling router isn't often, I only get about 3 days a month off, but I wouldn't give up my freedom for more sex " | |||
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"I like being single but do miss the romantic side of being in a relationship and just to do spontaneous things " + 1 | |||
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"wish i was happy and content but im not. my lifes great its just missing something or more importantly someone. i'll find him one day " What happened? xxxx | |||
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"wish i was happy and content but im not. my lifes great its just missing something or more importantly someone. i'll find him one day What happened? xxxx" what you mean what happened? its just trial and error when dating.. some people arent meant to be and are just different | |||
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"I've been single for 10 years and to be honest I get lonely, a partner would be lovely its what I want but finding one is a problem. I'm not getting any younger. Being on here is great I've made some friends and had some amazing experiences but its not what I really want xx Rose xx" Same here | |||
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"I like being single but do miss the romantic side of being in a relationship and just to do spontaneous things " + 1 this is actually the first time I've been truly single since I was 15 and its all good up to now. | |||
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"I never say never but if suddenly the man of my dreams appeared he would still not move in. It would be nsa or nothing.. my heart is taken. I doubt I will ever stop loving him. As even after all the nasty things he did,I still love him. I had never been In love till then. " can you truely say your happy single then? cos it seems if you cant be with the one you still love then you would rather be with noone.. so it doesnt seem you are single through choice and cant be experiencing a true single lifestyle | |||
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"I thought however you had a partner; a Dom or am I thinking if the wrong person? I have a dominant but we are not in a relationship." Ah right | |||
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"Being single is a sack of shit. It's all well and good getting laid every now and then, but you just feel empty inside afterwards." I think some of us feel that at some point: that's the time to hide your profile and do something else and not have meaningless sex with strangers. | |||
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"I've not given up but I've been in love. Still am.. and realised that I can't have that again.. however it doesn't mean I lack anything. " That's quite a telling statement. | |||
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"Being single is a sack of shit. It's all well and good getting laid every now and then, but you just feel empty inside afterwards." If that's how it makes you feel....... don't do it. | |||
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"I have been unlucky in love but tend not to take that with me but look to the positives..If I went back to the past I'd still think men are women beating twats but I don't so I think I am ok.. " You and me have a lot in common | |||
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"I am wondering how many like me are not actually looking or wanting a significant other To share their lives... But others are always trying to convince me that I'm wrong.. and that I can't be happy... Do others find people can't seem to grasp that life without a love of your life is quite possible. I have amazing friends, sexy play mate.. and my kids... And I won't have a partner as long as I have kids at home. As I don't think it's fair. So are you single and happy too. " Yes, I'm happily single and is often said to me that I'll find the one soon enough. I'm not blummin looking. I have some amazing friends and my kids too, spend my weekends and any time off work with my youngest, others are grown ups so do their own thing mostly. I haven't had sex since breaking from my long term relationship nearly 3 year ago and I don't miss it either, I did for 12 month ish but stuck to my guns and did things differently this time. | |||
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"I've not given up but I've been in love. Still am.. and realised that I can't have that again.. however it doesn't mean I lack anything. That's quite a telling statement." yes I believe I can love again but only be in love once. I'm happy at that. But I would never be content being second best. so why would I expect anyone else too. I have been single romantically but not had anyone with me full time since 2009. I would hate to now. No one is coming into my children's lives. | |||
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"i am a believer in the old saying "if something happens it will happen"... until then I am having a blast being single and will continue to do so... I don't see how the desperation of some to be "coupled up" can be remotely sexy...." I think seeing so much desperation to be "coupled up" around me has seriously put me off relationships. | |||
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"I can't have a relationship because I don't have the time to date in the conventional way. I rarely get sitters and to date I think Id need more than 6 dates a year !!!!! In an ideal world a man will come along with an up to date CRB check and have a full psychological evaluation too - that would make things easier for me. If people are happy without love - good on them but under this harsh exterior is a romantic and I love LOVE Its just going to be a long while until it finds me or I find it I think " This is the same for me. X | |||
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