FabSwingers.com forum: Why don’t people read profiles?

By *ane Doe1000 OP Woman
22 weeks ago

Bedford

Just returned here after a break and forgot how many men, in my case, don’t read my profile - clearly states my age and accommodation range - only takes a minute to check!!

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By *ichaela_MoonshineTV/TS
22 weeks ago

Dumbarton

It’s a common issue unfortunately

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By *okingham WillMan
22 weeks ago

Well, I for one have read your profile in full and am very clear that I am hereby notified that I am strictly prohibited from disclosing, copying, distributing, disseminating, or taking any other action against you with regard to your profile and the contents therein, including, but not limited to your photos, and/or the comments made about your photos or any other "picture" art posted on your profile.

Noted

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By *hil most chillMan
22 weeks ago

London, South East & Europe

"Well, I for one have read your profile in full and am very clear that I am hereby notified that I am strictly prohibited from disclosing, copying, distributing, disseminating, or taking any other action against you with regard to your profile and the contents therein, including, but not limited to your photos, and/or the comments made about your photos or any other "picture" art posted on your profile.

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Lolll that makes up 75% of the profile, no wonder no one reads it 🤣

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By (user no longer on site)
22 weeks ago

Because it's effort and why bother when you can & paste a message or just send out "hi" messages.

Messers dont want to waste their time actually reading profiles.

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By *eroLondonMan
22 weeks ago

Mayfair

I just 'attempted' to message you (I didn't) but I could see that you haven't applied the filters that prevent anyone outside of your age range from contacting you.

Also, I suggest removing the superfluous legal disclaimer. That way your actual profile text is more legible.

To answer your question — not many people read profiles, apparently, sadly.

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By *ane Doe1000 OP Woman
22 weeks ago

Bedford

"It’s a common issue unfortunately "
- seems that way sadly

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By *ane Doe1000 OP Woman
22 weeks ago

Bedford

Ah ok - thanks I’ll check it out

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
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22 weeks ago

Central

If they're wanking,a lot of the words are an obstacle

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
22 weeks ago

Crumpet Castle

1.because some can't read

2.some can read but think its worth chancing

3. some are visual and just look at the pics

4. Some fuck anything regardless

5. Some are just desperate having not had success

6. some read but don't think it relates to them

7. some think they are so beautiful you'll melt and give in

8. some are so arrogant

9. some don't give a shit about what you want it's all about them

10. many can read and just ignore it for the craic....

loads more but ten is enough to be going on ......

11. They've read so many and know they are all full of the same bull ......

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By *ovelyDayXXXWoman
22 weeks ago

Niche

Never assume.

Many read.

Many do not.

Many ignore.

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By (user no longer on site)
22 weeks ago

In my early days on fab it was … with haste I would go straight to the pictures and videos…

Then a v wise lady on here ( to whom I owe a lot of thanks in more ways than one )

Suggested with conviction

To read the profile first !!!! It saves so much time !

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By *ane Doe1000 OP Woman
22 weeks ago

Bedford

lol

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By *ane Doe1000 OP Woman
22 weeks ago

Bedford

"In my early days on fab it was … with haste I would go straight to the pictures and videos…

Then a v wise lady on here ( to whom I owe a lot of thanks in more ways than one )

Suggested with conviction

To read the profile first !!!! It saves so much time ! "
- it so does

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By *ane Doe1000 OP Woman
22 weeks ago

Bedford

Noted

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- thank - did’t realise the disclaimer was added

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
22 weeks ago

Crumpet Castle

Noted

- thank - did’t realise the disclaimer was added "

So who wrote your profile?

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By *exxyyDy11Man
22 weeks ago

North West

I think most people immediately go to pictures and their attention span is directed towards that rather than reading bios. Or maybe they just can't read or write.

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By *olo180Man
22 weeks ago

Greater London

Noted

- thank - did’t realise the disclaimer was added

So who wrote your profile?"

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By *ust browsing 79Man
22 weeks ago

hayes

Because its what conversation is for.

People who have age ranges show themselves to be tedious humans who judge people on a number and not as a person.

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By *olyjamorousMan
22 weeks ago

Wrexham

Same on any site. People DM you asking where you are when its literally on your bio. Auto block for me. Fpr me - if it's a guy they're not reading a profile, if its a woman it's a bot.

