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By (user no longer on site) OP   
26 weeks ago

Ok I’ll admit my initial opening message is crap and initially until I get going my messages are poor but giving half the chance to have a decent conversation things seem ok, anyone else find this? Or just me

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By (user no longer on site)
26 weeks ago


"Ok I’ll admit my initial opening message is crap and initially until I get going my messages are poor but giving half the chance to have a decent conversation things seem ok, anyone else find this? Or just me"

Your not the only want mate, my profile is shite tbh, I can keep a conversation going for a bit but after a while it all goes quiet haha.

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By *eroLondonMan
26 weeks ago

Mayfair

A 'poor effort' initial message or similar nascent messages aren't going to help anyone's cause in the first instance. I can appreciate that some people don't carry conversations very well, some will interpret it as an artform, rightly or wrongly, and it's just the way things are.

Ultimately it depends on what's being said. For example, some people don't enjoy 'sex talk' at the early stages of a conversation, or simply talking about the weather or other such banality.

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By *cherryblossom-Woman
26 weeks ago

South glos

You only get one chance to make a good first impression so I don’t get why so many think things like hey u ok xx is a good opener.

Obviously you may be putting more effort in than that OP so that’s not aimed at you it’s a generalisation. It’s not hard to keep a convo going if you show interest in each other, getting to know each other should be fun and easy, not a chore. If it’s a chore it’s the wrong person you’re talking to

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By *naswingdressWoman
26 weeks ago

Manchester (she/her)

It's a common complaint, yes, OP. A lot of people think that a poor initial output should be overlooked and everyone - or at least they - should be "given a chance".

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By *issmorganWoman
26 weeks ago

Calderdale innit

The thing is op, if the conversation is dull, you won't get past the first couple of messages.

I had a man who messaged me, hi how's you kind of thing. I replied that I was fine, how was he. He answered along the lines of yeah OK, how's you.

I'd already answered that and it told me he didn't really have much to say, so it didn't go anywhere.

Remember ladies and couples probably have lots of messages that aren't great in their inbox,so constantly replying to the same thing gets a bit tiresome.

It's not just down to you to keep the conversation going, but if it feels like pulling teeth talking, I soon loose interest.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
26 weeks ago

I really appreciate your help and advice but I do make a little more effort than that usually based around the couples profile and I get people have different preferences, but once again appreciate your all just trying to help.

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By (user no longer on site)
26 weeks ago

I thought this was about bad restaurant service.😔

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
26 weeks ago

Leeds

I struggle to conversate with a stranger that I have no idea if we've anything in common with, so yeah my messages are shit, I also don't do small talk it irritates me 😂

The simple answer to this is not to message anyone - works for me 😁

Mrs

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By *wnedandtamedWoman
26 weeks ago

Manchester

Would some sort of fuck secretary (no, not that sort) be popular here? Master is my fuck secretary, I'm lucky like that

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By *earditallWoman
26 weeks ago

Lancaster

Of conversation flows easily its great bit takes 2 people to keep it going if you are interested in someone you will and if they are interested in you then so will they.

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By *lowupdollTV/TS
26 weeks ago

Herts/Leeds

What is your initial message like OP?

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By *aFemmeCoquetteWoman
26 weeks ago

Somewhere in the middle not the.....

Bot gonna lie it totally depends on what my mood is like when I open a message, lately its been a delete all as I haven't had the energy to engage in conversation and too full an inbox gives me the fear, apologies to all who have 😬

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