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By *ust browsing 79Man
22 weeks ago

hayes

Dear god the old savimg time bull.... if you are on thos site in the first place, you domt care about saving time!

People take this far too serious lol.. at least its comedy gold

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By *naswingdressWoman
22 weeks ago

Manchester (she/her)

"Because its what conversation is for.

People who have age ranges show themselves to be tedious humans who judge people on a number and not as a person.

You seem nice.

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By *ust browsing 79Man
22 weeks ago

hayes

"Same on any site. People DM you asking where you are when its literally on your bio. Auto block for me. Fpr me - if it's a guy they're not reading a profile, if its a woman it's a bot."

Oh people eho block equals mental age of an immature person!!!

Grow the hell up.

Next youll be justifying ignoring no reply is a polite no.... no its not.. a polite no is a polite no, no reply is hugely ignorant and shows the world what a disgusting human ypu are!.

And no my ego is not hurt... i just have basic manners and im a grown adult unlike 90% on hete

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By *ane Doe1000 OP Woman
22 weeks ago

Bedford

"Because its what conversation is for.

People who have age ranges show themselves to be tedious humans who judge people on a number and not as a person.

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By *olyjamorousMan
22 weeks ago

Wrexham

"Same on any site. People DM you asking where you are when its literally on your bio. Auto block for me. Fpr me - if it's a guy they're not reading a profile, if its a woman it's a bot.

Oh people eho block equals mental age of an immature person!!!

Grow the hell up.

Next youll be justifying ignoring no reply is a polite no.... no its not.. a polite no is a polite no, no reply is hugely ignorant and shows the world what a disgusting human ypu are!.

And no my ego is not hurt... i just have basic manners and im a grown adult unlike 90% on hete "

You misread my reply i think. If people (mostly men) don't read MY profile I instantly block THEM. I'm not calling blocking immature at all. It has a very good device to block people who aren't for you.

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By *eroLondonMan
22 weeks ago

Mayfair

"...People who have age ranges show themselves to be tedious humans who judge people on a number and not as a person."

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Have you looked at your profile? You seem to have an age range applied.

How so tedious of you.

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By *olo180Man
22 weeks ago

Greater London

"Same on any site. People DM you asking where you are when its literally on your bio. Auto block for me. Fpr me - if it's a guy they're not reading a profile, if its a woman it's a bot.

Oh people eho block equals mental age of an immature person!!!

Grow the hell up.

Next youll be justifying ignoring no reply is a polite no.... no its not.. a polite no is a polite no, no reply is hugely ignorant and shows the world what a disgusting human ypu are!.

And no my ego is not hurt... i just have basic manners and im a grown adult unlike 90% on hete

I think he’s calling you immature for blocking 🤣

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By *olyjamorousMan
22 weeks ago

Wrexham

"Same on any site. People DM you asking where you are when its literally on your bio. Auto block for me. Fpr me - if it's a guy they're not reading a profile, if its a woman it's a bot.

Oh people eho block equals mental age of an immature person!!!

Grow the hell up.

Next youll be justifying ignoring no reply is a polite no.... no its not.. a polite no is a polite no, no reply is hugely ignorant and shows the world what a disgusting human ypu are!.

And no my ego is not hurt... i just have basic manners and im a grown adult unlike 90% on hete

I think he’s calling you immature for blocking 🤣"

Oh really?? 😂

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By *ovelyDayXXXWoman
22 weeks ago

Niche

"Because its what conversation is for.

People who have age ranges show themselves to be tedious humans who judge people on a number and not as a person.

And yet here you are... judging people for having a preference/ type.

I'm curious why you have an age preference yourself then.

What's wrong with people over 70?

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By *ou only live onceMan
22 weeks ago

London

"Because its what conversation is for.

People who have age ranges show themselves to be tedious humans who judge people on a number and not as a person.

But that doesn't apply of you set an age limit of 70?

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By *olo180Man
22 weeks ago

Greater London

"Same on any site. People DM you asking where you are when its literally on your bio. Auto block for me. Fpr me - if it's a guy they're not reading a profile, if its a woman it's a bot.

Oh people eho block equals mental age of an immature person!!!

Grow the hell up.

Next youll be justifying ignoring no reply is a polite no.... no its not.. a polite no is a polite no, no reply is hugely ignorant and shows the world what a disgusting human ypu are!.

And no my ego is not hurt... i just have basic manners and im a grown adult unlike 90% on hete

I think he’s calling you immature for blocking 🤣

Oh really?? 😂"

Thought I’d clarify as he’s probably raging at someone else!

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By *ovelyDayXXXWoman
22 weeks ago

Niche

"I think most people immediately go to pictures and their attention span is directed towards that rather than reading bios. Or maybe they just can't read or write. "

Sometimes when I go to pictures I lose all track of time... and the use of my thumbs...

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By *naswingdressWoman
22 weeks ago

Manchester (she/her)

"Same on any site. People DM you asking where you are when its literally on your bio. Auto block for me. Fpr me - if it's a guy they're not reading a profile, if its a woman it's a bot.

Oh people eho block equals mental age of an immature person!!!

Grow the hell up.

Next youll be justifying ignoring no reply is a polite no.... no its not.. a polite no is a polite no, no reply is hugely ignorant and shows the world what a disgusting human ypu are!.

And no my ego is not hurt... i just have basic manners and im a grown adult unlike 90% on hete

I think he’s calling you immature for blocking 🤣

Oh really?? 😂

Thought I’d clarify as he’s probably raging at someone else!"

It doesn't seem to be very clearly targeted rage.

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By *eautyandthebeast86Couple
22 weeks ago

Somewhere in Norfolk ask :)

It’s happened again tonight and all 3 were single blokes who messaged or winked asking for mmf fun when our profile clearly states we don’t see single men unless in a club setting as part of a group sex situation or mfmf, happens everyday and 9/10 it’s the blokes that don’t bother to read it not the couples!

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By *ane Doe1000 OP Woman
22 weeks ago

Bedford

"Same on any site. People DM you asking where you are when its literally on your bio. Auto block for me. Fpr me - if it's a guy they're not reading a profile, if its a woman it's a bot.

Oh people eho block equals mental age of an immature person!!!

Grow the hell up.

Next youll be justifying ignoring no reply is a polite no.... no its not.. a polite no is a polite no, no reply is hugely ignorant and shows the world what a disgusting human ypu are!.

And no my ego is not hurt... i just have basic manners and im a grown adult unlike 90% on hete

I think he’s calling you immature for blocking 🤣"

I don’t block unless they get really pushy - I did politely refer them to my profile and wish them good luck but it’s a bit tedious now

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By *olyjamorousMan
22 weeks ago

Wrexham

"I don’t block unless they get really pushy - I did politely refer them to my profile and wish them good luck but it’s a bit tedious now "

Blocking a couple of guys isn't really going to affect my experience on here tbh

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By *exxyyDy11Man
22 weeks ago

North West

"I think most people immediately go to pictures and their attention span is directed towards that rather than reading bios. Or maybe they just can't read or write.

Sometimes when I go to pictures I lose all track of time... and the use of my thumbs..."

Would you like a lie down and some water? I know the pictures on fab can be mentally draining.

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By *uckMe12FreeMan
22 weeks ago

(User no longer on site)

Why don't you just apply the message filters, so no one in your preferred age range can message you? I thought that's why they're there.

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By *olo180Man
22 weeks ago

Greater London

"I think most people immediately go to pictures and their attention span is directed towards that rather than reading bios. Or maybe they just can't read or write.

Sometimes when I go to pictures I lose all track of time... and the use of my thumbs...

Would you like a lie down and some water? I know the pictures on fab can be mentally draining."

Just seen him raging on another thread….he’s clearly very annoyed 😬

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By *issmorganWoman
22 weeks ago

Calderdale innit

It's frustrating op, but a good filter and you can just delete them.

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By *ovelyDayXXXWoman
22 weeks ago

Niche

"I think most people immediately go to pictures and their attention span is directed towards that rather than reading bios. Or maybe they just can't read or write.

Sometimes when I go to pictures I lose all track of time... and the use of my thumbs...

Would you like a lie down and some water? I know the pictures on fab can be mentally draining."

Great idea! Maybe elevate my ankles? Above the head I believe is recommended 😁

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By *oeBeansMan
22 weeks ago

Derby

Faff innit?

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By *ampireWolvesMan
22 weeks ago

Essex

Cause most profiles are waffle on and all some can see is “blah blah blah blah blah” 😂😂 (I jest before I get the hate 😂😂)

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By *um n raisinWoman
22 weeks ago

taunton

even those that do read will ignor large parts of it as they think it wont apply to them ie i get guys saying ive read your profile and think we match yet the first line of my profile says no beards yet most have beards..

so even if the do read most will ignor bits thinking it wont apply to them simple to fix tho insant block from me

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By *ampireWolvesMan
22 weeks ago

Essex

"even those that do read will ignor large parts of it as they think it wont apply to them ie i get guys saying ive read your profile and think we match yet the first line of my profile says no beards yet most have beards..

so even if the do read most will ignor bits thinking it wont apply to them simple to fix tho insant block from me

It’s confidence thing and maybe they class it as stubble bs a beard 😂. Again, I’m teasing

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By *riel13Woman
22 weeks ago

Northampton

They think they are attractive enough to not have to... They aren't!

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
22 weeks ago

Crumpet Castle

To get to the other side

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By *ootyfruityCouple
22 weeks ago

andover

The best one for us! We’ve had a few guys argue with us over our preferred age range with single guys when we tell them they are outside of our age range. Also called liars. It is quite clearly (or so we believe) written in our profile

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By *eautyandthebeast86Couple
22 weeks ago

Somewhere in Norfolk ask :)

Again pushy single men who even trying to get me to pretend I knew them from work and lie to my partner to meet with us when we clearly state we don’t meet single men on our profile and then another bloke saying he said he’s read it and are we after a meet? Erm no, profile clearly states !

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By *aughty-couple1980Couple
22 weeks ago

hindley

"In my early days on fab it was … with haste I would go straight to the pictures and videos…

Then a v wise lady on here ( to whom I owe a lot of thanks in more ways than one )

Suggested with conviction

To read the profile first !!!! It saves so much time ! "

That wise lady needs to give lessons to most blokes on here if she charged she would defo be a millionaire within a couple weeks

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By (user no longer on site)
22 weeks ago

Does our heads in !!!!!

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By *ussyfemukWoman
1 week ago

Bedford

I get so many messages from guys who don't read my profile and still think they are in with a chance. The way I say it is, if they can't be bothered reading my profile then I can't be bothered reading their message. If they haven't gone to the effort of writing a decent profile for themselves, then they lack imagination and they won't put the effort in where it matters in the bedroom. It's basic common-sense

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By *eautyandthebeast86Couple
1 week ago

Somewhere in Norfolk ask :)

It does our head in too, our profile is long and boring but tells you pretty much everything you need to know.

I think when people message asking for info that is clearly stated on a profile it’s just as annoying as a potential employer asking to fill out an application form when everything they are asking is on the cv !

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By *ysteriousGirlOGWoman
1 week ago

Birmingham

Because men can't multitask.

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By *isterMushroomMan
1 week ago

Warrington

Done

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By *essTTWoman
1 week ago

Birmingham

People in general don't read profiles

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By *enuine_J87Man
1 week ago

Eastleigh

I read profiles, always have done across dating sites, then apps then here.

95% of the time it doesn’t matter any way, spend 5 mins reading it, spend 5-10 mins writing a message unique to them and their interests or personality type.

Doesn’t even get read.

Then they spontaneously meet a guy the next day who’s profile consists of 1 cock pic and “I’m just here coz I’m horny yes love pussy give it you good and hard hehe mmm yeh hehe”

Bet he wrote a great first message…

I imagine there are loads of guys on here that started reading profiles, writing great opening messages, never getting a response so they started half assing it, probably copy pasting messages instead.

Unfortunately it’s just part of this site it will never be filled with out perfect matches

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By *ino200Man
1 week ago

Bournemouth,london and Sienna

I read every profile

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
1 week ago

Reading

It's why they get so frustrated. They scattergun messages to people who would not like at them due to a clearly stated reason. If they just messaged those who they fit what they are looking for they might get a response. Otherwise it's like a welder applying for a job as a surgeon.

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By *ino200Man
1 week ago

Bournemouth,london and Sienna

"It's why they get so frustrated. They scattergun messages to people who would not like at them due to a clearly stated reason. If they just messaged those who they fit what they are looking for they might get a response. Otherwise it's like a welder applying for a job as a surgeon."
You summed it up "they might get a response ".

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
1 week ago

Reading

"I read profiles, always have done across dating sites, then apps then here.

95% of the time it doesn’t matter any way, spend 5 mins reading it, spend 5-10 mins writing a message unique to them and their interests or personality type.

Doesn’t even get read.

Then they spontaneously meet a guy the next day who’s profile consists of 1 cock pic and “I’m just here coz I’m horny yes love pussy give it you good and hard hehe mmm yeh hehe”

Bet he wrote a great first message…

Unfortunately it’s just part of this site it will never be filled with out perfect matches"

Although I have some sympathy for this view the trouble is you will miss the few that would have responded to your good message but won't to a hi.

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
1 week ago

Reading

I respond to the majority of messages but I get I'm in the minority. I get maybe 20 a day so it's manageable.

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By *uckMe12FreeMan
1 week ago

(User no longer on site)

Plenty of women and couples are incapable of reading bios as well.

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By *actile TensionMan
1 week ago

Sussex

At times I've read a profile to discovered zero compatibility but still reached out and had some really interesting chats

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By *gly duck cdTV/TS
1 week ago

middlesbrough

I got speaking to a gent who literally messaged without reading and got a bit of a answer about it , when they see someone log on it’s try and get a message in first before the recipient logs back off was his answer

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By *iver78Man
1 week ago

barton upon humber

"Just returned here after a break and forgot how many men, in my case, don’t read my profile - clearly states my age and accommodation range - only takes a minute to check!! "

I have read your profile and very clear , but is you age range 56 to 70 or 58 ? That bit isent clear ,

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By *mf123Man
1 week ago

with one foot out the door

I dont want to read peoples self centred propaganda id rather form my own opinion

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By *arand25Couple
1 week ago

Crowborough

We had to block messages from single guys despite wanting to meet them as the vast majority are clearly incapable of reading, so now we only look for them.

Have to say some couples have also messaged without bothering to read first, it's not overly long but have the decency to read it or we're not interested in you.

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By *troppy cowWoman
1 week ago

Skelmersdale

If they read profiles and complied weth requests, they'd have nobody to message!

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By *WB85Man
1 week ago

Staffordshire

I think that most dont get further than looking at your pictures.

I'm more a bio read, then verifications and then pictures kind of guy.

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By *007ManMan
1 week ago

Worthing

Men want t and a.

Women want a face like "that bloke on the telly".

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By *kphooey43Man
1 week ago

Barnet

"Just returned here after a break and forgot how many men, in my case, don’t read my profile - clearly states my age and accommodation range - only takes a minute to check!!

I have read your profile and very clear , but is you age range 56 to 70 or 58 ? That bit isent clear ,"

OP exactly this, you have an age range (56-70) and yet say anyone messaging you under 58 will be deleted.

Anyway, you clearly took on board comments from others, so well done, maybe change the 58 to 56 (or vice versa).

BTW, I like Bedford, particularly the river flowing through the centre, and its good that it will get the new amusement park, but a shame that the Council is bankrupt.

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By *eautyandthebeast86Couple
1 week ago

Somewhere in Norfolk ask :)

"Men want t and a.

Women want a face like "that bloke on the telly"."

Not exactly that but as the female of a couple I do find it harder to find the males on here attractive versus the females.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
Forum Mod
1 week ago

Central

Every nanosecond spent reading, is 1 that could have been spent looking at pictures and getting closer to cumming

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By *inkShyWoman
1 week ago

near Windsor

Stupidity?

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By *eximus MaximusMan
1 week ago

Up North

"Just returned here after a break and forgot how many men, in my case, don’t read my profile - clearly states my age and accommodation range - only takes a minute to check!! "

Nice tits

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By *riel13Woman
1 week ago

Northampton

Because they just want a shag

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By *arathonMan86Man
1 week ago

Essex

Most people believe in trying their luck

And you job will be either engage or delete their messages haha

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By *arylRMan
1 week ago

East Anglia

Profile seems perfectly clear to me, can’t speak for the ones that are thinking with their lower brain though 🤷🤣

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